The two of them got up after lying on the grass and continued on their way.
It was almost noon, but there was no place to eat along the road.
Ning Youguang was worried that Shi Wangyue was hungry, so he handed him a torn bag of bread, "Eat some bread first to cushion your stomach."
Shi Wangyue took her hand and took a big bite.
Ning Youguang gave him another bottle of water, "That's what traveling in the Northwest is like. You have to feel its most beautiful side, but also accept its desolation."
Shi Wangyue held the bottle and took a sip, "I know."
…
After driving for a while, the two finally saw a small wooden house on the roadside. There were a few words written in Tibetan and Chinese on the small wooden house, indicating that it was a restaurant.
The two of them parked the car on the side of the road and prepared to have a feast here.
They walked on the gravel path at the door, entered the shop, and walked into the dining room.
There were other guests in the restaurant, and there were stewed mutton, roasted mutton, and several plates of vegetables on the table.
"Please have a seat, please have a seat!" The owner of the shop spoke in Chinese. He was very busy as he greeted.
Behind him stood an elderly woman, apparently the wife of the shop owner.
There was also a girl about fifteen years old in the room.
When sitting down, Ning Youguang accidentally touched his spoon with his arm.
With a "dang" sound, the spoon fell to the ground.
The shopkeeper glared at his wife, who then turned to blame the girl who stood there blankly.
The girl hurriedly ran into another room, took out a spoon, and handed it to Ning Youguang timidly. She was hunched over and her hands were shaking slightly.
Shi Wangyue and Ning Youguang looked at each other across the table.
"Please use it slowly!" The shop owner handed a set of tableware to Shi Wangyue.
Ning Youguang and Shi Wangyue chatted about work, investment, teaching, cases, etc. while dining.
The owner had left the dining room, but his wife was still standing by.
When the woman and her daughter handed a plate of fruit to them, the girl accidentally knocked over Ning Youguang's cup with her elbow, spilling water all over the table.
Her mother rushed over angrily, scolded her daughter loudly in Tibetan, and drove her away.
"I'm sorry, I'm sorry!" the woman apologized while wiping the water on the table. "This girl is really clumsy."
The girl got angry. She grabbed the remaining fruit and threw it at her mother, but she missed.
Fruit and pieces of porcelain were scattered all over the table.
The shop owner came in just in time and shouted so loudly that the girl ran away in fright.
"I'm sorry!" the owner rushed to their table.
"It doesn't matter, don't be so cruel to your daughter!" Ning Youguang said with a smile.
Shi Wangyue stood up to pay the bill, and then they left quickly.
…
Ning Youguang remained silent.
After leaving the store and walking towards the car on the roadside, she said, "Have you seen that girl?"
Shi Wangyue looked at her.
"She is a typical victim of psychological violence. The human desire to control others, if not restrained, will have such consequences. The shop owner and his wife are completely superior to the girl. Have you noticed,
This girl looks hunched over and nervous?"
"I noticed it!" Shi Wangyue frowned and said, "It seems she has had enough."
"Yes! Her parents never let her go. From her point of view, she has no choice but to fight back violently. Only in this way can she gain some control for herself. Unfortunately, due to the childhood suffering
Due to mental trauma, when she grows up, she will feel that she must use the same drastic means to gain control and dominate others. This personality trait will become ingrained, making her a person who is as good at using violence against others as her parents, especially
When facing weak people, especially children."
After resting for a while, Ning Youguang continued: "In fact, we can conclude that her parents suffered the same trauma when they were children. Now they must dominate their daughters because their parents dominated them back then. Psychological violence is like this
Passed down from generation to generation.”
[In human culture, this kind of psychological violence occurs all the time, and the perpetrators often feel that they have good intentions.]
"When two people argue, they both insist that their views on something are right and correct. Both sides want to win over the other, overwhelm the other, and find ways to destroy the other's self-confidence, even at the cost of open confrontation."
Shi Wangyue looked up at the sky, "I understand." His voice was low and deep.
"What did you understand?" Ning Youguang asked.
"If we systematically observe the movement of magnetic fields between people, we will understand what humans gain when they compete, attack, and hurt each other. That is, once we control someone else, we can receive their energy
, we deprive others of their things and enrich ourselves, this is the real motivation of our behavior." It was also the motivation of Liu Susu's behavior when he controlled him in the past.
The kid is really a very wise person.
Ning Youguang secretly admired, "Yes, human beings have the tendency to control and dominate others. Although most of the time most people are not aware of this, when a person tries to control another person, he is robbing that person.
The energy makes you feel fulfilled.”
"So when we were eating just now, that couple had been plundering the girl's energy?" Shi Wangyue said after thinking about it, "The girl has been pushed to the verge of collapse by them. When they quarreled, I felt that the atmosphere between them was very strange.
, they are pulling each other, as if they will only stop when they subdue each other."
Ning Youguang fell into deep thought, "Most people haven't realized this yet. Many people only know that they feel weak and have to make others feel better to make themselves feel better. What they don't realize is that for themselves,
When they are in a good mood, they make others pay a heavy price. They steal the energy from others, and most people spend their entire lives searching and capturing other people's energy, which also shows that they have always been in a negative energy zone."
Shi Wangyue looked at Ning Youguang, with a bright light in her eyes, "But occasionally there are exceptions. We occasionally meet someone. From the moment we meet, she will voluntarily transfer her energy to us.
."
[It’s like I met you.]
Outside, the sky is as clear as crystal, and the sun shines brightly on a mountain peak.
Ning Youguang was walking along the road, looking through her fingers at the white clouds floating in the sky and the distant mountain peaks. The sunlight fell on her eyebrows and hair, giving it a beautiful melting light.
Both of them walked very slowly, with calm faces, until they got into the car.
Shi Wangyue tried to summarize the meaning of what Ning Youguang said to him, "You talked about how to deal with the relationship between people - how we should treat children and how we treat adults. You also talked about how to identify
, how to break the control drama played by others and how to establish new relationships with them?"