"Mom told me to leave it alone and leave it to her to handle."
Xie Yizun actually wasn't worried about such frivolous things.
The brother-in-law is his brother-in-law, this really cannot be true anymore.
What bothered him was another thing - "I..."
"What's wrong with you?" Ning Youguang asked patiently.
Maybe it's because her gentle voice is like the summer evening breeze, which blows away the impetuousness in her heart when she hears it, or maybe it's because she has supported and respected Xie Yizun since she was a child.
The boy hesitated for a moment, then expressed the suspicion in his heart that he had not expressed to his mother, "I suspect that the person who hacked me is the person who trained with me."
If nothing happened, he would not take it seriously if he saw some strange looks from a few people in the bathroom in the morning, but if something happened, he really couldn't help but think about it.
"How do you say it?" Ning Youguang asked.
"yesterday……"
Xie Yizun carefully told Ning Youguang what happened in the training camp from yesterday to today.
"That's it." Ning Youguang thought for a while, "Let's have someone check it out. It will be found out soon. If someone really hurts you for no reason, we will definitely make him pay the price, but we can't just rely on it. Just make assumptions and convict people, don't accuse them unjustly."
"I think it's okay." Xie Yizun also hopes to get a fair and objective answer.
It will take a while to wait for the answer.
My brother's mood definitely didn't recover that quickly.
People who are unhappy will not have the energy to train, let alone continue to compete the day after tomorrow.
Ning Youguang said slowly, "When a person faces accusations and slander, he feels uncomfortable. It is also related to his mentality, because our concern for the outside world is like a cage, which will bind us tightly. This involves When we interact with others, we must know how to maintain a sense of boundaries."
"What is the sense of boundaries?" Xie Yizun knew that his sister was guiding him and listened carefully.
"That is, when others interact with you, you can identify the point where they are likely to say "no"," Ning Youguang said.
"Sister, can you be more specific?"
"That is, when you are interacting with people, don't just think that they are friends if you know them. No, in fact, there are really very few people in our lives who can become our friends. In addition, everyone we know is in our life There are people around you who have roles. Once you recognize the role they play next to you, you will know the boundaries between you and them. At the same time, based on their role, you can also clearly understand their role around you. and meaning.”
"Let me think about it..." Xie Yizun thought seriously, "For example, my teacher is a teacher, and I only interact with him to talk about learning. For example, the people who compete with me are peers and competitors. I I only need to interact with them on matters related to competition and training. For example, with those people in the company, I have a cooperative relationship with them, so I only need to talk about work matters. Is this the difference?"
"That's right, that's how to distinguish them." Ning Youguang smiled, "The areas that must intersect have been demarcated. If they inquire too much about other parts, you can say "no" to them! You know. ?"
"I know." Xie Yizun responded.
"That's right." Ning Youguang said in a soft voice, "My brother is so simple and honest, how can he outshine those thoughtful people outside? Don't be fooled and don't know it."
"I also think these people are so complicated." Xie Yizun felt that his three views had been constantly being washed away recently, and he scratched his head in annoyance, "I really can't understand it."
"Of course you can't understand it. Those people who are scheming and complicated in their hearts like to come to your door to cause trouble for you." Ning Youguang said, "Things that are originally very simple, after being processed by their brains, become everything." It’s become more complicated. Do you think this is because they are too busy? Originally, no one has anything to do with it, it’s all things. They have to involve people. Once people are involved in anything, it will be troublesome. There are conflicts between people. As soon as it started, the attack began."
"Yes, yes." Xie Yizun was extremely shocked, "Recently, many people have told me things about the people around me. I thought these people were talking to me as if they were brothers, but now I hear your analysis. Damn it. ! These are all digging holes for me!"
"Yes, they are just digging a hole for you." Ning Youguang said, "Wherever there are people, there will be 'self-performance' and right and wrong. What is right and wrong? It is those things that have nothing to do with you."
"I don't know." Xie Yizun was deeply shocked and puzzled, "What is my performance?"
"Self-performance means that some people like to put on their own masks to perform in front of others. Generally speaking, it means that many people participate in groups to perform their own selves. They do not want to learn at all, or what? Sample."
"I don't understand." Xie Yizun felt that this question was too deep.
"It's just because you don't understand that I'm telling you that in the future, in any group, if someone whispers to you other people's gossips, worries, or their own affairs, don't listen to it, because you are used to listening. Yes, they come to you whenever they have something to do. The problem is that these things are meaningless and rubbish. You know, right? They don’t really treat you as a friend before they talk to you; Treat you like a trash can, and do they like to tell you that I am only telling you this, so you must keep it a secret?!"
"Yes." Xie Yizun thought for a while and said, "I have met several such people recently."
"Pull it down, they have told others a long time ago." Ning Youguang said, "And you are used to treating them as their trash can. If anything happens in the future, they will naturally think that you should be their trash can. Listen to what they say. Those messy things, the problem is to talk about other people's affairs, the good ones are fine, the bad ones will sooner or later lead to conflicts and conflicts. When problems arise, they will be the first to blame you, a silly and sweet person with a sense of justice. If someone steps out to block the gun, you will become a target among them, don’t you think about it?”
"That's true, but it's nothing to do with me in the first place." Xie Yizun reacted and felt goosebumps all over his body.
"It has nothing to do with you, you will still be polluted by these rubbish things, and you will have to spend time and effort digesting these rubbish." Ning Youguang said, "You are not a god, how could you not listen to their rubbish things? If you are disturbed, do you have the energy to play the piano, sing, or take a nap? You have to listen to what they say, and in the end you are pushed out to block the gun? Are you stupid?!"
Xie Yizun was told by Ning Youguang that sweat broke out on his forehead.
It's proven - he is the fool.
"Who are they to you? Are you their psychological counselor? Or family members? What obligations and benefits do they have that are worth digesting their psychological garbage? Isn't that right? There are many things that you can't digest yourself, right?
"
"right."
He himself was hacked today! Two hot searches!
There are also competitions, which are also extremely stressful.
Where do you have the energy to care about other people’s bullshit?!
"That's it, do you understand?! People who have too many thoughts and love to gossip get along a lot. Let me tell you, one day you can't handle it any more, or you don't want to listen to them anymore when you are in a bad state. They
They will start to think blindly and make up a bunch of new stories in their minds, thinking that all their troubles are caused by you not listening, and that you are the culprit who makes them unhappy. Please listen to this logic.
Like what?
"It's like being crazy." Xie Yizun was filled with anger and anger.
"Yes, irrational people are psychopaths." Ning Youguang said, "The outcome of encountering a psychopath is that no matter what you do, everything you do is wrong. He will always have a reason to think you are not good. You have enough to eat.
, I have nothing to do but play this crazy game with him."
"I'm scared, I can't afford to play." If the two of them were chatting on WeChat now, Xie Yizun would definitely send his sister an ugly emoji to accurately express his mood at this moment.
"The hotbed of self-reliance is the environment, that is, the group. When you don't join their group and don't listen to their stories, they will naturally not be able to act in front of you." Ning Youguang said, "In the future, others will look for you.
If the problem can be solved, solve it. If it cannot be solved, tell the other party that I am not able to solve it, or suggest that they see a psychiatrist. Otherwise, you will be involved and the matter will be more complicated. Moreover, if you don't listen, the other party will have no audience and no mirror.
, their egos cannot continue to act, and will stop. As long as you are willing to listen, they will continue to act, unable to turn back, and create more trouble."
"I understand." Xie Yizun felt so tired, "How come these people have such crooked views that they can't do something serious?"
"It's just because their minds are not on business that they are so crooked." Ning Youguang peeled off the skin of these monsters and snake gods layer by layer to show to his younger brother, "Don't want to be the savior, don't pity them, you know? We are not.
God, some people have incorrect views. No matter how kind you are in helping them, it will be useless. You will only get yourself involved. In the adult world, you see things through but don't tell them."
"Ah?" Xie Yizun scratched his head, "Some people are really pitiful."
"Of course we can help those who are really pitiful." Ning Youguang said, "The problem is that some people just have a pitiful appearance and are not really pitiful. When he comes to you for help, if you point out the problem to him, he will
He said you hurt me, you didn't point out his problem, he said you disliked me, whatever you did was wrong, and if you didn't do it, it was still wrong, and in the end you became the mistake itself. You have to know, you are with them
, it’s not about who is right and who is wrong, it’s about learning and competition, right? Learn to recognize human nature, and you will be able to be yourself and not cause trouble to yourself.”
"Sister, luckily you reminded me today." Xie Yizun felt that his hair stood on end. "These people are really scarier than ghosts. I decided to stay away from them."
Otherwise, he would really have been dug into a trap by others, and he would not even know how many people there were or how much money he helped.
"You have to stay away from them." Ning Youguang knew that the eye drops for his brother were almost gone, so he softened his tone, "But you have to keep your heart away from them. When you need to interact, you should When you are polite to them, you still have to be polite to them, do you know why?"
"Why?"
"The more polite I am to you, the less I want to have anything to do with you." Ning Youguang said very gently.
But when Xie Yizun listened, he felt that every word in this sentence was a knife.
Having said this, Ning Youguang felt that the lessons on interpersonal relationships that he taught his silly brother today were almost over.
So he smiled and said, "Other people's opinions and suggestions cannot determine who you become. What you say and what you do can determine who you become and what kind of life you have. Beautiful next second It’s time to start, delete all these unhappy things, and make good use of your time to do infinitely meaningful things.”
"Okay." Xie Yizun's voice was calm and strong, obviously listening to what she said.
Ning Youguang smiled and asked, "I gave you flowers, did you receive them?"
"Ah? The flowers this afternoon were sent by you? That bunch of beautiful lotus flowers." Xie Yizun felt a lot of sweat on his back as he thought of the flowers that he had randomly thrown on the table before and then threw them into the trash can when he was about to go back. There are several layers.
"Yes, I know you have been under a lot of pressure in recent games, so I just wanted to give you some happiness." Ning Youguang smiled, "Do you like it?"
"I like it!" Xie Yizun felt lucky that he didn't throw away the flower. "I'm going to find a vase to raise it now. There are lotus pods on it."
"You can eat lotus pods." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "The lotus flowers and lotus pods I sent you were bought by an old lady on the roadside when I went to work in the morning. They are very fresh. The old woman selling flowers said that her husband picked them from the pond contracted by her family in the morning. I tasted them when I bought them. The lotus pods are very fresh and the lotus seeds are very sweet and delicious."
"I'm going to eat now." Xie Yizun stood up and rushed to the dormitory.
"Eat more to cool down the fire." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "When you are unhappy, look at the beautiful scenery and flowers, let your heart be filled with more beautiful things, and don't think about all the unhappy things."
——"If a person's heart is not filled with flowers, it will be filled with weeds."
…
When Xie Yizun rushed back to the dormitory, he saw that the dormitory was very lively. Everyone in the dormitory was there, and people from other dormitories also came to visit.
I already know that a lot of them are nothing.
He didn't want to pay any attention to them at all, and went straight to the flowers on the table as soon as he entered the door.
However, when he walked to the table and saw the messy lotus flowers inside, his face immediately darkened, "Which of you touched my flowers?"
People who were chatting in the dormitory, but when they saw Xie Yizun coming to look at the flowers and were very unhappy, they all looked at him in surprise——
"What's wrong with this flower? Isn't it a gift from a fan?"
"Yes, I heard you say you wanted to throw it in the trash can before."
"We all moved, thinking you didn't want it. The lotus pods on it looked quite fresh, and it would be a pity to throw them away, so we picked them off and ate them." 1314