Chapter 340 Everyone likes little buns (auspicious first day!)
At this time, a mother who gave birth to a second child was very experienced and said: "It's very simple. He is used to calling her daddy. In my family, when my daughter was little, I let her call her daddy. So when she grows up,
Whenever something happens to her, she comes to see her father, and I am free."
The mothers sitting next to her asked her for advice.
It turns out that mothers themselves are "used to" children calling their mother whenever something happens.
Before the child can speak, the mother has selfish motives. She wants the first person to be called by her child, so she keeps teaching her child to call her "Mom" all day long. In order to induce the child to call her, she also offers various benefits to "tempt" her.
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When the children really learn it, the mothers are very happy. In order to consolidate this behavior of the children, they continue to "tempt" them with various benefits.
In this process, mothers are actually telling their children - baby, mother is the best for you, and no matter what happens to you, mother will help you.
"There seems to be nothing wrong with this, right?" a mother asked doubtfully.
The mother of the second child smiled: "No problem, I didn't say there was a problem with it. From a psychological point of view, this is a positive feedback for the child. It teaches the child to remember to ask the adults if they encounter any problems.
Ask for help, and the person asking for help is none other than his mother. In the process of growing up and learning, the child has been through several experiments and found that this is a correct conclusion. What kind of reaction do you think he will have? "
"What kind of reaction?"
"Naturally, no matter what happens, the first thing you do is to look for your mother. When he looks for you, you help him, and when he looks for you, you help him... As time goes by, if he provokes you, who should he look for?
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Mothers are troubled: "But... that's my child, I can't refuse him, right? And if I refuse too much, wouldn't it be bad for the child?"
Mother of a second child: "I'm not asking you to reject your child, but I want to teach your child to ask his mother for help for some things and to ask his father for help for some things. Just let him learn to divide his time and the person he needs help with."
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Although Gu Qingling also hopes that Yao Jiuye will get close to her, she really doesn't want Yao Jiuye to call him "Mother" whenever something happens in the future.
Let Yao Jiuye get used to the presence of maids and let him know which people should ask for help, so that she can feel more relaxed.
Otherwise, it will be really hard for Gu Qingling to wait until Yao Jiuye can speak and run away. It will be difficult for him to do anything else after being distracted by his children. This is why, in the big families of this era, the head of the family will have a hard time.
The mistress will always arrange for wet nurses, maids, mothers-in-law, etc. to take care of the children, because if she doesn't do that, she won't be able to manage the general affairs at all.
Lu Qingling didn't want to leave Yao Jiuye to the wet nurse. He was close to the wet nurse and regarded her as another mother.
Just like Mrs. Yao, she came from a scholarly family and was virtuous and virtuous. But when she married into the Yao family, didn't she also bring her nanny with her?
Not only did he take the nanny with him, he also arranged a job for her and prepared to provide for her in her old age.
But what if it were replaced by a modern “nanny”?
In modern society, there are several children who were brought up by nannies who will say when they grow up: "I want to provide for the nanny in old age."
Being a nanny is just a job.
After the child learns to be independent, she should step aside and return to her own job.
Lu Qingling plans to arrange the nanny next to Yao Jiuye like this - she will only be responsible for breastfeeding, and everything else has nothing to do with you. When one day, Yao Jiuye no longer needs to drink milk, the nanny can leave.
Gu Qingling could let her maid and mother-in-law take care of Yao Jiuye's daily life, but the child's education must be firmly in her hands.
Gu Qingling explained so much that the eldest maid Chun Chun understood it. But unfortunately, she was an unmarried girl and had never raised a child. She didn't understand what was going on here. She just thought that the old lady was "soring" her.
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She smiled and said: "Old lady, a slave is meant to serve the master. Isn't it right for Master Jiu to call him slave and order the slave to work? If Master Jiu is willing to use a slave, the slave will be happy. This means that Master Jiu likes it.
Servant."
"That's true. If he likes to come to you whenever something happens, he must like you and trust you, otherwise he wouldn't come to you." Gu Qingling said, "I'm just afraid that you will have too many things to do and you will be too busy. Now you
Do you know why I named his maid 'Shu Su'?"
"Is it just to make it easier for Master Jiu to call her by her name? Old lady, you have thought too carefully, haven't you?" Only then did the eldest maid Chunchun react.
She just said, why is that maid's name different from everyone else's? It turns out she is waiting for everyone here.
"You are my maid, and you will always follow me. Even if Master Jiu wants to find you, you can't follow him every day. Shusu is the maid I gave him, and you will follow him all day long. Naturally, you have to choose someone with a good name.
Name." As he said that, Gu Qingling smiled and looked at the maid Shusu who was standing aside.
The eldest maid Shusu was stunned for a moment, came to her senses, and quickly thanked Gu Qingling, saying that she would definitely take good care of Master Jiu in the future and let him grow up healthily.
When she was called to Yao Jiuye's side, Shusu had already guessed the old lady's intention. She would definitely stay by Yao Jiuye's side to serve him in the future.
But what Shusu didn't expect was that the old lady had already been making arrangements from the moment she named her.
Gu Qingling said: "I believe you. When I gave you this name, I knew that you have a calm temperament, a down-to-earth person, and you are fine in both rough and tumble. I can rest assured that you are by Xiaojiu's side."
The news that Yao Jiuye could call people spread throughout the entire Yao Mansion overnight.
Even Uncle Yao, who was preparing for the exam, ran to Gu Qingling, said congratulations to her, and joined in the fun. Yao Jiuye called her "brother."
"ge-ge!"
"Hey!" Uncle Yao was very happy when he heard that Yao Jiuye successfully called "brother", and he hugged Yao Jiuye into his arms, with a smile on his serious face.
It has been almost twelve years since Yao Anxin was born. Uncle Yao has not held such a small child for a long time.
Now that I'm holding him in my arms, it feels a little different.
If Gu Qingling hadn't recognized Yao Jiuye as his "adopted son" in advance, looking at the white and beautiful little baby in front of him, who looked like a boy under the Guanyin Seat, Uncle Yao would have wanted to take him back to their big house and raise him.
"Xiaojiu and I are really close. I will call you brother as soon as I teach you, hahahahaha..."
On the side, Mr. Yao rolled his eyes and said, "What do you mean you can learn it as soon as you teach it? It's obvious that I taught you all afternoon and finally learned it, so you came to take advantage of it."
With that said, he asked Yao Jiuye to call him brother.
Yao Jiuye doesn't know what's good or bad. When someone teases him, he opens his mouth and shouts: "ge-ge."
That little face smiles so cutely.
No matter it was Mrs. Yao, Mrs. Yao 2, or Mrs. Yao 3, they were all greedy when they saw it.
Yao Erfu touched his belly secretly, hoping that the children he would give birth to in the future would be as cute as Yao Jiuye.
As for Mrs. Yao Da and Mrs. Yao San, they hope that they can get pregnant quickly. If they can give birth to a child as cute as Yao Jiuye, that would be great.
