——"Tangtang should have something to say. You are so lovable and your emotional intelligence is definitely not far behind."
"Thank you for the compliment from Teacher Ma." Zhou Tang cheerfully handed over to Mazhou, "The family environment where I grew up was relatively harmonious."
Because of the style and positioning of the show today, I didn’t wear any special makeup on my face, but this person is good-looking and has beautiful facial features, especially a pair of peach blossom eyes. Even without makeup, he has a seductive effect.
He glanced around lightly and saw that the people sitting with him were all very strong people and were not affected at all.
But the staff of the program team working not far away did not have such good concentration.
Especially the young girls in the group, even if Zhou Tang's eyes did not fall on them, they were all blushing.
"Pay attention and work hard."
So much so that the director of the show not only has to pay attention to the filming situation of the show, but also always pays attention to the young people around him, asking them to relax.
Don't just look at the faces of the two gods and forget the work in hand.
Zhou Tang may or may not know the attitude of the staff around him, but he is completely unaffected and continues to talk, "My parents have a very good relationship. They are the kind of people who are independent but dependent on each other."
The pattern is mainly my mother. She is so stable. I have never seen her lose control of her emotions since she was a child, especially towards me. She has never lost control of her emotions towards me. She sometimes loses control of her emotions towards my dad.
She could also say a few words to him, but she was able to adjust her emotions quickly. My dad was also willing to listen to my mom in daily life. I remember the thing that impressed me the most..."
Zhou Tang smiled broadly, "As long as I can remember, one thing my dad has told me is, 'Your mother is the backbone of our family. You should listen to her carefully. If you don't listen to her carefully, you will be killed.'"
She was so angry, I told you, we will have a good life together.' So, I basically never saw them quarreling since I was a child, and they didn't interfere too much in my education, and they respected me very much.
From childhood to adulthood, they have only one request for me, 'Don't do illegal and criminal things. If you don't do these, you can do anything.' So as long as I don't make principled mistakes, they will support whatever I want to do. For example, if I want to
When it comes to studying art, applying to art schools, entering the entertainment industry, including relationships, they never interfere."
"Then you have a lot of freedom at home." He Yuan looked envious.
"Yes." Zhou Tang smiled and nodded, "So I am very grateful to my parents, who have always been willing to support me in being myself."
"Can Tangtang's native family atmosphere and the education his parents gave him be considered a good family education?" Ma Zhou asked Ning Youguang.
"A pair of parents who are less anxious, a pair of parents who enjoy meeting the changing needs of their children, will have a positive impact on their children, making the children become a person who can adjust his own emotions. He can
The ability to trust others, have a good impression of oneself and maintain optimistic hope is the basis of self-confidence and self-esteem, and is also the reason why people will have high emotional intelligence when they grow up."
"What about the opposite?" Ma Zhou listened seriously.
"On the contrary, if the parents in a family are repressed, easily angry, busy with affairs, or indifferent to their children because of some other things, then their children will not be able to find what they are looking for from their parents' reactions, and they will not treat themselves
Seen as lovable and popular, they will regard themselves as superfluous, a disappointment or even the source of all evil, or a dispensable person. These damaging emotional connections have a profound impact on children.
Influence. Generally, children who grow up in this kind of native family will close their brain centers related to security, soundness and openness, stimulating the brain nerves corresponding to the painful emotional state of their parents. At the same time, they themselves will also feel
They feel bored and empty, and cannot find their own sense of existence in the family. Once this mentality is formed, when they reach adolescence, they will easily lose control, and their rebellious period will be longer than that of children who grow up in a normal family environment."
"Some children even go out into the society to do some illegal and criminal things?" He Yuan asked.
"There is a possibility." Ning Youguang's expression became much calmer.
Ma Zhou also sighed, "So I saw a survey before, that is, someone surveyed many people on their deathbed and asked them what their biggest regrets were in their lives. The top three were neither failure to realize their ideals nor failure to realize their ideals.
It’s not that I didn’t make much money, or that I reached a certain height in society, but that I didn’t educate my children well and spend time with my family when I was young…”
"Yes, yes." He Yuan nodded, "I have also read the contents of this investigation."
"In our daily lives, we easily hear some people say, 'If I wasn't busy with work, my children's grades wouldn't be like this.' 'If I had so much time, I could've done it.' In fact,
This is also a paradox. In fact, since I didn't do it at that time, it means that my cognition and consciousness didn't do it, that is, 'I can't do it.' What is really possible has long been transformed into behavior." Ning Youguang's soft eyes were light.
Lightly falling on a few people around me, "Many people around us think about some people and things in the past, and it is easy to become more and more anxious. Because there is always an obsession that maybe I could have done better at that time. In fact, this is not necessary.
, because even if they have some experience and lessons, it will be difficult for them to do better if they go back to the past and start over again. Instead, they may make things worse because they have concerns and lose enthusiasm.”
"So what Teacher Ning means is that those children who did not educate their children well when they were young will still not be able to educate their children even if they start over?" Ma Zhou asked with interest.
"Yes." Ning Youguang nodded, "Unless they, like Teacher He said before, first perfect their personality and then systematically study family education before deciding to have children, then they can become competent 'parents'.
role, educate your children well."
"This idea is quite novel." Zhou Tang looked at Ning Youguang with a smile.
"If Teacher Ning said this..." Ma Zhou gently scratched his head, "Many parents around us are unqualified."
He Yuan also looked at Ning Youguang and sighed, "Your vision is too high, it will scare away many young people."
Ning Youguang smiled, "I'm just sharing some of my own insights." 1314