"I'm sorry, I'm just an ordinary person living an ordinary life. I may not be able to give you very constructive opinions." Ning Youguang gently approached the purple tulip and said, "I don't know.
What kind of life is perfect?"
"ah?"
"You don't even know what kind of life is perfect, so we won't be able to find a reference in the third dimension."
Li Qing and Jiang Wei have the same surprised faces.
"That's the fact." Ning Youguang shrugged, "I really don't know the definition of a perfect life."
Li Qing thought for a while and then said, "I have always thought your life is perfect."
"It's more dreamy and romantic than the sweetest idol drama in the world." Jiang Wei also nodded, "And it can stand up to scrutiny."
That's why she and Li Qing were curious.
Ning Youguang thought for a while and said, "My life may be okay in your opinion. Of course, I am also satisfied with it, but I don't think it can be defined as an example of a successful life or a reference standard for others to strive for."
, because I think everyone’s definition of ‘perfect life’ is different, which cannot be defined at all, just like ‘happiness’ is different for every independent individual.”
"I understand what you mean." Jiang Wei said.
Li Qing also said, "Otherwise, tell us, what kind of state can we build a stable or happy emotional relationship or marriage relationship?"
"I want to hear it too," Jiang Wei said, "There are so many failed marriages and sexual relationships."
This is a common social phenomenon.
She can choose to be single, but that doesn't mean she will refuse happiness.
If she could really get the password to happiness from her old classmate Ning Youguang, the "model of success", why wouldn't she do it?
"Many emotional experts have interpretations on this issue." Ning Youguang smiled.
"No, most of those businessmen are big liars." Li Qing said, "I just believe you, and I want to hear what you have to say."
Jiang Wei also nodded, "You are a true practitioner and reliable."
Ning Youguang chuckled and said, "You really think too highly of me."
"You are too modest, sister." Li Qing said.
"Really humble." Jiang Wei was really impressed by Ning Youguang's modesty and low-keyness.
Ning Youguang shook his head and laughed, "It's not that I'm being modest, it's that I really feel that my daily life is very ordinary."
"Okay, okay." Jiang Wei said, "How about we ask the fairy to share with us a very common way of getting along in daily life?"
"I don't want to be in this kind of nonsense relationship." Li Qing said, "Next time, why don't we go straight to get married."
"But don't!" Jiang Wei and Ning Youguang were startled, "It's not good to fall in love, but don't think that getting married will make it better."
"Oh -" Li Qing said, "I know, that's what I said."
"It scared me to death." Jiang Wei stroked his chest, "Don't just get rid of a trouble and then cause a bigger trouble."
"No way." Li Qing said, "It's just a oral pleasure."
"It's best." Jiang Wei raised his glass.
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Let me ask you a question first."
"You ask." Li Qing.
"Under what circumstances do you think you would want to fall in love or get married?" Ning Youguang.
Li Qing was very touched by this question, "I like someone so much that I want to become one with him and be with him forever, like being called by a mission. It's not whether my brain wants to be with that person or not."
We are together, but my heart and soul feel that I must not miss this person, and then we are together."
Jiang Wei replied, "Probably because I feel that I can become better by being with the other person."
Ning Youguang asked again, "Will you compromise and make changes for each other in your relationship?"
Li Qing said, "I hope the other party can tolerate me."
Jiang Wei, "It depends on the situation. For the time being, I am not willing to spend too much energy on correcting myself."
"Rationally speaking, we should all try to find safe people to get along with." Ning Youguang said clearly, "But maintaining a marriage or a stable emotional relationship is a process of changing oneself, just like devoting oneself to a certain mission.
,Intimacy is also a struggle between each person’s self.”
"Okay, you mean we haven't entered a stable emotional state yet." Li Qing.
"This is not a question of who will be in charge if you want to avoid the storm?" Jiang Wei.
"Most people who want to take shelter and don't want to be in Hong Kong lack a sense of security." Ning Youguang said, "There are also many people who have a sense of security. When they encounter emotional problems, they can think rationally and make correct decisions.
Choices and intimate relationships are going well.”
"People who lack a sense of security will fail emotionally?" Jiang Wei doubted, "I don't think so."
"You're right, it's not that people with insufficient security will be frustrated when they enter an intimate relationship." Ning Youguang said, "According to my observation, many people fail emotionally because they are wrong when making decisions. They don't understand.
, get married or fall in love, what are the core issues that need to be faced most when entering a long-lasting and stable relationship."
"What is it" Li Qing.
"It's about whether they are willing to give up their control over their lives for the sake of marriage." Ning Youguang said, "The fact is, no matter how good a person the other person is, as long as they are tied to each other, they will limit each other's personal freedom. Intimacy is the key to everyone.
Personal education, whether two people can do well depends on whether each other is willing to be changed. Some people may understand that the best way to change a person is to love the other person, and through love, bring out the good side of the other person and make the other person become a better person.
Better. But if the other person wants to change you like this, can you accept it? In a good relationship between the sexes, both men must lose part of themselves and give way to each other. The relationship is more important than the individual. This is the secret of emotional happiness."
——"In the process of getting along with each other, we are slowly changed and become a better person."
"So we are still too self-centered." Li Qing and Jiang Wei looked at each other, "So we can't maintain a long-term close relationship with one person."
"'Accept', 'change', and 'let go' are enough to solve all relationship problems." Ning Guan said, "Accept what you can accept. If you can't accept it, then change it. If you can't change it, then let go. All roads lead to it.
Rome, the only way to happiness is not to take the road that doesn't work."
"It sounds very simple from what you said," Li Qing said, "but I feel that I will still encounter various problems in practice."
"We all know the principles." Jiang Wei also said, "But in practice, you will still be defeated by all kinds of unexpected problems, so falling in love and getting married are really troublesome." 1314