"Self-esteem refers to a person's understanding of his or her overall value. To put it simply, if you generally think that you are a valuable person, then your self-esteem is relatively high; on the contrary, if you think that you are generally worthless, then you Their self-esteem is relatively low.”
"How does the level of self-esteem come from? Modern behavioral genetics has long discovered that self-esteem has a genetic basis that cannot be ignored. Of course, the acquired environment also has a significant impact..."
Afternoon, National University of Science and Technology.
After the campus bell of "Dingle bell..." rang, Ning Youguang quickly ended the class.
"Okay, today's class ends here. If you don't understand anything after class, you can read more related materials and dig deeper."
"Bye, Teacher Ning."
"Teacher Ning, it's snowing outside, do you need me to take you back?"
"Haha, be careful that Teacher Ning's boyfriend is jealous."
"Teacher Ning, please slow down on the road, the road is slippery in the snow."
"No, you should go back and rest early."
In the noisy classroom, Ning Youguang stood on the podium, closed his book with a smile, wrapped his coat tightly and walked out of the classroom.
Snow was falling in the gloomy sky outside, but many people on campus were very excited about it and rushed out to embrace the snow.
This is the first snow of the year.
Among the crowd cheering and embracing the snowflakes, I don’t know who shouted first:
“I want to eat hot pot!”
Immediately there was a burst of echoes:
"I want fried chicken!"
“I want to eat spicy hotpot!”
"I want to eat barbecue!"
"..."
Teenagers celebrate in the same way, but their favorite foods can be different.
Ning Youguang is different. She doesn't want to eat anything. She just wants to go back to the dormitory to stay quietly and quickly enter her deep working time.
After living apart from Shi Wangyue.
She tried to return to her previous state, quickly quieting herself down, immersing herself in her thoughts, gradually reducing her desire for food, learning to always return herself to zero, and treating every day as a new starting point.
On snowy days, it gets dark outside earlier than usual.
Many places on the campus of the National University of Science and Technology turned on the lights early, and as dusk fell, the increasingly larger snowflakes met these lights, covering the thin snow with a soft veil.
Ning Youguang held the book in his arms and let his wandering eyes pass through the crowded crowd on campus, heading north towards the dormitory.
On the way, when she passed by the artificial lake on campus, she saw a turquoise lake, which was as beautiful as emerald against the backdrop of falling snowflakes.
The feeling of just wanting to run back to the dormitory suddenly became less urgent...
The result of slowing down so much was that by the time she returned to the dormitory, her body was already covered with a thin layer of snow.
She stood outside the door and brushed the snow off her body, just like brushing off dust all over her body.
After entering the house, she quickly got into the small kitchen, picked up the health pot and boiled longan and red date tea.
Then, he opened the closet door, picked up his pajamas and entered the bathroom.
On winter nights, you need to take a shower early, put on furry pajamas or home clothes early, and then drink tea to feel comfortable.
After taking a shower, drying my hair, putting on my fluffy pajamas, the longan and red date tea prepared in advance in the small kitchen is ready.
She quickly poured herself a glass, drank it while it was hot, poured herself another glass, and then sat down in front of the computer——
Time for in-depth writing!
After carefully checking the chapters she wrote yesterday, she already had a general framework in her mind for what she was going to write today.
After thinking for a while, she slowly typed a text on the keyboard——
[Life is relationship, relationship is life; if you want to improve your life, you only need to improve your relationship.
Each of us cannot exist independently without relationships. Only by handling various relationships in life can we live a complete life.
There are only two roads to inner growth, one is internal cultivation and meditation, and the other is through relationships. Grow and transform in relationships, so as to obtain a better life...]
In this world, everyone who can get along well with themselves is probably because they have found what they consider to be the most important thing in life.
Because he had clear goals and plans, Ning Youguang adjusted his schedule and daily planning arrangements, including his eating habits, every day after Shi Wangyue moved out.
For a person who was held in the palm of someone's hand and cared for carefully, and who had taken good care of him for a year, suddenly left Shi Wangyue's care, lived alone, and wanted to achieve his best ideal state when he was alone. For Ning Youguang,
It's not that easy.
But she is also very clear that the time and space in front of her are only obtained by the child having made some sacrifices, and she cherishes them very much.
Therefore, I will push myself more strictly and make sure to make good use of this time and do what I want to do.
Work without distraction is extremely efficient.
Soon, she had finished writing two-thirds of today's plan.
At the same time, the longan and red date tea in the cup on the side also became cold.
She doesn't drink cold tea in winter.
The small room is filled with the smell of longan and red dates, which is a warm and pleasant smell.
Suddenly, there was a soft knock on the door. The person outside the door seemed to be afraid of disturbing the people inside. He knocked on the door very regularly and with very gentle movements.
Ning Youguang listened carefully for a while, then decided to get up and go to the door to look out through the peephole——
She was stunned.
Shi Wangyue, dressed in snow and wind, was seen standing outside the door.
She quickly opened the door, and outside the door, Shi Wangyue was holding two large bags of things and looking at her with a deep expression.
This was their fifth meeting in the second month after they separated.
They are each trying to adapt to the time when the other is not around.
It was another week since they last saw each other. The two looked at each other quietly, and the first words they said to each other were: "I lost weight again."
Then, they asked in unison:
"You didn't sleep well, did you?" Ning Youguang.
"You didn't eat well, did you?" Shi Wangyue said.
There was a moment of silence.
After a while, Ning Youguang asked in surprise, "Why are you here at this time?"
Shi Wangyue's deep and gentle eyes were fixed directly on her face, "It's snowing. I'm afraid you'll be cold at night and won't eat well if you're too lazy to move. I'll come here to give you something."
"I'm not cold." Ning Youguang raised his hand gently, ready to help Shi Wangyue brush off the snow on his body.
Shi Wangyue quickly took a step back and said, "Leng."
Ning Youguang chuckled, "Then come in quickly and I'll get you a towel to wipe it with."
Shi Wangyue followed through the door carrying two large bags of things.
"Sorry to disturb your work." He saw her computer screen that was on.
"It's okay, I just took a rest." Ning Youguang smiled and took out Shi Wangyue's towel from the closet, and gently helped him wipe off the melting snowflakes on his body.
After she wiped the snow off her body, Shi Wangyue quickly took off her black cashmere coat, and then he held her tightly in his arms.1314