"Then learn from Grandma. Grandma spent a lot of money to invite Grandma Kong for you. Grandma Kong is not an ordinary person. Grandma has witnessed three generations of emperors, five queens, and served countless concubines in the palace.
.In Bianjing City, many royal palaces and nobles are unable to hire a nanny. Grandma has invited her for you. You must cherish it."
Sheng Changbai said to Ru Lan earnestly, he only hoped that this silly sister could learn more.
Aunt Kong was originally in the palace and taught the nobles and concubines in the palace etiquette and rules.
These rules and etiquette are not so necessary for Ru Lan, who wants to get married.
It's not that Rulan doesn't know the rules of the official family, she just doesn't want to follow them.
But in terms of life, Ru Lan needs to learn too much from Grandma Kong.
Grandma Kong is a more transparent and wise old lady than Mrs. Sheng.
A helpless folk girl was tricked by her stepmother when she was young and sent to the palace to be a maid.
She has survived for decades in the most filthy royal harem in the world.
From an ordinary little palace maid, she became a prestigious female official in the palace, and was trusted by many concubines for decades.
When you grow old, you can get the dignity of leaving the palace.
In the entire Zhou Dynasty, there were few women who were smarter than Grandma Kong.
In terms of political knowledge, rules and etiquette, mental skills, and survival wisdom, Grandma Kong was at the top of the list of women in the Zhou Dynasty.
If Mrs. Sheng hadn't been young, she would have been raised in the palace for a period of time.
She formed a friendship with Aunt Kong, who was still a little palace maid. She was the most knowledgeable and wise old lady in the Zhou Dynasty, and the Sheng family could never hire her.
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Rulan murmured in response, her attitude seemed to be okay, whether she would be interested or not would depend on her actual study situation.
"I've met Mammy. The three younger sisters at home have made Mammy worry so much."
After Mother Kong arrived at the Sheng family, Sheng Changbai also went to visit Mother Kong first.
Aunt Kong came out of the palace as a minister of the Sixth and Twenty-Fourth Division of the Inner Palace, and as the Shangfu Gongzheng.
All in all, it is appropriate to reach official positions as officials of the fifth rank.
Regardless of the fact that Grandma Kong was born in the powerful and loyal imperial palace of Zhou Dynasty, even at this level she is on the same level as Sheng Hong, so she certainly deserves respect.
"Tanhualang is so polite. Considering my childhood friendship with my grandmother, since she has entrusted her with her, how can I not help and educate the other sisters in the family with all my heart."
Grandma Kong also looks kind-hearted and gentle. When she speaks, she feels like spring breeze, and her gestures are generous and smooth, modest and dignified.
Shan said that he had stayed in a perverted place like the palace for a lifetime.
She didn't become as mean and strict as other upbringing mothers.
It's rare to be able to maintain a peaceful and open-minded state of mind.
"Sorry to bother you, grandma. If you need anything during the time you are staying in the house, please feel free to ask me."
That is to say, Aunt Kong doesn't have that much time, otherwise, Sheng Changbai would really like to chat more with this wise old lady.
When Grandma Kong entered the mansion this time, her apparent mission was to teach Sanlan, her real mission was to teach Sheng Hong, and her hidden mission was to advise Mrs. Sheng.
Three generations of the Sheng family all need Grandma Kong's guidance.
Sheng Changbai is really not good at robbing Grandma Kong of her time with the other three generations in the family who need Grandma Kong's guidance more.
Speaking of which, the reason why Mrs. Sheng invited Aunt Kong was just because Minglan went to peek at her husband, and the old lady wanted Minglan to have more rules and education.
But Minglan is just a granddaughter. As a grandmother, the old lady should not be too partial to a granddaughter.
I wanted to ask my grandma to teach Minglan, but Rulan, my direct granddaughter, was naturally difficult to get across, so I took Rulan with me.
Because of her own temperament and the involvement of her mother, Lin Zongshuang, Mo Lan was not favored by the old lady. She was a granddaughter that the old lady did not want to take care of.
The old lady asked her grandma to teach her granddaughter because she didn't want to play with Mo Lan.
But Mo Lan is a refined egoist and cannot miss any good things at home.
Rulan and Minglan may have felt that Grandma Kong's teaching was a punishment and they had little expectation.
But Mo Lan is different. Just because she has been taught by her grandma that it can improve her value in the marriage market, Mo Lan will not consider this as punishment.
Just this apparent benefit was enough for Mo Lan and her daughter to work hard to get Mo Lan into Grandma Kong's class.
The mother and daughter sang, chanted and beat the old lady, Sheng Hong and Wang Ruofu, and successfully squeezed into Grandma Kong's small classroom.
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There were "four elegances" in the Zhou Dynasty: burning incense, ordering tea, hanging pictures, and arranging flowers.
These four elegances are also called the "four arts of life". They savor daily life through taste, touch, smell and vision, and elevate daily life to the realm of art.
It was said that Aunt Kong was invited to teach the three orchid rules, but in fact, if it were just rules, there would be no need for such a high-level nanny to teach them.
In fact, I still want to let Sanlan learn more about various principles of dealing with others through the process of learning the rules.
Grandma Kong taught the three orchids to master the four arts, and she also used this method to entertain and teach.
While letting Sanlan master this elegant life skill, it also cultivates Sanlan's temperament.
From a modern scientific point of view, these activities are also meaningful.
At least these activities require meditation. If you invest in them, they will be very helpful in calming your heart and controlling your temper.
In the Zhou Dynasty, it was customary to pound agarwood, sandalwood, ambergris and other spices into powder, add honey and juice, and mix them into small fragrant pills like today's pills, and then dry them for later use. This prepared incense is called "hexiang" ”.
When burning incense, first put red-hot charcoal in the incense burner, cover the charcoal with a thin layer of silver flakes or mica flakes, otherwise there will be very thick smoke, and then throw the prepared incense balls on the silver flakes , the aroma is released by roasting.
What Sanlan needs to learn is the ability to taste the appropriate intensity of fragrance and the skills to control the heat.
"Rulan, Minglan, is this the incense burning technique you learned from grandma?" Sheng Changbai said as he watched the two people burn the incense into a cloud of smoke.
Just looking at the materials, one can tell that the price of the incense pills is comparable to gold. Letting these two people burn the incense is a waste. They will need to practice more in the future.
When ordering tea in the Zhou Dynasty, they were very particular about the quality of the tea powder, water quality, heat, and tea sets. Needless to say, these are the things to pay attention to no matter when you taste tea.
The characteristic of Dazhou is that you must first put the finely ground and sifted tea powder into a warm tea bowl, then pour a small amount of hot water to make a paste, and then pour water. While pouring water, use a tea spoon to stir the tea soup back and forth.
Until the white soup flowers cover the water surface.
The more flowers in the soup, the better, and the whiter the better, and it is better if the tea and water have a high degree of fusion and the sides of the bowl do not touch the water. This is what Three Orchids need to practice.
"The refreshments are pretty good. You two have passed the test."
Ordering tea is something that the two of them have been in contact with since childhood, and it seems that it can barely be considered a thing.
It is impossible for two orchids to paint a landscape painting in a tea bowl like those masters, but if you make do, you can still drink it.
Before Sheng Changbai could taste it, Rulan and Minglan were both good at arranging flowers and hanging paintings. Something happened as soon as the three Lans learned how to arrange flowers.
The flower arrangements of the Da Zhou Dynasty, with a clear and sparse style, pursue the beauty of lines, put more emphasis on connotation than form, and reflect the life philosophy and moral integrity of the flower arranger, so they are called "ideal flowers".
To put it simply, in addition to being beautiful on the surface, flower arrangements also need to be able to reveal some inner meanings.
Ru Lan and Mo Lan had a big quarrel in class, which angered Grandma Kong.
Of course, it was not the first day that the two of them had quarreled in class. It was just that today, the two of them were quarreling even more fiercely. The matter was big enough, and Grandma Kong thought it was a suitable time.
Grandma Kong is not an ordinary female teacher hired by her family's school, and she doesn't care about disciplining Sanlan.
He was strict in his teachings and dared to punish the three orchids in his family.
Sheng Hong and Wang Ruofu were called. Lin Jiaoshuangwei excused himself and called all the female relatives in the family except the old lady.
"Fourth girl, you are smart and outstanding in everything, but today I would like to advise you. Don't rely on your cleverness to make other people think they are fools."
"Fifth girl is so majestic today. It was just a few words and it was okay to expose it, but you were afraid that the matter would not cause a big fuss, so you jumped up and down to fan the flames."
"Sixth Miss, I will tell you a truth today. Brothers and sisters in the same family share the same spirit and share prosperity and loss."
Taking advantage of the fierce quarrel between Ru Lan and Mo Lan today, Grandma Kong really said what she really wanted to teach San Lan.
Not only did he speak with reason and evidence, but he also wanted to convince three people.
This is obviously the way to teach noble people in the palace.
"No, if Shan spares her, wouldn't it encourage the trend of brothers and sisters to stay out of trouble next time? What if they all sit back and watch the incident if something happens to them in the future? She has to be punished. Minglan's slap today means that all the sisters will be punished. Understand what it means to be a family!”
When Sheng Hong wanted to plead for mercy to the seemingly aggrieved Minglan, Grandma Kong also gave Sheng Hong a lesson.
"Aunt Lin, I also want to say something to you today. You must know that the most important thing for a person is self-knowledge. You have two ignorances today. The first one is that you should know who you are. The master, my wife, and I are saying this. You Is it appropriate to interrupt so hastily?"
In the end, Grandma Kong did not let Lin Biaoshuang go. She was really wise. After staying in the Sheng family for only ten days, she realized that Lin Biaoshuang was the source of the Sheng family's troubles.
"Second, you have made mistakes over and over again. You first said that you shouldn't have spoken, but then you spoke again. You kept saying that you were ignorant. Since you knew that you were ignorant, why did you interfere in the girl's upbringing? You clearly know nothing about anything. You know it, but you have committed all kinds of crimes. Doesn't this mean that you know the law and break the law, and it is even more offending! Is it because you have raised a brother and sister, and you think you are better than everyone else?"
Grandma Kong pointed out without mercy that Lin Jiaoshuang did not understand the order of superiority and inferiority, and the fact that she relied on favors and was arrogant.
It is also a reminder to Sheng Hong that pampering concubines and destroying wives has caused the Sheng family to lose its rules.
This is because Grandma Kong has a wide range of knowledge and has been deeply involved in the inner palace for decades. She has been in contact with all the nobles of the royal palace and important ministers of the country.
Sheng Hong wanted to learn more about the inside story of the high sect from Mother Kong, which family was on good terms with which family, which family had rifts with which family, which noble minister, what kind of person he was in real life, and what he had Likes, dislikes, and what happened at home.
All kinds of information about these people in power are of course very rare.
Sheng Hong, who had always asked Aunt Kong for various information, respected Aunt Kong very much.
Grandma Kong also had an extraordinary influence on Sheng Hong.
This time, Grandma Kong completely denied Lin Biaoshuang, which actually made Sheng Hong's opinion of Lin Biaoshuang drop greatly, and she really disliked Lin Biaoshuang.
"Although you are not his biological mother, you are his aunt, and you are extremely kind to him. You can straighten your back and show off. What are you worried about? If you don't take yourself seriously, He is happy to put you aside. At least you can live a more comfortable life, if not for yourself, then for the sake of your precious little girl."
"It is not easy for parents to have children and raise them. We must not waste this life in vain. We should live our lives how we want to live. One day we must live a good day."
After teaching the younger members of the Sheng family, Mother Kong started teaching Mrs. Sheng again.
Old Mrs. Sheng is smart, but the old lady's intelligence has hardly been used in recent years.
Over the years, the old lady has been hiding in the back house of the Sheng family, eating fast and chanting Buddha's name, without asking about right and wrong.
It is also an important reason for this situation in the back house of the Sheng family.
The son is unfilial, the daughter-in-law ignores him, the master of the house spoils his concubine and destroys his wife, there is no respect and no rules in the house.
If the old lady had been willing to take more care of things, the Sheng family's back house would not be in the situation it is now, and Sheng Hong's doting on his concubines and killing his wife would never have happened.
The old lady wanted Aunt Kong to come to Sheng's house, and she might have thought of asking Aunt Kong to wake up Sheng Hong.
Unexpectedly, even I was given some advice.
Aunt Kong is definitely a close friend of Mrs. Sheng. She wants to make Mrs. Sheng live a smooth old age.
Originally, after leaving the palace, I should have gone back to my hometown to recuperate, so I had to go to the Sheng family to take the trouble.
I was so worried that within ten days of arriving at the Sheng family, I taught all three generations of the Sheng family a lesson.
The lesson Grandma Kong taught the three generations of the Sheng family this time was profound enough.
Sheng Changbai clearly felt that the atmosphere in the family had changed.
After Mo Lan's trick was exposed by Aunt Kong, her image of being a sweet, weak, and pretty little white flower was shattered in front of Sheng Hong. It was not as easy as before to coax Sheng Hong to play.
Rulan likes to play the role of the first wife's daughter at home, and has restrained herself from being coquettish and unreasonable.
Minglan has also changed from the previous situation of being too withdrawn and hiding too much, and now knows how to express herself appropriately.
Sheng Hong saw some things clearly about Lin Zongshuang and Mo Lan, and he lost his rules on Sheng himself by doting on his concubines and destroying his wives.
The biggest gain is to be alert to the consequences of children, sisters being separated, and brothers being hostile.
Mrs. Sheng also changed her attitude, tried to intervene in more things, and managed the Sheng family's back house well.
This is a good thing for the old lady's own old age and the future of the Sheng family.
Mother Kong's purpose of alerting the Sheng family has been achieved, and she taught Sanlan how to hang paintings for two days.
In terms of hanging paintings, Sanlan needs to learn the least, which is to hang the appropriate poems, words, calligraphy and paintings in the right place and at the right time.
This is closely related to literary accomplishment and cultural appreciation ability, and it is not easy to achieve quickly.
After explaining the details to San Lan, Grandma Kong said goodbye and left the Sheng family.
When the matter was over, she brushed off her clothes and hid her body and reputation. Aunt Kong was really carefree and unrestrained, and Sheng Changbai could clearly see some chivalrous qualities.
