When you have worked for three or five years, you may see a new employee and be able to analyze what kind of person he is in a short time. From childhood to high school, your parents can easily see through your thoughts, and when you return home after working for a few years

, I often find that my parents no longer have this magic power, but communicate with you on an equal footing, and even start to ask you something.

Some fathers are knowledgeable and have reached a state of understanding early on. Such fathers can give their children a sense of dependability and wisdom for a long time. Children who have been working for many years are willing to communicate and discuss more with their father when encountering problems.

And some parents are indeed very ordinary people and cannot give their children any valuable advice on social matters. In this case, parents should not point fingers too much.

This matter is not good or bad, it is just an objective statement.

For Lu Ling, he had barely touched the threshold of the fourth realm of "unfathomable".

Through studying and working part-time as a psychological counselor in the past few years, it's just that it's difficult to make progress now.

It should be noted that these five realms only represent experience and social thinking level, and are not directly related to IQ. There are too many people with super high IQ but low EQ.

Moreover, this has nothing to do with character or morality. For example, "the chest is full of hills and valleys", like other realms, are neutral words, indicating that this person is extraordinary.

Generally those who can do this are industry leaders.

Senior business managers, deputy sales directors, corporate executives, senior police officers, etc. can generally reach the third level, enough to operate in society with ease.

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Some people say that people are divided into three realms: looking at a mountain, it is a mountain, looking at a mountain, it is not a mountain, and looking at a mountain, it is still a mountain.

Lu Ling felt that this was too difficult for ordinary people to understand, so he created a realm of his own just to facilitate his own understanding.

In this world, there are ten thousand ways to become a capable person, but they are generally divided into two directions.

Technical and social orientation.

Technical orientation is very simple, that is, technology comes first, and you don’t need to know anything else. You can even become a person like Einstein. Even if you can’t put on pants, even if you can’t even say hello, it doesn’t matter.

For example, Wei Shen, the great mathematician who is very popular recently, does not need to think about worldly things, he only needs to study hard, and he can be very powerful. Everyone respects him, and he can also realize the value of his life.

However, there are very few people who are purely technical. Today’s doctors, programmers, etc. seem to be technically oriented, but they still have to be good at human behavior to a certain extent, so that they can go further in technology. Even if a doctor can do "flying knife"

"The more you know how to be a good person, the more respect you will gain.

Social orientation is what most people do, because almost everything in your life involves contact with people.

How to contact people? How to gain the favor and trust of others? How to see what the other person is trying to do? How to avoid losses to yourself?

The list goes on and on, in short, these are all social trends.

After talking about this, it doesn't mean that Lu Ling is better than others.

If you have a high self-esteem, it is easy to cause problems. Arrogance and arrogance are absolutely undesirable, and arrogance and arrogance are also a reflection of the low level of social thinking.

In addition to these five realms, complex animals like humans have many other bonuses.

Industry experience, industry status, social status, technical ability, background, physical ability, social relations, age, etc. are all very important. These all require time and experience accumulation. It is too difficult to think quickly, but these can

Feed back the progress of social thinking.

Yes, even age itself is still very important.

Some people have no abilities at all. They are just old and qualified, but they can rely on their old age and act like they are old, which makes you unable to get up.

If you have strong abilities, are accurate in judging people, can handle things well, and behave well, your boss may still cheat your nephew on your behalf.

This is like a novel about cultivating immortals. You think you are more powerful in the foundation-building stage than in the Qi-refining stage, but in fact, the person in the Qi-refining stage may have a top-notch talisman given by his parents, and you will die if you throw one away.

Not only that, the five realms of social thinking are definitely not irreversible. Affected by subconsciousness, state, and knowledge, it is normal for people with high realms to be deceived by those with low realms.

For example, it is easy for children to deceive people, because adults subconsciously believe in children; for another example, it is generally difficult for the police to interrogate criminals, because when criminals are interrogated, their psychological defenses are full.

Romantic people are also normal.

Therefore, analysis of problems still requires dialectics.

Speaking of which, in fact, these changes in realm are very, very tiring. It is a very painful process to transform one's own knowledge into one's own growth. During this period, there are countless times of reshaping the three views.

There are no advantages or disadvantages among the five realms. There are many bosses who are already incomprehensible. Finally, they are tired of the complexity of society, indulge in the mountains and rivers, and dream of becoming an innocent person.

The simpler it is, the happier it is.

I don’t know how many adults miss their childhood days all the time.

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Why is it said that it is easier to practice within the six gates? The main reason is that you have seen more of the warmth and coldness of the human world.

When Lu Ling came here, he encountered a case where a baby was frozen to death. The old policemen could treat it calmly. Although everyone hated evil, they would not be dazzled by the anger caused by such a thing. But if this matter makes some innocent people

If people deal with it, they will probably suffer from mental illness.

Why are more and more people afraid of society? Because society is too complex. It is very uncomfortable for a group of well-protected students to suddenly face a lot of mature and experienced people. Maybe their knowledge level is higher.

, but they are still squeezed and bullied inexplicably. This makes everyone have little expectation for social interaction, and creates an instinctive feeling that social interaction "does more harm than good", and naturally they are afraid of social interaction.

But this does not mean that people at a low level are necessarily kind, some people are stupid and bad. There are innocent people, some good people, and some bad people; there are also unfathomable people, some good people, and some bad people.

Thinking is a very complex cognitive process and is an integral activity of the cerebral cortex. Academically speaking, it refers to implicit cognitive operations or mental operations that use ideas, representations, symbols, words, propositions, memories, concepts, and beliefs.

The emergence of everyone's social thinking is a very complex existence.

Lu Ling has been studying and studying personality psychology for many years and understands that everyone is complex and complicated.

This sentence seems simple, but in fact many people don't understand it.

Many young people never consider one thing before falling in love online: the other person has lived for 20 years, has experienced countless things, and is also a very complicated person.

Being carried away by love, your social thinking plummets, your realm drops, you feel that the other person is good at everything, and then you find out that the other person has such and such problems during a few months of getting along.

From many psychological studies, it is believed that childhood can already have a great impact on a person's personality. Every adult is not as simple as it seems. Lu Ling has always understood that the more you grow up, the more you need to keep a low profile.

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This world has always been like this and has never changed.

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