After sending my parents back to their hometown, I would go home to be with them almost every weekend. On March 10, 2012, my mother called me to my father’s bedside, and my father wrote a will on half a piece of paper and handed it to me.

I said: "Son, you are right! Dad suffered a big loss when you didn't listen to your opinions and suggestions when you were studying. He can't suffer such a loss again. I decided to leave a note for emergencies.

Take it!".

I took the half piece of paper and wrote three explanations on the property ownership of the house: 1. I currently have a house of 99.78 square meters. The house I bought at that time was for my son, and it was for his wedding.

After his death, the property belonged to his son, and his three daughters did not enjoy it. 2. When the property was redeemed, he borrowed 40,000 yuan from the bank. His son helped repay 20,000 yuan, but the other daughters have not repaid it. 3. I have been suffering from cancer for 6 years.

All medical expenses were borne by my son alone, and not by my three daughters. In addition, my widow’s living expenses and medical expenses were still borne by my son... His name and date: March 10, 2012. Mom wrote on the side

He wrote his name and the words "obey the above opinions". Although the pain tortured his body, it did not affect his clear thinking at all. Although it was said to be a will, I felt that it was my parents who treated me.

affirmation and recognition.

As the cancer cells continued to spread, he began to lose weight day by day. "Cancer is actually painful in the end. Your uncle was in so much pain that he wanted to be electrocuted to death, but we stopped him.",

He seemed to have had a premonition of his doomsday pain, "However, I am already very content. You and your daughter-in-law are both filial and have spent a lot of energy and sacrifice for Dad." He also seemed to feel that his time was wasted.

There are fewer and fewer, and my mood can't help but become complicated. Thinking of the gentle teachings and examples of words and deeds that he once gave me, sitting by his bed, I can no longer hold back the tears in my eyes: "Dad, these are the things you should do."

I got it. My son has known that you are filial to my grandma and grandma since he was a child... Dad, my son hopes that you can know that your son has really tried his best. Son, I wrote an article "Behind Happiness" for you, and I will let you know.

You will always live in our hearts, and I will ask the next generation to read this article every year!".

In order to spend more time with him and accompany him through the last journey of his life, starting from the Qingming Festival in 2012, after I arranged and settled my work matters, I stayed with him in my hometown for a long time when he was hospitalized.

, I hope to spend more time with him to repay his kindness of upbringing and teaching, but he keeps urging me to go back to Kunshan: "Son, you go back, there are still two companies to deal with over there, two

The child needs to be taken care of. If anything happens to dad, I will call you if there is any situation. You can rush back to your hometown in time!"

I looked at him with tears in my eyes again and said: "Dad, even if my son earns ten thousand dollars a day, I don't want to earn it. I just want to be with you and be with you!" I saw his slightly trembling lips.

He had no time to block the tears that burst out of his eyes, and then he slowly lowered his head and nodded vigorously. I think we all understand what it means. The greatest pain in life is separation between life and death.

Perhaps knowing that he didn't have much time, he began to ask me about funeral arrangements: "Son, don't buy such a luxurious cemetery. You will be old in a few decades, and it will be meaningless!"

Help me choose a better portrait that is more friendly and easy-going. After it is done, I will show it to myself. I don’t want to wear those old people’s clothes when I leave. I want to wear a suit and leather shoes, okay? After I leave, according to the family

According to the rules, you have to rush back to your hometown in the countryside to report the news to your uncles and uncles. Remember, you have to kneel on one leg in front of the elders’ door to report the news! You must not be rude!", I burst into tears.

He lowered his head and nodded vigorously, letting tears drip down his pants like a line. I bought the best and largest cemetery in the local cemetery without telling him. I chose him to sit on the doorstep of the villa and hold his portrait.

The one where the granddaughter who bore his surname smiled the most happily. I went to a suit store and bought him a complete suit, leather shoes and shirt. When he insisted on taking a look, my tear ducts blurred my eyes again.

...

At noon on the weekend before Qingming Festival at my home in Kunshan, I was drunk and told her third uncle who was drinking with me what was in my heart: "I swear, before my father closes his eyes and leaves, if my father-in-law doesn't

Go visit him in his hometown, and I will return everything to him in the future!" Although the third uncle was a plumber with little education, he appreciated me very much. After my father-in-law reluctantly sold the house to us, he

She didn't care about it. Instead, it was her third uncle who helped me with things other than plumbers and renovations. He picked up so much yellow sand and cement from the first floor to the interior of the sixth floor, and never said anything to me.

What the heck, later on when I got better, I often invited him to my house to drink and chat like a friend. When he turned 60, I prepared two bottles of good wine to celebrate his birthday. Drunk, I said to the three of them with tears in my eyes.

My uncle said: "My father has always taught me this way: Son, don't take what you give to others seriously, but you should always remember what others have helped you! This is why I have never forgotten your uncle's kindness.

The reason..." The third uncle was very surprised that his father-in-law did not visit the in-laws who gave up treatment. That night he and other elders had dinner at his uncle's house. It is said that he brought this matter to the table to criticize him because of his drunkenness at noon.

Elder brother-in-law (my father-in-law).

The two mute sisters have always been in their hometown, and I have been accompanying my father since he was hospitalized since the Qingming Festival. The pressure on my mother has also been reduced a lot. She has been taking care of and accompanying my father in Shanghai for such a long time, even though

Even though we discussed hiring a caregiver to replace her, she still refused. After all, the relationship between the two of them, who grew up together as childhood sweethearts, has become everlasting. After all, in order to have a fat son like me, he still did not dislike it and stopped at the age of 28.

Even though she was menstruating, she never had any scandals about her lifestyle even at the peak of her career. Even my wife once praised her father-in-law privately: "Your father is really great and great!".

On May 19, 2012, my father-in-law called me and said that he had arrived at the bus station in our hometown. Maybe he had already taken into consideration my uncle’s request, and he decided to come to visit the in-laws whom he once despised. I accepted.

After bringing him to the hospital, the skinny father sat on the hospital bed and took a deep breath: "My dear, thank you for being so busy and coming to visit me, a dying person." After a while of polite greetings, he still couldn't forget it.

He said tactfully: "My dear, you should drink less alcohol in the future, as it will easily harm your body; your health is not very good, and your blood pressure is still high. People with high blood pressure should not be emotionally excited and fluctuate. They should maintain a peaceful and stable mood towards themselves.

It's the best. Let them decide for themselves the affairs of young people!" My father-in-law, who was sitting on a stool opposite the hospital bed like a child, kept saying "Uh-huh-huh..." to his father-in-law.

Did you understand what Dad said, did you hear what he meant? When Dad finished speaking, he made eye contact with me. I could already see from his skinny eyes: I heard it plus witnessed it for the first time.

The second fight with the father-in-law will make any parent feel uncomfortable. Dad is teaching his father-in-law. All this is so natural and not so abrupt and sharp. People who don’t know the ins and outs of it will simply think it is.

The in-laws were caring and greeting each other! It wasn’t until the Spring Festival after my father left that my father-in-law said in front of me when we were at the table with other elders: “My in-laws are really good people, but it’s a pity that they are not lucky.

Ah, hey...!".

After seeing off my father-in-law the next day, my eldest sister Zhao Juqin and I stayed overnight in the hospital. May 21st dawned relatively early. He was so tortured by his illness that he couldn't sleep and sat on the bed early in a daze, while I slept next door.

There was an empty hospital bed. Seeing that he was in unbearable pain and I was completely sleepless, I sat up cross-legged and chatted with him across the bed. During the chat, I secretly turned on the video recording function of my phone and watched him across the bed.

The bed was leaning against his legs while he was sitting cross-legged. I wanted to keep as many precious clips as possible. He slowly opened the call folder. Later, after he left, I didn’t have time to see my son for the last time.

When my daughter-in-law was sitting next to the coffin, I opened this video, and her tears fell like a continuous stream of tears that I had never seen before, and she burst into tears. This was the last piece of life guidance my father gave me, and it was also mine.

The last lesson: "Son, you are already 36 years old. You have a son and a daughter. You have a happy family. You can't get into the bad habit of spending time outside. Live your life well. The most painful and tiring days are over. Right?

Your daughter-in-law should be better and don't always be so mean to her at work. She should be in charge of the financial power of the family. She has given birth to a son and a daughter for you. If you don't let her control anything, she will

What's the point of living?! You let her spend a small sum of less than 10,000 or 20,000 yuan. If she involves a large amount of more than 100,000 yuan without consulting you in advance, you can't manage the money anymore.

It’s not too late! For my father-in-law, I paid 30,000 to 50,000 yuan each time for medical treatment. She never complained a word. I don’t think this child is the kind of person who spends money randomly. There is no problem.

We must do a good job, not only in terms of academic performance, but also in terms of human character and moral character. It's a pity that I'm sick, otherwise my grandson's grades will definitely be improved. Mom and Dad can't help you either.

, Hey... If something unpleasant happened to your father-in-law, let it go. He will always be your father-in-law and elder. You should respect him(s) as you respect your own parents. After all, your father-in-law is your father-in-law.

The fundamental reason is that I study less and see less of the world." Later, when I sat next to her and listened to this video again, I looked at him in the coffin with extremely firm eyes and silently said to him in my heart.

Say: Father, I will do it, I have always followed your example!

When we, father and son, finished talking about these words, my mother also rushed to the hospital with the porridge she brought from home. The mute elder sister Zhao Juqin also got up and was busy cleaning up and preparing for breakfast. Just when our family was about to finish eating

, my uncle and aunt also rushed to the hospital to visit his brother early in the morning. After breakfast, my father wiped the noodles and deliberately cleared his throat and coughed. I knew what he was going to say as soon as I saw it, so I took the

I put a bench next to my father's bed and asked my uncle to sit down, while my aunt sat on the empty bed next door. My mother and I sat on the bench used to accompany patients.

"Qiu (embarrassing), do you know how you got to where you are today step by step?" Dad called his uncle's nickname and opened the call folder.

"Okay, what's the point of always talking about this? It's fun, right?" As soon as my dad started to speak, my aunt sitting next to me interrupted him. My dad also followed me when he was seeing a doctor in Shanghai.

I said: Every time you open your mouth, your aunt cuts you off, because she tells your uncle that he is her uncle, the accountant of the production team, who helps your uncle, and then buys all kinds of gifts every year.

Her uncle went to pay New Year's greetings on Changjie, so I never had the chance to tell your uncle, Dad, I really don't want gifts and rewards from your uncle. (Zhangjie refers to an important festival every year, when younger people go to visit their elders. This is the local

a custom.)

"Auntie, shut up and listen carefully. My father is already like this, and I don't want him to leave with any regrets!" Maybe it was because I felt the same for my father that I actually spoke unscrupulously.

I roughly interrupted my aunt's words. With my shocking words, in addition to everyone present holding their breath, I also saw the eyes of approval from my father.

"Back then, after you graduated from junior high school, you had nothing to do and were empty at home. I heard from the old secretary-general of the township that we were going to set up a private teacher training class for the Red Teacher Class to receive and recruit some young people with some cultural foundation for retraining.

, Cultural Poverty Alleviation Education, and soon after taking up the job, he became a private teacher." He continued, "I tried every means to keep an eye on the old secretary-general, invited him to drinks and meals, and forced you to join the training because you were not qualified due to your age.

He went to the class. For this reason, the old secretary-general would ask my brother for some machine-made rice, waterfowl specialties and so on every year. Brother, I have never told you!".

"Ah, that's not what I know!" The uncle, who was listening to his father's words with bated breath, turned to glare at the embarrassed aunt, and suddenly realized as if he had just woken up from a dream: "I'm sorry, brother, I really didn't know it was you.

Help me!".

"Then after you graduate from the training class, you will be asked to work as a private substitute teacher in the village primary school of Zhoushe Brigade. Later, I will find a way to ask the old secretary to help transfer you to the village primary school of this brigade closer to home as a private teacher.

, you were already an official private teacher when you transferred here. In 1985, I heard that there was a quota for a group of private teachers to transfer to public teachers in the township. I tried my best to ask the old secretary-general for help and prepared various good things.

I invited him to my house for dinner, and finally he asked to bring all these good dishes to his house to eat...once and twice until later I promised him to take care of at least 200 kilograms of new rice and agricultural and sideline products every year. That day I gave him

After he came back very drunk, he finally agreed to leave an indicator to my brother. As soon as I entered the house that day, I vomited everywhere, but I was so happy inside! My brother can finally have an iron rice bowl!",

He poured it down like sesame seeds, refreshingly and continuously, but the uncle sitting on the stool beside the bed could no longer hold back, "Woo, woo, woo..." He cried out as willfully as a child.

There was a voice, but the aunt sitting by the bed lowered her head in shame and remained silent.

"After you became a public teacher, I continued to think of ways to transfer you to the town center primary school. I contacted the leaders and also principal Chen Xiaogeng. Principal Chen also gave me a lot of respect. Within half a year, you were transferred to the town center primary school.

." He didn't care at all that there was another client (aunt) sitting next to him. He was afraid that someone would not let him say the same thing again. He wanted to tell him all the details and experiences of his brother quickly, "In the second year after being transferred to town,

I bought two more boxes of Hongtashan cigarettes and went to the public relations township cadre and school branch meeting, where they agreed to let you join the party and promote you, step by step, until you were promoted to the position of the school's teaching director. My brother and sister-in-law have never asked for a penny from you, right?

?I just want to make my brother’s life better and better, and let all the brothers in our family get better!”

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"Okay, okay, brother, I accept your apology. Don't cry. These words have been in my heart for many years. I finally said everything I wanted to say today. I feel much better.

Brother, I’m telling you this today because I hope you can be a sensible person, repay kindness, and know how to be grateful is the minimum requirement, but you have to thank the right person! Principal Chen used to do it for my brother’s sake.

, I have been so helpful to you, treated you so well, and trusted you so much, yet you spread rumors outside that have no basis in fact and are extremely detrimental to Principal Chen. It is really shameful! You are worthy of Principal Chen.

Well?"

"Brother, those things that are detrimental to Principal Chen were not said by me, but *** told me!" He was still making unnecessary excuses and denials in front of this dying man like a child.

"Uncle, that also came from your mouth! Do you understand?! You have a shaky mouth. Mr. Chen's potential enemies deliberately took advantage of your mouth and deliberately spread things that are unfavorable to him, and then they

It spreads out through your "trumpet", and then you are framed and used as a weapon, and it is difficult to defend yourself! Don't you think you still can't see the problem inside?" Seeing that he was still critically ill.

My father defended and denied it, but after talking about these things, my father was very difficult to talk about, and he seemed to be endless.
To be continued...