When a nobleman under his banner marries a wife, three matchmakers, three letters, and six etiquette are indispensable. Anything less would be disrespectful to the woman!
The "three matchmakers" refer to the man's matchmaker, the woman's matchmaker and the big matchmaker who connects the two parties.
The "three letters" refer to the documents used in the "six rites" process, including letters of appointment, letters of etiquette and letters of welcome.
The "six rites" refer to the entire marriage process from proposal to marriage, including receiving gifts, asking for names, accepting gifts, accepting invitations, asking for dates and welcoming in person.
According to the customs of his family, most of the betrothal gifts given by the man to the woman when she gets married must be brought into her husband's family as part of the dowry.
However, after the betrothal gift turned into a dowry, it became the woman's legal private property and was protected by the laws of the Qing Dynasty.
Everything listed in the dowry list will be inherited by the woman's legitimate sons and has nothing to do with the concubines.
Banner people love to save face, especially when it comes to marrying off their daughters.
For ordinary families with many daughters at home, it is a problem to have enough food, let alone meat.
There are many Bannermen who became poor overnight because they married off their daughters.
The fourth child is not only the dignified Prince Heshuoyong, but also the prince in charge of the Ministry, which shows his authority.
According to the principle of reciprocity, the big matchmaker Yuzhu invited was none other than Prince Heshuoheng Laowu.
The great matchmaker hired by the fourth child was Ma Qi, a scholar from Wuyingdian Palace.
As for the great matchmaker in the middle, he was designated by the old emperor as Wang Laoqi of Dorochun County.
Lao Wu, Lao Qi, Ma Qi and Yu Zhu sat around the table and discussed the ceremony together.
Nazheng means that the man sends a betrothal gift to the woman's home.
"Fifth Master, Yingqing, to be honest with you, Sifujin said it himself, our family does not have so many complicated things to pay attention to, and the ceremony of accepting the invitation should not be too extravagant." Since Ma Qi is the big matchmaker hired by the woman, he naturally wants to do it.
Speak for the fourth child.
Sifujin's statement was clearly because he was afraid that Yuzhu would lose his dignity in the future if he gave too many betrothal gifts.
Lao Wu knew well that although Lao Si was a prince with a double salary, his family background was obviously not as strong as Yuzhu's.
Yuzhu also understands the difficulties of the fourth child. The fourth child is not good at running a family, and his private career is very extensive. The expenses in the palace have always been stretched thin.
However, Yuzhu also has difficulties.
Xiao Xuanyu is Xiuyun's biological son. How could Xiuyun be willing to let her son lose his dignity in major life events?
Lao Qi was a sensible person. He knew that it was not convenient for Lao Wu and Yu Zhu to come forward to bargain, so he smiled and said, "Sister-in-law Si is afraid that Yu Zhu will spend too much money."
As the saying goes, if everything is smooth and smooth, no one will be offended!
Lao Wu understood Xiuyun's thoughts very well, so he took advantage of the situation and smiled and said: "In the past, Fourth Brother and Zhu Di agreed that the betrothal gift was one hundred thousand taels of silver. Now, it is still the same as before. However, the money for making the bed is counted separately.
I won’t send it to Fourth Brother’s palace, lest outsiders say that Fourth Brother and Fourth Sister-in-law like to show off.”
Ma Qi immediately understood that the apparent betrothal gift was only one hundred thousand taels of silver. However, in private, Xiuyun took the lead as usual in making the bed.
Think about it, how much money will your mother secretly put into your son's wedding?
This matter involves an issue of decency, Ma Qi must ask the question clearly for the fourth child.
"I don't know, how much money do you plan to give to Xuanyu and Eni?"
Lao Wu had already been angry with Yu Zhu, so he immediately stretched out his five fingers and turned them eight times.
"Eight hundred thousand taels?" Ma Qi's eyes widened and he said subconsciously, "Where can I shop for this small mountain of silver?"
Lao Wu smiled brightly and explained: "If they are all replaced with gold leaves, they won't take up much space."
"No, this is too disrespectful to Fourth Master." Ma Qi shook his head like a rattle.
Lao Wu glared and said angrily: "This can't be done, that can't be done either, how can it be done?"
"The gold leaves used to make the bed don't come with the betrothal gift, so why not?" Lao Qi received the signal and hurried out to smooth things over.
Ma Qi was stunned by the question, blinked, and sighed: "People are poor but have short ambitions!"
Yuzhu smiled hoarsely, Ma Qi openly cried for the fourth child, and they couldn't go too far.
"Since eight hundred thousand taels of gold leaves is too much, how about halving it?" Yuzhu has already given in to Xiuyun's bottom line and cannot give in anymore.
In fact, Yuzhu really didn't care how much money he gave Xiaoxuanyu in private.
Xiaoxuanyu came into the family with a wife, and he was really short of money to spend, so Xiuyun could just secretly supplement the money.
However, Xiuyun was worried that she would wrong her own son, so she insisted on the name of making bed money.
After several people reached an agreement, they started a banquet to have wine.
During the dinner, Ma Qi deliberately talked about Lao Shi4, who was about to return to Beijing.
"The discussion office was very noisy and couldn't come to a conclusion." Ma Qi picked up the wine glass in his hand and looked at Yuzhu with a smile.
Neither Lao Wu nor Lao Qi knew the details of Ma Qi. But how could Yu Zhu not know?
Lao Qi and Lao Wu looked at each other, lowered their heads in unison, picked up a large dish of fast food, put it into their mouths, and deliberately chewed it carefully.
It was even more impossible for Yuzhu to mention the Fourteenth's return to Beijing. He raised his glass and invited him to drink with a smile, deliberately avoiding the sensitive topic.
Ma Qi is also an old man. After seeing this, he knew that the three of them did not want to talk about the topic of the fourteenth old man, so he shut his mouth knowingly.
After the banquet broke up, Yuzhu told Xiuyun the complete results of today's discussion.
Xiuyun thought for a while and said, "Master, if we do this, will we offend the fourth child?"
Yuzhu smiled slightly and said: "Don't worry, even if it is ten times worse, the fourth child will not be able to complain at all."
The fourth child, who is already in his forties, has an extremely mature mentality. He fully understands the priorities.
From Uncle Longkodo to the sinner Longkodo, after the fourth son ascended the throne, he made secret arrangements for more than four years.
Before he ascended the throne, the fourth child clearly knew that Nian Gengyao was secretly friends with the third child and the eighth child, but he did not mention it at all.
Although Yuzhu and Laosi are serious in-laws, Yuzhu knows very well that even if he is a member of the Fourth Ye Party, the relationship between him and Laosi will break up sooner or later.
Under the supreme imperial power, how can others be allowed to sleep soundly next to the bed?
From Longkodo, Nian Gengyao, to Yuzhu, none of them were important ministers promoted by Lao Si himself.
The rules of the power game are both clear and cruel.
People who are not promoted by Lao Si are like people who are not from my race. Their hearts must be different. How can they really be trusted?
The fourth child is indeed a mature politician. Before he gained power, his body was extremely soft.
The last time he met Yuzhu, his title had become Yuzhu's younger brother.
The matter of making the bed was not only Xiuyun's insistence, but it was also Yuzhu's small test of the fourth child.
As long as the fourth child accepts the bed-making money through Ma Qi, it means that the fourth child fully realizes the importance of the jade pillar.
Today's Yuzhu has more strength than Long Ke in history, and is much more powerful. How could Lao Si not pay close attention to it?
As expected, a few days later, the fourth child sent a message to Yuzhu through Ma Qi, and the dowry was increased to two hundred thousand taels.