Chapter 332 The steps of falling in love [Please vote for me, please give me a reward, please subscribe]
"Let me ask you a question, is the reason why you want to find a girlfriend physical or psychological?" Zhao Mingyang looked at Hao Ren and asked.
Hao Ren asked in confusion: "Is this important?"
"It's important, very important. You have to understand this before you can effectively pursue girls. First of all, physically, I can tell you clearly that you can fall in love very quickly.
And psychologically, you may not be able to fall in love for the rest of your life, that's the difference." Zhao Mingyang said.
"What do you mean? Why is there such a big difference? It's such a huge difference. Don't they say that only children make choices? I'm an adult, can't I have both?" Hao Ren said.
"No, ninety-nine percent of people can't. Let me tell you this, for physiological needs, you can lower the standards for your partner, and your chances of success will definitely be greater.
Psychological needs are too difficult. First of all, you will not compromise on your partner's standards. Most people, regardless of gender, must have good looks, a good figure, and preferably talent, and also have good health.
Understand you, basically you are a person who is infinitely close to perfection.
For such a partner, first of all, look at yourself in the mirror, are you worthy? What core competitiveness do you have compared to other men?
Are you good-looking? Are you in good shape? Are you talented? Do you have a nine-digit or eight-digit wealth balance? Do you even have a seven-digit balance?
Without these, it will be difficult for you to fulfill your psychological requirements. The only thing that is possible is when you are a student. You may find a girl who is better than yourself, but it will be difficult to reach the sky after graduation.
Therefore, it is very difficult to be satisfied with your psychological love, but it is not impossible. Even if I teach you step by step, it will take you a long time to achieve it, but what I mean by achieving it is that it is close to your psychological love.
needs rather than fully satisfying the conditions.
For example, the object of many men's dreams is a fairy sister, so what should they do? If they are not fairy sisters, they will not fall in love? Isn't it destined to be a bachelor?
After talking about the psychological aspect, let’s talk about the physical aspect, which is also a routine operation for many Neptunes, but it is also the only way for many people to fall in love. It depends on how you view and understand it.
To put it simply, physiological needs are beyond your head and you don’t need to consider so much, such as the other person’s family background, the other person’s past, the other person’s appearance and figure, etc.
You will infinitely lower your standards to pursue such a person, and what is your purpose? To get her and satisfy your physiological needs.
There is a very big potential risk in this premise, which is also the reason why many people overturn their cars directly. They do not pay attention to safety protection. After being happy for a while and having offspring, there is no way out. Therefore, the premise of physiological needs is to go out in a mobile phone case.
Hide a Smurf and pack a few spare ones in your clothes. As long as you don't win the bid, you have many options.
Many people who have never been in love are basically at this stage, where they don't take safety precautions for the first time, and then they get married."
Hao Ren listened, opened the notes on his phone and started taking notes. Zhao Mingyang looked at Hao Ren and said: "Stop doing it, it's useless if you do it. Turn off the phone. This is a private topic. If someone hears it, just
Sorry, you know this and I know it, don’t let the third person know, do you understand?”
Hao Ren nodded and looked left and right. He always felt that many people were peeping around them with their ears pricked up and their eyes wide open.
"Then I will choose the physical one. The psychological one will be left to my Qilin Arm." Hao Ren said.
"Physiologically, are you sure?" Zhao Mingyang looked at Hao Ren and asked.
"Sure." Hao Ren said.
Zhao Mingyang thought for a moment and looked at Hao Ren and said: "Physically, as long as you master a skill, be thick-skinned and not shy, there will basically be no problem.
For example, if you go to a shopping mall on the street to buy clothes, will the female shopping guide try to sell you clothes? What should you do? "
"What should I do?" Hao Ren said.
"Add the other party's WeChat account. The other party will usually let you add the company. If she doesn't give you a personal one, she won't be able to sell you. And many will add you on WeChat.
Is it for the sake of performance? After you added WeChat, you chatted and made various appointments to invite each other to dinner. You added ten female shopping guides to WeChat and made five appointments for dinner. Then from these five dinner appointments and chats, you
Now that you know how to get along with girls, you can choose from these five people for the next step of chatting, shopping, and trying to hold hands. As long as you hold hands, it means that the other party does not reject you. This is the next step of exploration.
Generally, if a girl agrees to go out with you on a date alone, she has a good impression of you. If you ask a girl out for the first time but fail to ask her out for the second time, it means she is not satisfied with your first date. You are trying.
Give it a try. If you make an appointment for the third time, you will be given another chance. You must seize this opportunity and make sure the other party is satisfied.
If you keep going on consecutive dates and suddenly don’t come out, it’s basically a guarantee that the other person may have a new goal.
If I keep dating you but don't let you go any further, I'm treating you like a backup tire and a cash machine.
You must learn to analyze a girl's thoughts and motivations in order to achieve a quick and effective relationship.
I don’t mean to let you stare at the female shopping guide in a clothing store, but it’s an example. It could also be someone selling tea, cosmetics, mobile phones, etc. These are all service-oriented industries. If you add WeChat, you will be rejected.
The probability is relatively low and the success rate is relatively high.
Then cast the net widely. When you have successfully practiced this step, you will not be afraid of being alone with girls. After dating many times, you will have experience and know how to get along with girls quickly.
The one you make an appointment with in the early stage will definitely not be the best-looking among all the shopping guides. It may be the average-looking one, so you need to adjust your mentality to see if you can accept it. If you can, then take action.
If you have accepted and done all of the above, you have taken a big step towards success. Then the next step is to make an appointment directly with the netizens you chatted with online. Most of these people are active online. In fact, many of them have social phobia.
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And as long as you make an appointment, you have all the initiative, and the success rate is very high.
If you are chatting online but still want to flirt in real life, the safest way is to find a local matchmaking company, pay the membership fee, and let the other party try their best to introduce you to a blind date.
Let me introduce you to the next person.
What exists here is the first step, lower your aesthetic requirements, quickly develop a relationship with the other person, start low and go high, when you have talked to a girl with whom you have had close contact more than twice.
You can then target girls with good family backgrounds or good figures. At this stage, you have basically mastered the steps of formulating a relationship.
And all of this requires you to be thick-skinned. For example, the first step is to add a female shopping guide on WeChat and make an appointment to go out for dinner. Many people don’t dare and are shy, but as long as you do it, it will be awkward the first time, the second time, the third time, and the fifth time.
Second-rate.
You have basically controlled the pace of the chat, you can change the topic, arrange the routine process for the two of you to be together, and give the other party the best experience. You also know what to say to make a girl happy and what to say to make a girl angry.
All you need to do is find something to say to make the other person happy. The core is physiological needs, and the girls you have dated again and again in the early stage can give you accumulated experience.
As long as you have been in love more than three times, congratulations, at this time you can start low and go high, and go high in the middle, to seek higher quality, such as satisfying your psychology, and only find blind dates that match your psychology.
According to the standards above, some girls on the Internet can achieve spiritual resonance with you if they chat well with you.
As long as you understand what girls like, give them what they like, and make them happy, and coax them well, the girls will quickly go to the hotel with you without resisting.
Sometimes it’s not necessarily about money, looks and figure. Many Neptunes have average looks, average figures, and no money. How can they be liked by girls?
Because they can coax, lie, and put effort into it, and the skills of falling in love can be improved. The results of one, two, and three times are different. As long as you have fallen in love twice, you will basically never feel sorry for not having it in your life.
The other half is worried.
What I’m talking about is a platonic love that we’ve had close contact with. That’s not called love. At most, it’s like finding a chat partner.”
