Experts found in experiments that the fetus particularly likes to listen to the father's voice. The fastest update is that when the baby cries after birth, the mother often cannot calm it down, but the father can make the baby cry by singing familiar songs and stroking the baby.
Quiet down or fall asleep as soon as possible. This may be related to the fact that fetuses do not like high, sharp, and thin sounds, because such sounds often cause increased fetal movement, so fetuses tend to like low, generous sounds. So some psychologists proposed a
Extremely helpful advice, ask the father to speak to the fetus, creating the prerequisites for establishing a close, deep bond with the baby after birth.
The father speaking to the fetus is first of all a concrete expression of father's love. The fetus can feel not only maternal love but also the warmth of father's love through hearing and touch, which is of great benefit to the fetus' emotional development.
The father touching the fetus and talking to it is also a great psychological comfort to the mother. This kind of family happiness is the best atmosphere for gestating, raising and educating children.
Because of this, I did not refuse Yu Min's request today. Although I can't be with Yu Min often, and I won't be able to see this child often in the future, but for me, I must satisfy her on this matter.
Because I am the child's real father after all.
"Baby, stretch out your little hands and let daddy touch them. Where are your little feet? Can you step on them? Tick on them and let daddy have a look. Where is your big head? Does it have hair now? Mom often does it for you.
Eat walnuts and black sesame seeds, your hair must be black and shiny, right? Do you have any new skills today? Sniff, you know it. Then give it a gentle tap, but don't hurt your mother...
...." I put my ear against Yu Min's belly and talked to the child softly and softly.[
I am ashamed that I am speaking the relatively standard language used in prenatal education, because I don’t know what language I should use to express my inner feelings for this child.
The child seemed to understand what I said, and he started to move violently.
Yu Min exhaled softly and immediately laughed, "Brother Feng, look, this child knows that his father is here."
I immediately left her belly and stroked it with my hand, "This child will definitely be very beautiful in the future."
"What if it's a son?" Yu Min asked me with a smile.
"Children, the word beautiful can be used." I said with a smile.
At this moment, my phone suddenly rang loudly. I quickly made a silencing gesture to Yu Min, and then took out the phone.
It was a call from Lin Yi.
"Feng Xiao, where are you?" he asked me.
I suddenly felt panicked, but I tried my best to control my nervousness, "There's something going on outside."
"I'm downstairs at your house." He said.
I said without thinking, "I'll be right back."
He immediately hung up the phone, as if he knew I would answer this way.
"Is something wrong?" Yu Min asked me after seeing me hang up the phone. His eyes were full of disappointment.
I apologized: "My father-in-law is downstairs at my house."
She immediately panicked, "Well, then go back quickly."
"You should go back quickly. Yu Min, I don't think it's good for us to meet like this. You can come to our hospital for regular check-ups, so that I can see you more often." I said to her softly.
She didn't speak immediately, just looked at me. I was a little anxious and said, "I'm leaving first."
"Then, I will come to your hospital for check-ups from now on." She then said.[
When she said these words, I suddenly realized that what I just said was a bit cruel to her.
Now I suddenly remembered that she had been hospitalized twice in our department. In fact, to be precise, her two hospitalizations were a humiliation for her. So, I can be sure that she subconsciously
There is a strong reluctance to come to our department.
When she first started working on medical equipment in our hospital, she often went to my office. I now think that was a kind of frustration on her part. Faced with survival and humiliation, she could only choose the former.
And because of this, she has not been to my department for a long time recently, and may not have even been to the hospital. You know, her current office is right across from our hospital.
She once told me the reason why she didn't come to our hospital for a check-up, but I didn't think about it too much at the time. I just felt that what she said seemed to make some sense. However, at the moment when she hesitated just now, I seemed to
Everything is understood.
I was too careless about her. This is the fundamental reason why I didn’t understand this until now. Therefore, I feel very guilty in my heart.
So I said to her softly: "Yu Min, I'm sorry. I will try my best to make time to call you from now on. "Pure Text First Release" I will try my best to have more opportunities to be with you. As for which hospital you want to go to for examination, you
Decide for yourself.”
She started to cry.
I sighed, went over to hug her gently, and kissed the hair on her head, "Yu Min, why are you so stupid? You have to have this child."
She didn't speak, she just opened my door gently and said, "Let's go. Don't wait too long."
I saw Lin Yi's car downstairs at home, but he was not in the car.
"The chairman went upstairs." Xiao Li told me.
So I hurriedly ran towards the elevator.
Immediately after entering the house, I saw a warm scene: my son was playing with him on the sofa. Lin Yi was making all kinds of weird faces, and the child couldn't help but giggle.
When he saw me coming home, the child immediately became excited. He stretched out his two little hands and kept making noises at me. I picked up the child and handed it to the nanny. "You take it with me."
Children, go inside."
The child immediately stopped and started crying loudly.
"Just hold the child, don't let him cry." Lin Yi said to me, looking in the direction the child was leaving.
I shook my head, "You must have something important to talk to me about. Don't let the child here affect our conversation."
He sighed, "You just don't appreciate everything you have got. Well, let's talk about it."
So I asked him: "What happened?"
He looked at me and asked: "Feng Xiao, have you told Zhuang Qing that I plan to ask her to speak for me?"
It turned out to be this. I suddenly felt ashamed and said, "No. I haven't thought about how to tell her about this."[
"Are you busy lately?" he asked.
I shook my head, "Anyway, it's just those things. Every day's work is almost fixed."
"Then are you considering going to Beijing to meet Zhuang Qing and tell her about the matter?" he asked me.
I pondered for a moment before replying: "Well, I'll call her first and ask her."
He shook his head and said: "How can you explain some things clearly on the phone? Besides, she is no longer an ordinary person, so I think it is better for you to go there in person. This also shows respect for her. Don't you think so?"
"
I said: "What I mean is to call her first and ask her if she is free recently."
He then nodded and said: "That's true. Well, let's ask her first, but don't talk about specifics. Once she rejects you on the phone, you have no way out. If you talk to her in person, you can try to convince her. That way.
Well, you contact her first, and if you decide to go to Beijing, call me immediately. You can't go to Beijing empty-handed, right?"
I looked at him in surprise, "Do you still need to bring a gift? No need?"
He immediately laughed and said, "You decide on the gift yourself. But if you want to talk to her, you have to bring the text of our contract and show it to her first, right?"
"Contract text?" I was very puzzled.
"When you go to talk to her about this matter, you have to make a price first? Otherwise, how could you convince her so easily? She is not what she used to be now. Maybe it can't be solved simply by relying on the friendship between you and her.
It's a problem. Besides, your school still needs her to go back and give lectures and so on. I have discussed it with Principal Zhang. We should pay more here, and the school should not pay for it. This is right for her.
Zhuang Qing's influence is not good. This is a matter of killing two birds with one stone," he said.
I nodded, but suddenly thought of something, "The designs of your two projects haven't been released yet. Isn't this a little early?"
He shook his head, "It doesn't matter about the design. Just have a conceptual design first, which will be used as a promotional picture. I have thought about it. As long as she agrees to the endorsement, I will start laying the foundation for the project right away.
Preparation for the ceremony.”
"I'll ask. If she can spare time to see me, I will go to Beijing right away." I said.
"That project of the Peking Opera Troupe... oh! It would be great if nothing happens to Sun Lulu. By the way, have you visited her?" He sighed suddenly.
"I went there twice. The first time she didn't want to talk to me. The second time it was much better." I answered.
"What did you talk about? Haha! You don't have to answer my question." He asked me with a smile.
"We didn't talk about anything. I just advised her not to be too discouraged. She made a request to me and asked me to take good care of her mother. However, when I went to tell her mother about this matter, her mother refused. Old
My wife is the kind of person who doesn't want to trouble others." I sighed.
"Actually, the best way to take care of an old lady like that is to find something to do for her. Otherwise, she will get bored staying at home alone all day long," he said.
I almost said something about Sun Lulu’s mother going to worship Buddha, but I held it back immediately because I suddenly thought of what Tong Yao told me. I was worried that Lin Yi would continue to ask questions because of this. It was not because of anything else, but because I felt
I should keep my promise to Tong Yao. So I said: "But she is too old. It's hard to arrange what she can do. And I don't know what she can do."
He smiled slightly and said, "For example, let her open a canteen or something. Just sell some cigarettes, alcohol, and non-staple food. The store shouldn't be too big, so it will be easy. What do you think?"
I nodded, and then said worriedly: "Sales of tobacco and alcohol seem to require special procedures, right? What about national monopoly? Also, what will she do if she purchases goods in the future? Then there is the store. Where can I find a suitable one for a while?
?”
He smiled and said: "Other things are easy to handle. There is a store in the community where she lives, and the property rights are mine. She just doesn't need rent. I can send someone to handle the procedures for her. But what about the purchase of goods?
...I think this way, when the time comes, I will ask someone to take her to the wholesale market, and she will know how to do it from now on."
I suddenly became happy and said, "This is great. Where is the specific store in the community where she lives?"
"It's right next to the gate, where the commercial facilities are. The location is very good." He said with a smile.
I was very surprised, "How come no one has rented such a good place yet?"
He smiled faintly and said, "In my store, I can do it for whoever wants to do it. I just need to give him some compensation for the store in front of me."
I was silent for a moment, thinking that although his approach was too overbearing, it was still to solve the problem for me, and it was also to eliminate Sun Lulu's worries.
"I heard Ouyang said that you borrowed a sum of money?" At this time, he suddenly asked me.
I was thinking about what happened just now when I suddenly heard him ask me this, so I immediately said, "Yes. A fellow villager lent it to me."
"You're working on the cemetery project, right?" He smiled faintly.
I suddenly felt ashamed, because Lin Yi once wanted to get involved in that project, but he gave up after my persuasion. Now that he asked me this, it was obviously a joke.
I hurriedly said: "Yes. At that time..."
He immediately interrupted me, "Don't talk about that. You don't have to be ashamed. I know you didn't persuade me to give up that project for any other reason. Even now, I still feel that I didn't take over it.
That project is right. But now I know that your project is indeed somewhat difficult at the moment. This is good, at least it temporarily solves part of the problem. Feng Xiao, the project you have has Secretary-General Lin’s money in it.
Right? You should take out her money and return it to her as soon as possible."
I was very surprised, "Why? She must get the profit, right?"
"You must first consider the safety of other people's funds, and then consider profits. Sometimes profits are like a drawn pie, which may not always be realized. Secretary-General Lin is an official, and a senior official at that. Her money
Safety is the first priority, understand?" he said.
"But...I really can't take it out now." I said.
"So, has she asked you about this?" He asked me immediately.
I replied: "No. She doesn't seem to be that interested in money."
He immediately laughed, "That's possible. So, what do you think she is most interested in?"
I didn't know how to answer, because I seemed to have never thought about this matter, so I thought about it and said: "He is a woman, and she is divorced. Judging from her normal living habits, she should be careful about clothes, money, etc."
She doesn’t seem to have much interest. I think maybe the only thing she is interested in is her own future, that is, her progress in the officialdom.”
"Then why do you think she is doing this? She is obsessed with power? Generally speaking, women have relatively little desire for power, right? After all, there are not many women like Empress Lu, Wu Zetian, and Ci Xi." He asked me.
"How do I know? I think everyone hopes to realize their own value in their hearts, right?" I said.
He nodded, "That makes sense. So, where do you think your own value lies? How to realize it?"
I smiled bitterly and said, "Not to mention, I really haven't thought about this issue in detail. But I think that if I can be a good doctor, I have realized my value."
He smiled and said: "No. That's not what you think in your heart. If you really just want to be a good doctor, then why do you want to do the project? And why did you agree to Principal Zhang to be the director of the department?"
Me: "...I don't want to try my other abilities yet. Being the director is completely out of necessity."
He smiled and said: "Yes, you are right. But I think, in fact, you have not understood what kind of life value you need to realize until now. Am I right? You,
In fact, I am still very ignorant, and I want to achieve everything, but I don’t want to give up some of my desires. In the end, I am living in confusion.”
I felt ashamed again, "Yes, you are right."
"Actually, a person's greatest personal value should include two aspects. One is freedom, and the other is health." He said, "Freedom gives dignity to humanity, and freedom is God's best gift to mankind. Health is a material thing.
, Health without freedom is nothing more than a zombie." He said.
"Am I free?" I said, not quite sure what he meant.
But he asked me: "Do you really feel that you are free? When you see that your patient is terminally ill but your hospital has stopped paying for the treatment, do you dare to question the leadership of your hospital? When you clearly know that the people are bearing high prices.
But do you dare to question the relevant departments and the country’s system? You don’t dare, because either you don’t have that sense of social responsibility, or you don’t dare. You don’t dare because we are now ruled by power politics
Next. Feng Xiao, you are as insensitive as most people. You have seen many people become officials through connections, and you have seen many people live in desolation because they have no connections. You think that is a normal thing. But have you ever thought about it?
Are you there? There are only so many positions, and if you get them through connections, you will block the opportunities for people with real abilities to be promoted, and you will deprive others of their freedom. Okay, how can I talk about these things? Enough to talk about.
Hey! But sometimes I feel uncomfortable when I think of these things. Look, the consumption of the country's civil servants is so high. It doesn't feel bad at all to spend tens of thousands of dollars on a meal. It can be paid with a swipe of a pen.
But what about our people? Especially those in remote mountainous areas. Their children cannot afford to go to school, and even have problems eating. I continue to expand my business, just to do my best. But
, Sometimes I think, this doesn’t seem to be my duty, right? I pay taxes according to regulations, so the government should use the taxes we pay for such livelihood projects? Don’t you think so?”
I think he is indeed a little strange today: Why did he suddenly talk about such a thing? "Yes, there is nothing we can do about it. The reality is like this. You say I am numb, I admit it, but there are some things out of sight and out of mind."
He let out a long sigh, "You... forget it, everyone has his own ambitions. Okay, I'm going back. Call Zhuang Qing and tell me the situation immediately."
He stood up at the same time as he said this, and I hurriedly stood up and went to see him off. He stopped me when he reached the door, "Yes, take care of the kids. Xiao Nan is like this, I'm worried... ugh!"
"
I was silent for a moment, and felt depressed, "I'm also worried, but there's nothing I can do."
"This is all fate." He shook his head and sighed: "No matter how rich we are, we can't wake her up. What do you mean if this is not fate? So Feng Xiao, money, official position, etc. are not the most important. Health
And freedom is what a person needs most. To be honest, if I say something that shouldn't be said, it would be better for people like Xiaonan to die. In that case, she would not be in so much pain, and her relatives would only be in pain for a while and be completely relieved.
. Your Aunt Yanni has said that she would come to see Xiao Nan several times recently, but I stopped her. I said to her, why bother? You go to see her every time and feel uncomfortable. Rather than doing this, it is better not to see her. "
I feel that although what he said is a bit ugly and cruel, it does make sense. However, I still cannot fully accept his point of view, "Since she is still alive, there is at least a glimmer of hope. If her relatives are
It would be too cruel for her to cut off the last glimmer of hope. For her and my children, I will force myself to persist until the end."
He sighed and left. I watched him go away.
After his figure completely disappeared, I closed the door and started calling Zhuang Qing.
The author's digression:
Today's "Behind the promotion all the way: Officials also have the right way" A mysterious mission, Peng Changyi of the organization department gained the trust of the leader and was promoted all the way; a rare official love almost buried the friendship between Peng Changyi and Jiang Fan, thus making the two political leaders
The veteran launched a power game; in the end, the two shook hands for the second time with the overall situation in mind. However, the female reporter Ding Yi, caught between the two, sadly left...
Let’s take a look at how the various characters in the book survive in the officialdom and workplace, which are surrounded by dangers and infighting. How do they make trade-offs in the face of intertwined interests, complex situations where enemies and friends are difficult to distinguish, and true love?
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