Hong Ya looked at me and smiled, "Feng Xiao, that classmate of yours is very unusual and thinks things through very carefully.
I couldn't laugh or cry, "Azhu, do you think I'm a freeloader?"
"Eating soft food? What do you mean?" she asked.
I couldn't help but smile bitterly and muttered: "You don't know this? It means relying on women to support you. Do you think I am that kind of person?"
Azhu said: "So what? Being able to eat soft rice is also a skill."
I was immediately dumbfounded, "Azhu, is there anyone who talks like this? Does it sound so unpleasant?"
"Isn't it? You have to have the capital to be a free man, right? Unless the man is excellent, why would the woman like him? Do you think this is true?" she said.
I shook my head, "Azhu, that's good. Because you don't understand men. Men all have self-esteem. Who would be willing to eat soft rice? If a man is eating soft food and is complacent at the same time, it means that the man himself
There is a problem. A man without self-esteem cannot be called a man at all. Do you understand?"
"I don't understand." she said.
I couldn't help but sigh, "Azhu, after all, you are still too naive."
"Feng Xiao, I don't like you talking about me like this. Why do you always call me naive? Unless you explain the truth to me clearly." She said dissatisfiedly.
"Azhu, you have to understand that today is a patriarchal society, and men are the masters of society and families. Men who are freeloaders must give up their careers and take care of women and families. This requires men to put down their dignity.
, while having the courage to accept others’ ridicule, he must also possess the following qualities: First of all, a man who eats soft food must have a high IQ, know how to manage his own emotions and be aware of his wife’s emotions, and be good at creating happiness so that his woman can be happy and devoted every day.
Go to work and career. Second, a man who eats soft food must be able to endure loneliness, be able to reject the temptations and traps of the colorful world outside without thinking, and be willing to do meticulous behind-the-scenes work for his woman. Third, eat
A man who is a soft-boiled man must be versatile. He can do laundry, cooking, squeezing juice, wiping the floor, picking up children and going to school. He can do everything in an orderly manner, but he can be picky. It is best to give massages. Of course, you can hire a nanny for these, but the meaning and results are absolutely different. Do it well.
These trivial matters in life require understanding of operations research, nutrition, psychology, parent-child communication skills, financial management, etc. The nanny should fulfill her duties, and the family should connect with love and affection to create a harmonious atmosphere. Fourth, men who eat soft food must have high emotional intelligence and sexual
The ability and sex must be good, that is, he must be sentimental, and he must be able to flirt. So that his woman can get all kinds of love and care when she comes home after a busy day, and subtle care is not there; superb sex can make*
*More beautiful, harmonious and healthy, **not only strengthens the body and reduces stress, but also achieves the joy of life, making the body, mind and soul of the couple perfect. Fifth, a man who eats soft food always knows how to keep up with the times.
Make progress and grow yourself. Although you don’t have to be an expert, you should try your best to maintain the ability to talk to your wife in the interaction of knowledge and information. First be respected by your wife, and then be loved by your wife. Azhu, think about it, this is what men do
A job?" I said with a smile.
"Feng Xiao, why did you say such things as *** in front of me? Are you going too far?" She glared at me and her face suddenly turned red.
I was extremely embarrassed and said with a smile: "You are already a big girl, and you are also studying medicine. I am just talking about things because of the circumstances, and there is no other meaning." After saying this, I thought to myself: I will be able to speak in front of this girl from now on.
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I find it very tiring to be with her.
My father was surprised, "You came back so early?"
I smiled and said, "We just had a meal and chatted for a while." I kept thinking in my mind: Should I tell my father about the villa, but what if he asked me where I got so much money?
In fact, anyone who is a son wants his parents to see his success, because it is a matter of pride. The fathers have the mentality of "hoping that their children will become dragons", but the younger generations have not shown that they have become dragons.
What about pride? Of course I also have this mentality. However, I find that I don’t dare to show my so-called proud side at all, because I know that the money to buy the villa was not completely clean.
.The reason why I think so is because the money ultimately played a role in power, Lin Yu’s power.
It is precisely because of his ignorance and over-realism that my father has been a clerk in government agencies all his life. He hates all kinds of corruption. Sometimes when he talks about certain officials in his hometown, he will be immediately filled with righteous indignation.
Some people say that he is the kind of person who does not conform to the trend of the times. I think so too, and I used to dislike him a little, but now I seem to understand: everyone has his own way of living, and outsiders can't change it.
.My father has lived like this all his life, so it’s impossible to ask him to change anything before he retires, right? That would be meaningless and impossible.
"Why don't I remember the classmate you mentioned at all?" my father asked.
"His family is from a rural area. When he was in middle school, his family was very poor. Later he was admitted to university and then studied as a graduate student at Renmin University. Then he was directly assigned to the Organization Department of the Provincial Party Committee. Now he has just moved to the edge of the provincial capital.
In my last prefecture-level city, I was the Secretary-General of the Municipal Party Committee Office. I admire this classmate of mine very much, because everything he has now is achieved entirely through his own efforts. It is not easy for him to get to where he is today," I said.
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"Today's young people are just different. They are all so capable." His father sighed, "But Feng Xiao, I think it's better for you to be a doctor. You have a skill in your hands and don't have to ask anyone for help. No matter this
No matter how society changes, no matter how leaders change, there will be no problem finding a bowl of food to eat."
This sentence expresses my father’s truest inner thoughts. He is a person who seeks stability. However, I do not agree with his view. “In today’s society, is it not easy to find a bowl of rice? The key question is to
Find a bowl of delicious and relaxing rice, and if you have that condition, it’s best to share some with others.”
"Human desires are difficult to satisfy and can never be filled. How good would it be to live a normal life if we are stable and have a bowl of food to eat? Life is like this. No matter how much we pursue, it is just a dream in the end.
." said the father.
Azhu next to him suddenly laughed, "Uncle Feng spoke like a monk."
"Religion actually talks about the meaning of life. Anyone who plays Go knows that any point you place on the chessboard has meaning, just different sizes. In fact, all people are equal and are equal.
It is a molecule that lives for a common goal. Newton has the value of Newton, and Einstein has the value of Ein. Similarly, farmers have the value of farmers, and workers have the value of workers. Even further, Sittler has the value of
Hitler's value is a negative value. Life is like this. We all live for our own different values. Just like when we look at ants, the world of ants is also a complete world. Every ant has its own value.
Work. So, don’t take yourself so seriously. You are you and I am me, just a tiny part of this world. Feng Xiao is a doctor and A-Zhu is a staff member of the radiology department. You each perform your duties, there is no hierarchy.
There is no need to be arrogant or complacent. Maybe you still don’t understand these issues, and you haven’t even had time to think about them. Religion says
The prophet actually talks about the wisdom of the old. When a person reaches a certain age, you will naturally understand it, because you can't help but look back on your life and naturally summarize your past. Only then will you discover
, Life is just like this." My father said, with a desolate look on his face.
I shook my head, "Dad, I think you are wrong. I think the meaning of life lies in pursuit. From ancient times to modern times, if everyone did not pursue and struggle, society would not develop to what it is now. Modern civilization will always
Is it better than slash-and-burn farming? This is the result of the struggle of generations of people. Do you think so? I don’t agree with some religious statements, such as Buddhism’s claim that the five elements are empty, and that human life is miserable and miserable.
We come out to save all sentient beings. We wish that all people in this world were Buddhists. Just imagine, if all people became monks and nuns, who would have children? Wouldn’t this world have perished long ago? In fact, human society
The most fundamental thing we uphold is still the characteristic of animals, that is, competition. What is the point of view put forward after the reform and opening up? Isn’t it competition? Because competition can make the mechanism more flexible and make the world more dynamic, and only competition can
It can reflect the value of a person. For example, my classmate Kang Demao is the winner of the competition among our classmates. His family is so poor, but he refuses to admit defeat and is not content with that kind of poverty. In very difficult times,
He finished college and then went to graduate school under the circumstances. It was this desire to pursue that brought him to where he is today. If everyone is content with the status quo and lives a mediocre life, then this society will not progress."
"I didn't say that everyone should not pursue it? Feng Xiao, you are right. People need to pursue, to pursue the greatest value of life. What I mean is that we should not be too cautious in the process of pursuit.
Value temporary failure or success, and treat everything about yourself with a normal attitude. Some people suddenly get rich, and then they buy a Mercedes-Benz, BMW, etc., and some people become officials, so they become successful.
.This is not good. Don’t you think so? None of us will always be successful in this life. Success and failure are like scores and percentages in math problems. Some people have a high success rate, and some people have a high success rate.
But they always fail, and some people even die without getting out of the shadow of failure. Then you say that such people should not live? No. So the topic is back to the beginning, people are living at all times.
Be happy and keep yourself normal at all times. If you think about it in reverse, you will feel happy: Why did I fail? Oh, it turns out that my requirements are too high, oh, it turns out that my method is wrong, and so on, the problem
Many people don't think like this. They always try to get the best of their abilities, but in the end they still fail, and then they start to blame others and resent the world. In fact, I talked about it for a long time, but in the final analysis, it comes down to two words: mentality." My father said slowly.
.
I was silent for a moment. However, I felt that what my father said seemed right and wrong, but I found that I couldn't argue. At the same time, I suddenly became a little strange: I actually started to refute what my father said today. This was something unimaginable before.
You know, I have always been very afraid of my father. Let alone refute him, I don’t even have the courage to express my opinions casually in front of him. After thinking about it carefully, I suddenly understood: self-confidence is what gives me self-confidence.
Such courage and courage.
Just as his father finished speaking, Azhu suddenly said from the side: "I don't think your classmate is very good."
I didn't react for a while, because I talked about Kang Demao earlier. My father was also surprised, but he just took a look at Ah Zhu.
I immediately reacted, "Azhu, why do you think he is not good?"
"This classmate of yours is so upset. I hear him talking about work during dinner. It's annoying. I think he's fake. Can't we talk in the office? We have to talk at the dinner table, and he's very servile.
, I hate it when I look at it." She pursed her lips and said.
I was stunned for a moment, and after a while I said: "Why is he so servile? He is a subordinate, so of course he has to speak to Secretary Lin respectfully. Also, what's wrong with discussing work at the dinner table? Didn't I say that?
Is there a reason? We are doctors, and he is an official. Their working atmosphere is completely different from ours. Ah Zhu, to be honest, I really admire him in my heart. You don’t know, when he was in high school, we were
The head teacher felt that he was poor and was disgusted with him. One time, he picked up his quilt and wiped the floor. Later, not long ago, our head teacher suffered from a brain tumor. In the end, Kang Demao personally went back to his hometown to bring him here.
Treatment. Although our head teacher eventually passed away due to a failed operation, it can be seen from this how broad-minded he was. Don’t you think so?"
"Your high school teacher is dead?" my father asked me.
I nodded, "I've been feeling a little uncomfortable since talking about this matter. Originally, he was staying in our hospital, but because there was no single ward, Teacher Kang had to transfer him to another hospital, which made me almost unable to get out of the hospital. After the transfer, although
I was admitted to a single ward, but died because of a failed operation. I thought that if the operation was performed in our hospital, it might not be like this. So I sometimes think that sometimes in life, people have to believe in fate.
"
"I know that your head teacher is just competitive in the final analysis. Hey! Isn't this? It goes back to what I said before. Why bother?" the father sighed.
"Yeah. Why bother?" I also felt deeply.
"But that classmate of yours is really good. There are not many people like him nowadays who repay evil with kindness." The father sighed.
"Yes. That's why I made him my friend." I said.
"But such people are not necessarily suitable for officialdom. People in officialdom must be thick-skinned, and honest people often suffer." Father added.
"I think he has learned through experience." I said.
"The Secretary Lin you are talking about is your former patient, right?" my father asked.
I nodded, feeling suddenly panicked in my heart.
"Then you should speak kindly to your classmate in the future. It is necessary for a person to do more good deeds, not for reward. But when you really need to repay, for example, if you are in difficulty in the future, what you do
Those good things work," the father said.
I smiled and said, "I didn't think that way. I just thought Kang Demao was a good person and sincere, so I thought I should help him. Isn't that right? Secretary Lin specially named him to be the secretary-general."
Father nodded, "During the Cultural Revolution, the secretary of the county party committee of our county was criticized. He was a good man, very honest, and had a very down-to-earth work style. I was young at that time and did things without considering the consequences, so I quietly took him to the countryside.
I hid it. Fortunately, it was the late period of the Cultural Revolution, and he quickly resumed work, so he promoted me to the position of deputy director of the office. This could be regarded as his repayment of gratitude to me. But not long after he resumed work, he
I contracted liver cancer and died, so my boss later found an excuse to remove me from my position. At that time, I felt very uncomfortable and couldn’t think about it all day long. Later, an old comrade in the office said something to me, and I finally
He suddenly came to his senses. He said, you helped others and they rewarded you, who are you going to blame? With your character, it is easy to suffer losses when you are an official. It is hard to say whether it is a blessing or a curse. Not to mention, he
It turned out to be true. The deputy director who filled my position later was implicated in accepting bribes from his superiors and ended up in jail. Although I no longer had a position, I was happy and free and respected. This is how people live their lives.
Just take it lightly."
In fact, I know about my father's situation. He has been unsuccessful all his life and has been depressed. Maybe he really figured it out now that he is old. But I can't expose him, so I think this is fine. It's rare that he finally figured it out.
In fact, what he said is right, being in a happy mood is the most important thing.
After thinking about it, I asked: "Dad, what do you most want to do after retirement?"
"Go to the countryside to find a piece of land, feed pigs, raise chickens, and grow some vegetables. I long for that kind of life," said my father.
I couldn't help laughing, "Dad, that's just your imagination. If you really live like that, you may not be used to it. There is almost no cultural life in the countryside, and the sanitary conditions are also very poor. No one can talk all day long.
There is no one. You can't be with your mother every day, you look at me and I look at you, right? How about talking more?"
"After experiencing the bustling city, a person will think of returning to nature. You don't understand now." My father said with a smile.
I shook my head, "Maybe. But I do have an idea. I don't know if you and mom agree."
"Tell me." My father looked at me in surprise.
"I think it is not easy for a person to come into this world. Medically speaking, it is completely accidental. Of course, I don't want to talk about this issue. But I do think that since God wants us to come into this world,
Then we should take a good look at the world. Therefore, I suggest that you take your mother to travel around the world to see every beautiful scenery and every corner of the world. I think this will not
It's a pity to come to this world. Don't you think so?" I said.
"How much will it cost?" my father asked dumbfounded.
I immediately laughed and said, "Don't think about money now. Please tell me whether you agree with my point of view."
"What you said makes sense. But..." his father shook his head and said, "Feng Xiao, you are just a doctor, and you only earn a few thousand dollars a month. You have to eat, drink, and defecate, so what's left?
How much should I pay? By the way, I don’t want to spend your father-in-law’s money.”
"To be honest, he did buy the house I live in and the car I drive. I didn't say anything. After all, Chen Yuan is their daughter. But I am not a doctor as much as you said.
Money? I should have at least 20,000 yuan a month. Also, our department has recently launched an inspection project, and we are planning to launch several more in the future, so it will be hundreds of thousands a year. You and your mother are going out to play,
After all, it is just my annual income, which is completely enough. How about it? As long as you and your mother are willing to go out for a walk, I will sponsor you." I said with a smile.
The father shook his head, "You young people only know how to make money but don't know how to save money. Your child is still so young, and Chen Yuan is in such a situation. You will spend a lot of money in the future. No, I can't agree."
"I have other income." I said hurriedly, "I have shares in Chen Yuan's father's company. He didn't give it to me directly. I invested in it. Those shares have been invested as the project progresses.
It’s become a lot of money, so dad, don’t worry.”
The father shook his head, "Hey! It seems that I am really old and can't keep up with your thoughts."
I was overjoyed, "Do you agree?"
"Let's discuss this matter after we retire. Feng Xiao, what will happen to your family? Have you ever thought about it? If Chen Yuan keeps doing this..." his father said, looking worried.
I couldn't help but feel sad, "What else can I do? I will always protect her. I have arranged for someone to take care of her. I think she will wake up one day. If she really can't wake up, I will always accompany her."
Follow her. Dad, this is my fate, I accept it."
My father sighed and stopped talking for a long time.
The child suddenly woke up and cried loudly in the bedroom. My mother and I immediately ran inside.
I always insisted on putting the child in the bedroom, with his crib next to Chen Yuan's hospital bed. My purpose was very simple, which was to let Chen Yuan hear the child's cry.
My mother ran faster than me. She picked up the child and started to rock it gently. She said in her mouth: "My dear grandson, are you hungry? Grandma will get you some milk."
The nanny also came in, and she said, "Didn't you just feed me not long ago?"
I understood immediately, "Maybe he pooped or peed. Take off the diaper and take a look."
The mother hurriedly untied the child's diaper and immediately laughed, "It's true, it's time to pee. It's so convenient now. This diaper is so easy to use. Feng Xiao, when you were a child, it was not like now. There were pee everywhere in the house.
It's your diaper. One time you pooped on the bed. I was so tired that I fell asleep. When I woke up, I found you grabbing your poop and eating it. Haha!"
I don’t know when Ah Zhu came in. I suddenly heard her laughing behind me, “It’s so disgusting.”
I suddenly felt embarrassed, "Mom, why are you talking about this?"
"Feng Xiao, I didn't expect you to be so disgusting when you were a child. No, I won't eat with you anymore." Azhu said, then laughed.
"Azhu, you don't know, your brother Feng Xiao was well-behaved when he was a child. He was very obedient and good-looking. Many people said he looked like a girl." The mother laughed, while changing the child's diaper.
.The child’s calves are so thin that I can’t even bear to look at him.
"Mom! Can you please stop talking?" I became even more embarrassed.
"Do you think I said it casually? I meant it for Chen Yuan. Why is this child still sleeping? Wake up early. Chen Yuan, look at your son, he's so thin. Wake up and give it to him.
Breastfeed." The mother went to say to Chen Yuan on the hospital bed.
Only then did I realize that my mother was calling Chen Yuan. I had told my parents how to call her since Chen Yuan came back, but I didn’t expect that she was really paying attention to this problem all the time. I went to see Chen Yuan on the hospital bed.
I found that her eyes were still closed and there was no sign of waking up at all. I called to her: "Yuanyuan, it's time for you to wake up, right? The Chinese New Year is coming soon, why are you still sleeping? You can't
How can this be done, just throw the child to me after birth, and then sleep there alone? Didn’t you say that? You must take good care of your children from now on. Yuanyuan, you can’t do this, you can’t do this
ah......"
At first I was speaking to her softly, but then I suddenly remembered the time when we were together and talking about our children, and my heart suddenly became sad, and my voice couldn't help but choke.
.
It was better now. My emotions immediately infected my mother, and also infected A-Zhu and the nanny. They immediately left the bedroom. The mother was sighing, and she carried the child out of the bedroom. A-Zhu left crying.
The nanny said to me: "Uncle, why are you so miserable... Ouch!"
I found that sometimes I really couldn't control my emotions. Just now, I couldn't help myself. But after they were all infected by my emotions, they felt that they shouldn't be like this, so they looked at Chen Yuan silently for a while.
Then he sighed and left her.
Azhu was no longer in the living room. The child was in his father's arms. The father was holding the child and standing next to the piano in the corner of the living room. He opened the cover of the piano and pressed the keys of the piano with his hands. Suddenly there was a sound. Father
Saying: "Hey! He heard it and opened his eyes."
My heart suddenly moved, and I started to get excited at the same time. I quickly took out my mobile phone and started dialing, "Shangguan, I want to trouble you with something."
"Brother Feng, the Spring Festival is coming soon. I wish you a happy Spring Festival in advance." She was smiling on the phone.
I suddenly realized that I was too impatient, so I hurriedly said: "Haha! I also wish you a happy Spring Festival. I troubled you last time. Thank you. But I still want to trouble you with something."
"Tell me, it's an honor for me to serve Brother Feng." She said with a smile.
"Shangguan, don't be like this? I'm troubling you." I said, and suddenly a question came to my mind: Why didn't she ask me about the results of the n test? I recently thought: Maybe it's not convenient for her to ask, maybe she's waiting for me to take the initiative to tell her
As for her, she hurriedly said: "Last time, I was thinking all day long. But I still want to thank you."
"You always like to think wildly. Fortunately, we are friends. Haha! Brother Feng, tell me, is there anything else you need my help for?" She smiled and her voice softened a lot.
"I would like to trouble you to help me find someone who is good at playing the piano. Didn't Chen Yuan like the piano very much before? I think maybe the sound of the piano can wake her up," I said.
"That's true. Why didn't I think of it?" She said, "Okay, I will contact you tomorrow. By the way, do you have any specific requirements?"
"As long as the piano level is relatively high, it will be fine. Chen Yuan's piano skills are good, so I think she has to be at a similar level to impress her, right?" I thought about it and said, and suddenly remembered something, "By the way,
Don’t negotiate the price with the other party, I will give you whatever the other party says.”
"Hey! Brother Feng, you are so... haha! You are such a nice person. Don't worry, I will make a good deal with the other party." She sighed and then smiled.
I thanked her again and again, and she immediately became angry, "Brother Feng, if you keep doing this, I won't care about this matter."
I feel even more grateful to her.
Sure enough, Shangguan brought someone here the next morning. A young and handsome man, about 25 or 26 years old. He had long hair, jeans on his lower body, and a red down jacket on his upper body. He looked very handsome.
Sunlight.
"This is Gong Yilang. He once won the runner-up in the national piano competition. I have made an agreement with him. He will come to your house for two hours every day to play piano for two hundred yuan an hour." Shangguan introduced.
My parents and Azhu all opened their mouths, and I hurriedly said: "Okay, that's it, two hours a day, the time is up to you. You can do it in the morning or in the afternoon."
"Do you have any requirements for the repertoire?" Gong Yilang asked.
I thought that although this man's name was a bit strange, I thought he had a good image and a good attitude. Then I replied: "It's more relaxing. I don't understand it either, but my wife used to like to play that song the most."
It sounds like flowing water, I don’t know what it is.”
"What kind of music could that be?" He raised his head and thought, then walked to the piano, opened the cover, and stroked the keys with his slender fingers. The melodious sound of the piano suddenly poured out like running water. I
Suddenly I had a refreshing feeling, "Yes, that's it."
A melodious piano music jumped out from his fingers as smoothly as flowing water. I seemed to feel a clear stream slowly flowing down the valley into the distance. I haven't heard such a fascinating song for a long time.
Music, at this moment, I found that even if I have unhappy things, in the sound of such music, I can slowly melt away all the knots in my heart... This is an indescribable beauty.
I feel like, I really want to say, this piece of music has always stayed here, in the bottom of my heart, in the deepest corner of my heart...
I was so intoxicated that I didn't wake up until he finished playing. I hurriedly asked him, "This is it. My wife used to play this piece of music all the time. What piece of music is this?"
He smiled slightly and replied: "This is "In Memory of Love" by Richard Clayderman."
A memorial of love? I was stunned for a moment.
The author's digression:
Today's "Promotion of Grassroots Doctors: Medical Career"
Ouyang Zhiyuan, a grassroots doctor, got drunk. When he opened his eyes, he saw the noble and elegant dean lying in his arms, and there were bright plum blossoms dotted on the bed sheets. From then on, he broke into the hospital with his superb Chinese medicine acupuncture.
In the ever-changing and sinister officialdom, in front of his career, a beautiful and sexy female reporter, a shy and smart nurse, a mature and charming female boss, and an avant-garde and tricky Taiwanese lady all smiled at him.
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