Beijing City Library often invites scholars from all walks of life to hold public welfare activities in the library.
Some time ago, Ning Youguang received an invitation from the city library, saying that she would like to ask her to give a public welfare psychological class to the citizens.
It was the summer vacation, so Ning Youguang's job became much easier since he did not have to teach students. After receiving the invitation, he immediately agreed.
She looked at the packed audience who were applauding vigorously and paused for a moment.
"We always need to go further than yesterday. If you don't abandon the objects around you, it means staying in the same place forever. Not abandoning it also means mourning the incompleteness of life, which will then make people enter depression and fall into inherent "Freud's theory of grief and depression is, why do humans become depressed? It's because many people always feel that it has already happened." None of the bad things really happened."
——"For example, when family members and pets die, or when we fall in love and break up, we always feel as if they are not dead, and we always feel that the other person still has feelings for me, and the other person still loves me. In fact, it is not that they are not dead, nor is it the other person's love for us. We are still in love because we have not given up, so we will enter depression. But if we confirm that this thing is real and that it has happened, then we will not be depressed, or we can get out of depression. Just like a memorial service will be held after a person dies, entering a new relationship after a breakup can help us confirm that the things that have happened that we don’t want to admit are true. Therefore, every time we go to a new place, it means that we have The abandonment of the previous object.”
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One and a half hours of class, half an hour of live interaction.
A summer vacation weekend afternoon passed like this.
After the meeting, President Wan of the Municipal Psychological Association invited Ning Youguang to have dinner, but she politely declined: "Sorry, President Wan, my friend is waiting for me over there. I made an appointment with her after the event. I have to go do some errands and I won’t be able to have dinner with you today.”
The president of the Municipal Psychological Association is a middle-aged woman with a dignified appearance and intellectual temperament. As soon as she heard what she said, she immediately said, "If the matter is not urgent, please invite your friends to come with us for dinner. Today I invited several leaders Come here, let’s have dinner together tonight, I’ll just introduce them to you.”
"Thank you, President Wan. I'm really sorry." A look of apology appeared on Ning Youguang's face, "The things I have to do now are urgent and I can't delay them. Otherwise, why would I refuse your invitation?"
Chairman Wan was carrying a black bag with no logo on it, and looked at her with suspicion for a long time, "...then let's do it next time. Let's get together next time when we have time."
President Wan and Ning Youguang have known each other for several years. Their relationship is not that deep, but they have interacted with each other many times.
Every time she wants to have a meal with her alone, we can still get together.
If you invite the other party to form a game, it is ten invitations and ten empty.
From the first glance, this person didn't like socializing, so every time she wanted to introduce someone to her, it was difficult.
"Okay, I'll leave first then." Ning Youguang said goodbye with a smile, "Have a nice dinner tonight."
"I'll give it to you." President Wan suggested.
"No need." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "Don't you have a few leaders waiting over there? My friend is outside, I can just go there by myself."
"Then be careful when you go back." President Wan stopped walking forward.
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"It's really annoying to have dinner with the boss. Not to mention the formality, I can't eat properly and waste my time sitting there." Gu Xi said while holding Ning Youguang's hand and walking to the parking lot of the city library, "It's a waste of life. "
"So I refuse." Arriving at the car, Ning Youguang took out the car keys from his bag.
"Let me drive the car." Gu Xi, who was standing behind her, said, "You've been standing in lecture for so long, you're tired."
"It's okay." Ning Youguang smiled, "I'm used to it."
But he also handed the car key to Gu Xi, "But if you are willing to do it for me, of course it would be better."
"Yes, yes." Gu Xi took the car keys, "Who wouldn't want to work for a fairy?"
After chatting for a few words, the two got in the car.
"Let's go get something to eat." Gu Xi suggested after driving out of the parking lot of the city library.
"Okay." Ning Youguang said, "What do you want to eat?"
"Let's go eat Malatang." Gu Xi's face showed a look of anticipation, "I found a Malatang on the Internet that many people recommended to eat. The people who recommended it said that this Malatang restaurant is delicious, and I just happened to be there. Auntie is here, I really want to eat something spicy."
"Okay." Ning Youguang smiled, "What's the name of the store? I'll navigate it."
"Chongqing Yaomei Malatang, the one on Shihua East Road." Seeing that Ning Youguang agreed to accompany her to eat Malatan, Gu Xi couldn't be too happy. "Is it near Shengguang Square?" Ning Youguang lowered his head and searched for a while before asking.
"Yes." Gu Xi turned the steering wheel, stepped on the accelerator and drove towards the destination.
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After the two parked their car in the underground parking lot of Shengguang Plaza, they walked several hundred meters before finding their destination.
This Malatang restaurant is said to be one of the top three restaurants in Beijing. The store environment looks quite plain, and the sign in front of the door is flashing with a red light. It looks quite old.
Judging from the area, it's only about thirty square meters.
But the doorway is very spacious, there is a piece of flat land, and in the middle of the flat land there is a big banyan tree with super dense branches and leaves.
At this moment, there were many folding tables and chairs similar to those in the store placed under the big banyan tree, and many people were sitting there.
In addition to people, there were four or five cats lying down, walking, or squatting on the ground around them.
The honking of cars, the voices of citizens and other sounds mixed together to create a boiling atmosphere in the city.
"With so many people here so early, their Malatang must be delicious." After looking at the environment in front of him, Gu Xi looked forward to the next Malatang.
After she and Ning Youguang appeared at the door of the Malatang shop, everyone around them raised their heads and looked at them.
Everyone's eyes were shining with surprise and disbelief.
Gu Xi and Ning Youguang have known each other for many years, but they still can't ignore this look.
So I suggested, "How about we buy some and go to the mall to eat."
"I think this banyan tree looks good." Ning Youguang, as the center of everyone's attention, was more calm than her, "Let's go and order food. After ordering, we will come and sit down. There are many cats here, I want to pet them!"
"But there are so many people..." Gu Xi felt embarrassed.
I was just thinking about eating and didn't consider that the environment was not airtight enough.
"So many people show that this Malatang restaurant is really delicious." Ning Youguang smiled and put his arm around Gu Xi's shoulders, leading her towards the store.1314