"Don't be too stressed." Ning Youguang said, "Don't forget that you still have a teammate, my brother-in-law, make good use of him."
"I want to make good use of him." Xia Qi smiled bitterly, "The problem is that he also has a lot of things to do. He goes to work during the day, and I have to take care of the child when I come back at night. By the time I put the child to sleep, he has already fallen asleep, and I have
It’s not easy to disturb him, it’s not that it’s not easy to disturb him, it’s just that I’m too tired and I don’t have the energy to talk to him more. You know, we are so busy that we don’t even have time to have sex.”
"Can't you let Auntie take a closer look at the child?" Ning Youguang felt a little speechless when Xia Qi said this.
Xia Qi's family obviously has a confinement nanny and a nanny, but how can she still take care of the child so hard?
"No, the baby must fall asleep in my arms at night." Xia Qi insisted, "At this time, he needs a sense of security the most. He has to hold on to my clothes every night to fall asleep, otherwise
He will wake up soon after falling asleep and cry, so it will be difficult to coax him to sleep."
It seems that it is not only the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that makes her anxious.
Raising children also made her very anxious.
"Can't you really make some adjustments? Why don't you go get some advice from your cousin?" Ning Youguang suggested, "Let's see how we can make it less difficult for us?"
My cousin sister-in-law and Brother Chenchen moved out after they got married. After giving birth to the child, she moved to her own small home after leaving the confinement center. She only had a one-month-old sister-in-law to raise the child.
I don’t have as many helpers as my cousin, but the children are still well raised.
She has never seen her with so many worries as her cousin.
"I have asked my sister-in-law for advice before, but it didn't help much for me." Xia Qi said this, feeling a little depressed again, "Our situations are different. My brother has such a good personality, and he loves children very much. He likes children.
, he is also careful in taking care of others. After Duoduo was born, my brother took better care of him than my sister-in-law. Of course my sister-in-law took care of him, but I am different. My husband is not as patient and annoying as my brother."
Duoduo is Xia Chen's son and is already in elementary school.
Ning Youguang understood.
The biggest problem in my cousin's family now is herself.
"Are you feeling so tired every day now?"
"Yes, if I weren't tired, I wouldn't be so busy with your brother-in-law that I don't even have time for sex." Xia Qi said, "Since giving birth to the child, I feel that all my time and attention are occupied by the child. Every day
I am already very tired even though I have taken good care of the child. I still have so much thought about communicating with your brother-in-law. I am not afraid of your laughter. Not only do I have no time to communicate with him now, I even hug him.
I don’t even have the patience.”
——"After I put my children to sleep every day, I just want to find a small place to hide myself in the big world."
"Be good, touch your head." Ning Youguang knew that Xia Qi had encountered a problem and wanted to escape.
At the same time, she really needs her own space.
"I never thought that a woman's body would be so ugly after giving birth." Xia Qi said, "I have not dared to stand naked in front of the full-length mirror for several months. I wear home clothes at home every day and have no time to dress up.
I don’t want to dress up either, I want to get my figure back in shape quickly before I think about this.”
"Don't you look in good shape?"
As a mother of a child of several months, Xia Qi's figure is really not ugly.
It's just a little rounder and smoother than before.
But my skin is better and whiter than before.
Anyway, Ning Youguang thinks that her cousin looks pretty good-looking, and she looks a bit cuter than when she was thin.
But she thought it was useless to look good.
"Not good." Xia Qidian got up from the bed, ran to the dressing room in the dressing room, lifted up her shirt, pinched the round flesh on her belly and showed it to Ning Youguang, "Look, what is this? ?”
"Cute fleshy one." Ning Youguang lazily leaned back on the office chair, his voice cooing.
"You're so cute!" Xia Qi was so amused by Ning Youguang's naughty look that she lost her composure.
She said a little angrily, "It's so annoying!!!!"
——"I originally wanted to make an appointment with a personal trainer Shuo Xing two months ago so that I could get back in shape as soon as possible, but my grandpa wouldn't let me do anything. He said I had to wait until my child was a little older, otherwise I would age quickly in the future. .”
"What grandpa said makes sense." Teacher Ning, who is also a Chinese medicine practitioner, can hardly disagree with her master's professional philosophy.
"Ahhhhhh!!!!" Get in shape with a personal trainer.”
"Sure." Ning Youguang agreed readily, "The question is, can you take the medicine?"
"..." Xia Qi, who was still breastfeeding, fell silent.
Ning Youguang didn't let her continue to be annoyed for too long, "It's okay, I'll give you a prescription that you can eat. You can take care of it and then go find a personal trainer. Don't do too much exercise or too intense movements." .”
"Yeah, I love you so much." Xia Qi felt much happier, "You are my Aladdin's lamp, my almighty god!"
"No, no, no!" Ning Youguang refused Sanlian, "I am nothing, I am just an ordinary person."
"Okay, ordinary person." Xia Qi nodded obediently, "Continue to ask you, how can I make your cousin-in-law become my god teammate?"
"Didn't you say that my cousin-in-law is not as good as Brother Chenchen in temperament and cannot be a good 'male aunt'?" Ning Youguang laughed at Xia Qi's backbiting.
"I just wanted to complain to you just now." Xia Qi muttered, "You don't know how broken I have been these past few days. The baby has recurring fevers and often vomits while feeding. I feel uncomfortable all day long. I groaned, my mother’s heart is almost broken! It’s so uncomfortable for me.”
"Thank you, great mother." Ning Youguang knew that his cousin had not finished complaining yet.
"Last night, I coaxed the baby to finish the milk for a long time before falling asleep. I was so tired that I couldn't remember when I went to bed and fell asleep. When I woke up again, I found that I hadn't even taken a shower! "Returning to the recent reality, Xia Qi's good mood lasted less than three minutes, "But at that time, 'my teammate' in your eyes had already entered a sweet dreamland. Do you know how I felt at that time?"
"I was really furious! I just wanted to wake him up and ask him how he could sleep at this time? The problem was that I couldn't wake him up because it was half past three in the night, and he would be tomorrow I have to get up early in the morning and go to the company for a regular meeting."
"After all, you have shouldered too much." Ning Youguang praised Xia Qi teasingly, "What's next?"
"Then I was so angry that I gritted my teeth and hugged the pillow and went to sleep in the guest room next door." Xia Qi was like a pufferfish that suddenly deflated. She looked very sad and helpless. "We often sleep in separate rooms recently."
"How does it feel to sleep in separate rooms?" Ning Youguang asked with concern.
"It's not bad." Xia Qi was stunned for a moment and said, "Anyway, we all feel that we slept well, otherwise I would have to get up all the time to feed him at night, which would easily wake him up."
"As long as you sleep well."
"But I feel a little uneasy."
"Why are you upset?"
"How can husband and wife sleep in separate beds?" Xia Qi felt that sleeping in separate beds meant that the relationship between husband and wife was not good. Therefore, even though she and her husband felt that they slept well after sleeping separately, she did not want to do this in her heart.
.
But the reality is that they sleep in separate beds, which makes each other even more tired.
"Why can't couples sleep in separate beds?" Ning Youguang felt that her cousin had too many limiting beliefs. "Do you know that there are many couples in this world who sleep in separate beds, and their relationship is very good?"
"I know." Xia Qi said, "I've seen some bloggers say that sleeping in separate beds with husbands can lead to a good relationship between husband and wife, but I can't do that. I'll be afraid."
Ning Youguang asked tentatively, "Don't you believe that you and your cousin-in-law will be happy even if you sleep in separate beds?"
"It doesn't seem to be the case." Xia Qi continued to scratch her head, "Our relationship is actually quite good. Apart from being busy with things in the company, your cousin-in-law is still very good to me. It's my own problem. I can't stop thinking about it.
.”
Ning Youguang asked, "Have you told your cousin-in-law about your anxiety problem?"
Xia Qi said in surprise, "How can I tell him these problems? It's not his fault."
Ning Youguang sighed deeply, "Fool, you all know that you are already very anxious. This is when you need help the most. If you don't tell him, who else can you tell?"
"With you." Xia Qi blurted out.
"Yes." Ning Youguang held up his forehead, "You can tell me, the problem is that no matter how many ways I can solve your psychological problems, I can't replace my brother-in-law's role in your life. I can give you
You can give you comfort and love in your own way, but I can't give you the love and strength you should get from your husband, do you understand?"
"Is it okay to see a psychiatrist for psychological problems?" Xia Qi asked cautiously.
"There's nothing wrong." Ning Youguang patted his head with a headache, "But as a mother and wife, when you encounter any problems, in addition to thinking about finding a psychiatrist, another very important thing is not to forget to find your husband.
Do you understand? When you are emotional and encounter a problem that you cannot solve by yourself, you have to tell your husband as soon as possible and express to him that you are stressed and emotional and that you need his help, do you understand? "
Xia Qi blinked.
Ning Youguang knew that she understood the truth, but she didn't know what to do.
Just continue, "Sharing your emotions with your husband can help you establish a deeper intimacy with him. The motivation for everything we do comes from a person's attention to things. Since you are taking care of the children and talking to your mother-in-law
If you want to get help from your cousin-in-law on the matter of not getting along, you should first actively involve him in your affairs."
“How do you get him involved?”
"Continuously share with him your experiences of things you encounter, share your gains and your confusions with him. The process of sharing with him is the process of letting him understand you. When he understands you, he will naturally understand you.
What do you need, how can I help you, and care about you." 1314