From Melbourne to Sydney, which is more than 900 kilometers, it takes twelve hours by bus and only one hour and twenty minutes by plane.

I suddenly felt a little angry in my heart: What's wrong with you? Will someone die if you don't ask clearly? It's so ignorant. But it was impossible for me to vent this emotion in my heart, so I said calmly: "Cousins

Can't we be intimate with each other? We haven't seen each other for many years. That's it. Okay, tell me, how are you planning your schedule for tomorrow?"

I was thinking: Now my meaning is very clear. If she continues to ask, she will be really ignorant.

Fortunately, she understood what I meant, and she really didn’t ask any more questions. In fact, she is a person with Western education, and she should know better that it is unethical to pry into other people’s privacy.

However, as women, they are born with the instinct to pry into other people's privacy.

In fact, each of us has the curiosity to pry into other people's privacy, especially women. Surveys show that 80% of women will pry into the privacy of men when they are away.

In fact, women love to pry into other people's secrets, which is a habit that they themselves find difficult to curb. The temptation to take the opportunity to look at men's private things when men go to the next room is too great. It is said that through this, women

This kind of activity can alleviate their worries about men doing secret things behind their backs.

But before men lock their drawers, they can first understand what women like to check in their drawers, and then fight fire with fire to protect themselves. The survey found that the places where women like to check most include bedside tables, medicine cabinets, closets, desks and

Dressing table. So men had better hide their personal belongings that they don't want them to see under the bed.

The most worth mentioning is that home computers may be a shortcut for women to peek into men's privacy, so they must be careful. Men are unlikely to turn off the computer when they take a nap at noon, so it is best to use passwords or screen savers to prevent women from

We take a peek at the content inside. In addition, we should pay attention to eliminate some information junk inside at any time.

One thing that men should also pay attention to is that they must not keep old things that were good friends in the past. Otherwise, a comb, a piece of underwear or a lipstick may betray you, which is very dangerous.

Ultimately, this is a question in psychology.

Originally, Guan Qin was a person who had received Western education and should have understood that prying into other people's privacy was an immoral act. But she was a woman after all, and her nature made it difficult for her to restrain her curiosity.

According to Freud, people's desire to pry into other people's privacy comes from childhood and curiosity about their own life experience and origins. For a child who is suddenly born from the mother's womb and knows nothing about everything, he

There will be many questions about this strange world. In other words, for children, everything in the world is questions and privacy. Among these questions and privacy, the most puzzling to him is probably "I am

Where did it come from?" This is an old and new question. Parents' answers to this question are mixed. Some parents said: "You came out of your mother's calf", and some said "You were drilled out of your mother's calf".

"Picked it up", and some said: "You were pulled out when your mother pooped". Some parents simply refused to answer this, and even scolded: "This is an adult matter, children are not allowed to inquire!"

.It is these various answers and mysterious atmosphere that strengthen the children's curiosity and sense of privacy about this question, and instead prompt the children to further explore and inquire. Thus, for the first time, the children encountered privacy and hidden secrets about their own origins and life experience.

Privacy in the hearts of parents.

From this perspective, a person's curiosity about privacy begins here, from curiosity about a strange world, from being curious about his own origins. In fact, even if parents follow the most standard, most

Scientific methods cannot fully explain to an inexperienced child how a child is born. Because children can always unexpectedly ask some questions that make adults stunned. For example, for adults, "Did you come from your mother?"

"It came out of the calf", the child will then ask: "There is no hole in the thigh? How did I get out of the thigh?"; if you say "You were pulled out by your mother when she pooped", he will

Will further ask: "Mom, when I defecate, why can't I pull out the baby?" In response to such a question, what else can adults do besides dumbfounding and answering? As a result, the adult's answer will always be "yes"

To satisfy the child, the secret of the child's birth becomes the child's first absolute privacy. With repeated accumulation, more and more questions and privacy form a kind of pressure, causing children to develop curiosity and desire for privacy.

Formation. We can even say that human beings are born with curiosity, and are born with privacy. Children snooping on their parents' privacy is a normal desire in the process of growth. If a person deciphers all the emotional privacy of his parents in childhood, theoretically

Generally speaking, when this child grows up, he will not be overly keen on other people's privacy. Only those whose childhood snooping desires were not sufficiently satisfied will crazily snoop on other people's privacy. In other words, adults snoop on privacy.

, is a relic of children's needs, the result of unsatisfied childhood snooping desires, and a sign of immature personality. If we carefully analyze adults' snooping behavior on privacy, we will have a deeper impression on the above summary.

Not all people are interested in snooping into the privacy of other people or celebrities. People seem to be more interested in the negative aspects or negative privacy of others. For example, the writer Sanmao's love story was fabricated, the singer Li Ming committed suicide by taking medicine for love, and Diana

Private rumors such as the princess having an affair with the captain of the guard spread the fastest. People were angry about the flaws of these people, but they also talked about it and spread it around happily. They would even say disdainfully: "What?

Celebrities? Bah! Worthless!" This scene cannot help but remind us of the second stage of children snooping into their parents' privacy. This stage is a stage that focuses on the flaws and negative aspects of their parents. Through "de-idealization"

", eliminating the idealized image of parents in the heart and making the image of parents more realistic. However, parents have been replaced by celebrities. It can be said that people's snooping on the negative privacy of celebrities is a continuation of snooping on the negative privacy of their parents.

Understanding the negative privacy of celebrities can remove the ideal and perfect halo from celebrities and see a real person with flaws and advantages. From this, we can understand that celebrities, like their parents, are also human beings, not gods.

, they also have flaws of one kind or another. Like their parents, they sometimes have moments of vulnerability, and even brief moments of losing control or having a mental breakdown;

There will be times when they are overwhelmed by poverty, there will also be times when they are pessimistic and disappointed, and even want to give up on life; great heroes or great men also have a despicable, dirty, dark and disgraceful side. Celebrities are also the same as our parents.

, some aspects are like a saint and heaven, and some aspects are like a villain and the devil. By peeking into the privacy of celebrities, we remove the stars, saints, and gods that symbolize our parents from the altar wrapped in privacy.

Pulled down, brought to the same level as us ordinary people. This leads us to a conclusion that seems cruel, but very real. Those people we used to be superior to are actually the same as us at heart. By peeking into privacy, we have to face

The disillusionment of the myths and ideals of parents, other people, and celebrities. Initially, the disillusionment of this ideal will make us very painful, because the perfection of parents or celebrities was, after all, the pillar of our lives. However, after the pain, it will

Our sobriety enables us to no longer feel too inferior when facing our parents and celebrities, so that we can take back the hopes and expectations we have placed on our parents and celebrities and return them to ourselves, so that we can bear the pressure of our own lives by ourselves.

We, not parents and celebrities, control our own destiny. It can be said that a large part of our self-confidence is born from the denial of parents and celebrities, and the accompanying self-affirmation.

Therefore, it is natural and human nature to like to pry into privacy.

Not all snooping desires for privacy stem from the need for growth and maturity. There are also a very small number of people who satisfy a twisted and perverted primitive desire through the process of snooping into other people's privacy. The more typical one is obscenity.

A sexual deviant psychological disorder.

People with this kind of obscene tendencies are more interested in collecting and snooping on other people's sexual privacy. They focus on the details of sexual privacy, and even exaggerate it to make the plot and content of the privacy full of sexual and sexual color.

When they describe sexual privacy to others, they appear to be elated, lively, salivating, and extremely intoxicated, as if they have experienced it personally. They will carefully and repeatedly read all the details of sexual privacy, even to the point where they can detail it word for word.

Recite it. This kind of person, after publicizing other people's sexual privacy in a big way, will gnash his teeth and denounce those people as adulterers and sluts. In this way, it seems that he is a defender of morality, defending sex and love.

His purity is cleaning up the muddy water in human nature in private. He will even use his rich imagination to process various simple sexual privacy into dramatic, colorful and provocative sexual content.

The prevalence of incredible sexual privacy in the tabloids is a product of the existence and need for nymphomania. Starr's report on the Clinton scandal detailed a plethora of sexual encounters that had little to do with the investigation.

, may also be an indirect product of the obsessive mentality. No wonder Lewinsky lamented, "I feel like I have been raped by the public."

Of course, I don't think Guan Qin is the type of person with a mental disorder. But now, I suddenly realized a problem: I have to find a way to stop her from talking nonsense when she goes back.

This issue is a big deal to me, because once this matter is rumored, it will probably have a huge impact on my becoming a regular employee. Because what happened to me this time is ultimately a kind of damage to the organization.

cheat.

This is very likely to happen. For people in the officialdom, there will always be people around us who are hostile and jealous of us. Especially me, who has reached the position of mayor and the level of the main office at such a young age.[

Therefore, at this time, I suddenly felt a deep worry in my heart.

As expected, Guanqin didn't continue to ask me about that matter. She answered me: "Tomorrow we will go to the Department of Medicine of the University of Sydney together. We will go to the Sydney Opera House in the afternoon or evening."

I said: "You can go to Sydney University alone, I want to take a rest."

She looked at me and said: "Mayor Feng, I think the best thing is for you to go with me. Then we can take some photos, including a photo with a professor from the Department of Medicine of the University of Sydney. That way it will be easier for you to talk when you go back.

Yes. What do you think?"

Her words seemed to convey a message to me: she would not tell others about my incident because she was thinking about me.

But I think her reminder to me was kind, and I immediately realized that her reminder was very important to me. I should have been able to think of such a thing, but I ignored it due to my laziness.

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This laziness of mine comes from the extreme pleasure I have had with Hong Ya in the past few days. Gentleness will wear away a person's will and make a person numb and inert.

So I am very grateful to Guan Qin for reminding me, "Dr. Guan, thank you. Okay, let's go together tomorrow. When will the tour group return?"

She replied: "The day after tomorrow in the afternoon. We can stay in Guangzhou for one night and return to Jiangnan the day after tomorrow."

I asked her: "The travel agency won't arrange it like this, right? If you stay in Guangzhou for one night, their costs will increase, and the air tickets after midnight will be cheaper."

She asked me: "You don't want our tour group to have an impression on you, do you?"

I immediately understood that she was actually reminding me again. It would be safer if we stayed in Guangzhou for one more night and then returned to Jiangnan alone. Because I did not participate in the tour group's activities, people

They won't pay attention to me, and in the process of returning to Guangzhou from Sydney, they will not notice me under normal circumstances, because the people on the plane are not only people from this tour group.

Her reminder seemed to be hinting to me once again: she would keep it a secret for me.

I immediately felt relieved. However, I was still a little uneasy. I was thinking: How can I clearly express to her her intention to keep my secret secret in a way?

Let’s talk about it tomorrow. I couldn’t find a suitable way to do it at the moment, because I couldn’t directly tell her the real purpose of my coming here this time. Of course, I have realized that she would not believe what I said before, unless

She is a fool.

Guan Qin and I chatted for a while, and then I said that I would go find the tour guide to arrange a room for me. Guan Qin said that she had asked the tour guide to arrange the room, and then she handed me the room card.

It's different when there are female colleagues, their attentiveness always makes people feel warm.

After breakfast the next day, I went to the University of Sydney with Guan Qin. During breakfast, Guan Qin told me that she had contacted the University of Sydney Medical School in advance and that they had a professor to receive us today.

Then she asked me: "Mayor Feng, do you know what the University of Sydney Medical School is most famous for?"

I said: "Professor Guan, you can't call me mayor today. We are going there as scholars. Haha! Just reminding you, I will not call you doctor Guan again. By the way.

, what are they most famous for?”

She smiled and said: "Of course I won't call you Mayor Feng in front of them, don't worry. Professor Feng, the medical school of the University of Sydney is very famous in the world. It is the first artificial intelligence machine in the world."

They invented the pacemaker, the world's first B-ultrasound scanner, the world's first cochlear implant, and the pp ventilator that is in every hospital and every ambulance in the world. In addition, they also discovered

The function of the mammalian thymus and the identification of T cells and B cells. And the theoretical founder of contemporary bone marrow transplantation technology is also a professor at this university."

I said in surprise: "So awesome! It seems that we are in the right place. At least we can feel the atmosphere of medical invention here. It would be great if it can bring some inspiration for our scientific research projects."

She smiled and said: "How is it possible in such a short time? But I hope to establish an academic connection with them through this opportunity to facilitate further exchanges in the future. It would be great."

I smiled and said, "This should be your strength, right?"

She looked at me and smiled, "Then you have to give me permission to use the funds in the future? In this case, I can invite him to visit our school today."

I smiled and said: "That's no problem. You can still get the reception fee at will. We have a lot of funds for the project. You can just ask me directly when the time comes."

She was very happy and said, "You said this today, and you are not allowed to go back on your words in the future."

I smiled and said, "What a big deal? How could I go back on my word? I will explain it to the school at that time, and you will sign and spend the future scientific research funds. After all, I am just a person who really does things."

It's you. I don't have to take care of that money."

She looked at me, "You just trust me so much?"

I smiled and said, "What's there to worry about? Once I hand over the fund management rights of our scientific research project to your hands, the right to spend the funds will also be in your hands. At the same time, in the future, I will accept

You are the one doing the audit. In other words, this matter has nothing to do with me at all. You think so?"

She smiled and said: "That's what you said. But I will definitely thank you very much for it. Professor Feng, now I am completely happy with my original choice. It is really a pleasure to work with you."

things."

I asked her with a smile: "So, before now, you didn't completely think that cooperating with me was the right thing to do. Is that right?"
To be continued...