In the manor, the older children watched Fei Zhen angrily and left in a daze, and then they couldn't help but asked in a low voice: "Isn't this too rude..."
Fei Zhen lost the argument.
Although Feizhen feels that he has read more books than the children of the Kong family, this is just what he thinks. In fact, there is still some gap between what he feels, at least Feizhen's level of mastery of the Tao Te Ching
, obviously there are some shortcomings.
After all, you can understand the meaning of the Tao Te Ching by reading it twice or by understanding all the words in it...
Many children feel that they are the prettiest and smartest. Some even grow up and still feel good about themselves. Fei Zhen feels the same way. After all, in the land of Guanzhong, is there any child who dares to do this to Fei Zhen?
In front of someone, reprimand them face to face, or even defend them mercilessly?
Feizhen was naturally a little embarrassed, but fortunately Feizhen did not become angry because of this and made a fuss in Meizhuang. She just left angrily.
Seeing his sister getting angry and running away from Fei Zhen, the eldest child couldn't help but feel a little nervous.
The younger child was silent for a while, and then said, "A little."
"A little bit?" The older child turned his head in confusion and blinked twice, "Then why don't you let him a little bit...it's more or less respectful..."
"Respect?" The child frowned slightly and replied, "If the world respects you, do you respect yourself or your father?"
"This..." The eldest child seemed to want to say it was Jing Feizhen, but later he honestly said, "It's Jing Feizhen."
The child asked again, "The hussar treats you and I are polite, so I sent his son to come in rudely. Isn't this a bad thing for the hussar? His son is rude, because we respect the hussar, so he has nothing to do with it."
Is it appropriate to show respect as a courtesy?"
"This..." said the older child, "Then you can't..."
"When it comes to arguing, there must be winners and losers." The child said, "What's more, if you need others to give in to even a simple argument, how can you become a great person?"
The eldest child was speechless and still looked outside the courtyard, as if to express that he couldn't just argue the person and run away...
After a pause, the younger child said, "Brother, have you ever heard of the saying, "If the king does not enter the minister's house, the father... the father will not enter the son's house"?" Perhaps it was the mention of his father that made the younger child pause.
For a moment.
The older child was stunned, "Is there such a thing?"
The child nodded, "Brother, do you think so? Since it is said that the king is the guide for the ministers, and the father is the guide for the son, the land in the world is not the king's land. Since it is the king's land, everything is governed by it, but why is it said, "The king is not a minister?
"The father does not enter the son's house?"
The older child tilted his head and thought.
In traditional Chinese culture, Confucian culture has always occupied the most important position. The ethics of ethics is the most important thought in Confucian culture. Under the feudal system, there was a strict hierarchy, and within this hierarchy,
Such a sentence seems to violate the Three Cardinal Principles and Five Constant Rules.
The exact origin of this sentence or who said it is hard to find out. There are similar words such as "The king does not see his wife" and so on, but they are actually the same thing.
This etiquette requirement must have existed before the Tang Dynasty. I won’t go into the dirty things about Tang Noshin. Anyone who knows the details must be talking about it. If it is mentioned, this matter may have come from Qi Yigong.
There are some traditional ones. In the current era of the Han Dynasty, there is no need to mention Lao Cao, even Liu Chan, the later master, seems to have had some influence. (This chapter talks about Note 1, Note 2, and Note 3)
As for the various divine dramas of later generations, the emperor went to the courtier's house as freely as if he were entering his own back garden, and met the courtier's wife as if he were meeting the lady in a club. In fact, it was a great
The slander of Chinese etiquette.
Most emperors pay great attention to this aspect and are not as confused as in various divine dramas.
Since ancient times, China has been a country that attaches great importance to etiquette. Whether you are visiting your home or looking for relatives and friends, you must follow etiquette, especially among the children of the noble family.
Feizhen feels that this manor belongs to her family, and she can come and go as she pleases, which is actually a very rude thing. It is like having relatives come to live in her house, and then she can open the door of the relatives' room at will, without any scruples.
Breaking in? Or maybe the landlord thinks that he has a real estate license, so he can come in and out at any time without informing the tenant, and then he can accuse the tenant of acting like a boss, without thinking about what the house is.
Whose, living here for you, yet don’t know how to be grateful?
"The king does not enter his ministers' house, and the father does not enter his son's house."
This is the most basic concept of property rights in China, and it is a moral constraint to protect private space from infringement. It shows that even a king and father must follow etiquette and respect others first, and then they will be respected by others.
Although this sentence cannot completely stop the king from occupying by force, it at least shows that this matter is wrong and immoral. Take Cao Cao as an example. If Lao Cao casually breaks into the backyard of a courtier, and then sticks out his head and
Look, he laughed, "Oh, this is your wife..."
So what should I do if I want to be a minister?
This is ethics, this is morality, and this is the most basic etiquette for people.
If you want to be respected by others, you must first know how to respect others.
In Dream of Red Mansions, Jia Zhen of Ningguo Prefecture was not very good in this regard, so Jiao Da drunkenly cursed, "Every day I steal dogs and play with chickens, those who crawl on ashes crawl on ashes, and those who raise a brother-in-law raise a brother-in-law" and so on.
.No matter in any era, this is the most immoral behavior, so when Jiao Da was drunk and scolded, "all the boys were frightened to death", and they did not even dare to hear such words. Therefore,
"A king should not enter his minister's house, and a father should not enter his son's house." Although it is a common saying, it is a very reasonable sentence. This involves the most basic and unbreakable bottom line of being a human being and a superior.
Returning to the property of Meiling Manor, it is indeed the Fei family's manor, but now that it has been given to the Kong brothers and sisters to live in, whether it is a lease or a gift, Feizhen barged in directly without informing her.
It was a rude behavior. So the Kong family's daughter pointed it out unceremoniously and responded to Feizhen. Could it be that she could just yell that the Kong family's second son was ignorant and ungrateful?
For example, "If my father hadn't rescued you, you would have died long ago?"
Or "If my father didn't give you a house to live in, would you sleep on the street?"
And so on.
It is indeed "what if". If there was no father like Qiao Qi, who would sincerely respect Fei Zhen?
"Just like you and me." The child whispered, "If we don't have the name of father, how can you and I be worthy enough to live here? Therefore, these trivial things are just trivial matters! Brother, you and I still have
There are more important things to do..."
"Ah?" The older child opened his eyes wide, "Something more important? What big thing?"
"You haven't thought about it," the Kong girl asked with a frown, "such a Zhuangzi must be worth a lot of money... Is there anything in you or me that can compare with this Zhuangzi? Have you thought about it?"
The eldest child thought for a long time, and then asked hesitantly, "Hmm...could it be...horse bones?"
Kong's daughter said: "The horse bones were left to us by our father... But this reputation can only be used for a while, but how can it be used for a lifetime? If today the Prince of Cavalry can bully you and me rudely at will, but you and I are obedient and do not know right from wrong, in the future
Who else can distinguish right from wrong for you and me?"
The older child scratched the back of his head and said, "Is that so..."
"However, I would like to thank the prince for coming in rudely today..." The Kong family girl smiled and showed a small tiger tooth, "One person retreated today, but hundreds of people will not come in the future! I think it will be unclean in the future.
Less, just enough for you and me to concentrate on..."
"Huh?" The eldest child has never been able to turn around.
Kong's daughter nodded, and then looked at the older child seriously, "So, brother, do you have the consciousness to be a horse bone now? As the saying goes, a horse's bone is worth a thousand gold, but brother, do you think you and I are worth a thousand gold now?"
?If it is not worth it, then how can you and I live here for a long time? Even if it is a temporary residence, how long can we live here? Where will we live? With the reputation of our father, how long can we be protected? All these things, brother can
Do you still think that being polite or rude to the Prince of Cavalry is a big deal at the moment?」
"This..." The eldest child stood stunned for a long time, with beads of sweat dripping down his forehead. He cupped his hands and said, "What the little sister said makes sense, so what are the urgent things we should do right now?"
"Reading. Now you and I can't carry our shoulders, we can't reach the book, we are single and weak, even if we have millions of ambitions, it is better to devote ourselves to studying." Kong's daughter said categorically, "The ancestors of the Kong family are famous for their classics, how can they now do it?"
Can you fall into this?! You should take advantage of this place, reject foreigners, study hard, and increase your knowledge. This will be the foundation for you and me! This will be the long-lasting road! My brother is still stuck in these trivial things, when will he be able to achieve success? If he can't stand it
Please speak up early about the name Kong. My little sister is not talented, and I don’t want to be reduced to dust in my father’s name!”
……o(TωT)o……
A group of gentry disciples gathered in one place, chattering.
"Hey! Have you heard? The Kong family's children have arrived in Chang'an! They were even placed in Meiling Village by Hussar!"
"That Kong?"
"And that one? Kong Rong and Kong Wenju!"
"Ha! What's the use of Kong Wen's raising children? What's the use of Kong Wen's raising children? It's not as good as Kong Wenju himself? Why didn't Qiaoqi bring Kong Wenju himself to Chang'an?" A middle-aged man with a three-strand beard and an upright look suddenly interjected
He came in and said loudly, "Does this child have anything to do with Hussar? Is it the child that Hussar left behind? Otherwise, why would he be given such preferential treatment?"
The middle-aged man spoke righteously, but suddenly he noticed that everyone seemed to be half a step away from him. He couldn't help but panic, "Ah? What are you... what are you doing?"
The other gentry children stared at him, and after a while someone asked: "Do you really don't understand, or are you pretending not to understand? If you really don't understand, you are stupid, and if you pretend not to understand, you are bad! After all, what are you doing?
is that one?"
"You, you, you! How can you be so rude!" The middle-aged man was furious, "I'm just talking about something! Isn't it possible that people can't talk in this bright world?! Why is it either stupid or bad? This statement is so stupid.
present!"
"Oh? Isn't this rude? If you slander Hussar behind his back, isn't it considered rude?" Another nobleman said, "You can say that Hussar is very clever, or you can say that Hussar is doing this for a purpose."
Whatever it is, it’s okay. We were discussing this matter just now. It doesn’t matter... But as he said it, he leaned on others. What do you mean? He only knew how to leave his children outside when he was with Qiusi.
Already?』
"This... this..." The middle-aged scholar stared and tried to explain, "That's what I said... I didn't mean it... I just... said it casually, just said it..."
It seemed that the patrolman on the street noticed this and turned around to look over. The middle-aged scholar quickly covered his head and face and hurried away, causing the other nobles to burst into laughter.
A scholar nodded at the middle-aged man who was hiding his face and walked away, "Tsk! Even if you are spreading rumors, why should you think of a better reason? Really... If we talk about Prime Minister Cao, it is impossible to say that there are some children outside the country.
Hussar, I'm afraid that if someone rushes to send it up, the hussar won't even look down on it!"
"Hey? What do you mean by "send it up"?"
"The younger sister in my family is also virtuous and virtuous, as beautiful as a flower. She has heard about the name of Piao for a long time, and she also admires her endlessly... It's a pity, alas, I heard that many of the girls in Zhiyin prison originally wanted that... but in the end, Piao
You don't even want to ride on it, you say," the scholar tapped the back of one hand twice in the palm of the other, "What else do you need to live outside, even if you are inside, you can't ask for it..."
"Oh, I am Zuo Feng Yi Chang, who is not yet married..."
"Uh-huh, don't, don't get too close..."
There was another burst of laughter among everyone.
Unlike ordinary nobles, Wei Duan, who lives in the Wei Mansion and stays behind closed doors, has more things on his mind.
Become an official.
Not detention.
Therefore, Wei Duan can still contact the outside world, and for people like Wei Duan, he must not be willing to remain silent like this, and then the clan will be reduced to a poor family.
Therefore, although Wei Duan closed his doors to thank guests, lived in seclusion, and behaved honestly, in fact, his mind was still in the court, paying attention to any disturbance inside and outside Chang'an.
Just like the news that the Kong family's children and relevant people in Shandong had arrived in Chang'an this time, Wei Duan naturally heard about it and had some ideas...
In Wei Duan's case, the Kong family's children are not just two children, they are more like two pieces of delicious meat!
So Wei Duan immediately got into the study, rummaged through the boxes and cabinets, and didn't even bother to eat the preserved meat.
Wei Duan's good son Wei Kang, of course, could not still sit comfortably after his father retired from office. He was also dismissed from his official position and stayed at home to grow old. "Father, what are you... looking for?"
"Come on, help me look for it together..." Wei Duan was old after all. After working for a while, his back hurt and he was a little dizzy, so he gasped and said, "Look for my father and Kong Wenju."
letter……"
"Kong Wenju?" Wei Kang asked, "What are you looking for his letters for?"
"Kong Wenju's children are now in Chang'an!" Wei Duan calmed his breathing, "Do you know what this means?"
We are in Chang'an, we are in Chang'an, what else does this mean? What good meaning does it have? What does this have to do with us? Wei Kang cursed in his stomach, but he couldn't say it with his mouth, so he just shook his head.
"Shu Zi!" Wei Duan suddenly felt a little angry again.
Wei Kang lowered his head, looking like a good baby.
When his father is angry, he will do this, but doing so does not mean that he understands the truth or realizes his mistake, but it means non-violence and non-cooperation.
Yes, although Wei Kang has experienced such hardships, just like in later generations, tutoring children with homework can cause them to get angry and cause cerebral hemorrhage. A naughty child is still a naughty child, and he will not become more sensible just because his parents have a cerebral hemorrhage.
If you can't do your homework, you still won't do it. Even if you receive a beating from society one day, you may not be able to repent.
Wei Duan didn't bother to explain to Wei Kangduo. Sometimes he felt that his son didn't seem to be his biological son. If the big man didn't have any DNA testing methods at the moment, Wei Duan might have wanted to check it out. So Wei Duan
He just ordered Wei Kang to search among the old letters to find the letters between Wei Duan and Kong Rong.
Kong Rong was famous all over the world at that time, especially when he held an important position in the court under He Jin. Many people continued to explore literature, asked for advice on the meaning of the classics, or visited him in person, or wrote letters to ask for advice. Therefore, Wei Wei
Duan and Kong Rong also had some correspondence...
However, after so many years, even the correspondence papers of later generations may not be said to be well preserved under the changing seasons of spring, summer, autumn and winter, let alone these bamboo slips, wooden slips, and silk calligraphy and ruler slips from the Han Dynasty.
Wei Kang stuck his butt out and rummaged through the pile of old papers. Under the flying dust, he found a lot of old wooden slips and tattered bamboo slips, but he couldn't find the letters between Wei Duan and Kong Rong that Wei Duan said.
It was just to build a relationship with Kong Rong, so although these letters written by Wei Duan cannot be said to be thrown away, they were not stored carefully. After so many years, it is not easy to find them.
After all, who would have thought of this?
If Wei Duan knew that there was a situation like today, he would definitely have found a good container, put some quicklime in it, wrapped it with some oil paper and silk cloth, and preserved the letters properly.
"Father..." Wei Kang looked crestfallen and exhausted, "I really can't find it...Father, why are you looking for this letter?"
Perhaps because of Wei Kang's hard work in searching, Wei Duan was no longer as angry as before, so he said in a deep voice: "What Qi Qi did is very meaningful. Think about it, who is Kong Wenju?"
"Descendants of Confucius?" Wei Kang replied.
Wei Duan closed his eyes, "What else? There are so many descendants of Confucius! Why did they save Confucius and Wenju's children?"
"This...the leader of Shandong Wenhua?" Wei Kang's voice became lower.
"There are so many Wenhua people in Shandong, why do you want to save the children of the Kong family?" Wei Duan frowned, "Why is it that even today, you are still so superficial in your consideration of the problem?"
Wei Kangba smacked his lips, as if he wanted to say something, but he was choked by the dust around him and suddenly started coughing.
"Forget it, you get up first," Wei Duan waved his hand, then raised his head, and after thinking for a moment, he said slowly, "This hussar rescued the Kong family's children, don't think it is a small matter...
This view requires at least three levels of thinking..."
Note 1: In the early days, when Duke Yi was a son, he hunted with Bingrong's father, but couldn't win. When he came to the throne, Bingrong's father was cut off, and Bingrong was made a servant. The wife of mediocre officials was good, and the palace in the Duke's palace was made mediocre.
In the fifth month of Zhixian's reign, Duke Yi traveled to Shenchi. The two of them bathed and played. Zhi said: "Broken foot!" Rong said: "The wife-stealer!" Both of them were sick. This was a grudge and a conspiracy.
When the public was traveling to Zhuzhong, the two of them abandoned Zhuzhong and died on the bus.
Note 2: In the first month of the twelfth year, Yan's wife Hu came to congratulate the Queen Mother. The Queen Mother ordered that Hu be kept until her menstrual period. Hu was beautiful, and Yan suspected that she had an affair with the empress, so she called Hu five hundred Lao.
He caught his face with a shoe, and then abandoned him. He told Yan with a beard, and Yan was imprisoned. Some officials said: "The soldier is not the wife of Laos, and his face is not a place to be worn." Yan actually abandoned the market. She is the wife and mother of the minister.
The Chaoqing ended. (Note again, this Yan is not Cui Yan.)
Note 3: Lao Cao jumped, "I didn't! Your example is inappropriate! My wife is a widow!"
"Why don't you just give me a chestnut? Why are you so anxious?"
Lao Cao said, why don’t you lift hussars when you lift chestnuts?!
Do the Hussars have so many wives? Others wouldn’t believe it even if they mentioned it!
