"Dad. I want to be an official."

"Um."

"I told my ideals to my mother, but my mother actually said that I was too rude and not an official. When I asked her what rude was, she took out what I had done before and said what I said. But I really didn't mean what she said."

"Yes." Zhao Jiaren was happy, but he showed a very calm attitude. When he helped his beloved daughter with psychological correction, Zhao Jiaren felt that he must be cautious and cautious.

"Dad, can you tell me how I'm so arrogant?"

"I can't be sure what your mother means, I can only talk about my opinion. First of all, I don't think there is any problem with your stubbornness. Because no matter how stubborn you are, you can't let me shake my mind at all, and you won't let me change my decision. If you make too much trouble, I will beat you up. So, I think your stubbornness is very cute for most of the time."

In the Song Dynasty, it was not uncommon to impose corporal punishment on children. From a psychological perspective, non-ventive corporal punishment is actually very useful. There is indeed a group of people who are involved in psychology that have fallen into the path of having souls, but most people don’t think so. If there is really a soul, there is no reason for antidepressant drugs to exist.

Zhao Jiaren is a supporter of the neuronal connection hypothesis. He believes that all human brain memories and physical memories are materialistic and are traces left by electrical signals. Based on this cognition, when a bear child commits a bear, he needs to be beaten. Being beaten will leave a very strong signal. Human beings themselves are an analogical pattern. If they jump around and fall to their heads and blood, the body will classify this strong signal as "the behavior is wrong". Being beaten after committing a bear will also play the same role.

A positive example of this situation is "no attack without being beaten". A negative example is that children who have been abused by their parents since childhood can easily fall into the wrong judgment of "this is my fault", which will lead to a very bad development in their lives.

Looking at the awkward expression of his daughter, Zhao Jiaren felt that the child was still scared of the consequences after committing a bear. This was probably a good thing. He poured his daughter a cup of tea, saw her take a sip, and slowly calmed down. Zhao Jiaren continued: "Many times, it is actually because his body feels uncomfortable, and we are unhappy at this time. When we meet someone, we make things difficult for the other party, or simply try to suppress the other party. Seeing that the other party is uncomfortable, we feel that we have the ability to make the other party uncomfortable, and thus think that we are the stronger party. This stronger self-awareness will increase our tolerance for discomfort, and can even suppress this feeling of discomfort for a certain period of time."

If it were the past, Zhao Min would yell after hearing this, "It's so annoying to say so much!" However, this time Zhao Min actually listened carefully and was even considering it. Zhao Jiaren had to consider it. Zhao Min might really want to be an official.

After thinking for a while, Zhao Min suddenly said depressedly: "Dad, are you saying that I am not a good person?"

"Can you tell me your definition of a good person?" Zhao Jiaren asked back.

"Well..., I think my mother is a good person."

"There is no standard for good people. For example, the Song people who were rescued by me from the Mongols' butcher's knife probably think I am a good person. However, the relatives of the Mongolians who were killed in the process of saving the Song people think I am a very unforgivable bad guy. If I fall into their hands, I will definitely be cruelly killed. So, do you think I am a good person or a bad person?"

"Then... are friends and enemies?" Zhao Min tried to find a reason again.

"Logically, these two are not equivalent relationships. Or, in other words, they are not equivalent relationships. Generally speaking, we define enemies as opponents based on interests, while friends are defined as people with psychological identity."

"How to define it?"

"It is more appropriate to use our side and the opposite side." Zhao Jiaren gave his daughter a clear answer.

After hearing this statement, Zhao Min suddenly realized and said, "Dad. Are you and your mother standing on the opposite side of me?"

"Many times this attribution is used well. I hope you can remember that everything has its timeliness. You are our baby, and your mother and I have always supported you. The reason why we sometimes stand on your opposite side is because we cannot accept the ideas you had at that time. It is not that we cannot accept you as a person."

It can be seen that Zhao Jiaren's words were completely beyond Zhao Min's imagination. She looked at Zhao Jiaren with a dumbfounded look, but her eyes were obviously not focused, and she was obviously trying to accept such a thinking pattern. Two minutes later, Zhao Min gave up, and she asked again: "Then... my mother said I was rude, what do you think about my father?"

"My evaluation of the willful person is based on physical stimulation and chooses non-logical discontinuity behavior."

"Then... how can we get through it."

"Well. Since you want to be an official, I think if this is really your ideal, then there is a rescue. First, exercise hard, have a healthy body, learn logic, and have tools to use your own brain power. I'm not kidding, I really think you can change. People are not afraid of flaws, but are afraid of not having ideals. Come on."

After seeing off his daughter who was trapped in a blind mind, Zhao Jiaren continued to read his report. As a front-line work unit, the money house has done a very good job in the circulation of cash payments, and Zhao Jiaren was overjoyed. The stability of cash payments was not as bad as he had ever worried. If he could follow up on the issuance of the denominations that the public could use, at least there should be enough room for cash payments in the city.

Just as I was looking at it, when the door of the study opened, Zhao Jiaren's wife came in. After entering, she closed the door and then asked seriously, "What did you say to the aunt?"

"She wants to be an official, but she is also worried about the rude comments you gave her. I will tell her what rudeness means." Zhao Jiaren said while pulling a chair for his wife and pouring water.

After Qin Yuzhen sat down, she immediately said with some concern: "But what you told the aunt is all about what you need to understand. I think you should tell her some ways of enlightenment. Telling these things to the aunt is different from putting a knife into her hands. You are holding a knife to overcome all obstacles, and I am afraid that she will kill people and rob people with a knife."

"Hey, don't say it so scary, okay!" Zhao Jiaren was really scared by his wife's words. Although Qin Yuzhen had never taken classes in a university in the 21st century, the accumulation of many things by the Jinshi family should not be underestimated. That was the experience accumulated through blood and tears.

"Sanlang, you are harmonious and versatile. Before we get married, you wrote a verse and said, "I will know that I am me today! You were only twenty years old at that time. The aunt did not have the talent and enlightenment you had at that time. If you taught her randomly, you would probably only teach a bandit who would not cultivate good results in your life and only love to kill and set fire."
Chapter completed!