Ning Youguang came out of the kitchen with Ming Jinxin.
When the two came out, they saw Zhou Tang entering the door.
Wearing a white T-shirt and black shorts, he was dressed very simply and casually. He also had two bottles of wine in his hand, one red and one white.
"It's just a casual meal, why are you bringing seafood and wine?" Ming Jinxin smiled when she saw him.
Speaking of which, Zhou Tang is a few years older than her son.
But maybe it was because he was in the entertainment industry, and his daily attire was young and fashionable. Every time she saw him, she always felt like he was younger than her own son, and she couldn't help but take care of him more.
"How can you have a big dinner without wine?" He secretly picked up these two bottles of wine while Xiao Qian was squatting in the pit.
When Zhou Tang came closer, several people in the room discovered that his hair was wet, his skin was covered with a thin layer of moisture, and he smelled fragrant.
I don't know if it's the scent left over from just taking a shower, or the perfume he specially sprayed.
…
When everyone is here, dinner can be served.
At the dinner table, Ming Jinxin asked Ning Youyu: "Do you want soup before or after the meal?"
"I want to eat and drink soup at the same time." Ning Youyu thought for a moment and answered.
Ming Jinxin looked at her youngest son's serious face and smiled: "Okay, then I'll put the soup on it for you. You can drink it if you want."
Ning Youyu nodded happily: "Okay, thank you, mom."
Seeing him so happy, Ming Jin secretly breathed a sigh of relief in his heart.
Fortunately, I listened carefully to my daughter's analysis and immediately corrected the way I interacted with my younger son.
After serving Ning Youyu the soup, she looked gratefully at Ning Youguang beside her and gave her a prawn.
"Thank you, auntie." Ning Youguang secretly gave her a thumbs up and a like.
Ming Jinxin was even happier after receiving double recognition from her son and daughter, so she told Ning Youyu: "Xiaoyu, you have a good meal today, and your mother and sister will take you to the zoo next week."
Ning Youyu was stunned.
After reacting, he happily jumped up from his seat and hugged Ming Jinxin, "Mom, you are the best mother in the world."
The soft and waxy voice was full of joy and love.
Ming Jinxin was so moved that her throat choked up.
She had never seen her little son so content and happy. Holding her in his arms felt like he owned the whole world.
In the past, no matter how many limited editions she bought him or how delicious food she took him to eat, there was nothing.
But today, she witnessed it.
I witnessed the deep joy of my little son when he was completely satisfied.
She finally understood why her daughter said that for a child, it was more important to simply satisfy him than to give him better material, life, etc. according to worldly standards.
fortunately……
The pure love between Ming Jinxin and her son not only made them feel happy and happy, but also infected the people around them.
Ming Chao and Zhao Sui unconsciously set their sights on Ning Youguang.
Zhao Sui's eyes were full of novelty and exploration.
Ming Chao's eyes were full of joy and gratitude.
They had heard the two siblings chatting on the sofa.
Although Ning Youyu felt that he was whispering to his sister, his voice was not quiet.
Zhao Sui and Ming Chao paid a little attention and listened to the whole chat between the two of them.
The reason for Ming Jinxin's change in attitude toward her youngest son is clear at a glance.
Zhou Tang came later and did not hear the previous chats between the Ning siblings, but this did not prevent him from being moved by the pure love between Ming Jinxin and Ning Xiaoyu.
Ning Yi also had a deep smile on his face.
With his backhand, he picked up a chopstick dish for Ming Jinxin.
After Ming Jinxin smiled and ate up all the food brought by her husband, she asked Ning Youguang with an attitude of wanting to learn: "Can you continue to explain to me why you think meeting the needs of your children is more important than anything else?
"
"There is a white professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington who has studied self all his life. He once put forward a point of view that I very much agree with. He believes that a person's self-esteem comes from two main aspects: one is 'love' and the other is
'Achievement'. If a child experiences a lot of love and understanding in his early life with his parents, then the child will see a lovely and valuable self from the eyes of his parents. This sense of value is just about 'I am a person worthy of being
Afterwards, the child will slowly internalize this understanding and form a positive understanding of himself."
"What about the opposite?" Ming Jinxin.
"On the other hand, if parents don't care about their children's inner needs and forcefully arrange everything for their children according to their own will, then the children will experience a deep sense of defect and feel that they are inherently inferior.
He is not worthy of being loved, and of course he cannot see his own value as a 'natural person'. Let me ask, how can a person who feels from the bottom of his heart that he is not worthy of being loved have inner self-confidence?"
Ning Youguang's words put everyone present into a state of deep thought.
Zhou Tang thought for a while and asked: "I also found that many people who were not treated well by their parents in their early years seem to be quite confident when they grow up. At least they look like this on the outside. What is the reason for this?"
Ning Youguang replied: "This involves our sense of value as a 'social person', which mainly comes from our recognition of our own abilities and achievements. In other words, even if we did not feel unconditional support from our parents when we were young,
Love, but I saw my abilities and the results I achieved, and I also experienced a sense of value. For example, I have good academic performance, I can make a lot of money, I have a high social status... A person who believes in his own abilities
, is naturally confident in his own field of expertise. However, deep down in his heart, he may still have a sense of lack. The lack of love and dissatisfaction are just hidden by him, making it difficult for outsiders to see. Of course, everyone
I hope that I can have both, that I have been well loved or loved, and that I have my own abilities and achievements. This state can truly enable a person to reach a state of full integration and acceptance of himself and the world. It is also
The most authentic self-confidence.”
Zhao Sui also raised a question, "Aren't many parents now worried about spoiling their children? Isn't it true that fully accepting and understanding children and meeting their needs is not spoiling their children?"
Ning Youguang shook his head, "Pampering is not love, pampering is harm."
Zhao Sui sighed, "Then the scale is too difficult to grasp."
Ning Youguang smiled, "So having children is something that requires careful consideration, and educating children is even more important. However, destiny has its own arrangements, and everything needs to be viewed from a positive and multi-angle perspective."
Everyone felt tense after hearing the first half of her sentence, but relaxed again after hearing the second half.
Ming Jinxin looked at Ning Youguang and seemed to sigh, "Youyou will definitely be a very good mother in the future."
At this moment, Ning Youyu, who was eating quietly, suddenly extended his thumb towards Ning Youguang and nodded heavily, "Sister is the best sister in the world, and she must be the best mother in the world."
His childlike words made all the adults present laugh.
Ning Youguang smiled and asked, "Why does Xiaoyu say that my sister is the best sister in the world?"
Ning Youyu answered loudly, "Because my sister takes good care of me and always stays with me."
Everyone laughed.
After laughing, Ning Youguang said to Ming Jinxin, "If I have a child in the future, I will definitely educate him well."
This is her confidence in her abilities and wisdom, but the prerequisite is that she has children.
Ming Jinxin did not hear the deep meaning of her words, but followed her words and suggested, "Then when you get married, you must have more children. You must be very lucky to be able to take care of your children."
's children."
As soon as she said this, there was a moment of silence.
Ning Youguang smiled and said nothing.
According to his conventional thinking, Ning Yi believed that his daughter's silence was because she didn't like to be "nurtured."
So he said, "You are still young, so don't worry about these issues."
In fact, it was three other adult men who were really afraid of being forced to give birth and get married.
"Yeah yeah."
…
After eating, Ning Youguang sat with his family and planned to drive back to school.
Seeing that she was about to leave, Zhou Tang immediately stood up and said, "If you have light, I will see you off."
As soon as he said these words, Ning Yi and Ming Chao's deep eyes fell on him.
He smiled sarcastically and added, "My driver is waiting downstairs. I happen to be going there to do some work. It's very convenient to drop by."
While saying this, he touched the tip of his nose.
Ning Youguang smiled and refused, "It's more convenient for me to drive myself, so I don't need you to give it to me, Brother Zhou. Thank you for the tickets."
"Will you come to my concert?" When Zhou Tang looked at Ning Youguang seriously, his eyes were dark and deep, with a charming color.
After all, he is an extremely handsome male star with a pair of peach blossom eyes. When he looks at people seriously, he has the magic power to easily make people fall into him if they are not careful.
No wonder those girls on the Internet call Zhou Tang husband every day.
Ning Youguang finished his emotion and sighed with a smile, "I am so lucky to receive a concert ticket from Tangtang personally. Wouldn't it be a pity not to go?"
"Tangtang" is the nickname given to Zhoutang by his fans.
In fact, she is not a fan of Zhou Tang and rarely listens to pop music.
But, she knew someone liked her very much.
Every detail of the face in front of me is full of slenderness, softness, and exquisiteness... The eyes are like autumn water, the lips are red, and the nose is beautiful. It cannot be overstated.
How could a girl be so beautiful, so that every part of her growth would be based on his aesthetic point...