After listening to Qian Wen's words, Nan Li nodded repeatedly. Huanhuan is like this now, not as sensible as before.
If the spanking is not allowed, the adults will feel distressed, and the child will cry when reprimanded, and then the cycle will continue. Within a few days, Huanhuan will be the same again.
Now it gives her a headache.
It’s not that you have to make up lessons and study to death, but Huanhuan’s grades are just as high as they are. If you get them again in the future, your current social studies degree is your golden key and the shortest way to success. If your child is young and doesn’t understand, she
Don’t you know that forcing a child to study means being forced into helplessness, and she wouldn’t do this even if she had the slightest choice?
"Yan Peng, I have thought about this too, but we are getting closer and closer to Xiaoshengchu, and it is too late to slowly correct Huanhuan.
One step at a time, one step at a time, I don't want Huanhuan to regret it later." Nan Li said with a headache.
"I'm not talking about correcting Huanhuan, but correcting you and Xia Junshan." Qian Wen looked at Nan Li and said.
"Ah?" Nan Li didn't understand and looked at Qian Wen doubtfully.
Tian Yulan also looked over.
"You still don't understand the point of what I'm saying. Huanhuan's current lack of resistance to pressure, willfulness, short temper, and rebellious mentality are all caused by you and Xia Junshan.
After pampering Huanhuan for more than ten years, you have suddenly changed a lot. You need to be taught strictly. Let alone a child, even adults find it difficult to accept and react.
What you have to do now is to unite the two of you and discuss clearly what you want to give your children. There are gains and losses. For ordinary children, happiness and learning are opposites.
If you want good grades, start from now on. One person will be the bad guy, and the other will be the red face. Let Huanhuan slowly adapt to learning. You must know that the transition from primary school to junior high school is just a small hurdle in your learning career. The subsequent high school entrance examination and college entrance examination will be more difficult every step. You guys
Can you keep forcing your children to study, otherwise they will go crazy sooner or later?
If you want to be happy, then find Huanhuan's hobbies and interests and develop Huanhuan's advantages first. Although reading is a shortcut, interest is a person's motivation and the key to a person's success.
Doing what you like can make people feel happy and get rid of boredom.
That way there will be no conflict between you and Huanhuan, and she will naturally have no rebellious mentality."
Qian Wen took a sip of coffee, looked at Nan Li, and saw that she was listening carefully, and continued, "Don't be affected by other parents and the current teaching environment, be assimilated by these anxieties, and blindly follow the trend.
The child is still young, and one performance or temporary trough cannot prove the child's future. The child is not sensible, and we adults cannot be blindly anxious. Just like the learning in the Fengfan Elementary School is a marathon, not a sprint, it will never determine success or failure in the moment.
We parents must steer our children well and know what is best for our children.
Like our Ziyou, whose grades are okay and have a certain resistance to learning. He can accept the pressure of the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination step by step. He is more suitable for taking the exam and finding a path to success that suits him in his studies. For example, Ziyou likes
He likes insects, fungi, and living things. To achieve these things, he needs to get good grades. Naturally, he won't be too bored with studying.
As for Huanhuan, she has a cheerful personality, likes to sing and dance, is not shy, is elegant, has a sweet appearance, and is not very interested in learning. However, the child is smart and I dare not say how good she is in learning. But with the right guidance, her grades will definitely be lower.
Too bad. Developing Huanhuan's hobbies, singing and dancing, and becoming a dancer, host, or artist in the future are all options for children.
We adults need to consider these things in advance for our children. Children are like small boats in the vast sea. We are the helmsmen who have experienced rough waves. We must clearly choose what is suitable for our children.
Especially today's children are not like our era, where each one is more valuable than the other and they are pampered. They are more willful and rebellious, and their parents have less understanding.
We can force them temporarily and make them do what we want, but sooner or later there will be problems.
Like..."
When Qian Wen said this, he looked at Tian Yulan and hesitated, wondering whether he should talk about Ziyou's mental illness some time ago.
"Like what? Why didn't you say anything all of a sudden?" Nan Li was listening intently and felt that she had been inspired, but suddenly she stopped, feeling a little panicked.
"Why are you looking at me?" Tian Yulan asked confused when her husband looked at her.
"Just like Ziyou was diagnosed with a mental illness some time ago, there are too many cases of children suffering from psychological problems, and forcing is not a good idea.
It's better to adapt to the current situation." Qian Wen said, his mouth was dry and he picked up the coffee to moisten his throat.
"Ziyou has a mental illness? Is Ziyou okay? Is it okay?" Nan Li was startled and hurriedly looked at Tian Yulan and asked.
At this time, Tian Yulan's cheeks twitched and she looked embarrassed. Most of Ziyou's mental illness was caused by her high-pressure study. Thinking about it now makes her heartache.
"Nothing's wrong anymore. I've been checked several times and everything is basically fine," Tian Yulan said.
"Why is such a well-behaved child like Ziyou suffering from mental illness?" Nan Li asked.
Qian Wen didn't want to talk about this, so he changed the topic and said, "I'm telling you this just to tell you that today's children, especially children from good families like ours, are more likely to have problems.
You can force them to do something, but if you keep forcing it, you will not only hurt the children, but also ourselves.
Today's children need to be raised according to the situation.
Huanhuan can develop in the long term, slowly start to develop good study habits, let her adapt to learning, and then continue to develop her talents, singing and dancing, not falling behind in either, and have a variety of choices during the college entrance examination.
Of course, my words are just personal opinions and for reference only. You and Brother Xia want to train Huanhuan to become a top student, so just treat it as if I didn’t say anything." After Qian Wen finished speaking, he shrugged, took the dessert in front of Tian Yulan, and picked up
Eat with a small spoon.
After listening to this, Nan Li was thoughtful. She was already smart, but she was confused when she cared about her. She was affected by Xiao Shengchu's anxiety.
After listening to Qian Wen's advice on how to cultivate children according to their circumstances and their circumstances, she suddenly became enlightened.
This chapter is not over yet, please click on the next page to continue reading! Especially after hearing that Ziyou suffered from mental illness, she was shocked. Huanhuan has been very tired of studying recently, is not as sensible as before, and has a strong rebellious spirit. These are all related to psychology.
, she doesn’t want Huanhuan to have problems.
"But Huanhuan has a strong self-esteem and gets sad when she sees herself lagging behind, but she still doesn't work hard..." Nan Li was puzzled.
Qian Wen swallowed the cake in his mouth, took a sip of coffee, and cleared his mouth, "Didn't I tell you, it's all you and Brother Xia who are used to it, you are too doting on Huanhuan.
You must also love your children with moderation. As your children get older, you must cultivate correct concepts and indulge them blindly. In the end, not only will your children suffer, but you will suffer as well.
You and Brother Xia communicate well, and one of you is the one who makes the fool, and then find a balance between study and interest for Huanhuan, so that she can develop good habits and correct concepts.
If this continues, will Huanhuan be worse in the future?
Coupled with the help and support from our parents, it will be more than enough for them to gain a foothold in society when they grow up. As for the rest, they can just let them make their own way."
Nan Li nodded. After listening to Qian Wen's insights, Nan Li felt much less anxious.
She didn't have to let Huanhuan compare with others, but she was influenced by her colleagues and the current educational environment.
Qian Wen stood up and said, "As for Huanhuan's math scores..."
Nan Li raised her head and looked at Qian Wen.
"I also heard Zhang Xueer and Zhong Yi talking about the learning situation of several children. Huanhuan is smart, but she is impatient. This requires you to give severe criticism and correction.
If there is a problem with your learning attitude, nothing can be done to fix it."
When he looked at Xiao Sheshe, he felt that there was something wrong with Huanhuan's attitude towards learning, and it wasn't that tutoring was not in place.
Tian Yulan then recommended some learning techniques to Nan Li. The three of them chatted for a while and then left.
Outside the cafe, Nan Li drove away, and Tian Yulan suddenly patted Qian Wen on the arm.
Qian Wen looked at her, "What's wrong?"
"I didn't expect that you have a lot of knowledge on how to educate children. From now on, I will leave Ziyou's education to you. I will also take a break." Tian Yulan said.
"Haha~" Qian Wen laughed twice and did not bring up the topic, "I'm going home, I'm going home."
He is also the loudest talker, so he asked him to teach Zi You, haha, he was afraid that Zi You would inherit his magical skill of sleeping in.
As for how to educate Huanhuan, I have seen Xiao Shede and I have gone through nine years of compulsory education, college entrance examination, university, and going out into the society. Let's talk about it, and it's better to sprinkle water on it.
But he didn't lie, Huanhuan was just spoiled, and Huanhuan loved the stage, so she could develop in this area slowly.
Driving back to the community, Tian Yulan held the Lego bricks for Ziyou in the underground garage. When Tian Yulan saw them, she couldn't help but step on his foot. How long would it take to build such a big brick?
After returning home, I hid the gifts, rolled up my sleeves, and prepared to help Tian Yulan cook a feast.
His surprise was a big Lego brick, and Tian Yulan's was a big meal.
When they were almost done, Ziyou and Cai Juying came back.
"Gift, my gift~" Ziyou couldn't wait to run into the kitchen after changing her shoes.
"Dad, my gift." Ziyou said with wide eyes.
Qian Wen raised the king crab in his hand and said, "How about this surprise? You've always wanted to eat it. It was flown here."
Ziyou blinked, and the smile on his face faded slightly, which was a little different from what he imagined.
Qian Wen looked at Ziyou's cute expression and smiled inwardly.
Tian Yulan rolled her eyes at Qian Wen and looked at Ziyou, "Your father's gift is hidden at home. Go find it yourself."
"Oh~" Ziyou happily went around the house looking for gifts.
"It's boring. If the kids don't play with it, why would they do it?" Qian Wen shook his head in disappointment.
After hearing this, Tian Yulan glared at Qian Wen and said angrily, "Stop holding my king crab, clean it up quickly and put it in the pot."
Cai Juying walked in, "Is there anything you need my help with?"
"Just wait and eat." Tian Yulan said with a smile.
After running around the house, Ziyou finally found the gift behind her bedroom door and happily dragged the gift to the kitchen.
Seeing Ziyou's stinking look, Tian Yulan gave him a gentle kick on the butt, "Stop showing off, it's time to eat soon, move the things to your toy room."
Ziyou laughed and walked away.
Qian Wen took care of the ingredients, wiped his hands and went out.
Cai Juying was sitting in the living room, and Qian Wen sat over, "Mom, what have you been doing recently?"
Cai Juying smiled and said, "It's okay to dance with your Aunt Lin every day and participate in senior activities."
Aunt Lin is the retired lawyer who helped Cai Juying when she traveled to Hainan. Now the relationship between the two is very good.
After dinner was served, Ziyou reluctantly came out of the toy room.
Cai Juying sat next to Ziyou and handled the crab legs of the king crab.
"Ouch~" Tian Yulan suddenly slapped his head.
Qian Wen looked over and said, "What's wrong? I was shocked."
"I was originally going to talk to Nan Li about the lottery today, but when you came here, I got interrupted and forgot to talk." Tian Yulan said helplessly.
"Lottery? Is this the first lottery for Xiaosheng?" Qian Wen asked.
"Well, during the parent-teacher meeting today, some parents said that there may be a lottery for primary school students to be promoted to junior high school in the future, and Teacher Zhang Xueer may also do so.
Nan Li and I are a little worried," Tian Yulan said.
"What are you worried about? Ziyou's grades are so good, he's not afraid of lottery. You still need to be hardworking. If Ziyou can always maintain good study habits, it will be the same wherever he goes.
Besides, the policy of lottery for primary school students has not been released yet, why are you so anxious? Besides, it is not your decision to decide whether there is such a policy, so why bother worrying so much."
"Our Ziyu wants to go to Hanlin Middle School. If the number is really drawn..." Tian Yulan shook his head.
"It's not up to us to decide whether to lottery or not, we can just wait for the policy.
In short, the knowledge I learn is my own." Qian Wen said softly.
Tian Yulan glanced at Qian Wen, heartbroken!
After dinner, Ziyou finished his homework, and Tian Yulan agreed that there would be no additional study time today and he was allowed to play.
Ziyou rushed into the toy room happily.
This chapter is not over yet, please click on the next page to continue reading! Tian Yulan on the side glared at Qian Wen, Qian Wen looked at her inexplicably, "What's wrong, you have a stroke in your eye?"
"I think you're out of your mind. You bought such big Lego bricks for Ziyou. Do you want him to build it until he is the youngest? Why don't you help him build it quickly?
Do you want him to be absent-minded and thinking about this all the time when he is studying?" Tian Yulan scolded.
Qian Wen rubbed the back of his head. He really didn't think it through well. Ziyou was just being sensible. Children's playful nature is still hard to suppress. Working on this thing for a long time will really affect learning.
He laughed dryly and followed into the toy room. After a while, Tian Yulan came in with two glasses of juice, and then Cai Juying also came in.
The Lego bricks I bought for Ziyou were a very large aircraft carrier, and it was extremely difficult and brain-consuming to put together.
Even with the drawings in hand, I have to think about it for a while.
"Here, here, you idiot didn't put it there..." Tian Yulan shouted in command.
"You are an idiot. You are obviously here, but your eyes are lame..." Qian Wen said unconvinced.
"No, it should be here..." Ziyou raised his hand.
"Shut up..." Qian Wen and Tian Yulan said in unison.
Cai Juying smiled, looked at the drawing, and placed the bricks on her hand where they were arguing.
The installation place was perfect. The three people who had just argued blinked at the same time. The scene was silent and a little cold.
Seeing this, Qian Wen looked at the blocks in his hand, threw them away, and the blocks rolled to the ground. He said nonchalantly, "I'm going to the toilet."
"Ahem~" Tian Yulan coughed twice, "If the juice is gone, I'll pour some more."
Ziyou cheered for Cai Juying, "Grandma is great."
Qian Wen smiled when he heard Ziyou's cheers as he went out.
Time flies, Qian Wen is still the same as before, bickering with Tian Yulan and taking time off to relieve stress.
At night, at Qian Wen's house, Ziyou had already gone to bed. The lights were turned off in the living room, and Qian Wen and Tian Yulan leaned against each other and watched horror movies.
"It's not scary at all, it's just some scary sounds that make you startled." Qian Wen said speechlessly.
"This is already pretty good. If you look at the horror movies in the first half of the year, they are simply unsightly. They were either mentally ill or hallucinogens. They simply rubbed the audience's IQ to the ground." Tian Yulan said.
"I won't watch anymore. The more I watch, the more I feel like an idiot and a waste of electricity." Qian Wen turned off the TV speechlessly.
The two of them were too lazy to move. They just leaned on the sofa and opened their eyes, looking at the large floor-to-ceiling windows and the bright lights outside.
"Husband, the number-choice cup will start in a week. Do you think Ziyou can do well in the exam?" Tian Yulan asked worriedly, her heart pounding, and she was more nervous than anyone else.
Qian Wen touched Tian Yulan's forehead, smoothed her frown, and said softly, "You have seen Ziyou's efforts, why don't you believe him."
"It's not that I don't believe Ziyou, I just feel nervous unconsciously and my heart is pounding.
By the way, Ziyou has a fever as soon as he takes the exam, how about I take him to the hospital tomorrow for a checkup?" Tian Yulan said incoherently.
Qian Wen rubbed Tian Yulan's ears, which felt a little hot. He did not accuse her of rushing to seek medical treatment because of her illness. He said softly, "You attach too much importance to choosing the number of cups. It is just a test.
Besides, didn't you talk to Zhong Yi a few days ago? Didn't he guarantee that Ziyou would have a high chance of winning first prize, or at worst, second prize?
In the past few days, Ziyou has also finished a lot of papers from previous years. I think he has been taking it easy. Why are you so nervous?
Also, Ziyou is prone to fever during exams. Didn’t the psychiatrist say it’s because of too much pressure? You need to make Ziyou relax.
Cramming is not suitable for Ziyou. He needs to relieve his pressure now and prepare for the game of choosing a few cups."
"But..." Tian Yulan was still worried.
It's like it's not Ziyou who has to take the exam, but she who has to take the exam.
"Okay, listen to me. From tomorrow on, Ziyou must keep a relaxed attitude. You can't mention first prize, second prize, etc. in front of him," Qian Wen said.
Tian Yulan sighed, she was too nervous.
"Just wait until Ziyou fills up your trophy bookshelf." Qian Wen said softly.
When moving, Tian Yulan brought all the trophies that Ziyou had won before, and the C position was still short of a Selective Cup trophy.
"Why don't you let Ziyou take that master's class? I heard from the parent group that it's very powerful. Why don't you let Ziyou go and listen to it and do some sprinting?" Tian Yulan suggested again.
Qian Wen helps his forehead and he will definitely fall.
This is really true that the emperor is not in a hurry and the eunuch is.
"We've already discussed not to go to any great class. Ziyou just needs to make steady progress now. There's no need to make up classes blindly," Qian Wen said.
"I just want Ziyou to get good grades in the exam, so that he can be admitted to the Hanlin Academy." Tian Yulan whispered.
She knew that her husband didn't like to put pressure on Ziyou for no reason, and she also liked the way Ziyou was studying easily now, but when she thought about choosing a few cups, she still couldn't help but want to make up for it and sprint for a while.
Qian Wen glanced at Tian Yulan, has this become an obsession? If you like starting from I am Yu Huanshui, please collect it: (www.sodu777.net) Starting from I am Yu Huanshui, the search and reading novel network has the fastest update speed on the entire Internet.