This feeling of discomfort and loneliness made my brain go blank for a while, so that it took me a while before I said, "I won't go to your restaurant. {Free novel} Let's go find a place by the river.
Bar."
She asked me softly: "What's wrong with you?"
I felt that my throat was bitter and dry, "No, it's nothing. Let's go to the riverside. There is a Jianghu restaurant there that tastes pretty good."
She said: "Okay then."
Only now did I realize that there is still a place for her in my heart. Otherwise, why would I have such a reaction when I learned that she was about to get married? At this moment, I suddenly understood: From now on, I
I will truly lose her in the future.[
However, I can only let her lose because now I am not qualified to enjoy marriage at all. But I don't want to go to her restaurant because I don't want to see that man.
I'm afraid my heart will hurt even more.
According to the time we agreed, I arrived at the riverside restaurant on time.
In the past year or two, many Jianghu restaurants have appeared in Jiangnan Province in a short period of time.
The so-called Jianghu cuisine, in the words of cooking experts, refers to dishes relative to authentic dishes. It is rooted in the folk, based on one cuisine, learned from many teachers, and cooked in an informal way. Jianghu cuisine is the largest
Its characteristics are "earth", "coarse" and "miscellaneous". "Earth" means that Jianghu cuisine has an extremely strong local flavor. Some Jianghu dishes originate from roadside shops and are cooked by fishermen and village girls.
The person who eats it accidentally finds the heart, which is actually a natural skill, and thus achieves a surprising effect; "coarse" refers to the rough and unrestrained temperament of Jianghu. In cooking, he does not follow the usual methods, sprinkle a large amount of chili pepper, add pepper to a large ladle, and paste
Diced chicken is hidden in the spicy shell, and crucian carp swims in the red oil soup. The form is informal, with earthen stoves, thick bowls, large plates for meat, and large basins for soup. The diners are rough and bold, drinking heavily, devouring meat with large mouths, and breathing.
Five invites and six, eat Malatang, taste refreshing and fresh, for no other reason than to stimulate, just to satisfy your taste; "Za" refers to the eclectic "hybrid" technique of Jianghu cuisine, using weird and bizarre cooking techniques: compound
Seasoning, northern ingredients cooked in the south, southern ingredients cooked in the north, Chinese dishes cooked in the west, western dishes cooked in the middle. The cooked dishes make people feel familiar, but they can’t figure out how to cook them. Sometimes they are incredible, but they are also amazing.
Absolutely.
After all, what Jianghu cuisine pursues is the extreme stimulation of the taste.
For me today, I feel that I need such stimulation, because I find that my emotions and nerves seem to have become numb.
When I got there, she had already arrived. When I entered, I found her sitting in the hall, in a corner. As soon as I entered, she saw me and immediately waved to me, "Here!"
I saw her and immediately walked towards her and sat down opposite her.
She was looking at me, the smile on her face was a little unnatural, "I've already ordered the food. I didn't order wine. Let's not drink today."
I nodded, "I won't drink."
She looked at me, "What's wrong with you? You seem worried?"
I smiled bitterly and shook my head, "Nothing. Tell me, what do you want to say to me?"
She looked at me, her face turned red, and then she asked me softly: "I'm getting married, will you come?"
I shook my head slightly, "I won't come. But I will bless you in my heart."
She was still looking at me, with tenderness in her eyes, "Feng Xiao, you actually like me, don't you? I can tell, that should be the case."
I shook my head, "Zhong Feng, I'm sorry. It's impossible for us to be together. I've told you this a long time ago."
She immediately became excited, "Why?! You have to tell me the reason? You have to make me completely disappointed in you?! You told me before that your life was very hard, and I didn't believe it at all! Even if you
What I said is true, and so do I. Anyway, I have already died once, so what should I be afraid of? I just want to be with you, and I just want to have a child for the two of us, even if I die soon
Just die, it's worth it. Feng Xiao, why don't you understand my feelings for you?"
My heart was already desolate, "Zhong Feng, don't ask me, I won't tell you. It's my fault... Well, since I'm not drinking today, I'll toast you with this cup of tea."
You go, I wish you happiness forever in the future.”[
She shook her head and started to cry at the same time, "Feng Xiao, you are the same as the man before. Forget it, I won't ask you anymore. I don't blame you either. Anyway, I owe you this life. You saved me."
My life, whether it was God's will that you saved me or it was your duty at the time, I know that I must repay you this kindness in this life. I have already got the money, Lin
Yi did not transfer his donation to my account. Maybe I was wrong. I will donate the money to you in the near future. I must go and repay this wish, otherwise I will never be able to live forever.
It will make you feel at ease. I don’t want to eat anymore, so I’m leaving first.”
After she finished speaking, she stood up immediately and left quickly. I stretched out my hand towards her, but withdrew it halfway.
Just like that, I watched her back disappear before my eyes.
The dishes have arrived, and they are all what she ordered. On the table are a pot of spicy and sour shrimps, a large plate of spicy eel segments, and several side dishes.
She ordered all these dishes. Originally, the two of us ate together, but now, I am the only one left here. At this moment, my heart feels even more desolate, and an indescribable pain has already filled the air.
All over my body. In this corner, I feel even more lonely.
Although I didn't feel hungry, I still picked up the chopsticks. These were the dishes she ordered, and I should eat them.
The taste of the eel segment was extremely spicy. I started sweating immediately after eating a little bit, my lips were numb and throbbing, and my mouth was suddenly stimulated by the spiciness and felt a dull pain.
Then I ate some other dishes, but I felt that every dish was so bitter. It turned out that I was already crying silently, and the tears followed the tear ducts to the throat. At this moment, for the first time, I
I felt that my tears had such a bitter taste.
I didn’t drink, nor did I ask the waiter to bring me wine. Now that I have passed the youthful stage, I will not use alcohol to make myself more worried. I know very well that alcohol can certainly make me feel miserable.
You get temporary anesthesia, but it only makes you feel hurt inside and increases your physical pain.
I couldn't eat any more, so I called the waiter and asked her to pay the bill. The waiter looked at the almost untouched dishes on the table in surprise, opened her mouth and was about to say something, but I immediately interrupted her.
Prepare to say, "It tastes good. I'm just in a bad mood."
She said: "Then let me pack it for you?"
I shook my head and immediately paid the bill according to the number she said.
When I returned to my new home, I suddenly felt that my current home was so strange, and this strange feeling made me feel even more lonely.
When the child saw me coming back, he immediately ran towards me with a smile. He stood in front of me, tilted his head, and looked at me with his big eyes, "Dad, it seems that today is not Sunday, right? Why are you back?"
He looked so cute, but I didn't feel like hugging him today, but I still smiled slightly and answered him, "Dad is here for a meeting today, so I went home by the way."
The child stretched out his little hand to hold me, "Dad, grandma bought me a new toy today. You go and have a look. It's very fun."
At this moment, I really wasn't in the mood to play with my child. I said to my child: "Daddy is too tired today, let's play tomorrow."
The child suddenly looked disappointed and said, "Tomorrow, when I come back from kindergarten tomorrow, you will be gone again."
At this time, the mother spoke, "Just stay with the child. It's rare to see you back once in a week. Many people say that father's love has a great impact on children."
I smiled bitterly and said, "Mom, I don't feel very well today and I want to go to bed early."
Only then did my mother look at me carefully, "Ah? There seems to be something wrong with your face. Then you should go to the hospital and have a look."
I shook my head and said, "It's okay. I'll go and have a good sleep and then I'll be fine."[
My mother looked at me worriedly. I smiled at her and went to my room.
I really should spend time with my children, but I can't control the sadness inside me.
In fact, I know that what my mother said is right. Father's love plays a very important role in the growth of children. Now my children lack maternal love, but as the father of my children, I cannot give my children enough father's love. Regarding this, I
Of course I felt very ashamed.
American psychologists have found through surveys that children who do not receive enough love from their fathers have very prominent emotional disorders, and behavioral defects such as anxiety, loneliness, willfulness, hyperactivity, dependence, low self-esteem, weak self-control, and strong aggression are more common.
, and even have a certain relationship with bad living habits in adulthood. Psychologists have proposed the concept of "lack of father's love syndrome" based on this. Children suffering from "lack of father's love syndrome" will develop neurosis, psychosis or
The rates of psychological diseases such as personality disorders and crime-suicide rates are higher than those of other children, and may affect their ability to correctly handle gender relationships as adults, leading to unhappy marriages. Longing for father's love is the deepest and most urgent psychology of boys.
Needs. He longs for a strong and humorous, rough and gentle, confident and caring, wise and humble man to be by his side and inject real "manliness" into him. The boy needs to stay with his father to help him
Establish a sense of security and self-confidence in the world around them, and learn to be a man from their father. Girls need to understand men through their fathers and learn the skills to get along with men. The negative impact of bad family factors on children's psychology cannot be ignored, especially
Fathers are very important in the growth process of children. Children who are often rejected and denied by their fathers are prone to anxiety.
Psychologists have even pointed out that boys have a "father's love hunger syndrome", that is, when boys reach adolescence, they are often alienated and even disgusted with their father. This alienation and disgust are mixed with the disappointment and misery of not getting father's love. He blindly goes to
Try various possible remedies, including smoking, drinking, even sexual indulgence or drug abuse. Longing for father's love, which is the boy's deepest psychological need. Being with his father, the boy develops a sense of security in the world around him and confidence in his personal future.
Heart. Psychologists believe that father's love is the starting point to help boys move towards health.
In addition, psychologists and educators also point out that when children grow up, parents should use different educational methods to shoulder different educational tasks due to differences in gender roles, social division of labor, and family division of labor. Generally speaking, mothers
He focuses on life and emotions, while his father focuses on spirit and psychology; his mother emphasizes stability, and his father emphasizes innovation and development; his father passes on to his son masculinity such as strength, bravery, and endurance, while his mother passes on delicacy, care, and compassion.
Wait for the feminine side. The two complement each other and work together to create a child's sound psychological quality. On the contrary, if one aspect is excessively strengthened or weakened, it will affect the child's psychological maturity and character perfection.
For example, children who grow up in an environment with insufficient fatherly love and excessive maternal affection are prone to develop timid, weak-willed, lack of innovative spirit, and over-reliance on others. Especially for girls, the "nanny style" of being overly caring
"Father's love can even lead to obstacles in children's emotional and psychosexual development.
Another example is that when a child asks a question for his or her parents to answer, the father rarely has the patience to explain everything in detail, and always lets the child see and think for himself, leaving the child with confusion and doubts. However, the mother will tell the answer in full.
Conclusion. On the surface, the father's method is a bit "rough", but it is a good will exercise to encourage children to think more. It can be seen that strengthening father's love plays an important role in cultivating children's sound psychology and making boys truly become men.
How important is the role of mother's love? This role cannot be replaced by maternal love.
Fathers should not be simple and rude when educating their children. Many fathers are not patient enough when dealing with their children, especially when they see their children's shortcomings, such as poor academic performance, procrastination in homework, etc., they become anxious and can't help but
Children have to be beaten and scolded. Therefore, many children report that they are afraid of their father. Under such high-pressure control, not only do children not get rid of their shortcomings, but they also become less confident, have a withdrawn personality, or have a rebellious and irritable temper, which is difficult to control. Therefore,
,Fathers must learn to make friends with their children, so that they can educate their children.
The father is an indispensable role in the growth of a child. In some single-parent families, the mother takes care of the child alone. They think that remarriage will bring pressure to the child, so they no longer choose marriage for the sake of the child, or are afraid of getting married. In fact, this is
This is a wrong idea. Psychologists have found that if a child lacks the influence of his father when growing up, boys tend to become more feminine, and girls tend to be attached to older men, or fear or distrust men. Some divorced mothers will
Involuntarily instilling resentment and hatred toward your husband into your children casts an indelible shadow in their young minds, which will affect their interpersonal relationships, concepts of mate selection, and married life when they grow up.
From many cases of psychological consultation, it was found that boys who lack father's love often do not know what kind of mission they should have as a man. Due to the lack of male role models, he struggles with gender identity and does not know how to treat the opposite sex. Due to the lack of adult men, He lacks self-discipline, and his emotions and personality are also very unstable. Some are timid and indecisive, some have a violent temper and act impulsively, and some are depressed and self-defeating.
In addition, a girl who lacks fatherly love is prone to doubt her existence and value as a woman because she was not accepted and recognized by adult men when she was young. Due to the lack of male idols, she does not know what a man should be and how he should be. Treating women is an equal relationship. Some will spend their whole lives and pay a lot of money to please men. For her, love is painful. She will involuntarily fall in love with someone who is much older than her or someone who is more interested in her. Men who are indifferent or even abuse her and abandon her because she does not receive normal male love, care and respect from her father. They will have serious insecurities in their hearts, and they will be more eager for the intimate relationship between the sexes, and even It is difficult to grasp the scale between men and women, and there may be emotional coldness or fanaticism.
The most influential person on this issue is Dr. Ross Pike of Harvard University. He has conducted in-depth research in this field. Peck believes that the father’s influence on his daughter’s personality and sexual psychology sometimes even exceeds that of the mother. The father For sons, they tend to provide more opportunities for independence, but for daughters, it is easy to go to the two extremes of alienation or encourage their dependence. The result of alienation makes them more likely to develop a nymphomaniac complex and become "nymphomaniacs" with casual feelings. "; Indulging the dependence of daughters can easily turn them into "candy" without independent opinions. Dr. Rosspack also believes that the socialization process of girls is often the result of the influence of the father. If a girl lacks father's love, , then her socialization level will be relatively low, her sexual concepts will be relatively confused, and the possibility of inappropriate sexual behavior will be greater.
Children who lack the care of their parents since childhood often suffer from anxiety and depression. When they reach adolescence, they will suddenly realize that they have been "abandoned" by their parents, look at their parents with a judgmental attitude, and project their anger towards their parents onto society and society. Others may suffer from behavioral disorders, communication difficulties, etc.
Maternal love is the most critical emotion that helps infants and young children complete their personality development, and it cannot be replaced by any love. Because children understand the world through their senses, if they receive care and caress from their mothers, their physiological needs will be met. You will feel safe and have a sense of trust in the people around you; otherwise, you will be afraid of the world, distrustful of people, and become sensitive and suspicious.
Researchers have found that mother's caressing can stimulate the baby's brain to produce a "gene that comforts the body when under stress." Therefore, babies who are often caressed by their mothers will secrete lower levels of stress hormones when they grow up; Higher, and research has found that when people are nervous, their thinking channels are narrow!
American psychologist Erikson mentioned in his famous "Eight Stages of Personality Development Theory" that children must understand the world through their senses from birth to eighteen months and trust the world through the image of their mother. .If he gets the mother's care and caress, his physiological needs will be met, he will feel safe, and he will have a sense of trust in the people around him. But if the mother's care is not enough, or even non-existent, the child will become suspicious of others. , fearful of the world and full of distrust, it can be seen that maternal love has a vital impact on children. Most of these types of student girls are girls. They lost their mothers in childhood, and their father’s mentality and personality are also silent, so the child’s behavior needs to be carefully understood Caring. Emotions are easy to fall into a state of melancholy, depression, pessimism and depression. They are in the junior high school stage, which is a critical period for physical changes. For example, they have their first menstruation. Without the care of their mother, they dare not communicate with their classmates. They often They will feel afraid; they are unable to concentrate on their studies, so their grades gradually decline. But deep down, they long for progress, but feel that they are unable to achieve their goals. This will physically strengthen their sense of inferiority and weaken their self-confidence. They do not I am willing to ask my classmates and teachers about family matters, and I am not willing to hold parent-teacher conferences at school, but my heart is more eager for family affection and warmth.
The role of maternal love in the healthy physical and mental growth of children can be substituted. In fact, people with a little experience will have this experience: people who received sufficient maternal love in childhood tend to have relatively sound personalities when they become adults; on the contrary, their personalities are more or less
Some people may have shortcomings, such as being stubborn and willful, selfish and introverted, pessimistic, hostile to others, narrow-minded, prone to jealousy, bad-tempered, etc. These weird personality traits have even caused tension in their interpersonal relationships, and even some people are successful in their careers.
He has made remarkable achievements in school and is very prosperous in life, but he is always depressed. The lack of maternal love in children also seriously affects the relationship between mother and child. A large number of psychological counseling cases show that people who lack maternal love in childhood have negative feelings for their mothers.
The depth of the relationship is far less than that of children who have received complete maternal love; and this in turn has brought hard-to-heal psychological trauma to both mother and child, and even regrets for life.
Gorky's famous saying is the most pertinent: "Mother's love is the greatest power in the world. Without the help of selfless, self-sacrificing maternal love, the child's soul will be barren." This sentence shows that childhood experiences affect life, among which maternal love has a profound impact on life.
The role of children's healthy physical and mental growth can be replaced.
Junior high school students do not have strong self-control abilities, their worldview is gradually forming, and they are easily influenced by the outside world. Some parents are often unable to accompany and take care of their free children at home due to heavy workloads after their children's mothers suddenly leave. In this way, students do not feel at all in a deserted home.
Without the warmth and care of family, I have no nostalgia for home. I feel that the outside world is more attractive than home. Friends outside make me feel more "human" and can take care of myself better than my father. Therefore, I go straight to the home after school.
"A more wonderful world", wandering around in Internet cafes and game console rooms with "friends", unwilling to go home late at night. This type of student gradually develops a wrong understanding of moral standards in the "wonderful world" and lacks morality.
and social responsibility, their self-evaluation is often incorrect, they are easily influenced by negative evaluations from "friends" or society, and are not easily accepted by positive education and evaluations from schools and parents. This has a very bad impact on the surrounding students and is typical.
Double difference student.
Many parents feel guilty because their children have lost maternal love. They think that they cannot provide their children with a complete family, so they want to compensate their children with money and other material aspects. They pamper their children excessively and pamper them in terms of food, clothing, and play.
, flowers and other aspects, regardless of whether the child's request is reasonable or whether the behavior is correct, all will be met. This kind of "closeness" method of parents is not conducive to the formation of good habits of children, and directly affects the healthy growth and development of children. This
Parents like this don’t know that their children in junior high school are growing rapidly mentally and physically. Because of their father’s love, they feel that it is natural for them to stretch out their hands for clothes and open their mouths for food. This type of students are always self-centered and self-centered.
, selfish, extreme, without collective ideas, and difficult to integrate into collective life. At the same time, he cannot bear any criticism, let alone setbacks and blows, showing an extremely fragile psychological state.
Research has shown that people with suicidal tendencies are mostly related to their premature separation from maternal love, such as: losing their mother in early years, the mother is sick and needs him to take care of her life, etc. Separation from the mother in childhood, or lack of maternal love, will have a long-lasting impact on people.
, so that he will have a feeling of help and despair when he encounters difficulties in the future. This is actually a "reappearance of the situation" of being separated from his mother in the past, a "psychological realization", not the objective reality at the moment. It has the potential to commit suicide.
People who tend to be timid and afraid of taking risks, or indulge in fantasy, like to be close to older women, and some young men even like to choose girls with maternal qualities as wives, such as: fat, tall, etc.
Most people with suicidal tendencies are very responsible people who care about their own value and contribution to the family. They often have lofty goals. Many mothers cannot forgive their children's "playfulness" and force them to learn how to
Things you don’t like. Psychologists believe that suppressing nature is not conducive to cultivating qualities such as love, sympathy, tolerance, etc. from an early age. Many parents believe that “people are bullied for being kind”, so they are unwilling to provide “kindness education” to their children. For example,
They always say to their children: "If someone hits you, hit him too. If you can't beat him, bite him." Some parents instill in their children "how intrigues are in society" and "how intrigues exist between people." Parents
Inappropriate words and deeds may make children lack kindness. Psychologists believe that some college students are indifferent, selfish and lack compassion, and this has to be traced back to their early education.
In modern society, the divorce rate is high, families are disharmonious, and life is stressful. In many families, due to various reasons, children cannot enjoy normal fatherly and motherly love. The fundamental reason is that parents do not have enough understanding of their children's growth. Many people think that they should give their children enough.
They think that making money desperately is for their children. Some people choose to divorce to escape if their families are not happy, or they choose to make do for the sake of their children. Some people use their children as a tool to realize their ideals and build their self-confidence.
, strictly discipline children... These behaviors are the main causes of children's psychological problems. If parents can recognize their own problems and see their children's true inner needs, it will be the greatest happiness for their children.
I understand all these principles, because I have done in-depth research on psychology in the past. But this is something that makes me feel even more painful. I clearly know the importance of father's love, and I clearly know that children lack maternal love, but
I can only let this situation continue.
Perhaps the greatest sorrow in life is nothing more than this.
Should I give up everything I have? Give up everything and return to my child? Then find a stepmother for my child who can love him?
At this time, I had to think about another question: What is the purpose of our lives? Is it to live for ourselves or to live for our children?
In fact, sometimes I think about it, people's life is really confusing and inexplicable. When I grow up, I live for my family, my children, my parents, and my own face. The memory before the age of ten is already relatively blurry. From the age of ten to twenty
During my many years of schooling, I have been looking forward to growing up quickly, hoping that I can no longer have restrictions and live a life of my own control, and then maybe a very short love and marriage. If a person is twenty-five years old,
If you get married at 19 and have a child at 30, then you will spend the remaining 25 years living for your family and children. Even if there are unspeakable hardships, you can endure them. So in our country, children play a very important role.
It has become the motivation for many people to live, although many people always complain about how tiring it is to raise a child.
Many of us lead a life of leaving early and coming home late, raising children. Although we also want to take good care of our parents, our energy is limited. Our parents will eventually come second to our children. Therefore, many people say that our parents are owed money in their previous lives.
If you are in debt to your children, the debt you owe your parents must always be repaid to your children.
This is how most people in our country live. Maybe they can only think about their own lives after they are sixty years old.
After reaching the age of sixty, the old couple relies on each other and lives a life of respect for each other. After the age of sixty, they live for themselves. For traditional Chinese families, this state has become a dream we often talk about.
So I thought, is this kind of life really meaningful?
I don't know, I really can't think about these questions. But now I'm lying on the bed, forcing myself to think about it, because I don't want to transfer my thoughts to Zhong Feng.
I can't sleep.
A few days later, the Japanese delegation arrived in Jiangnan Province. The purpose of their visit to Jiangnan Province this time was of course to sign a contract with us.
The province attaches great importance to this matter. Governor Wang and Governor Huang personally went to the airport to greet us. Our main leaders from Shangjiang City all participated in this greeting task, but officials at my level only stood in the greeting team.
The last one.
There have been a lot of good things happening in Shangjiang City recently. Just yesterday, the archaeological team of the Provincial Cultural Relics Bureau reported to us a very happy thing: after preliminary excavations at the site, it can be initially determined that the place is the ruins of a temple, and the archaeological team is still there
Some cultural relics were excavated at the site. After preliminary identification by the archaeological team, those cultural relics were indeed from the early and middle Ming Dynasty.
When I heard the news, I couldn't believe it, so I immediately ran to Minister Wu's office.
It was my first time to go to his office. When I entered, I found that his office was very spacious and beautiful. Generally speaking, it was no less than Secretary Chen’s office. It was even more spacious and beautiful than my office.
a lot of.
But I just said casually: "Minister Wu, your office is nice."
He said with a smile: "The nature of the work of our ** department is to frequently deal with overseas Chinese and people outside the Party. It is unacceptable if the environment is too bad. There is no other way. We can only find ways to make it as good as possible."
I smiled and asked him: "As far as I know, the city government doesn't seem to allocate much work funds to you every year. Do you have other sources of money? Haha! Minister Wu, I don't mean anything else, just
Just ask."
He smiled and said: "Shangjiang City is so poor, we don't expect to get more work funds from the city government. Even if I ask for it, Mayor Feng may not necessarily give it to me, don't you think?"
I smiled and said, "It's not that I don't give it, it's that I can't get it out."
He nodded and said: "Yes. I mean the same thing as you. To tell you the truth, Mayor Feng, our ** department has special funds every year. This fund is directly assigned to the provincial ** department.
Ours. The nature of our work is too special and sensitive, so the above has arranged such a fund. In addition, we can also directly apply for funds from the competent authorities in Beijing through some projects. In fact, Mayor Feng, as our
The Shangjiang Municipal Government can do the same thing. As long as we have suitable projects, we can also get special funds from Beijing. Mayor Wen did a good job in this regard in the past, and we can apply for a lot of funds every year.
.”
I suddenly realized, "So that's it. Thank you, Minister Wu, we will pay more attention to this aspect in the future. Also, we need to ask you to send us more experiences and ideas about this aspect of work in the future. But Minister Wu,
I came to see you today for something else."
He immediately laughed, "I know what it is. Mayor Feng, you want to ask me whether the news from the archaeological team is reliable? Or, you want to ask me whether I have done any work for the archaeological team.
.Is it this way?"
I couldn't help but admire in my heart: This is also a smart man. I nodded to him and said: "That's right."
He immediately said: "No. I haven't done any work on them yet. Because I believe that place should be the ruins of that temple. Judging from the old man's research and the conditions of the scene we saw at that time,
Those places should be the ruins of that temple."
But I still looked at him suspiciously, "Really?"
He immediately laughed, "Mayor Feng, why don't you believe me? Of course what I say is true. If you don't believe it, you can ask the old man, or you can go to the site to see the cultural relics that have been excavated."
I couldn't help but smile sheepishly, "Look, I thought of cheating at first, but in the end, I started to doubt the real thing."
He laughed, "So, we'd better not lie. Otherwise we might not be able to tell the truth from the lie. But Mayor Feng, to be honest, if after the excavation it is found that the place is not the ruins of a temple,
, I also agree with your idea. Because we need such a project in Shangjiang, and this matter has been publicized, not to mention that we do not need to fund the reconstruction ourselves. How can we give up such a good thing? In fact, nationwide
Many of the so-called monuments in the city are hyped up. For example, the Baidi City at the entrance of Qutang Gorge is hyped as the place where Liu Bei left his home. In fact, that place is just a temple, and the real place where Liu Bei left his home is Yong'an Palace.
As for where Yong'an Palace is, this matter is still a mystery. Baidi City actually came from a man named Gongsun Shu at the end of the Western Han Dynasty. At the end of the Western Han Dynasty, when Wang Mang usurped the throne, his general Gongsun
Shu separatized Sichuan. Gongsun Shu's power in the Kingdom of Abundance gradually expanded, and he ambitiously wanted to be the emperor. One day, he rode to the mouth of Qutang Gorge. Seeing that the terrain was dangerous and difficult to attack and easy to defend, he expanded and built the city fortress.
, and stationed troops to guard against it. Later, Gongsun Shu heard that there was a White Crane Well in the city, and a white mist often emerged from the well. Its shape was like a dragon, rushing straight into Jiuxiao. So Gongsun Shu made a mystery and said that this was a white dragon coming out of the well, and it was him.
It was a sign that he would surely ascend the throne and become a dragon in the future. So he called himself Baidi in AD 25 and named the city he built Baidi City. Later Gongsun Shu fought with Liu Xiu for the world and was destroyed by Liu Xiu. Baidi City was also in the flames of war.
Turned into ashes. During the period when Gongsun Shu became emperor, there were frequent wars in various places, but the area around Baidi City was relatively peaceful. In order to commemorate Gongsun Shu, the local people built the Baidi Temple in Baidi City and worshiped the statue. By the Ming Dynasty, Gongsun Shu
The statue of Baidi Temple was moved away and replaced by a statue of Liu Bei. There are also statues of Guan Yu, Zhang Fei, and Zhuge Liang in the temple. The name of Baidi Temple has been used to this day. Recently, I checked some information and found that the place where Baidi City is located
The government's annual ticket revenue from Baidi City reaches tens of millions of yuan. Because people have completely associated that place with the allusion of Liu Bei Tuogu. What people go there to experience is the special scene of the Three Kingdoms period.
No one will care about whether it is true or false. Therefore, it is nothing for us to do this. Because our Shangjiang City is originally an ancient cultural city, and what we need now is to discover various elements of this ancient cultural city.
.It is obvious that the legend of this temple will become a highlight of our city in the future, because it contains several basic elements that can become well-known: mysterious culture, legends about emperors, legends about treasures, etc.
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I couldn't help but burst out laughing, "It makes sense." Then I said to him: "The preliminary results of the excavation are a good publicity stunt. So, Minister Wu, why don't we publish this news in the province?"
What about newspapers? You can even put it online. It would be better if CCTV could report it."
He smiled and said: "We have already notified several newspapers in the province. However, it is better not to make any move to CCTV for the time being. First, the cost is too high, and second, the materials we have prepared are not sufficient yet. So I am worried.
Even if our Jiangnan TV station submitted it to CCTV, it would be difficult for it to be adopted."
I nodded.
Then he told me another thing, "Mayor Feng, the female boss who went up the mountain with you last time, her surname seems to be Zhong, right? She called us recently, mainly to inquire about donations.
I have already reported this matter to Secretary Chen. Secretary Chen’s opinion is to first establish an organization and then open a special donation account in a certain bank. So we are currently handling this matter."
I said: "This is very important. Secretary Chen's opinion is correct. But I think we should also consider the management of future fund use."
He nodded, "Yes. Secretary Chen also mentioned this matter. Therefore, this matter may be studied specifically at the next meeting of the Standing Committee of the Municipal Party Committee."
I said: "Secretary Chen is so considerate of the issue."
He said: "Yes. By the way, one more thing is that your father-in-law and his secretary also called us, saying that he hoped that we would agree to let Jiangnan Group undertake the reconstruction project of this temple. They
We are willing to use a budget of 5 million in construction funds to do this well. Mayor Feng, do you think we have been too lucky in Shangjiang recently? Why are so many people willing to donate to us?"
I was stunned for a moment, and then I couldn't help laughing.
The author's digression:
Today: "The Female Minister's Secret Boyfriend: The Master Behind the Scenes"
Women, love, friends, officialdom, complicated and confusing--in this life-changing battle, Du Yifan completed the process from boy to man, from immature to mature and even worldly. In officialdom, he felt that he would never be the same.
He is a student, like a dancer on the tip of a knife, facing his superiors, colleagues, and political opponents, in a purgatory like the light of swords and shadows...
Du Yifan, a post-80s boy who graduated from Communication University of China, returned to the second-tier city Wujiang from Beijing. He met Li Ranchun, the female director of the Propaganda Department of Wujiang City. Under Li Ranchun's guidance, he entered the officialdom step by step and became the youngest person in Wujiang City.
A division-level cadre. Just when he was confident that he would enter the officialdom, he found out that he had fallen in love with Sun Xiaomu, a newspaper photographer. And the Liu County he was assigned to was complicated. In order to get rid of Li Runchun as soon as possible, he wanted to borrow Liu Runchun's help.
Gong Daojin, the county's powerful faction, tried his best to play a fake love game with his daughter. But in the ever-evolving officialdom, Du Yifan was still being calculated. Should he continue to be an official or give up his official career?
---At the time of the painful choice, Sun Xiaomu appeared, and the flame of love that could not be extinguished burned. When Sun Xiaomu took Du Yifan home, Du Yifan was stunned. Sun Xiaomu's father was actually the Secretary-General of the Provincial Party Committee. Du Yifan
Will his career path take a turn for the worse? Will he and Sun Xiaomu have an outcome?