"Actually, I feel that the reason why Teacher Ning said this is because family education is indeed very important, right?" Zhou Tang took over Ning Youguang's words with a smile, "I remember that the educator Mr. Cai Yuanpei said, 'Family is the first step in life.
School also.', which shows that family education is of great significance to each of us, every family and even the entire society."
"I think you understand it right. Family education is definitely an important part of our national education system. It is the foundation, supplement and extension of society and school education. It accompanies a person's life, affects a person's life, and is important to a person's growth and success.
It's crucial." Zhou Tang's words made Ma Zhou's eyes show admiration, "Everyone knows that good family education is important, but this 'good' standard is very vague to many people. A few of you sitting here
Teacher, why not tell us what you think a good family education looks like?"
He Yuan was the first to speak out, "I remember the poet Gibran had a thought-provoking poem. He wrote in the poem -
‘Your children are actually not your children.
They are children born of life's desire for itself.
They came to this world through you, but not because of you.
They are by your side, but they do not belong to you.
What you can give them is your love, not your thoughts, because they have their own thoughts.
It’s their bodies you can shelter, not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow.’
I used to have a vague concept of good family education, but when I read this poem, I felt enlightened. I think good family education is that as a parent, you must understand that children must first be independent.
Individuals, then your children.”
"It is indeed important for parents to respect their children's subjective consciousness in the family." Ma Zhou smiled and nodded, "Where are Teacher Ning and Teacher Zhou?"
Zhou Tang glanced at Ning Youguang, who was sitting aside with a calm face, and smiled slowly, "I think the best family education is for parents to be the best version of themselves. Father is a father, so don't exaggerate.
She does not deliberately hide her shortcomings, but calmly uses actions to give her children the best demonstration. She may have shortcomings, but she must make progress. A mother is a mother, and she will not affect her emotions because of trivial matters.
They can put the rest of their lives on their children at will. No matter what happens, they can communicate well instead of losing their temper. In a family, if parents can do these two things, the children will not change as they grow up.
He is very good, at least he will be a healthy child, I think."
Ning Youguang chuckled, "Teacher Zhou is right. A professor of psychology at the University of Manchester once conducted an experiment called the 'Still Face Experiment'. Through this experiment, it was found that the mother's mood is very important for the child's mood changes. It can be said that,
The mother's emotions are the compass of the family, and the father's example is more effective than asking his children to get 100% points in the exam."
Ma Zhou said with a smile, "The words of Teacher Zhou and Teacher Ning reminded me of something that Teacher Zheng said before. He said that his father once said that he had been a father for so many years. The most profound experience is to close your eyes.
Talk, lift your legs, walk the path of your life, and show it to the children.' - The best education for children is to teach by example. Therefore, Teacher Zheng and his brothers and sisters are all excellent."
He Yuan also smiled and said, "Some people often say that children are like their parents. In fact, the reverse is still true. Parents are the mirror of their children, and children are the shadow of their parents. Morality, cultivation, habits, quality, and principles are the three
Viewed, a person’s growth is inseparable from the education of his parents. The best family education is when the father is a role model and the mother is warm.”
"Teacher He summed it up very well." Ma Zhou looked at He Yuan and smiled.
"I am a writer who earns my living by writing. I am not married and have no children. When I talk about family education, I can only talk about it on paper. Unlike Teacher Zhou, who is a good role model for family education through words and deeds, Teacher Ning is a professional family education instructor. Of course, I can only give
The two of them have concluded." He Yuan laughed at himself.
"Oh?" Ma Zhou looked at Ning Youguang with interest, "Is Teacher Ning still a family education instructor?"
He Yuan immediately teased Ma Zhou and said, "Mr. Ma, our teacher Ning skipped a grade in elementary school and went to school. He won the top spot in the provincial college entrance examination. Is it difficult to get a family education instructor certificate?"
Ma Zhou admired Chao Ning Youguang and cupped his hand, "Teacher Ning, I am too small."
As he and He Yuan were having a fight, the atmosphere at the scene became more and more relaxed.
Zhou Tang also smiled and said to Ning Youguang, "Then I'd better say less in the future, so as not to appear to be trying to do what I like in front of Teacher Ning."
"Teacher Zhou is so polite." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "A person who has received a good family education since childhood is often the most qualified to talk about family education."
"Oh, I said you should stop complimenting each other." He Yuan teased the two of them, "I think family education, no matter what channel you learn from, the final test standard is still effective and useful, so, you guys said
You are all right, please speak more and let me and Lao Ma gain knowledge together. Ma can just learn and sell now, so that he can teach his son well when he goes back. As for me, I will learn now and keep it when I have children.
Use it, it’s useful anyway.”
"Hahaha..." Everyone present smiled happily.
Ma Zhou very much agreed with He Yuan's words, "Teacher He's words are reasonable. You two should stop rejecting each other. For the healthy growth of our next generation, it is unacceptable for two teachers to hide their secrets."
"Teacher Ma said that, I was so embarrassed that I stopped talking." Zhou Tang laughed.
"Philosopher Plato once said, 'Where a person's education from childhood guides him will determine where he will go later. This is true for everyone. What kind of family he grew up in as a child will determine what kind of life he will take when he grows up.
Road. Whatever causes parents plant in the soil of education in the first half of their lives will bear fruit on their children in the second half of their lives. The family is the child’s first school, and parents are the child’s first teachers. Every outstanding child
, it’s all parents who are nurturing me behind the scenes.”
Ning Youguang also smiled, "When the lights are dim, in a home, the father's face is warm, the mother's face is filled with joy, and the child's hands are holding the light, this is the most beautiful scene in life."
She spoke neither urgently nor slowly, and her voice was gentle.
As soon as you open your mouth, the people around you will automatically become quiet.
With just a few words, the surroundings are transformed into a pyrotechnic yet warm atmosphere.
Ma Zhou, He Yuan and Zhou Tang couldn't help but imagine the scene she described in their minds, and suddenly felt the urge to go home.
The first person to pull away was He Yuan. She thought of the loneliness and coldness at home and quickly shook her head, "After all, good family education still relies on a happy, harmonious and perfect family environment."
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "You are right. The premise of good family education is that parents can create a good family growth environment for their children. A good family environment can enable children to maintain a happy and upward attitude, and happiness is success.
way."
"Speaking of the way to success..." Ma Zhou looked at the people sitting here, "Don't parents hope that their children will be successful in the future and become pillars of society?"
"But in today's society, many parents think that a person's success means being able to make a lot of money." He Yuan said, "This has also led to many parents choosing to make money instead of discipline their children when educating their children. I heard
A friend once said that there is such an example around her. A man and a woman are getting divorced. Their son is now nine years old. The mother has always taken care of the child alone. The father never holds the child and rarely spends time with the child.
He said that he was busy with work. Over the years, the couple became more and more discordant, and finally reached the point of divorce. Then the mother thought that the divorce was okay, but she hoped that the father could help take care of the children during the winter and summer vacations. In this way, she could work with peace of mind.
, the son also has the company of his father. After all, he is a boy, and his father can't care about him at all. But the man refuses to let his son go to him. He said I will give you as much money as you want. It depends on whether you hire someone to take care of him or not.
She gave her son away, but she couldn't take him with her. The woman was so angry that she said, 'Do you hope that your son won't want you in the future?' Guess what the man said?"
The other three looked at each other for a few moments and then shook their heads.
He Yuan sarcastically said, "He said, 'As long as I have money, my son will never disown me in the future.'"
Zhou Tang and Ma Zhou looked sad.
"This dad is a bit too much." Zhou Tang.
"Unless he is really ready not to have a son." The expression on Ning Youguang's face did not change much, but his voice became slightly colder. "Otherwise, if the child has problems in the future, he will cry when he makes more money.
No amount of money can make up for the missing part of a child’s soul.”
The smile on Ma Zhou's face disappeared, "I have read a study before and found that every psychological or behavioral problem of a child is related to the behavior of the parents and the education methods of the parents. Children's problems,
It’s often the adults who make it happen.”
"Money brings affluence in life, but the lack of companionship and communication education will cause ideological and spiritual poverty to children. The so-called richest way to raise children is not material improvement, but Give your child a sense of security so that he can feel fulfilled. Instead of giving your child a lot of money, it is better to sit down quietly and listen carefully to his inner world in your free time." Ning Youguang's expression was gentle, but his words were sonorous. Powerful, "So, parents must understand that high-quality companionship is better than countless wealth, and high-quality protection is worse than all material things." 1314