Chapter 1,252 I'm sorry I fell in love with another girl when she was like you.
The rating of "Warm and Bright" on the popular film review website is not particularly high, not reaching the level of nine out of 10, but there are many people who left comments.
"I originally thought it was a sweet love story, but I didn't expect it to be about a breakup. Fortunately, I felt relieved in the end. Since we love each other, even if the other person has many shortcomings, we can tolerate them and change them for each other."
"A person who is used to your existence will not be used to your non-existence! The movie is not a love story, but a love philosophy, which can be said to be suitable for each of us. We often complain that the things we have are not good enough.
, but when you lose something you already "own", you will cherish it very much, even to the point of turning a blind eye to what is left after losing it."
"Even if the memory is deleted, two people who love each other will still love each other, but what makes people uncomfortable is that even if they love each other, they will still be separated in the future for the same reasons!"
"Many times what is lacking between men and women is just tolerance. There is no such thing as a perfect couple. The only thing that makes it to the end is tolerance and forgiveness, change and restraint."
"I watched a movie with my girlfriend. We have just passed the love stage and we had a fight recently. It is considered a running-in period. We were sitting in the cinema watching this movie, and suddenly we..."
"Looking at how bad everyone is, I always think about whether I and my girlfriend will have such a day."
"I feel the same way from upstairs. After watching it with my girlfriend last night, she started to become sentimental. She was worried that we would have such a day, and she would be depressed to death!"
"There is a feeling that makes me feel the same, the same personality differences, the same conflicts and quarrels. Would you like me to do it again? My answer is yes."
"This movie is so simple, but it digs deep into the loneliness of modern people. In the "Forgetfulness Clinic" that helps people delete painful memories, the staff laughs very unrestrainedly, but also very numbly. Everything is maintained well, even the pain
The proportion of happy memories has been adjusted very accurately, and the doctors and staff who lived so correctly are paler than lonely. They don't know what they have lost, and they feel a kind of emptiness."
"No matter how many sweet memories two people have together, they can't overcome the irreconcilable contradictions discovered when they separate rationally. Maybe you will fall in love with this person again, but this person is still the wrong person, even if you lie down
Looking at the stars together is just meaningless repetition.
So, people who have broken up, it’s time to find a new partner!”
“This movie tells us not to hang yourself from a tree, because even if you don’t die once, you will die the second time, so it’s better to find more trees!”
“This interpretation is awesome!”
"If one day the memory between us is deleted, will you still love me as you did before, as if we have never hurt each other?"
It can be said that romance films like "Warm and Bright" are incredible to many people. In the past, romance films could be said to be exclusive to female viewers. For many male viewers, if they went to see romance films, most of the time, it was because of their girlfriends.
Relationship.
But this time it is different, because "Warm and Bright" is very different from past romance films.
As for film critics, female film critics used to prefer romance films, but this time, many male film critics also favored this film.
The editor-in-chief of "Film Weekly" Zhou Qingquan specially wrote a review for this movie.
"In the past, romance films have already selected an audience group at the beginning of filming, that is, female audiences, but this time, "Warm and Bright", in my opinion, is the real way to open a romance film.
It can be said that this is a movie suitable for couples entering the running-in period to sit together and watch quietly while holding each other and saying sorry!
If we can't stand each other, the first things that pop into our minds are the negative feelings toward each other. The person who hurts you the most is often the person who loves you the most. If we have the opportunity to forget all the memories about him or her, it would be easiest
What is forgotten are also the conflicts and contradictions, the hurt and embarrassment between each other, and the harsh words made in anger.
In "Warm and Bright", the male and female protagonists tell each other what they have buried deep in their hearts for a long time. If a stranger comments on you like this, you may not feel too much, but when the person you once loved most has changed,
If you become the person who dislikes you the most, those words will cut into your heart.
A romantic encounter, a wonderful mutual attraction, dopamine rushes into the brain, and the heart beats faster. After confirming love, you can eliminate many scruples and connect the bridge of relationship between the two isolated islands. The novelty at the beginning will be replaced by the real feeling.
The triviality is wasted away...
Chen Qiao and Jiang Tingting had many romantic encounters like lovers. On that midwinter beach, the silent Chen Qiao was attracted by Jiang Tingting, who was walking alone on the beach. Her orange coat and green hair were so eye-catching on the quiet beach, but she was
It's not funny, that kind of lively contradiction is something that the taciturn and quiet Chen Qiao doesn't have.
Similarly, this kind of Chen Qiao also attracted Jiang Tingting. They went through the routine that many couples go through, chatting, tug-of-war, expressing their feelings, and the two established a relationship.
She is just a pessimist who wants to pursue inner peace, even though she looks weird and deviant.
He was gentle and kind, and could even be said to be cowardly, but to her, he seemed to represent the peace she had always longed for.
Let’s put Chen Qiao’s memory erasure process into perspective. The conflict between the two initially stemmed from their differences in the definition of intimate relationship.
Chen Qiao did not want to expose herself to Jiang Tingting. She told him everything about herself. In his eyes, nagging did not mean love, but he loved her because of her vulnerability when she exposed herself.
When it comes to himself, he is more willing to reveal himself to the diary than to her. I don't mean to blame Chen Qiao. In fact, most of us are Chen Qiao's kind of person.
This chapter is not over, please click on the next page to continue reading! For men like Chen Qiao, taking the initiative to ask others to say anything is an interruption. I cannot ensure that when I find you, you are in a suitable state to listen.
I confided, and then continued to chat with me. The party who took the initiative to contact me must have been the one who confided in the beginning, there is no doubt about this.
More often, I can listen to you and talk to you at the same time, but I will never take the initiative to talk. Taking the initiative to talk would appear too fragile and deliberate in the eyes of these people, so Chen Qiao chose not to say it because he was convinced that the two
There is a connection between people. Even Chen Qiao has always had doubts about Jiang Tingting. He loves Jiang Tingting who is completely different from him.
But he is also suspicious of her because of this. He can only restrict her to act within his boring life trajectory through his increasingly expanding desire for control. Desire for control is just a kind of mental abuse in the name of love. Love must be exclusive.
One of the appendages of exclusivity is selfishness, which cannot be overcome.
Because of this suspicion, Chen Qiao did not dare to commit to a future with Jiang Tingting, because he did not believe that she would become a good mother. This distrust laid hidden dangers for this relationship from the beginning.
After the relationship entered a stable period, Chen Qiao began to complain in his heart that the relationship between the two was like many sad couples in restaurants, who only eat and don't talk on dates. However, this situation was not caused by Jiang Tingting. It was something that both of them had to face.
Case
How to maintain love when the novelty has worn off?
This is also a question that people must go through in love relationships.
This process of retention is accompanied by suspicion, jealousy, self-doubt, and self-exposure.
When Chen Qiao reached the point of deleting the beautiful memories of the two of them, he began to take Jiang Tingting in his memory and escape into a memory space that he had never shown her. It was so beautiful there, but he had never mentioned it to her.
The assistant at the amnesia clinic fell in love with Jiang Tingting at first sight. After her memory was deleted, he occupied the magpie's nest and used her memory materials to get close to her. However, even though he copied all the memory points, the feeling could not be reproduced.
When she meets Chen Qiao again after her memory has been deleted, she will start again without hesitation.
In fact, there are not many fixed routines and traces that can be used repeatedly in the relationship between men and women. First of all, the clumsy techniques that can be seen through at a glance are not conducive to the development of the relationship. The repetition of boring routines is not good for the user or the user.
It is a kind of meaningless repetitive labor for both users. Both parties instinctively go to the next step without thinking, which saves time but is boring.
The feeling and experience of love should not be homogenized and nailed on the tombstone of fantasy with some old-fashioned adjectives.
Writing and language are probably the greatest inventions of mankind. Apart from the complicated summary of its meaning in history books, we can use words to express our inner real feelings or feelings distorted by reason as much as possible, so as to let ourselves have a better understanding of self-awareness.
Menghua has a deeper memory and aggravates the traces left by the other person in their self-awareness.
Sometimes I also feel that so-called love is just a product of adrenaline secretion, which later turns into psychological dependence, but this kind of adrenaline cannot be brought by anyone.
At the end, Jiang Tingting and Chen Qiao listened to each other's last recording, like a public execution. You have just met, but someone told you that you will have conflicts and quarrels. Will you insist on continuing at this time?
Fortunately, in the end they were brave enough and desperate enough to go through hardships and return to each other again.
I believe that if one day the two of them quarrel again, they will remember the way they first met and throw themselves into each other's arms regardless of their own safety. At that time, they both had light in their bodies and attracted each other.
But this is always just a possible fairy tale ending that the movie gives us.
If both of them could tolerate each other, then they wouldn't have reached that point. Therefore, this ending is always a scam for the audience.
Many people who are extremely moved by this film will definitely think of their own past when they see this story. However, in fact, when we are struggling with whether we can let go, we always forget one thing. Why not let ourselves accept this
What's the result? Worried about gains and losses, we struggle with whether we should completely delete a person from our minds, but we forget that even if this person doesn't have an emotional spark with us, he is still a normal person, someone who has appeared in your life.
Since the person has appeared before, why not keep him?
Back to the movie itself, in order to forget each other and let each other completely get out of their lives, they chose the most extreme way-to delete their memories!
And no matter what, even if all memories about each other are cleared, they can always bypass all detours, get to know each other, fall in love with each other, and vow to forever.
However, everything seems to be destined, he is boring, sensitive, rigid, and suspicious, while she is impulsive, indulgent, childish, and girlish.
With these shortcomings, even if the recording had not been leaked in advance, they would still end up like this one day.
She couldn't stand his control and dullness, and he couldn't stand her indulgence and impulsiveness.
Regarding the ending of the movie, some people feel that no matter whether I have lost my memory or not, I will still fall in love with you, praising the great love.
In fact, this is not the case. The film portrays the person involved as a bystander, examining every relationship between him and her, and witnessing the experiences that lead to failure. It tells the audience that forgetting really cannot solve any problems.
When a relationship comes to an end, both parties forget their initial love, and finally choose to forget the pain and quarrels as a last resort. When everything returns to zero, the development direction cannot be changed, and the cycle can only start over again.
In the movie, I had to forget three times before I had the opportunity to face the conflict calmly and finally break out of the cycle.
Is it possible to be so lucky in reality?
I have made mistakes again and again...but I can only let them continue to make mistakes, because fate dictates and character dictates.
Delete that part of the memory, starting from the most recent memory until the time when we first met.
Ironically, when I deleted the first period of time, I began to feel reluctant to let it go and began to recall the good things in the past.
In fact, it is just telling us that in the face of time, we will always be defeated.
I couldn't help but think of that popular poem: If life were just like the first time we met, why would the autumn wind be so sad as to draw a fan?
Yes, couples in love always hope to go back to the beginning, because at that time, they only saw the best side of each other, and what they showed to each other was also the most attractive side.
But life is too long to stop at the first meeting.
In the long-distance race of love, how many people can stay together till old age?
In fact, even if you do it, it is just because you have turned love into a habit. It cannot be said that it is not good, but the original feeling is only in your memories. When the romance and excitement are no longer, when you put it down
When you have explored everything about the other person, only to find that it would be better not to know him... then love is actually gone.
In fact, the real world in the movie just gives us a "what if" and explores certain inevitable and accidental factors in meeting and falling in love.
And in the later part of the dream: the memories played backwards, we are moved by the warm memories and at the same time think about it, what made the feeling of being in love disappear? And when did it disappear? "
