I don’t have time to type today, so let’s talk about something that happened recently.
The first piece.
Our community needs to replace the air-conditioning company with a new one. We were introduced to a company A. The other party clearly expressed their intention to cooperate. However, since the unit had already passed the warranty, we entrusted individual B. Through B's relationship, we asked the manufacturer to send someone to repair it. Then B took care of it today.
Company C came to contact me. After seeing the unit, I asked if I would like to entrust Company C with the hosting operation.
I was confused at the time. Didn’t I discuss cooperation with Company A? Why did it suddenly become Company C? In the afternoon, I called Company A. Company A was also confused and said that it only asked Company B to help contact the manufacturer.
I don’t know that B has found Company C.
The second thing.
That's what I said yesterday, the mother-in-law is acting like a monster again.
It was probably a few days ago, I can't remember the exact date, but it was during the May Day holiday anyway.
Because we had something to do the next day, my wife and I needed my mother-in-law’s help with taking care of the kids for a day, so we contacted her in advance and agreed to send the kids to her house after dinner.
Then my mother-in-law had a sudden idea. She never came to pick up the child, so she came over to pick up the child that day and said she wanted to take the child out to eat.
Nothing happened when I got here, but then when I saw that it was already seven o'clock, the mother-in-law was still sitting still and had no intention of moving. The wife tactfully reminded the child that he had not eaten well at noon, and hoped that the mother-in-law could take the child to eat early.
What do you think my mother-in-law said? They said she was doing a task by watching videos. After watching this lecture video, she could get thirty eggs. Let the children eat some snacks first and wait for her to finish watching the videos before leaving.
I was furious at that time. Taking my wife's face into account, I didn't tell her directly. I just changed my clothes and said that I would take the children out to eat and let my mother watch the video. The children would be at home tomorrow and I would watch it myself.
My mother-in-law also noticed that I was angry, so she smiled very awkwardly and said, "You can't be angry with me just because of this? Then I won't read it. I will take the children to eat now."
I said no, I'll take him to eat and I'll see for myself tomorrow.
My wife was standing by to persuade me, and she finally persuaded me to go back to the house.
Do you think this is over? This is just the beginning.
The next day, my mother-in-law called my daughter-in-law, crying and scolding her, saying that I didn't respect her, saying that she had spent so much money on us over the years, and in the end she was still angry with me. If it weren't for my daughter-in-law, she would have to
Come and argue with me, ask me what she has done to me over the years, and so on, blah blah blah.
My daughter-in-law has been very angry with her, a top-notch mother, for so many years. She will retaliate directly. If you want to argue with him, just come over. Why are you telling me this? Did he say anything to you from the beginning to the end? You
Have you forgotten that you told people to go back to the Northeast because they couldn't get used to the food you cooked? You said bad things about his father in front of your children and made them cry. You were so aggrieved that you said nothing about the children you raised by yourself.
He went back to kiss his parents. Are you saying this as a grandma?
My mother-in-law started telling lies. I never said these things. Anyway, I am old. It is wrong for him to talk to me like that! I thought about it all night last night, and the more I thought about it, the colder I became. I will never give to you again in the future.
, I won’t help you anymore. If you want money again, you ask him to write me an IOU. I have to tell him carefully, why does he disrespect me, and how can I feel sorry for him all these years?
He said again and again.
There have been many similar things in the past. Some people may not understand it or realize there is a problem. I can tell you a term called NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). If you are interested, you can look it up.
My mother-in-law is the most typical NPD. Her only criterion for everything is money. If I spend money on you, it is good for you. If you pay me anything, as long as it is not money, I will not admit that you have paid. I am old,
You must respect me, I am the eldest sister, and the whole family must listen to me. I have never gone to school, but no one is allowed to say that I am uneducated. You must follow everything I say, otherwise you will be stiff. If
After poking at Lou Zi, she can be completely wiped out by saying "I didn't expect that", and then you have to wipe her butt of the mess left behind.
Jealous of all the people around her who are better than her and happier than her, even relatives will slander them behind the scenes, or even make up lies to ruin that person's reputation. She is unwilling to work hard to improve others' evaluation of herself, but instead relies on belittling to attack her.
The other party comes to promote themselves, and once they are counterattacked by the other party, they will become hysterical. Then they will use their only support and rely on their seniority and age to force the other party to bow their heads and admit their mistakes.
Many psychologists say that the best way to deal with NPD is to stay away, but family members cannot do this. They can only find ways to save themselves - as long as I have no morals, no one can use morality to kidnap me.