"Teacher Zhao, you said that the Eastern people's sophistication, or the Chinese people's sophistication, are still useful without China? Also, what would happen if there was no capital in this world?"
This is a question asked by students to Zhao Mingyang. It is indeed a question worth discussing. This is also the joy of Zhao Mingyang being a teacher, because students ask questions and the teacher answers them. Many times, the teacher will also passively learn some new things and
way of thinking.
The classroom is a place where people can speak freely. There is no interest here. Everyone is arguing for their own opinions. One party needs to convince the other party, and this kind of debate is a collision of ideas.
This is why many world-class large companies now change their offices to a family-style and campus style, that is, the design style of the office is similar to that of home design, or the same as in a school classroom.
Then a giant company may only have a few dozen people, and the rest are all outsourced. There is no clear division of positions among these dozens of people, and their daily work is a matter of free discussion.
There is a premise here. These dozens of people are all elites, and their free chatting is the presentation of new ideas.
Of course, this is rarely seen in Eastern companies, which is why Zhao Mingyang found it interesting when students raised this question. In fact, most students have an established understanding, including ordinary people, that the East and the West are completely different.
Zhao Mingyang thought so in his previous life, but he no longer thinks so in this life.
In particular, this student is from China. Zhao Mingyang has seen his academic record and he came here to study. He is considered a very good student. After all, those who can study at Dongjin University and pass the exam are all top academics.
This person majored in biology. He knew that Zhao Mingyang was from China, so he raised this question in a targeted manner. Maybe he hated some of China's sophistication, or he had another purpose to make Zhao Mingyang look bad. This person
Although they were born and raised in China, they are not necessarily Chinese, they may also be R himself, because their parents may be descendants of R and did not return to R at the time.
This matter started decades ago. A group of people who were defeated in Japan left their children behind when they fled. Later, a group of people came to recognize their relatives. Some returned to Japan, and some did not.
Going back, this group of people have gone back one after another over the years.
Zhao Mingyang put his hands on the podium and said: "In fact, internationally, Eastern thought is considered to be some thoughts extending from China, including Japan, South Korea, Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand and Vietnam, where most of the Chinese live, or are deeply influenced by Chinese culture.
Influence.
Sophistication in human relations, respect for teachers, orderliness between elders and young ones, etc. seem to be found only in the East. This is what many people think.
When talking about Asia or even the East, why do people only think of China? Because China has a complete system with a thousand-year heritage.
The ideas that extend from the Chinese system to Japan, South Korea and other places seem to run counter to those in the West, right? They always emphasize equality and freedom. Parents and children do not need so many restrictions, nor do superiors and subordinates.
What sense of distance etc.
The Chinese way of dealing with people and sophistication is useful in Japan and South Korea, but it seems useless in Europe, the United States and other places. You can give a gift, be rejected, and then be punished.
But this is not because human nature is useless, but because the method is wrong.
Let’s put it this way, the Chinese system of human relations and sophistication is definitely not universal, but it must be useful, because the underlying logic of human relations and sophistication is the exchange of emotions and interest exchanges, but the expression of each region is different.
If you can't recognize this and say this is useless, then you will always be at the bottom globally, do you understand?
For example, students here, like this student studying biology, if you encounter a problem, you ask your teacher or other industry-related personnel, and they tell you the answer, and you get it, then the next time they ask you
I have a question, or I ask you to do a small favor. Would you like to help or not?
If you refuse, the other party will not come to you next time, but if you still go to them, they can refuse. This is because you are asking unilaterally. Of course, the teacher can answer some of your professional questions. This is an obligation, but
What if you asked your teacher to help you with something outside of your duties one day?
The teacher helps you and then asks you to do something for him, such as running an errand. Do you go? If you go, this is an exchange of interests. You use your time and energy to help the teacher do these things.
, if you help the teacher clean the office and the teacher buys you a cup of coffee to thank you, then the cup of coffee will evolve into an emotional exchange.
It is inappropriate to use the metaphor of a teacher here. What I want to say is that exchange of interests and exchange of emotions have always existed, but they are expressed in different ways.
The things this classmate thought about and the questions he asked were actually that he had never exchanged emotions or interests with others.
The early results were due to your own exams, but it can be seen from them that you have no friends, you are lonely and proud.
What you hate is not sophistication, what you hate is your lack of sophistication, because now you define people who are better than you as being able to flatter and understand sophistication.
Have you ever thought that there is no one with whom you can communicate, at least here, who is less capable than you, but everyone may be exchanging something, and you are unwilling to exchange with others, so you have some emotions."
After Zhao Mingyang wrote this on the blackboard, he looked at the boy. The boy was a little overwhelmed and speechless by what Zhao Mingyang said.
All the students seemed to understand, but they didn't seem to understand.
Zhao Mingyang wrote the words "popular wisdom" on the blackboard and said: "The difference in popular wisdom is also a cultural difference. Easterners know that worldliness is useful and can help them in some aspects, but most people in the West do not understand
This is true, but a few people know it.
The ratio is different. Is it fair in the West? If it were fair, how could wealthy areas and credit-based schools appear? How could one go to school with a letter of recommendation? How could a century-old family appear?
Can you say that these things have nothing to do with worldliness? This group of people understands worldliness, but it is hidden, not straightforward, and not allowed to be known to others. But as long as they reach the elite level, they will know it by themselves.
That's why the gap between rich and poor in the West is so big because ordinary people don't even have the opportunity to be exposed to the world.
Therefore, most ordinary people in the West do not understand this. They only know pure buying and selling, which is the currency transaction model. They do not have a clear understanding and understanding of emotional exchange and interest exchange.
Not to mention that the West does not have sophistication in human nature. This is a huge misconception. It is just that the methods of application are different. The underlying logic is the same. Only a few people understand it in the West, but most people in the East understand it, so there is no need to be so implicit. Value
Not big. This is why many lower class people in the United States don’t like Asians.
Why don't you like it? Because Asians can quickly become elites in the United States, and because Asians know the underlying logic of human relations and sophistication, they can use this underlying logic to gain wealth instantly and live in wealthy areas.
This makes the mentality of the bottom class in Lao America collapse. They are jealous, so they hope that the students who raised this issue will not imitate the bottom class in Lao America.
Finally, let me say it again, you must be clear about the underlying logic of human relations and sophistication. Do not look at the bad side of this thing. If you deny it, it is useless. Instead, you must study what its underlying logic is and why it can always exist.
Let’s talk about what would happen if there was no capital in the world? What would happen? Don’t you have the answer by looking at past history? What was it like in the past when the word capital did not appear? You can go and take a look, you can find it.
It would be meaningless to say too much. Capital is not a good thing, but it has a sanctimonious order.
Everyone wants to live in a perfect world. Everything in this world is beautiful. Then this world must not be beautiful. Why? Because people in this world have no emotions and are all the same as robots. As long as
Emotions can lead to disagreements, and it is impossible for everyone to think the same way.
What you can do is use what you have learned to make this world a better place, but you must know that it can never be perfect unless human beings have no emotions. For example, you can donate your property to those in need for free.
?
You won't, right, because reason tells you that this is not a cost-effective thing, because you have to consider your future life, and you are already calculating the pros and cons, so the difference between you and capital is that you don't have the opportunity to get more
Big benefit, right?
Some people will always whimsically say that if they were rich and powerful, they would not be like that. That is because you have no chance to touch it, just like if you win 10 million, if all assumptions are to beautify others and vilify yourself,
Then this is the most terrifying thing.
You have to observe why people change, why they become like that, why they are like that, and whether they will become like that. When you are an employee, you always think about how to fish, and when you change from an employee to a boss, you always think about how to prevent employees from letting go.
When it comes to fishing, different standpoints will lead to different ideas.
Remember, it’s a given, because the positions and types of work are different, how can we achieve the same thing?”
"Teacher, I would like to ask, will the world become a better place?" A girl stood up and asked.
"I have said that this world is not perfect, but as long as you are strong, the world you see and the people around you will be good, because no one dares to show their bad side in front of you." Zhao Mingyang said.
After leaving with the lesson plan, the students' thinking is very interesting. They always want to change the world. Are they so capable? They still want to change the world even if they can't change themselves.
Zhao Mingyang made an appointment with Eiko Ito for dinner. At this time, Eiko Ito had already entered her family's company. She was an intern in college this year and went directly to her family's company for a few months as an intern. Now she has taken a management position in the branch.
When Zhao Mingyang saw Ito Eiko again, she had changed from JK to standard white-collar clothing.
With shawl hair, a white shirt, a black suit and black high heels, he already has the look of a manager.
This kind of children have the most innocent childhood and adolescence. They don't need to think too much about what age they should do. When it comes time for them to change their identities, their family members will quickly help them change their identities. They have someone to take care of them.
A simple understanding is that backward compatibility is easy, but upward compatibility is difficult. For example, Eiko Ito went to work at the grassroots level and quickly adapted to everyone's lifestyle and behavior. However, it is very difficult for this group of grassroots employees to quickly learn to deal with people above them, because the higher the
The higher you go, the higher the threshold required.
For example, the simplest thing is international perspective. This thing is so simple that ordinary people will never have it in their lifetime. Why? I have never been abroad at all. Once I went abroad, it was probably a cheap trip and working as a low-level worker abroad. I have never lived in other countries.
I have no experience and have never interacted with a group of elites abroad.
This thing requires money. Whether the second generation of rich people study abroad or study abroad, they use money to try and make mistakes to understand the customs and customs of various countries. The key is that they are not just traveling in one country, but traveling to multiple countries.
Living and traveling around the world is beyond the reach of ordinary people.
Of course, the shortcomings of the rich second generation are also very big, that is, their ability to withstand pressure and their tendency to insist on going their own way without listening to others' advice. They must show their own advantages in familiar fields. Once they start a business outside the family's familiar fields, it is most unacceptable.
If you fail, you will only fall deeper and deeper into wanting to prove yourself. You do it without any scruples, and most of the time it ends in failure.
Ito Eiko met Zhao Mingyang downstairs in their company. The two had a meal in a Western restaurant.
Ito Eiko looked at Zhao Mingyang and smiled: "Ming Yang is still so handsome,"
"Look at you, you have already entered the society, why do you still love to tell the truth so much, you have to know how to say polite words, and I am not only handsome, but also very good, you know." Zhao Mingyang said.
Ito Eiko suddenly turned red when Zhao Mingyang said it and kicked Zhao Mingyang under the dining table. Zhao Mingyang looked at Ito Eiko and said, "What's wrong? You got out of bed and refused to admit it? Don't you want to say that you are responsible for me?"
"Ming Yang-kun!" Ito Eiko said angrily, glaring at Zhao Mingyang with a red face.
"Look at you, why can't you make jokes at work? I've often heard you say some inappropriate words for children." Zhao Mingyang picked up the knife and fork and said.
"That was in private, this is a public place." Ito Eiko said with a blushing face.
"It's not okay for you to do this. If I talk to you here and you can't stand it, what will you do if other people tell you some dirty jokes? Others may make fun of you like this during a banquet.
, you become passive.
You have to know that in the business world, there are always a group of old men and perverts who like to make jokes that they find funny, and they will also make fun of young girls like you, so what should you do?" Zhao Mingyang looked at Ito Eiko.
asked.
Ito Eiko asked with a confused look: "What should I do?"
"Learn to change the subject, and never think about retaliating or changing yourself to make such jokes. If you retaliate, you will never end it. More than one person will do this, and you can't joke with the other person. If you make a joke, the other person will
It will feel like you are easy to get and the kind of person you can play with.
To understand your customers, be sure to inquire about their preferences in the circle in advance. If you can't find out, then don't go to see them by yourself. Take someone to chat with them. If it's a wine table and there are many people, then change the topic, such as
The other party makes a color joke, directly saying that the other party is using a bohemian appearance to cover up his lonely feelings, and starts to lead in another direction, so that the other party can hear that you don't like it and you want to praise the other party.
Or to shift the point of conflict, when you see the person the other person brings, for example, someone who is younger and more handsome than the other person, you say that you like this kind of young and handsome brother, ask the brother if he is married, and if he is married, say it is a pity and want to
He was introduced to the young girl from the company, and even though he said he was not married, he also said that he would introduce the young girl from the company to him later.
Let this person steal the limelight from the person who made the color joke, and create an invisible pull and comparison to create a gap between them. What people hate most is to be compared, especially when they do not have an advantage, such as color.
Worth the size, etc.
There will be more customers in the future, and there will be all kinds of people, and beauties like you are most likely to meet a group of old perverts and admirers. If you appear to be blushing, shy and at a loss even if you say a few words, they will only take advantage of you.
, get it.
You need to make them fear you to the fullest and see that you are mature rather than immature, and they will respect you to the fullest."
"I understand, I will remember it. The person you asked me to check for you has found it. Do you want to see it?" Ito Eiko said.
