I deliberately got off work earlier that day. Before I went to Mr. Liu’s place, I asked my secretary to call his home. The main purpose was to find out if the old man was at home today. (.Pure text) He has been with him recently.
I have been busy rebuilding the ancient temple and sometimes go to the mountains, so I am worried that he is not at home.
As a result, he happened to be there. This was not because I was lucky, but because the road up the mountain had not yet been repaired, it was impossible for him to climb the mountain every day. The mountain was windy and tidal, and his age could not bear it, so he had to go home to live at night.
Before I went to his house, I asked the office to prepare two bottles of good wine for me. I also asked my secretary, Xiao Xu, to go to the canteen of the office to ask if there was anything special. As a result, the canteen got a few bottles of wine in the afternoon.
I took the few kilograms of wild silver carp and the wine to the old man's house.
I'm not being polite, I did this to express my respect for the old man. Of course the old man doesn't care about these things, but he also values the respect others have for him. For a person in my position
You should know the rules, and I also pay great attention to this aspect. Although it is a detail, sometimes details are often very important.
When he arrived at the old man's house, he personally welcomed him out. When he saw secretary Xiao Xu holding something in his hand, he immediately said: "Mayor Feng, why are you so polite?" [
I smiled and said, "Just call me Xiao Feng. I am your junior."
He smiled and said: "There are fewer and fewer young people like you who know the rules now. Your father-in-law often praises you in front of me."
I know that he may be with Lin Yi often recently, so I don't feel anything strange. Besides, Lin Yi is generally quite satisfied with me. Also, he does this to make me more popular in Shangjiang City.
Have prestige.
I smiled and said: "Old man, I haven't done well in many places. Please feel free to criticize me from now on."
He laughed and said, "You're welcome, Xiao Feng. Come on, let's go drink tea."
Then he took me under the grape trellis in the courtyard, where a pot of tea and two teacups were already brewed on the table.
He poured me a cup and said at the same time: "This is wild tea that I picked from the mountains. I roasted it myself and dried it in the sun. Try it, it tastes very good. Nowadays, tea gardens spray pesticides on tea leaves."
, this wild tea has no such problem.”
I thanked him and took a sip immediately. Sure enough, the taste of this tea was really different. When I drank it, my cheeks were filled with fragrance. I praised: "What a good tea. It's really a good tea. Old man, I can't believe it."
Your tea-making skills are also pretty good."
I sincerely praised him. He smiled and said: "Not to mention, I have seriously learned this technology. One year I went to Hangzhou on a business trip and visited their tea-making technology in Longjing Village on the edge of the West Lake.
Then I learned a few tricks from the local tea farmers. The most important thing in making tea is the heat. Haha! There are so many things to pay attention to here."
I came to see him today for other reasons, not just to chat, so I didn’t answer his words, I just smiled and said, “That’s how it should be.”
He looked at me and said, "Xiao Feng, why did you come to see me today?"
I nodded. I wasn't surprised at all that he was so sensitive. My perfunctory behavior just now reminded him that I probably wasn't here just for chatting. For this old man, he has already reached the point where he is well-versed in human relations.
It is the result of one's accumulated experience.
I smiled and said: "Old man, you are really sharp-eyed. Indeed, I have something to come to you for today. You won't blame me for being too purposeful, right?"
He laughed and said, "Xiao Feng, I know you are very busy. You just became a full-time employee, and Shangjiang is in a critical period of urban construction and various reforms. How can you have the leisure to come to my place for tea and chat on weekdays? You,
Just like your father-in-law said, he is too honest."
I looked at him and smiled: "Old man, are you praising me or criticizing me?"
He laughed again, and then said: "Xiao Feng, to be honest, I really like you as a person. You became the mayor at a young age, and you are able to be neither arrogant nor impetuous, which is very rare.
To win the respect of others is not to use power to suppress others, but to be more humble. You have done this very well. Xiao Feng, I am not flattering you, I have no need at all
.I now understand a truth: Anyone’s excellence is justified and is not just a matter of luck. Okay, let’s stop chatting. Tell me, why did you come to me today?”
I immediately asked: "Old man, I heard that you are very familiar with an old revolutionary named An Lao from our Shangjiang City?"
He immediately smiled and said: "That's quite familiar. This old guy has a weird temper. What? You have something to do with him?"
I immediately laughed because I thought what he just said was somewhat humorous. Then I said: "Old man, I just recently discovered that I made a mistake: since I arrived in Shangjiang City, I gave the job of veteran cadres to
I ignored it. It is said that Mr. An is the most famous old comrade in our Shangjiang City. Of course I should visit him. But I also heard that his temper is a bit weird, and I am worried that he will not see me. In that case, I will be too embarrassed.
.Haha! Old man, I heard that you have a good relationship with him, isn’t this? I have no choice but to ask you to come forward.”[
But he immediately began to ponder, "This matter... Xiao Feng, let me take the time to meet with him first and then talk about it. Well, or so. I will invite him over right away. Today
Let's drink together in the evening. But Xiao Feng, this old guy hates people who show off, so you have to be prepared for him to ignore you in a while."
I smiled bitterly and said, "Old man, do you think I am the kind of person who is putting on airs?"
He immediately laughed, "I didn't express it clearly. What I mean is that this person really dislikes the frivolity of today's officials. What I'm worried about is that he thinks you are too young and will think that you...
.Haha! Forget it, let’s not talk about it. With me here, he won’t go so far.”
I don’t know why, but there was a kind of panic in my heart at this moment. I said: "Let my driver take you to pick him up?"
He shook his head and said: "No. By the way, you'd better ask your secretary and driver to leave first. I'll just take a rickshaw to pick him up."
His words made me understand immediately: If I brought the driver and secretary with me today, the old man would regard it as a pretense. And I also realized that when he went to invite the old man later, he would definitely not
Will tell him I'm here.
Thinking of this, I immediately said to him: "Old man, let me leave for a while, and I will come back after you invite him. It's as if I suddenly met you and him today. What do you think?
May I?"
He thought for a while, then nodded and said: "This is better."
Then I said that I would take him to the outside of An's hometown in my car, but he firmly disagreed. He said, "It's not far, I'll be there in a moment."
So I left with the driver and secretary. Taking this opportunity, I went for a walk around the city and sat in the car.
This city has changed a lot compared to when I first came here. At that time, the city gave me the impression of being dilapidated, quiet, and chaotic. Now, the dilapidation and chaos here still exist.
But it's changing.
After the improvement of urban traffic and hawkers, there is no longer the phenomenon of parking anywhere on the street and hawkers selling goods at will on the roadside. The traffic lights on the road have also become standardized. The city now at least looks better than
I felt much more comfortable before.
This incident also illustrates one point: everywhere and everything must have rules and regulations. The beauty of a society should first be based on rules.
When it comes to rules, some people may be disgusted with them. However, wherever there are groups of people living, they need to be restricted and restricted by rules. For example, a family has family rules, a state has national laws, and even two or three people share the same
The department or team where you work must also have minimum behavioral rules to restrict, guide and standardize. Otherwise, "rules make no difference". In the final analysis, rules are systems or charters that are stipulated for everyone to abide by. Rules
Down the road, everyone will be restrained and feel uneasy and uncomfortable. However, we don't know when, we will suddenly find that the rules will become extremely kind and beautiful.
An American teacher took students to visit a museum. The teacher asked the students to keep their hands in their pockets during the visit and announced that if anyone took their hands out during the visit, regardless of whether they touched things or not, the visit would be suspended.
.During the entire visit, the children's hands were always in their pockets. Western children can do what they like within the limits allowed by the rules, but going beyond the rules is not allowed, because your freedom must not affect others.
Freedom, advocating and adhering to rules, in the final analysis, show the degree of civilization of a country.
There is also a story: a professional Taekwondo player had a dispute with an ordinary person. The professional player abided by the rules of the game and only hit areas that could not cause harm; but the ordinary person did not understand this and hit the player on the head.
Stop, the Taekwondo player was unfortunately sent to the hospital, and the miserable ordinary person who didn't follow the rules finally received the due punishment of the law.
Although this incident may seem ridiculous on the surface, the essence it reflects is profound. Is it really wrong to follow the rules? Will it definitely bring negative consequences to oneself?
In fact, the final and most objective answer to these questions is: it is correct to abide by the rules; those who do not abide by the rules, like the ordinary person in the story, will surely be punished with the most severe punishment by the rules.
In our real life, rules are everywhere. Those basic rules of all life make our society and our lives more harmonious, inclusive and orderly...
These rules are like every drop of water eventually gathering into an orderly river. At the bottom of this surging river of rules, some are still sharp-edged and some are smooth and rounded.
"Unwritten rules" are also rules, but such rules are extremely harmful.
The so-called "hidden rules", as the name suggests, are invisible, not explicitly stipulated in the text, and are established by convention, but they are widely recognized, actually work, and people must "follow" them. Because of their wide scope, they are also
People agree that it can produce huge harm: destroy fair competition, destroy real rules, destroy social order, and undermine the so-called justice and fairness... These dark, shady so-called "rules" make it impossible to truly safeguard society.
When the rules of order become a fiction, disorder of order and loss of fairness and justice will inevitably follow. The more people recognize it, the greater the harm.[
Unfortunately, this is the situation in our society today. Hidden rules prevail, but explicit rules are often ignored.
Looking at everything outside the car, I suddenly felt a lot of emotion. Xiao Sui drove around the city. I looked at the time and said, "It's almost time. Let's go back."
At this moment, I already had a ripple in my heart: this city will change, and there will be fundamental changes.
Xiao Sui turned the car around and drove towards the old man's house. At this time, I suddenly remembered something, and then said to Xiao Xu: "You tell the secretary-general and say it is what I mean. The overall transformation of the city has begun.
Before, we should find a few people who specialize in photography to take photos of various places in our old city. This is very valuable information. By the way, the TV station should also leave video information. Remember this."
Xiao Xu reminded me: "Mayor Feng, this matter is a bit big. It seems inappropriate for me to tell the secretary-general. Besides, this matter is not a matter of the general office. What do you think?"
I thought he was right to remind me, so I nodded immediately and said, "Well, you have to remember this. In the past few days, when you see that I am free, I will call the Director of Radio, Film and Television and the Director of Culture to come to my office."
He agreed repeatedly.
After a while, we arrived at the entrance of the old man's courtyard. At this time, I suddenly thought of something, and then said to Xiao Xu: "You go back first, Xiao Sui stays."
Of course Xiao Xu didn't say anything. He immediately got off the car and got into a rickshaw and left.
Just now I suddenly thought of something: For me, it must be a bit pretentious to bring a secretary here, but a driver must bring one? After all, I am the mayor, and I can't just walk on the street casually like ordinary people.
Walk alone.
This is a question that is difficult to explain clearly. In fact, as an official with a certain level, especially the top leader of a place, many times he is actually very unfree.
The driver parked the car outside the courtyard, and then we went to the closed door of the courtyard together. Xiao Sui was knocking on the door.
At this moment, I suddenly realized that I had overlooked one thing: since I pretended to have just arrived here, I should bring a gift? However, at this time, the door of the courtyard had already opened, and what appeared at the door was
The kind smile of the old lady.
When she saw us, her smiling face turned into astonishment, "Huh? Mayor Feng, when did you go out?"
Just now, she had been busy in the kitchen, so she didn't notice when we went out. That's why she was so surprised. I smiled and said, "I just went out to do some small things. Mr.
Are you back?"
She nodded, "I just entered the house."
At this time, I had already seen Mr. Liu, and sitting opposite him was a fat old man. I hurriedly said to Xiao Sui: "Go and help the old man."
Then I walked directly towards Mr. Liu. When I was about to say hello to Mr. Liu, I suddenly saw that the tea cup I had just drank from was still there. I immediately understood that the old man and I had left just now.
I ignored this little thing when I was there. But this little thing may have exposed the fact that I have been here.
Mr. An is an old revolutionary. Although he has a bad temper, he must have experienced so many ups and downs. And since he has such a weird temper, he must have the qualifications to have a weird temper. People are often like this, the more capable they are.
The more arrogant the person is.
So, at this moment, I immediately changed my mind. So I said loudly to the old man: "Old man, you are really there. Did you really invite Mr. An here?"
The old man turned sideways and looked at me while I was talking, and a look of astonishment suddenly appeared on his face. I ignored him, but went directly to the old man opposite him. I found that his face was rosy.
, looking energetic, thinking that he was taking good care of himself. Then he bowed to him, "Are you An Lao? Hello, my name is Feng Xiao, and I am now the acting mayor of Shangjiang City. Today
I'm really happy to have the honor of meeting you."
The old man glanced at me, with a faint smile on his face, and then pointed to the seat next to him, "Sit down. Is this the cup you just drank from?"
I nodded and smiled: "Yes." Then I went to sit down at that seat, and then said to him apologetically: "Mr. An, I should have come to visit you long ago..."
Before I finished speaking, he immediately laughed "haha" and said: "Mayor Feng, how can I, An, dare to be so? I have already retired. I am very disgusting. I just don't cause any trouble to you."
, how dare I bother you, the mayor, to visit me?"
I immediately said seriously: "Mr. An, please don't say that. Let me tell you the truth. In fact, I know that you were also told by Chairman Ma who has been transferred from our city recently. This is actually true.
Blame it on me, because I haven't cared enough about retired veteran comrades. Also, I should have gone directly to your home, but I heard that you were very dignified, and I felt a little scared. Isn't that right? I just had to work
Mr. Liu's grand chariot has gone to invite you. Mr. An, it is true that I did not do well, and I will apologize to you now: I'm sorry."
I looked at me with a strange look, "Mayor Feng, you don't look like someone in the officialdom?"
I knew what he was referring to. He was actually saying that I was too straightforward and told the truth. I smiled and said: "Mr. An, anyway, there is only one rule I follow, and that is, 'Be an official before being a human being.
'.If a person can't do well as a human being, he won't be able to do well as an official. Mr. An, don't you think so?"
But he said lightly: "This is just a cliché. 'Be an official before being a person', hehe! This is easy to say, but not so easy to do. But I am very interested in your question.
If you are interested, let me ask you, what kind of way do you think you should adhere to as a human being?"
It was obvious that he was testing me. I immediately smiled bitterly in my heart: In Shangjiang City, I usually test other people, but I didn’t expect that I would also be tested today.
I thought for a while and then said: "Mr. An, I think the first thing I want to say is, regarding the saying 'Be an official before being a person', this sentence is indeed a cliché, but I think there are not a few people who do it.
. Judging from the current situation, people in this officialdom should have done a lot, but everyone has different standards for being a human being. Nowadays, in this society, there is a trend of egoism that looks forward in everything, so
People revolve around such a kind of values to do good for themselves. Of course, this is only one aspect, a part. In fact, our current social situation is worthy of careful consideration by each of us. Our country is in a stage of development. After nearly a hundred years of development,
Capitalist countries that have developed but still lag behind the West. Although we hold high the banner of vast land and abundant resources and shout the slogan of reform and opening up, the cruel reality tells us: we should start from the essence and solve the problem from the essence. We need to let everyone
The Chinese people understand what is the right way to be a human being and how to make our country more prosperous and stronger.
Nearly a thousand years ago, our ancestors began to explore ways to be a human being. They were all our guides and set the precedent for us to be a human being. Among them, Confucius and Laozi had a profound influence. In Confucius' view, the way to be a human being is to teach people to be human.
The way to deal with things, the ancient way of a good ruler is to "reach the extreme of emptiness and be calm", "the best is like a valley, and a hundred is like a humiliation". In short, "those who are close to vermillion are red and those who are close to ink are black". As far as Laozi is concerned,
Lao Tzu is an ancient preacher. The Tao Te Ching, known as the "King of All Classics", is a reflection on some fundamental issues in society. Although it has passed thousands of years, it is still not out of date. Be kind and don't take kindness for granted.
If you don't do it, don't do it because it's a small evil. You must be responsible for being a person. You can't be promiscuous when you're rich, and you can't move when you're poor. You need to be honest. Integrity is the foundation of a person. You need to respect yourself, be strict with yourself, be lenient to others, and be content.
, He who wants to be content will always be happy.”
Mr. Liu looked at me in surprise, "I didn't expect Xiao Feng to have studied Chinese culture?"
Mr. An looked at Mr. Liu in surprise. I guess he was surprised that the old man called me "Xiao Feng". I immediately said humbly: "Old man, I can't say that my research is good, but I have read some books in this field.
"
An Lao said: "You continue to talk."
In fact, I deliberately used the most representative things in Chinese culture to answer An Lao's question. Mr. Liu studied literature and history, and An Lao and he are old friends, so he must have done some research in this area.
Therefore, I think only this kind of thing can impress him.
Immediately, I pondered for a moment and then continued: "In Chapter 4 of the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu said, 'The Tao rushes, but when you use it, it may not be full. The Yuanxi is like the origin of all things, and it is full of misunderstandings.
"With its light, with its dust; Chen Xi may exist. I don't know whose son is the ancestor of Xiang Di". In this chapter, Laozi explains that the creation of all things has no beginning, and the creation has no beginning.
Mind, as well as the cause of the social ideal state of "if you don't do it, you won't be cured", it is explained in both positive and negative ways that the way is to comply with the laws of nature, imitate nature, and behave in a responsible and pragmatic manner. Mao Zedong's way of being a human being must be:
Magnificent and magnanimous, principled, showing leadership style, and caring and warm in every aspect, which makes people moved and admired. Whether with superiors or the masses, political opponents or allies, or in personal or organizational names, all interactions with others are clear and strict.
Compassion helps others. Zeng Guofan's way of being a man is: use copper as a mirror to correct your clothes; use ancient times as a mirror to know the rise and fall; use people as a mirror to know gains and losses. Of course, as far as Zeng Guofan's entire ideological and cultural system is concerned, its
The fundamental purpose is to 'defend morality', that is, to serve the feudal class. But no matter what, we have introduced its valuable spirit into our modern political, economic and cultural trend, and introduced its reasonable ethics and family ideas into modern families and interpersonal relationships.
, this is still of great practical significance. It is especially worth mentioning that if we taste it carefully, it is not difficult to find that the essence of Zeng Guofan’s cultural thoughts is more important for promoting social and political stability, economic development, interpersonal harmony, and thus building a harmonious society.
Realistic utility. However, what is the current development trend of human behavior? How should we view this trend? I believe that human beings should be virtuous people. When dealing with personal and social issues, we must first understand that nationalism is not relying on others.
Doctrine, we must consciously have a mission and have an obligation to fulfill it. Based on this concept, we are the true democracy. It is a wrong attitude to only uphold our own rights and ignore the rights of others. The so-called
Spirituality is beneficial, that is, it expresses social moral concepts. Human life is based on morality, oneself and others. Such a comprehensive development will inevitably create a stable and peaceful society. Secondly, recognizing oneself is the first step in being a human being.
, I believe that you can unleash your potential if you recognize yourself clearly. Otherwise, if you imitate others, you will only end up with a broken reputation. We must constantly push ourselves to do our best even if we are empty. And our own potential
When the power merges into the possession of a spirit, it oppresses the other party, allowing others to respond accordingly. It is the connection between one's own strength and the other party. Thirdly, mutual communication is the lubricant of human beings. I believe that smart people know how to appreciate what others do,
Instead of criticizing others, the performance of subordinates should be evaluated with at least four points for shortcomings and six points for advantages. This is a good commander who knows how to appreciate his subordinates. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. It is difficult to find a perfect person, and he will not
Everyone is good at one thing. Therefore, when a leader observes his subordinates, he will find that there are all kinds of people with all kinds of advantages and disadvantages. Not only bosses, but each of us should be like this. We all need to cultivate a tolerant mind and tolerate each other.
Be understanding and don't be stubborn. If everyone does this, everyone will be able to live happily and harmoniously, and their emotions with others will deepen. Everyone can fully develop, unleash their potential, and make their career and life more satisfying.
Ruyi. Fourth, the golden mean is actually a life strategy. I believe that advocating the golden mean means advocating treating others with sincerity, tolerance, and courtesy, without being partial to what is believed, nor making compromises or abandoning principles.
We need to put social interests first and observe and deal with problems comprehensively and far-sightedly. If we can understand the essence of the saying "Know yourself and know the enemy, even if you are your enemy, you are also your teacher". If we understand both the other party and ourselves, then perhaps we will be able to deal with it.
We must have a correct understanding and evaluation of the value of our existence. Finally, challenging suffering is the driving force of life. Even if you are comfortable and peaceful in life, you must be alert, because disaster may be approaching at any time. At work, you must also be down-to-earth and concentrate.
And we must have clear goals and objectives, as well as a strong desire to win and succeed. This is the basic way we are human beings. Only by achieving these can we reach the highest state of human beings."
Mr. An kept nodding his head, and then asked me: "I heard that you are studying medicine?"
I was a little stunned because I didn't expect him to ask such a question out of the blue. I nodded, "Yes."
But I immediately understood why he asked me that, because he then asked me again: "Then where did you learn the knowledge just now?"
I replied: "The main thing is to read the book yourself and then understand it yourself."
He nodded, "That's right. Then tell me, how can we reach the highest level as a human being?"
I replied: "It is very difficult for a person to achieve the highest state of being a human being, but we should pursue that state, not only for ourselves to pursue that state, but also to allow more people to pursue the highest state of being a human being.
Realm. In the final analysis, this is to be 'people-oriented', so that all social strata can live in harmony and achieve social stability and a systematic system. In ancient times, what was mainly advocated was Confucius's way of being a human being, and the ideal of Confucius' human science.
That is: the personality of a gentleman is the direction for the moral cultivation of scholars. For most people in society, it has the nature of isolation. What should a person, an ordinary person living in an average daily life, be like?
What about a person? This is the main connotation of Confucius’ way of being a human being. Among the traditional interpersonal relationships, the most important aspects include husband and wife, father and son, elders and children, friends, and monarchs and ministers. Regarding the handling of these five principle relationships, Mencius called them
Human relations and the way of humanity. He said: If a person has a way, if he is well fed, warmly clothed, sheltered and taught, he will be close to the beasts. The sage is worried about this and makes him a master and disciple, teaching human relations. Father and son are related, monarch and minister are polite, and husband and wife are different.
, elders and children are in order, and friends have trust. This is what later generations of Confucians call human relations. It can be seen that the so-called human relations or moral principles of Confucianism are actually the natural way of human beings that unfolds in specific interpersonal relationships. Confucius
He also advocated the need for three ways of being a human being: first, the way of filial piety and brotherhood, second, the way of friends knowing, and third, the way of loyalty to the emperor. In summary, although Confucius’ way of being a person mainly focuses on three aspects: family relationship, friend relationship and relationship between monarch and minister, it also involves
It is the backbone of traditional patriarchal social relations and is a norm of feudal ethics. Although Confucius's way of being a human being has its historical limitations, many of its ideas still have positive significance and still have modern value. Again, especially
It should be pointed out that although it was internally corrupted by the feudal politics of later generations, which caused many positive thoughts to be obscured and distorted, I believe that through modern interpretation, these thoughts can become important ideological resources that are trusted by modern times. They are related to Confucius’ thoughts.
The different modern thoughts are the power of life and death. Life is originally "there", "coming" and "going". The pain a person feels is due to the fact that everything he owns is just a pile of dirt. This expectation
Having lingering desires is the essence of this piece of soil, so all sorrow and pain are born from a person's desires. Therefore, the way we behave is to reduce our desires, thereby reducing our own pain. In addition,
The great significance of being a human being is that each of us can take responsibility for ourselves. As long as each of us can be ourselves, then our world, our society, and our world will become a beautiful place.
A paradise of harmony and happiness. In addition, we should adopt the law of 'moderateness' in social life. We should not only oppose the old-fashioned and stubborn old ideas, but also oppose the unhealthy trend of following the trend and blindly pursuing fashion. We should pursue
and the best ideal state of affairs that adapts to the development trend of the times and is appropriate. This is particularly important for the contemporary world. When Confucianism moves human ethics, it specifically falls within the norms of etiquette. It is true that from a common sense, it is necessary to follow etiquette.
Practicality is a virtue, but it would be ridiculous to regard etiquette as an eternal dogma, because etiquette is constantly changing with the development of the times. In the way of being a human being, we must imitate the great people who know etiquette, know, know responsibility, and know filial piety.
They serve as role models to shape themselves, "Have you been unfaithful in your plans, have you not believed in your friends?", "I have to examine myself three times every day" to reach the highest level of human conduct. On the contrary, we should resolutely abandon
Those who are unfaithful and unfilial should be ashamed of them. Eliminate evil and promote good, and be loyal, righteous, and filial..."
While I was talking, I had been secretly observing Mr. An and Mr. An. The old man kept nodding, but Mr. An seemed to be a little lost. When I said this, he suddenly reacted and said immediately:
"Well, that makes sense. You continue."
In fact, I got a little excited when I spoke, and then continued: "I believe that the highest state of being a human being is to truly achieve the word 'loyalty and forgiveness'. When you achieve it, you will become a benevolent person. But what is loyalty and forgiveness?"
What? According to the interpretation of the Analects of Confucius, loyalty means establishing oneself in order to establish others, and trying to achieve others in order to achieve others; forgiveness means not doing to others what you don’t want others to do to you. The so-called loyalty means not only considering yourself when things happen, but also putting yourself in others’ shoes and thoughts.
Help others. The so-called forgiveness is to adopt a tolerant attitude towards others. Don't force others to do things you don't want to do, and don't force others to do things you don't want to get. A cultivated person and an uneducated person
The difference between people is that if a cultivated person wants to have this matter happen to him, what will happen? Is he willing or unwilling? If he is willing, he should also help the people who should be helped, and will not only care about himself and not help others;
If you don't want to, you won't do it to others and make others suffer. You also need to have ideals. Most people say that you should be a good person. From the "Analects", being a gentleman is a very high ideal. Confucius once said
"I can't see it, but I can see a gentleman, and that's all right.", "I can't see a good man, but I can see the one who has perseverance, and that's all right." In addition, Confucius also classified the levels of moral character.
Category, that is: saint, gentleman, good person, perseverance. Although the moral qualities of these four kinds of people are different, they are all worthy of praise. But what kind of moral character should a gentleman have? First of all, a gentleman is based on his roots, and the Tao is born from his roots. Filial piety is also
This is the foundation of responsibility! A gentleman must respect himself. Confucius said, "A gentleman does not seek comfort in life, but should put learning first."
When it comes to speaking, there is a Tao and a righteousness, which can be said to be a love of learning. A gentleman is not a craftsman or a tool. He should have lofty ambitions and be able to take on various tasks required by society. Therefore, one needs to regard a gentleman as an ideal, and to become a gentleman one must
Strengthen self-cultivation and improve one's own moral character. Secondly, a gentleman has strict requirements on himself and always adheres to "righteousness" towards others; thirdly, a gentleman is magnanimous and honest. Finally, a gentleman must have a spiritual realm that is beyond ordinary people, and be lofty and extremely caring.
.A gentleman should also "know the destiny" and "fear heaven". He should know that he shoulders the mission of God in this world and strive for it throughout his life. This is the consciousness that a gentleman should have. I think as long as you do these things
Why worry about not being a gentleman, why worry about not having ideals?"
It wasn't until I reached this point that I felt that my answer sheet was complete. Then I smiled and said: "Two seniors, these are my very immature ideas, which made you laugh."
Mr. Liu went to look at Mr. An, with a smile on his face, "What do you think?"
An Lao sighed and said: "I just heard that our new mayor of Shangjiang City has a background and is very capable. But I always thought that the things you did were just the same old tricks for new officials to take office. Today I can be considered a
I have seen it, and it turns out that although Mayor Feng is young, he is very thoughtful." At this point, he kept shaking his head and said: "It seems that I am really old, how could I understand these things when I was your age.
It’s true that the Yangtze River is like the waves behind it, and it’s hard not to accept it.”
I hurriedly said humbly: "Mr. An, please don't say that. In fact, what I just said are just theoretical things, and I am still far from meeting such a requirement."
He was still shaking his head and said: "I don't have a good temper. The main reason is that these officials now only care about gaining power and making money for themselves. How can they be public servants of the people? They are simply masters who are riding on the heads of the people.
They! None of them do anything practical and use the country’s money to achieve political achievements for themselves. I get angry when I see this!”
Mr. Liu smiled and said: "They say there are many angry young people nowadays, but I think you are simply an angry old man."
Mr. An immediately laughed. Then he came to ask me: "Mayor Feng, I have a question for you: Why did the Veteran Cadre Bureau report to the city government on the reconstruction of the Veteran Cadre Activity Center?
Suppressed?"
I couldn't help but smile bitterly in my heart: He really brought this matter up to me, and it was so direct.