"Do you want a filial child in the future, or do you want a child who is alienated from you but capable?" After a long silence, Canglong's tone changed. It was no longer heavy and thorny, but a little softer.
Parents look at each other in confusion. Whether they are entrepreneurs or civil servants, ordinary citizens or private owners, migrant workers or locals, their identities may be different, but they all hope that their future children will be filial.
The second thing is that they are capable.
It was just Canglong's words that alerted them, because their education methods were indeed leading their children to a path that would alienate them in the future. It might not be as terrible as Canglong said, but the impact would definitely be great.
As for the 18-year-old Class 9 students, they never expected that their usually unreasonable parents would be persuaded by Teacher Cang's words. There was even a lot of thorns in these words, although they can't understand it yet.
The true meaning of the words, but they knew that Teacher Cang did not betray them.
Not telling the truth about handing in a blank paper made many students feel guilty. If it were them, their first thought would be to distance themselves from the problem and pass the responsibility on to others.
"Teacher Cang, we misunderstood you!" Zuo Yu's father stood up first and saluted Cang Long with a standard military salute, "No matter what the status of our parents is, I hope Teacher Cang can pay more attention to the education of our children in the future.
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Canglong just nodded. Being understood by parents was actually the greatest relief for a teacher. Other parents also stood up one after another to express their apologies and asked Canglong to worry more.
Even Yun Feiyang's aunt squeezed out a smile. Although Canglong's words didn't sound good, the truth was there. And if Canglong didn't give strong medicine, it would be nothing more than a deaf ear for parents whose values had already been formed.
A gust of wind blew past and passed away.
"In fact, you all know the truth, but once it is applied to your own children, it is completely different. And what I want to tell you is that in fact, schools are not the best education point, but family is the best education point.
You are the closest people to your children, and you are also their teachers. There is no barrier between parents and children. There is an old Chinese saying, once a teacher, always a father. In fact, it is not just that teachers should treat students as
Looking at your own children, another meaning is that parents are their children's best teachers, but few people can understand this." Canglong said lightly.
These words made all the parents present look ashamed. As Canglong said, what in this world can compare with his own biological parents, such teachers? They gave birth to and raised them, but in fact their behavior
, is a criterion.
Parents' education of their children is also the most influential part of their lives. If they teach them well, they will naturally have a filial and upright heart in the future. If they teach them bad things, they will naturally become rebellious, especially towards their parents.
Rebellion.
"Then what should we do?" one of the parents suddenly asked.
"I can't teach you this, because if I asked you to put down your work, spend more time with your children, and care more about them, you would definitely say that you are very busy, right?" Canglong showed a smile.
This sentence not only makes the parents feel ashamed, but also the students in Class 9 are deeply touched, because in their memories, most of the time, their parents are quarreling for various reasons, or simply divorced, and few people can care about it.
When it comes to their children's feelings, many parents think that their children are ignorant and do not understand at all, but in fact, as soon as their children start to remember things, they will understand.
It’s just that these things are stored in their memories, becoming the most profound memories of their childhood, and affecting their lives. For many children, childhood memories are happy because they have a good parent.
Parents who understand this, and for most children, their parents are in various situations that they don't understand.
"However, we are indeed very busy." One of the parents said, "The pressure of life is already a bit breathless. Moreover, children nowadays have a stronger and stronger comparison mentality, and we are afraid that they will suffer in school.
Even though I feel wronged, I always want to give him the best."
"That's because of your education problems since childhood, and also because you said you were busy and alienated them. Because you were busy, you gave them a lot of things they didn't need, and these things became their capital for comparison. This kind of education only
It will make you fall into a never-ending bottomless pit, because human desires are endless. The older the children grow up, the more they ask for and the greater their dependence on their parents. You think that giving them these is doing them a favor.
The best education, in fact, is not love, which is what parents should give their children, not cold toys." Canglong glanced at all the parents.
Whether the family situation is good or not, almost all of them inherit this concept, which is to give the children what they want and make them satisfied. But in fact, they will not be satisfied. What is cultivated is their appetite and makes them satisfied.
Become more and more dependent on their parents.
"Teacher Cang, I don't agree with what you said. We are busy, but we also have time at home. We and I work every day just to make money and to feed him well and clothe him well so that he is no worse than anyone else.
, what else does he need? I just can’t understand why other people’s children are so sensible, why are our children so..." One of the parents stood up and said.
"Children from other families?" Canglong shook his head, "Every family has its own problems. I think my own children are the best. There is no need to compare my own children with other people's children. Everyone here
With so many parents comparing their minds to each other, whose child is perfect? Maybe you always say in front of others, how are our children, but when it comes to your family, are your children really perfect?"
As soon as this sentence came out, the parent looked at the other parents. No matter whether the family situation was good or bad, they stopped talking. In fact, parents usually just compare themselves with each other. Everyone acquiesced to this.
Because I think my own children are outstanding, I compare them with other people’s children.
I got a high score in the exam, so I want to compare with myself. I want to compare with what awards I got. I also want to compare with those who have been admitted to a key high school.
Therefore, children learn from their parents that if they have any good things, they should show them off, which naturally arouses the competitiveness of other children.
The reason why they don't talk is precisely because every family has a difficult lesson. In fact, their children are not that good. However, sometimes whether the children are good or not is related to the reputation of the parents. This vicious cycle of education model finally fails.
It is the parents themselves who suffer the consequences.
But reality is like this. Most people succumb to reality because they are afraid, because they are their own children, so they dare not not do it, and sometimes because of their own face.
Therefore, in many people's childhoods, there is a "other people's child" that can never be surpassed.
The child of another family is always superior to oneself and does everything better than oneself. It is as if one is not the biological child of the parents, but the child of the other family is the biological child of the parents. It is precisely because of this comparison that it creates consequences for the child.
The trauma caused them to alienate their parents and eventually rebel.
"If it is really good for your children, give them more silent love and care, spend more time with them, and let them learn to make their own choices instead of you arranging a path for them and letting them go on. The children will naturally
Children have to walk their own path. Parents only need to help them walk a step before they can stand up. In the end, it is they who have to walk through life. You cannot dictate which way they go, nor can you restrict their freedom of walking.
, because you will always grow old, and you will not be able to catch up with them at that time, and you can only watch them getting further and further away from you from a distance." Canglong said lightly.
"Is this really possible? They are not sensible yet, so how can we let them make their own choices?" Yun Feiyang's aunt immediately disagreed, "If we really let them make their own choices, what will happen if something goes wrong? In the end, the person responsible is still responsible.
Isn’t it us parents? Teacher Cang, your words are too light, and you don’t have children, so your words are not trustworthy enough.”
For a moment, everyone looked at Cang Long, even the students. Teacher Cang has no children. Can you really believe what he said?
"There is an old saying in China that the authorities are obsessed with it, but bystanders know clearly. You say I don't have children, but I also grew up as a child. Sometimes outsiders can see it more clearly than you parents, because you are parents, so you don't dare to let you
Your children have left your side, and you don’t dare to let them run on their own, and run their own lives.” Canglong protracted the last five words in a heavy tone.
My own life has silenced all parents.
But there are still some people who don't agree with this statement, because it is too unacceptable for children to make their own choices. How can such an older child judge right from wrong? But they did not hear Cang Long's words and helped them go.
for a while and then let them go on their own.
The parents are too deeply poisoned, and their values have been solidified. Even if Canglong wants to change them, it will be difficult, and Canglong has never thought that he can change them. He just hopes that what he said today can be remembered by the parents of Class 9,
You can try it in the future.
People have this mentality. Once someone says that a certain method will work, they will try it, which is why they spend so much time talking about it.
Otherwise, if he had just slapped the table at the beginning and showed his murderous intent, few parents would be able to look at him, even for a moment.
After all the parents left, the students in Class 9 returned to the classroom, all with their heads lowered.
Not only did Teacher Cang not betray them, but he gave all their parents a political lesson from their perspective. This was entirely for their sake. The person who was most touched by these words was not the parents, but the Class 9 students sitting here.
students, because every one of them has been compared by that "other people's children"...