Chapter 189 Life is not about fireworks and Ferris wheel
In the middle of the night, the breeze blew gently, with a hint of coolness, blowing Deng Lin's clothes and hair. From Ye Nan's aesthetic point of view, this girl was not actually extremely beautiful, but she was familiar with her.
Compared with several girls, Deng Lin is undoubtedly more mature.
Perhaps it was this maturity that was different from that of high school students and even college students that attracted Guo Xiaojiang and made him crazy about him for a time.
The reason why Deng Lin rejected Guo Xiaojiang also came from this maturity, or rationality.
"I am six years older than Guo Xiaojiang," Deng Lin said with a wry smile. "Maybe you will say that age is not a problem. There are many similar sayings on the Internet, but if age is really involved in emotional issues, then it is not just a matter of age.
It’s a matter of age.”
"This year, Guo Xiaojiang has not graduated from high school, but I have already entered graduate school."
"I'm actually the oldest in the dormitory, one year older than Yi Ning and two years older than Bai Xue!"
"I started studying a little later than the average child. In my hometown, girls my age have children who are several years old."
"My hometown is in a rural area. My parents are ordinary farmers and have no education. However, my family's marriage concept is very traditional. They all take it for granted that when a man and a woman are together, the man must be older than the woman."
"If a man is six years older than a woman, people in the village will even make irresponsible remarks, let alone a woman who is six years older than a man..."
"I just said that this is not a simple age issue. Misunderstandings in concepts can be reversed, but the six years of difference cannot be made up for."
"Many girls my age are already married, but Guo Xiaojiang is not even of legal age for marriage now."
"In my eyes, he is just a big kid who won't grow up. He is three years younger than my brother. I can't see any future in him, or the future I want."
"When I was 28 years old, he had just reached the legal age for marriage, but my best years were almost over."
"When my life curve began to decline when I reached the age of 30, he was just beginning to flourish in youth."
"From the second half of this year, I will choose a hospital that matches my major and start working while studying. But at that time, he was just a freshman in college."
"Many graduate students have even begun to consider getting married. Yi Ning will accompany Yan Keqin back to his home to meet his parents during the Chinese New Year this year to discuss getting married next year. What about me?"
"If I accept Guo Xiaojiang, it means I have to tell others that my boyfriend hasn't graduated from high school yet..."
"What's this??" Deng Lin smiled bitterly, "I don't have any high aspirations. I'm just an ordinary rural girl. I just want my boyfriend to accompany me like a normal boyfriend.
Let’s eat together, go shopping, and watch a movie together. You can give me some mature advice when I encounter something.”
"But if I chose him, none of this would be possible. I'm really just an ordinary girl. Sometimes I can't even take care of myself. I still need Yining Baixue and the others to help me. How could I possibly do more?
How about taking care of Guo Xiaojiang?"
"He can't give me any help for any of the problems I'm about to encounter, my academic problems, my career problems, my marriage problems, etc.,"
"He really touched me, and I'm very grateful that he likes such an ordinary me so much, but he is just that to me. He can't give me anything except this touch. I have already passed the time. I believe there is
Love will have all the ages.”
"What's more, he can't give me the love I want. He is just a little brother who is more naive than my brother. Do you understand, Ye Nan..."
Deng Lin's words were very sincere and very clear. Ye Nan could tell that all the words she said were sincere and she must have been holding them in her heart for a long time.
As a man whose actual age is over 30 years old, I very much agree with what Deng Lin said.
In fact, the reason why Ye Nan did not support Lao Guo's behavior from the beginning was because of these reasons.
Many people think that age is not a problem when it comes to true love.
However, this statement itself is very subjective, and may even be caused by the so-called survivor bias.
Many people on the Internet will give some examples of people who are very different in age but can get together to prove that age is not a problem.
However, everyone knows that in the vast sea of people, there are countless love affairs with huge age differences, but only a few can get married.
This is called survivorship bias.
Love and marriage are two different things. Many people think age is not a problem. That’s because they only view relationships in terms of love.
Guo Xiaojiang views this relationship from the perspective of love, but Deng Lin views Guo Xiaojiang's love for her from the perspective of marriage.
From this perspective, Ye Nan feels that Guo Xiaojiang has actually done a pretty good job.
At least Deng Lin is willing to think about him from the perspective of marriage. Although the result is not satisfactory, it at least shows that Deng Lin really sees his hard work and seriousness.
In Ye Nan's opinion, there was no problem with Deng Lin's choice. Even as an outsider, Ye Nan would support Deng Lin's decision.
With Lao Guo's virtue, even Ye Nan didn't believe that he could give Deng Lin a bright future.
Life is not about fireworks and Ferris wheels, but about firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. If Lao Guo had experienced a few more romances, he might have matured slowly, but Deng Lin no longer had time to watch the stars and the moon with him.
This is reality, and it is also a sadness that everyone cannot overcome on their way to growth.
For this reason, Deng Lin almost cut her heart open. Ye Nan had no choice but to nod, saying that he would convey Deng Lin's thoughts to Lao Guo, and at the same time, he also said that he would give him some advice.
Let him be realistic.
At this time, Deng Lin took a long breath and smiled again on her face.
After all, she is still a very kind girl. In fact, she has hesitated to say these words for a long time. She had wanted to say it to Lao Guo for a long time. However, firstly, she was worried that she would hurt him, and secondly, there was no suitable time.
Now, Lao Guo took the opportunity of being injured for her and conveyed his thoughts to Ye Nan, which finally put a big stone in her heart to the ground.
After expressing her gratitude to Ye Nan, Deng Lin turned around and left, leaving only Ye Nan behind.
Only then did a wry smile finally appear on his face,
No matter how much he understands and sympathizes with Deng Lin, Lao Guo is still Ye Nan's best brother after all. How should these words be relayed to him so as not to hurt Lao Guo's innocent young man's heart like a freshly baked big waist?