After several weeks of treatment, Xia Fanxing felt that her condition was much better.
Especially, when I left the National University of Science and Technology last time.
Teacher Ning smiled and said to him: "I think you are making progress. Although there is still a lot of homework for you to complete, you are already moving forward on the road of learning. If we continue to work hard, you will only get better and better in the future."
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This is the first time that Teacher Ning has affirmed his progress so seriously.
The consultation ended that day.
After Xia Fanxing returned home, she felt that she had not been so happy for a long, long time.
…
But, very quickly.
New problems have arisen.
On Sunday, he played games at home.
His uncle came unexpectedly and came to see him at home.
When the doorbell rang, he immediately got up and opened the door.
He knew that the doorbell rang at this time, and it was most likely his uncle who was here.
Because no one else would come to his home except the courier boy, takeaway guy and uncle.
And he happened to not order takeout, nor did he have any express delivery to collect.
Passing through the dark lobby, opening the door, and looking through the courtyard door, he saw his uncle standing outside.
Seeing him, Mr. Xia said: "It's quite quick to open the door today."
Xia Fanxing walked over and opened the iron door, "I just heard it."
After he came in, he locked the courtyard door again.
Director Xia frowned and looked at him: "With two grown men at home, why should we lock the yard? You are too timid! You must correct these bad habits!"
Xia Fanxing followed him without saying a word.
Xia Dong crossed the yard, strode into his home, and asked, "What are you doing?"
Knowing that his uncle was most annoyed by him staying at home and playing games all day long, he didn't say anything and trotted all the way to keep up with him and asked, "Why didn't you call me in advance when your uncle came over?"
Xia Dong entered his home as if it was his own home, opened the door and barged in generously, "Come to your place, do you still need me to call you in advance to make an appointment?"
After saying that, he started patrolling his home.
Xia Fanxing's family hasn't hired workers or aunties for a long time.
He takes care of all the household chores such as food, clothing, housing and so on by himself.
I rely on takeout for meals, robots and washing machines for cleaning, and I don’t do anything else if I can.
Usually when he is at home alone, he doesn't use any other place except his bedroom and the game room. If he doesn't use it, he doesn't clean it. Thick dust accumulates in many places.
He didn't care, but his uncle did.
So Mr. Xia walked around the living room of his house several times and found that he couldn't find a clean place for him to sit down. He started to get furious and treated him from his home to his whole body, from top to bottom, from the inside out.
He was severely criticized and criticized.
After standing aside helplessly accepting his uncle's criticism and lessons, Xia Fanxing naturally began to feel angry, but after the anger passed, he felt deeply sad again.
In Xia Dong's eyes, he is undoubtedly hypocritical.
He looked at him with a "disdainful" look that he had seen on his father countless times: "You still have the nerve to be pretentious, you should really go out and see other people around you, or my house, or go to Li Xing,
Take a look at Wu Hao's family and see if any of them like you, like to live in a garbage dump and be a garbage man."
Li Xing and Wu Hao are Xia Fanxing's eldest children, and they are also the juniors of the Xia family.
Xia Fanxing often played with them before he became autistic.
After being autistic, there has been no contact for a long time.
After scolding Xia Fanxing, Director Xia began to care about his treatment status again.
This allowed Xia Fanxing to temporarily escape from negative emotions.
Xia Fanxing suppressed her anger and sadness, cheered up and replied: "Teacher Ning is different from ordinary psychological counselors. I think she is quite good."
Director Xia feels good about finding a good psychiatrist for his nephew.
The originally serious face began to become kind and kind.
Immediately afterwards, he began to say to Xia Fanxing: "I have found such a good teacher for you. Since you also think she is very good, cheer up quickly, find a few people to come back and tidy up the house, and tidy up yourself.
Go to work in the company. If you don’t want to work, just write me a letter of resignation. I can take it to the board of directors and show it to the other directors to let them know that you no longer want to be a member of the company’s board of directors. I will replace you as a member of the company’s board of directors.
Member of the board."
The uncle's attitude has obviously improved, but Xia Fanxing is even more upset.
He was really too angry.
How could his uncle ask him to write a resignation letter and kick him off the board of directors?
Although he has not worked in the company in recent years, it does not mean that he does not want to continue to be a member of the board of directors of his family company. This is the position and shares left to him by his father. Why should his uncle replace him when he says he wants to replace him?
Take it all away?!
However, looking at his uncle's serious and kind look, he had another thought. Maybe his uncle was right. He should resign and let his uncle take over this position. Maybe letting his uncle take over his position would be better for the company's development and operation.
,Uncle is very capable, he knows.
However, he felt that deep down in his heart he still wanted to be a member of the board of directors and did not want to hand it over to his uncle.
So, he whispered: "Uncle, I will go to Teacher Ning for treatment."
His uncle seemed to have not heard what he said and asked impatiently: "Are you going to write a resignation letter?"
If it were Xia Fanxing who had not approached Teacher Ning for a case, she might have been forced to do so by her uncle's authority and because she was not interested in anything, so she would have readily written a letter of resignation and handed it to her uncle.
And he would also feel very grateful to his uncle who helped him take over the important responsibilities.
But now he is not, he is Xia Fanxing who has had several in-depth communications with Teacher Ning.
So, this moment.
His mind was running rapidly. After recalling some of the recent interactions with Teacher Ning, he mustered up the courage, raised his head, and asked Director Xia with a serious and questioning expression: "Uncle, I think I still like to be this person."
As a member of the board of directors, I am also seeing a doctor from Teacher Ning. Could you please give me some time to think about my future work issues? "
At that time, his uncle was shocked and angry, and finally sighed and said: "Okay, Xingxing, you are always so entangled. I did not get where I am today by being entangled. When I encounter problems, I solve them and make decisions decisively.
This is the way a good person should behave." After saying that, he strode out of Xia Fanxing's home with his head held high.
…
On Wednesday, go to the appointment on time.
Xia Fanxing was already very familiar with Teacher Ning's simple and clean office.
Without even needing to be greeted by Teacher Ning, he took the first step and sat down on the chair in the middle of Ning Youguang's office, and then angrily and speechlessly told in detail what happened last time his uncle came to the house.
Ning Youguang sat across from him and listened quietly before saying, "So your uncle is not a psychological counselor. He is an elder. He is used to acting like a mentor and criticizing children's shortcomings. He is good at persuading juniors but lacks patience."
After the uncle's story was finished, the two of them continued their case consultation based on what they had not finished last time.
"What is the relationship between obedient behavior and dependence on parents? Aren't all children dependent on their parents?" Xia Fanxing asked in confusion.
"You are right, but now you are an adult and your parents have passed away. You have to grow up on your own."
"I have grown up."
"Growing up on a psychological level." Ning Youguang said seriously, "For most people, the essence of growth is to reduce and eventually break the dependence on parents and elders, so that they can become an independent person, but in fact
Very few people can reach this point safely, some can partially achieve it, and many people will depend on their parents for the rest of their lives."
"Is that possible?" Xia Fanxing retorted, "When many people grow up, they have their own jobs, get married and have children, become parents themselves, and do not live with their parents. Aren't these the manifestations of independent adults?"
Ning Youguang shook his head slowly, "No."
Two very firm words.
Xia Fanxing was stunned for a moment, then smiled stupidly, "I thought I was the only one who didn't have the ability to be independent."
It turns out that there are so many people who have not matured mentally, including those who appear to be normal.
In an instant, Xia Fanxing felt a little bit of balanced happiness in her heart.
Ning Youguang saw the silly smile on his face and smiled without saying anything.
She understands.
The bad nature of some human nature is like this. Some people know that they are not good, so they feel low self-esteem and suffer. However, if they find that many people around them are as bad as themselves, then they will quickly accept their badness calmly and feel uncomfortable in their hearts.
I will continue to feel inferior and distressed.
After giggling for a while, Xia Fanxing felt that her condition was better than before, so she tentatively asked Teacher Ning, who was smiling across from her: "Teacher Ning, can I set a theme for this interview?"
Ning Youguang smiled: "Of course, I'm glad that you can take the initiative to ask me questions and make requests. This shows that you are willing to try and explore some issues yourself. These questions can also allow you to learn and observe to the maximum extent. You
It’s definitely making progress.”
Xia Fanxing laughed again, a very heartfelt smile.
Fair and handsome face, sincere smile.
That smile made his whole body light up.
After a period of treatment, he gradually regained his vitality, gained some flesh on his face, and looked better.
"I want to analyze the source of my emotions and how to avoid being troubled by them," Xia Fanxing said.
"This is a topic that is very worthy of our discussion. As a basic emotion of human beings, emotions are not generated by themselves. They are generated due to other reasons and depend on them. Therefore, if you want to know about yourself
To understand the source of emotions, you must learn to be self-aware. What are you thinking about before emotions arise? This requires you to use your mind and reason to think."
"To be honest, Teacher Ning, this is a bit difficult."
"Why is it so difficult?"
"I read that people who are caught up in emotions are irrational. In this case, you still ask me to be aware of why I have emotions when they occur. Isn't this forcing me to do something difficult?"
"It's indeed a bit difficult, but don't you want to figure out the source of your emotions?"
"Do I have to do this?" Xia Fanxing asked in embarrassment, "Is there an easier way?"
"That's the easiest way."
Xia Fanxing fell silent.
He looked at Ning Youguang quietly, thinking deeply, and waiting for her to come up with the second method.
However, no matter how seriously he looked at her, she still calmly waited for him to make a choice.
Xia Fanxing became discouraged and gave up competing with her.
He also realized that he was really sick. How could he be more patient than a psychological counselor?!
He could only sigh and said: "Then please tell me, how should I detect it?"
Ning Youguang smiled and said warmly: "First of all, when the emotion comes, you have to learn to control it and not let it out immediately. Then, during this buffering period, carefully observe the needs of the heart. Under normal circumstances, a person
The source of a person's emotions is that his inner needs have not been met. When you observe your true inner needs, you can satisfy your needs in a more relaxed way, whether it is self-satisfaction or self-satisfaction.
No matter whether you ask others to satisfy you, once your needs are met, your emotional problems will naturally be solved. In this way, you will not continue to use emotions to solve problems, making the problems more difficult, both for yourself and others.
More uncomfortable."
I know, I know, you are saying that I only lose my temper and make trouble unreasonably.
Xia Fanxing felt that he had been severely laughed at, but he did not dare to say anything.
So, after thinking deeply for a moment, I replied: "It seems like this. Every time I am in a bad mood, it's because someone else said something that made me uncomfortable, or did something that I didn't like, or I did it myself.
When what you do is not as good as what you want, when what you do is not as good as what others want.”
"That's it. So, if you don't want to continue to be led by emotions, you have to learn to understand what emotions are. Emotions are neither good nor bad. The key lies in how a person uses it when it occurs. How to use it?
If it’s not good, it will hurt others and ourselves. But if it’s used well, it’s a very good tool that can help people see their inner needs clearly.”
"After discussing it for so long, I understand." Xia Fanxing said angrily, "You mean that emotions are not the problem, I am the problem, right?"
"Your interpretation is very correct." Teacher Ning, who had a gentle and beautiful face, stood up from his chair and said without mercy at all, "Okay, today's consultation time is up. If you have any questions, go back and sort them out.
Save it and ask me again next time."
After saying that, she stuffed a bottle of water into his hand and said, "See you next time."
Xia Fanxing was almost pushed out of her office by Ning Youguang.
Moreover, after stepping out of her office door, she walked less than two meters.
He heard a "bang" sound, and the door behind him was shut coldly.
Xia Fanxing turned his head and stared at the door in disbelief.
He felt that he was indeed sick!
I actually feel reluctant to leave a psychological counselor in a cold office.1314