"You don't understand what I'm saying, do you? How many times have I told you, if you have nothing to do, just rest at home and take good care of your body, and don't always come out to embarrass me!"
The man seemed to have endured it for a long time, and finally couldn't bear it anymore, and roared at the woman who was still sobbing.
"It annoys me to death that you cry like this every day! I've told you, I don't blame you, I don't blame you, what else do you want? If I had known it would turn out like this, I shouldn't have been so soft-hearted in the first place
You bring it back!"
The man's face was livid, and he was so angry that his hands were shaking when he said these words.
Lin Mengya was standing not far away, looking at the combination of these two people, with a flash of interest in her eyes.
On the surface, the woman is in an absolute disadvantage and seems to have been greatly wronged. Not only is she physically weak after the miscarriage, but her husband does not understand her and is always yelling at her.
In such a situation, if it is someone who does not know the inside story, or even someone who knows the inside story but has a soft heart, their first impression will definitely be that this woman is very pitiful.
There's nothing you can do about it, it's human nature.
Most people have a pity for the weak. Once they see this situation, they will sympathize with this woman in their hearts even if they don't say it.
But what about actually?
Lin Mengya just chatted casually with the people next to her and learned that this situation had been going on for almost half a month.
A truly timid person will not persist for so long even though he knows that if he does so, he will definitely get scolded.
Moreover, the man also said that since the girl was brought back, the two of them had often quarreled.
And every time, the man yelled, while the woman lowered her head and cried or remained silent.
This makes many people on the island subconsciously feel that when two people have conflicts, it must be the man's fault.
Then many people came to mind their own business and advised men to be nicer to their wives and not to be cruel all the time.
And every time this happens, the woman will stand up and explain to everyone that it's all his fault. She made her husband upset, so he scolded her.
But if she does this, not only will it not make everyone think that her husband is innocent, but it will make everyone more sympathetic to her experience.
After such a period of time, the woman became the target of sympathy for almost everyone on the island.
As for that man?
Although they are all related, when it comes to that man, many people will subconsciously make a conclusion.
That is, he is good at everything else, but he is not very good at treating his wife.
But Lin Mengya clearly saw the man's forbearance and collapse, as well as the fear hidden under his tall body.
The person in front of him was clearly just a thin woman, but he felt a sense of restraint that was difficult to escape.
After this woman appeared in front of the man, Lin Mengya could clearly feel that the man's body was tense, his breathing became faster unconsciously, and even the expression on his face became extremely ugly.
From being patient at the beginning to yelling later, the woman's state was actually very stable during the whole process.
She didn't do anything, she just stood in front of the man and cried, but she was able to achieve such an effect.
This reminded Lin Mengya of a psychological concept - the gaslighting effect.
The seemingly weak party is actually the manipulator of this relationship.
She has been using herself and others around her to put pressure on men, whether it is psychologically or physically.
It makes the other person doubt themselves, and even have the illusion that the evaluations of others around them may be right, and only what they think is wrong.
If a man is really a violent maniac, a domestic violence man who has no patience for his wife, and may even hit or scold her, then he will not become like this, and he will not let women continue to abuse her.
Emotionally coerced and manipulated him.
People around him obviously didn't realize this. That's because they felt from the bottom of their hearts that the man was absolutely powerful. It would be great if he didn't hit his wife. How could he still be controlled by a thin and weak woman?
Lin Mengya suddenly thought of something, so she pretended to be chatting and continued talking quietly to the people around her.
After learning that this man was actually Uncle Tietou's eldest disciple, and that he was likely to inherit Uncle Tietou's position, Lin Mengya had an idea flash in her mind, and it made sense.
Over there, Tie Maolin's mood almost collapsed.
He didn't know why this woman was forcing him so hard.
Having grown up watching his parents loving each other since he was a child, he also has longing for his future married life.
He felt that even if he could not be as loving as his parents, at least he would love his wife and take care of his children.
Just like parents and master and wife.
But now he couldn't help but question himself, was he not a good man like the people around him said?
The person in front of him is obviously his wife, but in front of him
But his eyes were the same as that of the big monster who was about to be sunburned to death.
When he comes home every day, the last thing he wants to face is the crying face of the other party.
It's not that he hasn't comforted the other person, nor has he ever spoken to the other person from the bottom of his heart.
In fact, he was just as sad when his child was gone, but his parents told him that he wanted to live with his wife for the rest of his life, and it didn't matter whether he had children or not.
Even though it was not a happy meeting between the two of them, now that he has married someone, he will be good to her all his life.
However, she obviously promised well when the two of them were together, but then she turned around and became the same as before.
Every day I either come to myself crying or complain to the people around me.
From being worried at the beginning, to being upset later, to now being desperate, he no longer knows how to face this wife.
He even wondered if he had done something wrong?
Is this the married life he has been looking forward to for so many years?
He had a feeling of exhaustion coming from within, and now it was almost becoming a boulder that was crushing him.
He only had one idea, as long as he asked the other party to stop torturing him like this, he could do whatever he asked.
At this moment, a gentle voice sounded.
"Excessive worry after miscarriage may be due to physical problems. Sister-in-law, I have some medical skills. Why don't you sit down and let me take a look?"
The two of them looked at the person coming.
Lin Mengya smiled at the two people, and then pointed to a big rock next to her.
This is a place for people to rest, so it is normal to have a few stones to sit on.
Tie Maolin's daughter-in-law's surname is Xia and her given name is Guizhi.
In fact, this name may sound a bit rustic, but it is a good name for ancient times.
Xia Guizhi had never seen Lin Mengya before, so her expression was a little blank.
But Tie Maolin knew that this Doctor Huo was really powerful!
But at the same time, he was a little embarrassed, so he asked, "Will this waste your time?"
Lin Mengya smiled and shook her head and said, "It doesn't matter, it's not enough time. Sorry, I just listened to a few words from you two. In fact, it is normal for children to be in bad mood after or before childbirth.
After childbirth, the body and mind are severely damaged, and it is inevitable that some bad emotions will arise, and quarrels are common at this time."
"But the most important thing between husband and wife is mutual understanding and trust. I think Madam Ling probably just feels sorry for that one."
I have an unborn child, so I feel a little depressed."
"The child is a piece of meat in the mother's heart. The mother feels particularly distressed. Is that understandable?"
In front of everyone, and with Lin Mengya's gentle and kind attitude, the man who had been frowning in annoyance just now was somehow calmed down.
It's not that he doesn't feel guilty in his heart, it's just that he is forced to do so by his wife crying every day. No matter what he says or does, she is not satisfied.
It wasn't that he was dissatisfied, but that no matter how hard he tried, the other party always had the same attitude, which made him feel a little at a loss.
In fact, he wanted to know where he went wrong to make his wife so sad.
But the other party refused to say anything no matter what he asked, which made him start to fall into an irritable mood, which became more and more serious day by day.
After Lin Mengya finished saying these words, she then turned her head to look at the woman who kept her head lowered.
"Let's go! Don't be afraid. You may be like this just because you are sick. In this case, we will cure you."
Her voice was soft, like she was coaxing a child.
When others heard these words, they realized, oh, so the Maolin family was crying all day long, was it because of illness?
The woman suddenly raised her head and glanced at her, then lowered her head very quickly, and retorted in a pitiful voice that was slightly crying, "I, I'm not sick. Damn, boss, do you dislike me?"
Seeing that Tie Maolin's brows were about to furrow again, Lin Mengya just coaxed with concern, "Okay, okay, you're not sick, you're just not feeling well. Let's go sit over there. If you have anything to say, you can tell me."
Tell me, it’s okay, let’s solve it together, okay?”
If Xia Guizhi's words before were just sympathetic, then Lin Mengya, as a doctor, said something more convincing.
Moreover, her emotions are more stable than the other person's, and her words are more authoritative.
Moreover, she did not accuse anyone at first. Instead, she excused Xia Guizhi at every turn, and tried to persuade the two of them to have a harmonious relationship for her sake.
To outsiders, her starting point is just for the sake of harmony between the couple.
Xia Guizhi showed a little panic for the first time.
From the beginning to now, even if Tie Maolin yelled at her just now, her mood has been stable and her crying has not changed.
But, now that the situation has changed, she can't help it.
Although Xia Guizhi didn't want to see a doctor, the aunts and ladies around her tried to persuade her.