Ning Youguang looked at Shi Wangyue's dejected look and said, "Let's agree first. All our subsequent arguments will be for the sake of us being able to be better together in the future, not for anything else."
"Of course." Shi Wangyue nodded, "It can't be anything else."
Ning Youguang said, "Professor Albert from Stanford University is working on a new project and needs new personnel to join. He has a good relationship with the teacher, so..."
Looking at the moon, my breath stagnated.
Professor Albert from Stanford University.
He knows that today's leading figures in the field of international psychology.
Ever since Ning Youguang met him at the International Psychology Summit held in Boston that year, he had always admired her.
The two also exchange emails from time to time.
"Professor Yu recommended you to go to his laboratory?"
Ning Youguang shook his head, "No, it's because of Professor Albert's recommendation that Stanford University wants to invite me to join."
Shi Wangyue's heart sank rapidly for a moment, and at the same time, his mind suddenly became chaotic.
He knew that most professors from domestic universities must accept "discount sales" when they go abroad to work, but this does not include Ning Youguang.
Not to mention, she has been working hard in psychology research with Academician Yu since she was in college in China. Secondly, because of her excellent language skills, her academic papers have been published in top foreign journals over the years.
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Therefore, it can be said that Ning Youguang's popularity in foreign academic circles is no less than that in China, and she personally maintains in-depth cooperation with many foreign universities.
Moreover, she can also gain insight into the development direction of the global psychology profession.
It can be said that no matter how far China’s psychology profession lags behind Europe and the United States.
Ning Youguang, a professor of psychology at the National University of Science and Technology, is a master in the global academic field of psychology. If she wants to leave, she will not be discriminated against and will travel around the world like a crane in the clouds.
If it is true as she said, she can get the same treatment as a professor at Stanford, which will be a step up for her career development.
When she goes abroad to practice for a few more years and comes back, whether she wants to lead an independent scientific research team or become a scientist, it will be a matter of course, and there will be no shortage of resources or connections.
Shi Wangyue knew how good this opportunity was for her, but——
He asked knowingly, "Equal?"
Ning Youguang smiled confidently, "If I go, I will definitely get the same grade."
Moreover, I am sure that it will not take long to obtain the qualification of a tenured professor.
But that's not her purpose.
Shi Wangyue's mind went blank, but her heart gradually calmed down.
He had known that with her ability, this would be the case.
"You..." Go or not?
Suddenly he didn't dare to ask.
But Ning Youguang knew what he wanted to know.
"I dont go."
"Is it because of me?" Shi Wangyue lowered her head and slowed down her speech.
"You are a big factor." Ning Youguang chose to tell the truth.
Her psychological enlightenment began at Stanford University, and her grandmother and great-grandmother both studied at Stanford.
Therefore, she has a different feeling about going to Stanford to study or apply for a job.
If she were still the same person in this life as she was in her last life, she might not be able to accept the olive branch offered by Professor Albert this time.
It is true that even if she goes, it is not that she will never come. She only goes to come back with a stronger professional ability.
But there are no ifs in life.
"Isn't this a pity?"
Even knowing that Ning Youguang's decision not to take a job at Stanford was not entirely because of himself, Shi Wangyue felt very happy.
But while I was happy, I also felt that it would be a pity to give up such a good opportunity.
After all, she has always admired the academic atmosphere of psychology research at Stanford University.
"I'm not going to work there." Of course Ning Youguang knew what Shi Wangyue meant, so he said frankly, "But I think I can join Professor Albert's laboratory and complete this project with him. What do you think?"
Shi Wangyue's heart began to feel uneasy again, "This kind of thing... I can't give you any advice. You might ask Teacher Yu or other friends who can give you more professional advice."
Ning Youguang said, "The teacher suggested that I go. She felt that although Professor Albert's project was too cutting-edge, it was very suitable for me. No matter whether it was successful or not, I went and always received a lot."
Shi Wangyue felt that her happiness was weakening.
He lowered his eyes slightly, "What's your decision?"
"Wangyue, I know that the time I asked you to move home for work and career, and our brief separation, has already made you uncomfortable. If I ask to go out again this time, or go to such a far place, you will definitely be more upset.
Uncomfortable."
Shi Wangyue pursed her lips and said hoarsely, "You're right, I've suffered enough from the pain of missing each other in a foreign country, so far away from each other."
"Look at the moon." Ning Youguang's heart clenched slightly.
Shi Wangyue looked up, and a wry smile appeared on Qingjun's face, "Sister, you have never experienced a secret love that is as painstaking as mine, so you probably don't understand."
"I..." Ning Youguang really didn't understand and couldn't empathize with him, but she could figure it out from the content he had posted on Weibo.
Shi Wangyue gently put down the chopsticks in her hand and asked slowly, "What's your decision?"
Ning Youguang couldn't answer immediately.
Silence fell between the two.
At this moment, the waiter came over with a plate of curry shrimp and a plate of Northern Thai grilled lamb chops.
After putting down the two plates of food, the waiter's eyes fell on the cup in front of Ning Youguang that had very little water left. "Beauty, do you need some water for you?"
From the corner of his eye, he glanced at Ning Youguang from time to time.
Shi Wangyue immediately said coldly, "No need."
These three short words sent a chill down the waiter's spine. "Okay, you two, please continue. If you need anything, you can call me anytime."
Wait for the waiter to leave with the tray.
Shi Wangyue picked up the teapot at hand and slowly poured water into Ning Youguang's cup, "Let's eat first."
After putting down the teapot, he first picked up the serving chopsticks at hand and picked up a curry prawn for Ning Youguang.
Afterwards, I got myself a piece of grilled lamb chop.
This Thai restaurant is close to home and tastes pretty good.
The two of them have been here several times and are very familiar with each other's tastes, so there is no need to step on each other's backs.
Ning Youguang was not in a hurry to eat the food.
She knows that some things, if not explained clearly in time, will cause people a lot of trouble.
"Wangyue, I want to go to Professor Albert's laboratory and complete this scientific research project with him. I know this is very selfish. I have wronged you again and again for my own career."
Moreover, for the project that Professor Albert invited her to this time, she had not seen any relevant scientific research results released or related news spread in her previous life.
So she guessed that the project either failed or died midway.
But this project is really in line with her future research direction and the areas she is committed to developing.
If in this life, because of her participation, this project in Professor Albert's laboratory could have different results.
She feels that it is a very meaningful thing for her and more people.
"You are not selfish." Shi Wangyue ate the mutton chops with a calm expression, "You just didn't give up yourself for me."
After thinking for a while, he added, "In other words, you didn't compromise with me for your mission."
"You're right." Ning Youguang nodded.
She really didn't give up herself for him.
Moreover, she once discussed this issue with Zhuang Yijing: "Is there ever a day when you will give up yourself for love or marriage?"
Her answer to the other party was——
"I can give up myself for Mochizuki, but I will not give up my mission for anything."
Ning Youguang said, "Because the self only concerns myself, but the mission concerns more people, I have no reason to give up the purpose of coming to earth for myself in this life."
Zhuang Yijing asked again, "What if one day the person in your family asks you to choose between him and your mission?"
Ning Youguang was silent for a while, "Although he will be sad, he is probably willing to endure the pain and support me."
"Why?"
"Because he is a big-picture person."
Shi Wangyue looked at Ning Youguang's calm face and said, "Eat, I'm hungry after waiting for so long."
There are many people in the mall tonight, and there are also many people in this restaurant.
The two of them were busy talking just now and forgot the time for a while.
After Shi Wangyue waited for the waiter to serve the food, he looked at the time pointed by the hands of his watch. It was already past eight o'clock.
Ning Youguang had just eaten the bottom of the skewers, but he wasn't actually hungry.
But she knew that Shi Wangyue asked her to eat to ease each other's emotions.
When the two get along, Shi Wangyue is always the one who avoids emotional conflicts with each other.
In other words, he has always paid attention to maintaining a good emotional state in front of her.
It's not that he doesn't have bad emotions, it's just that his bad emotions are always for others, never for himself.
As for myself, because I have practiced it, I can achieve true emotional stability.
On the contrary, when I was a little emotionally unstable, I was here with Shi Wangyue.
Friends often ask her, "Why do I always like to express my worst emotions to my family members or those close to me?"
Ning Youguang replied, "Because you know they will definitely tolerate you. Even if you give them bad emotions, they will not really blame you and stay away from you. In front of them, you are safe and can be forgiven and punished."
Understand being loved.”
Her ability to self-awareness is not very great, but it's pretty good.
Every time she had emotions towards Shi Wangyue, she basically noticed them in her heart and then digested them herself.
It's not like I showed it to him in a particularly obvious way.
But she knew clearly that she was different in front of others and in front of Shi Wangyue.
Many times, she knew that she was also tolerating him.1314