The article is very long, but what Qi Wenjing writes is not all her own affairs. She sorted out the news on the Internet in recent years, and then wrote about the two completely different attitudes of netizens towards victims and perpetrators.

A girl who grew up in a patriarchal family finally found her way out, but her parents, who had abused her since she was a child, came to her door and pestered her for money. A word of apology from her parents seemed to erase all the suffering she had suffered since childhood.

After all, the girl who relied on her own ability to stand out was forced by this apology to support a family that is like a vampire.

The girl who was fucked by an acquaintance refused to forgive her offender. As a result, the man knelt down and apologized to her, crying and saying that he was sorry for her. Everyone else felt that the man was pitiful and he did it because he liked the girl.

Ask the girl to forgive the man once for the stupid thing.

A woman who was subjected to domestic violence cried and complained that she could not bear the abuse and wanted a divorce. Just because the man apologized and said that he would not do it again, her family forced her to forgive him and return to him...

[I don’t know since when, the perpetrator’s apology, which is a matter of course, has become a shackles for the kidnapping victim. It seems that after apologizing and saying sorry, the victim should not continue to pursue the case, and must

Forgive the perpetrators. Once the victims refuse to forgive, they are not kind, generous, or greedy.】

[The victims refuse to forgive, but bystanders generously forgive them, forgive the perpetrators, and tell the perpetrators that as long as they change, they will be good people after they change, while the victims who refuse to forgive them become

The bad guy in the eyes of bystanders.]

[But, why should the victim forgive? Even if the perpetrator later corrects his mistakes and becomes a good person, can a person's past be erased? So what if he has become a good person? That means what he has hurt in the past

Can’t people hate him anymore?]

[To other people, the perpetrators may be good people, but to the victims, they are always bad people. Why should the victims forgive the people who have hurt them? 】

[Those who have bullied me, I believe their apologies are sincere, and I also believe they sincerely repent. I know that people are not static, they will change. As time goes by,

They may become another person completely different from the past, but what does all this have to do with me? For two years,

The bullying I suffered is real, and the hurt I suffered is also real. They may change into a good person, but this has no conflict with my unwillingness to forgive them.】

[There is no legal provision that if you apologize, you will definitely be forgiven. If you are wrong, you are wrong. An apology is what the victim deserves, but it is the victim's freedom to not forgive.]

[I will never forgive those who have hurt me. I may forget them, and I will not retaliate against them, but I will never forgive them. No matter whether they become good people or not, I will never forgive them. 】

After Qi Wenjing's article was posted, Qi Wang immediately forwarded it. At the same time, he also posted a Weibo post about the article.

[When you ask others to forgive those who have hurt them, please ask yourself, will you forgive those who have hurt you deeply and left indelible scars on you?]

After Qi Wenjing's article was posted, it quickly attracted countless people to forward it.

In this era that values ​​tolerance and generosity, there are too few people like Qi Wenjing who are strong-willed and brave enough to say I don’t forgive.

Just as Qi Wenjing said, I don’t know since when, it has become politically correct for the victim to forgive them after the perpetrator apologizes. Once the victim refuses to forgive, it has become a curse.

But is the perpetrator's apology really that valuable? After they give it, the victim must forgive. No matter how wronged he is, no matter how hurt he is, as long as the perpetrator apologizes, countless people will come to force him to do so.

Victims forgive.

Isn't this another kind of moral kidnapping?

After apologizing, you can't be angry or retaliate, otherwise you were the victim, but in the end you became the one everyone blamed.

How many people have suffered from this kind of moral kidnapping at work and in life?

It was obviously someone else who said the evil words, it was someone else who robbed things, it was someone else who did the evil. But in the end, after they did the evil, they could be forgiven by everyone just by saying sorry, but the victim could not continue to pursue the case.

Why is this happening? Why is the wronged innocent person? Why should the victim suffer this? Does someone with high moral standards deserve to be kidnapped like this?

Qi Wenjing's article resonated with many people, and the entry "Why forgive you" quickly became one of the top ten hot searches.

[Such moral kidnapping makes me deeply disgusted. Why?

Why should we forgive those who hurt ourselves? The Holy Mother is not like this.】

[Growing up, because of my introverted personality, I was forced to accept countless such careless apologies. No matter how those people bullied me, as long as they apologized, I had to accept it. I want to ask, why should I?

Do you want to accept it?】

[After being tricked by this group of apology bitches countless times, I deeply understand one thing. For these people, apologizing is just another kind of bullying. They don’t really apologize at all.]

[Yes, what’s wrong with holding on to the victim instead of blaming the perpetrator? Should you just bully someone if you think someone is easy to bully? 】

[Don’t call me extreme, I have seen too many people like this. Most of the apologies of these perpetrators are not directed at the victims, but at other people. Look, I apologized, but he refused.

Forgive me, you can’t blame me, this is their truest thought.】

[Qi Wenjing, I support you. For victims, perpetrators are always bad people. No one is qualified to force victims to forgive those perpetrators. ]

[Those who forced Qi Wenjing to forgive, ask yourselves, if you were bullied for two years, would you be able to forgive those who hurt you? Why do you ask others to do things that you can't do yourself?

?]

[It is necessary to be generous to others and to kidnap others morally. Those moral standards are requirements for oneself, not a tool to kidnap others.]

Qi Wenjing's article resonated with countless people. In life, everyone has more or less suffered from such moral kidnapping. In the past, they could only hold it in their hearts and endure it, even if they cursed in their hearts, for the sake of

In order not to gain the reputation of being a petty person, you also need to look nonchalant on your face.

But this time, Qi Wenjing expressed their feelings, and many people directly forwarded this article and made comments.

[Those who hurt us, go to hell with your cheap apologies, we will never forgive you.]

Comments on Weibo almost overwhelmingly support Qi Wenjing. Wang Renjie and his fans are struggling to death, clinging to Qi Wenjing's persona of a kind little angel and not letting go.

[Forgiving them may not be easy for other people, but for you, the kind-hearted person, forgiving them is also letting yourself go. Do you want to endure this kind of torture for the rest of your life? 】

Qi Wenjing responded to the previous Weibo post, but she saved some face for Wang Renjie without him. However, Wang Renjie still refused to let her go and asked Qi Wenjing aggressively.

a reply.

After all, she had more fans than the other party. He was so persistent that Qi Wenjing had a headache and didn't know how to deal with it for a while.

She didn't know how to deal with it, but with her all-powerful little uncle here, Qi Wenjing took her cell phone to look for Qi Wan.

The Chinese New Year will be coming in a few days, and Qi Huan has not taken on any more work. He has been staying at home these days. When he saw Qi Wenjing come in, Qi Huan patted the seat next to him and asked her to sit down.

"Wen Jing, is something wrong?"

Qi Wenjing nodded and told Wang Renjie what happened.

"Uncle, what do you think I should do?"

Qi Wenjing has a lot of worries. She has many fans, and she is really afraid that her fans will kill her.

Across the Internet and wearing a vest, she doesn't have so many scruples when arguing, and what she says may be more outrageous than in reality. To be fair, Qi Wenjing has suffered school violence, and she doesn't want others to suffer it.

The little girl hesitated to express her thoughts. After speaking, she looked up at Qi Wan and asked softly: "Uncle, what do you think I should do?"

Qi Wang raised his hand and touched her head: "You are quite kind."

Qi Wenjing: "..."

She came to her little uncle to ask for advice. Why did the little uncle suddenly praise her?

I'm really embarrassed.

After comforting the little girl, Qi Wang said: "Although there is an indecent sentence, it is suitable to be used here."

"As the saying goes, he who teases you first is mean. When that person made things difficult for you, did he ever think about it for you? As an adult, he knows very well what consequences he will have if he flirts with you. You have many fans and the people who support you are

A lot, but once you fall, the backlash will be more serious, and online violence is no less serious than school violence."

Qi Wang has been in the entertainment industry for two years. Although he is not involved in those messy things, he does know a lot about the twists and turns.

The purpose of someone like Wang Renjie is actually very simple. He may not want to seek justice, but because Qi Wenjing has become so popular recently, he wants to step on Qi Wenjing and climb up the ladder.

If he can step on Qi Wenjing, all the popularity that belongs to Qi Wenjing will belong to him. The traffic exposure and the increase of fans will be extremely beneficial to him.

Qi Wenjing has no intention of getting involved in the entertainment industry in the future, so Qi Wang has not told her these things in the past, but now that Qi Wenjing has met her this time, Qi Wang has told her all the twists and turns here.

Qi Wenjing.

He understands this strong little girl, and she will know what is best.

After explaining all these dirty things to Qi Wenjing, Qi Wang paused and asked, "Would you like me to help you handle this matter?"

Qi Wenjing lowered her head and thought for a while, then slowly shook her head.

"No need, uncle. I've grown up and I can't rely on you for everything. You helped me solve today's matter. What about next time? What about the next time? I can't ask you for help when I encounter this kind of thing, little one.

Whenever my uncle is too busy to take care of things, I have to face it myself."

The Qi Wenjing now is very different from the one she just came back from. She has become more cheerful and confident. She is completely different from the hedgehog in the past who used to stand up with spikes all over her body to attack people.

Now that she had made a decision, Qi Huan thought about it and left the matter to her.

When the little girl grows up, she will always have to face these ups and downs on her own. It is good to let her experience it. She can't solve it by controlling her, and she has the backing of his uncle.

After receiving Qi Huan's words, Qi Wenjing began to edit Weibo to prepare a response to Wang Renjie's words.

[Mr. Wang Renjie, my kindness is for those who treat me as equals, not for those who hurt me. Just because I am kind, do I have to forgive those who hurt me? If this is the case, I would rather not

Kind.】

Qi Wenjing addressed Wang Renjie directly this time and responded to his Weibo post just now.

Qi Wenjing had always shown a gentle and gentle manner before. In addition, she was young and had been bullied at school for two years. Wang Renjie felt that girls like this were extremely easy to bully.

He has seen too many people who have been bullied on campus. These people either have spikes on their bodies to defend themselves against everyone around them, or they have developed a pleaser personality and dare not reject others.

Qi Wenjing's Weibo before showed a gentle and gentle girl. Wang Renjie thought that she would be the latter, the kind of person who pleases others and wrongs herself.

A person like this is extremely easy to control. As long as you bully and suppress her from the moral high ground, the other person will completely languish and let others bully her.
To be continued...