After the bonfire party, everyone cleaned up the debris on the ground. This time they also learned a lesson. The large group returned to the Stone House first, leaving only a few people to work, but they worked faster than before.
It was already very late when we went back, and most of them went to their own rooms to sleep, because many people had drunk. When Schiller woke up early the next morning, he found that no one was there, and everyone was still sleeping.
However, his biological clock was very stable, so he planned to make something to eat first. Just as he was checking the ingredients in the refrigerator, he suddenly heard footsteps on the stairs.
He turned around and saw an unexpected person, it was Reed.
Schiller and Reed don't actually know each other well. They may have some overlap at work, but they have no contact at all in private.
But as soon as Reed appeared, Schiller knew that he was here for him. This was not really because he could read minds. The main reason was that Reed's eyes were so sleepy that he could hardly open them. At first glance, he was forcibly turning on the phone. These guys
No scientist has a normal routine.
Since he was not used to getting up early at all, there was no need to say what he wanted to do by getting up so early and going downstairs so early.
Schiller originally planned to make a sandwich, but looking at the situation, he decided to fry an egg to deal with it. For the sake of politeness, he fried a total of four eggs, made two cups of coconut milk, and brought it to the island next to it.
superior.
The smell of fried eggs made Reed wake up a little, and he smiled sheepishly at Schiller. The two of them sat on both sides of the island, eating breakfast and chatting.
There was no need to say more about Reed's purpose. In fact, he didn't plan to say anything because Susan's performance yesterday had convinced him that Schiller could read minds.
Speaking of Reed Richards, the first reaction of many people is that he is a troublemaker. However, many of the more famous catastrophes caused by him were not caused by Mr. Fantastic in the main universe, that is to say, they were not caused by the comics.
Wei Zhengshi is a parallel universe.
But that doesn’t mean Reed in the main universe is that good. He is half responsible for the Illuminati’s notorious reputation. In earlier comics, he once used all the team’s funds to speculate in stocks and lost everything.
Such things, in short, he is not a good person.
In Schiller's view, Reed is not mentally ill, has no personality defects, is mentally stable, and is considered a normal person.
But one of his biggest problems is his lack of responsibility. This is also the main reason why he is so talented, but his personality is not popular and he lacks charisma.
The lack of responsibility is not only reflected in major events, but also has a more serious impact in daily life.
Maybe many people have met this kind of person in real life. They are highly educated and skilled. They don't look stupid at first glance. Their mental state is quite stable. They even show unparalleled performance in some aspects.
Talented, but you just aren't attracted to him.
This is actually very counter-intuitive, because social status, personal abilities, emotional stability, and emotional appeal are all important components of personality charm. Usually people who have these things must be very popular, even if they only have one of them.
The two of them will also be very lovable and very popular.
For example, some people have no talent, but their emotions are extremely stable, as if everything has a solution. As soon as you see them, you will feel that there are no obstacles in the world that you can't overcome. Such people will definitely have many close friends for many years.
Or some people have a bad temper and love to go crazy, but they are unique in their own professional field and have extremely strong abilities. Many people will be unconsciously attracted by his talents and surround him.
Looking at Reed again, he is very famous for his talent, has a very high status in the scientific community, and is very emotionally stable. Even Stark, who despises him the most, has never seen him get angry. A little bit of yin and yang.
He also has no obvious symptoms of bad behavior, such as not being able to read the atmosphere, not being able to understand the emotions conveyed by others, etc.
If that's the case, why on earth is he so unpopular?
In fact, the answer is that subconsciously, he did not realize that he should be responsible for all his words and deeds.
For example, when everyone is arrogant, Stark scolded the iPhone camera for not being as good as a professional camera. As a result, Pepper happened to be taking photos with the iPhone. This situation was very embarrassing, just like you As soon as I spoke ill of someone to others, that person appeared.
Stark's reply about "turning shit into gold" sounded very ridiculous and seemed to have no emotional intelligence. Fortunately, Pepper had a high emotional intelligence and replied half-jokingly and half-reprimanding, and the matter was over.
However, the most important thing is Stark's attitude of redeeming himself after he discovers that he said something wrong. Regardless of the method he uses to redeem himself, or whether he can actually take back what he said, the most important thing is this attitude.
But if it is Reed, after he curses something and then finds that someone else is using it, he will not try to redeem it. He does not feel that he is responsible for the words he said, nor does he feel that he If you say something that hurts someone, you are responsible for it.
This will cause him to say something and hurt someone, and they are waiting for him to redeem him, but he doesn't even have an embarrassed expression and forgets about it after two seconds.
Over time, there will be countless such things, and others are not stupid, so why do they have to get stabbed next to him? Naturally, there will be fewer and fewer people around him.
Reed also found it very puzzling. He did not do anything bad to these people, and he had no ill intentions, but others suddenly ignored him.
When he went to ask these people again, they all looked like "Don't you know what you did?"
Then De felt even more confused. What did I do? I never hindered you, and I never had a quarrel with you. Why do you have such a bad attitude towards me?
As everyone knows, adults actually understand that you cannot be a person who will never hurt others emotionally, whether intentionally or unintentionally, this is impossible. The key is how sorry you are after hurting others.
Emotion is the exact opposite of justice. They say that delayed justice is not justice, but this is not the case emotionally. No matter how late an apology comes, it is an apology, even if you apologize ten years later, even if it is the person you apologize to.
He doesn't even remember what you did to him, but as long as you are honest with him and apologize, he will feel that you are a sincere person.
Although not expressing apology can completely make up for the harm, human emotions are contagious. If he can detect your true guilt and be touched by this emotion, he will naturally be able to eliminate the resentment in his heart, at least
It also gives him a reason to forgive you.
Even if you don't really feel guilty, even if you look sorry, it is in line with social moral requirements. Generally speaking, being sorry for hurting others is one of the important criteria for society to define a good person, and you have to pretend.
come out.
And people who obviously have all the characteristics of charisma are not popular, mainly because they can't even pretend, and they don't even have an attitude.
At first, many people may be confused by the appearance, thinking that this person is really talented, and it is an honor to be associated with him, and they unconsciously pursue them.
But people who lack a sense of responsibility cannot hide their fox tail. They will not consider anyone's feelings, and their unapologetic behavior is sharper than anything. As long as you have been in contact with them for a period of time, you will feel their contrast.
People with bad tempers are more unreasonable and even feel that they are not human at all. The fear caused by this sense of alienation will drive people to flee.
There are some people like Reed who do not think they should be responsible, and some people are aware that they should be responsible but avoid responsibility.
For example, the phrase "what you say will cause water to be thrown out" is a typical evasion of responsibility. Although it also has the meaning of warning people to think carefully before speaking, it is more often used to say something without thinking.
Later, I used it as an excuse to escape when I was wondering whether to redeem myself.
What you say is indeed water thrown out, and you can't take it back. But you can't just throw water on everyone in the cold winter and walk away like that. Not to mention handing over a towel, at least you can say it.
Sorry?
Of course, some people must say that I don’t have high emotional intelligence and I can’t speak. The more I try to make up for my previous verbal mistakes, the more annoying I become, so I might as well shut up.
This is actually a typical avoidance mentality that is of no benefit to interpersonal communication. The key to apologizing is to show attitude, which is emotional contagion, rather than logical persuasion.
If you think about it carefully, many people in life start to cry after getting into trouble. They can't even say anything, and the people around them will comfort them instead. No one apologizes like a speech, and has to tell the whole story.
Come on.
Rather, the more logical and matter-of-fact you are at this time, the easier it will be to shirk responsibility. It is better to express your emotions directly, use your emotions to infect others, and make them realize that you are indeed feeling sorry for the harm you have caused before, and express
This is not what you originally intended.
Another advantage of doing this is that in case old scores come up in the future, you can completely ignore the fact that you got into trouble and focus on describing how sad you were crying at the time. You can also express it if you are a little more shameless.
It means "I was so sad at the time, but you were still concerned about that matter."
This is indeed very confusing, but again, the secret of social suppression is never to be unreasonable.
Judging from Schiller's experience, Reed's lack of responsibility is the most severe symptom he has ever seen, permeating every aspect of his life and even seriously affecting his daily life.
The most intuitive thing is that he has no friends.
The Fantastic Four were not formed, they were not bound together by superpowers, Reed had almost no friends in his life, and the comics never mentioned that he had any personal friends.
In fact, if Reed Richards wasn't so talented, he would have gone out on the street begging for food given his severe lack of responsibility.
But precisely because Reed is so talented, this is an unsolvable knot, and Schiller has to forcefully untie it for him, because humans still need Reed’s wisdom. If we don’t treat him, how will technology progress? How will humans do it?
develop?
The most important thing is, without the famous cosmic destruction engine of the multiverse, what can he use to threaten those cosmic administrators?