From Melbourne to Sydney, which is more than 900 kilometers, it takes twelve hours by bus and only one hour and twenty minutes by plane.
I suddenly felt a little angry in my heart: What's wrong with you? Will someone die if you don't ask clearly? It's so ignorant. But it was impossible for me to vent this emotion in my heart, so I said calmly: "Cousins
Can't we be intimate with each other? We haven't seen each other for many years. That's it. Okay, tell me, how are you planning your schedule for tomorrow?"
I was thinking: Now my meaning is very clear. If she continues to ask, she will be really ignorant.
Fortunately, she understood what I meant, and she really didn’t ask any more questions. In fact, she is a person with Western education, and she should know better that it is unethical to pry into other people’s privacy.
However, as women, they are born with the instinct to pry into other people's privacy.
In fact, each of us has the curiosity to pry into other people's privacy, especially women. Surveys show that 80% of women will pry into the privacy of men when they are away.
In fact, women love to pry into other people's secrets, which is a habit that they themselves find difficult to curb. The temptation to take the opportunity to look at men's private things when men go to the next room is too great. It is said that through this, women
This kind of activity can alleviate their worries about men doing secret things behind their backs.
But before men lock their drawers, they can first understand what women like to check in their drawers, and then fight fire with fire to protect themselves. The survey found that the places where women like to check most include bedside tables, medicine cabinets, closets, desks and
Dressing table. So men had better hide their personal belongings that they don't want them to see under the bed.
The most worth mentioning is that home computers may be a shortcut for women to peek into men's privacy, so they must be careful. Men are unlikely to turn off the computer when they take a nap at noon, so it is best to use passwords or screen savers to prevent women from
We take a peek at the content inside. In addition, we should pay attention to eliminate some information junk inside at any time.
One thing that men should also pay attention to is that they must not keep old things that were good friends in the past. Otherwise, a comb, a piece of underwear or a lipstick may betray you, which is very dangerous.
Ultimately, this is a question in psychology.
Originally, Guan Qin was a person who had received Western education and should have understood that prying into other people's privacy was an immoral act. But she was a woman after all, and her nature made it difficult for her to restrain her curiosity.
According to Freud, people's desire to pry into other people's privacy comes from childhood and curiosity about their own life experience and origins. For a child who is suddenly born from the mother's womb and knows nothing about everything, he
There will be many questions about this strange world. In other words, for children, everything in the world is questions and privacy. Among these questions and privacy, the most puzzling to him is probably "I am
Where did it come from?" This is an old and new question. Parents' answers to this question are mixed. Some parents said: "You came out of your mother's calf", and some said "You were drilled out of your mother's calf".
"Picked it up", and some said: "You were pulled out when your mother pooped". Some parents simply refused to answer this, and even scolded: "This is an adult matter, children are not allowed to inquire!"
.It is these various answers and mysterious atmosphere that strengthen the children's curiosity and sense of privacy about this question, and instead prompt the children to further explore and inquire. Thus, for the first time, the children encountered privacy and hidden secrets about their own origins and life experience.
Privacy in the hearts of parents.
From this perspective, a person's curiosity about privacy begins here, from curiosity about a strange world, from being curious about his own origins. In fact, even if parents follow the most standard, most
Scientific methods cannot fully explain to an inexperienced child how a child is born. Because children can always unexpectedly ask some questions that make adults stunned. For example, for adults, "Did you come from your mother?"
"It came out of the calf", the child will then ask: "There is no hole in the thigh? How did I get out of the thigh?"; if you say "You were pulled out by your mother when she pooped", he will
Will further ask: "Mom, when I defecate, why can't I pull out the baby?" In response to such a question, what else can adults do besides dumbfounding and answering? As a result, the adult's answer will always be "yes"
To satisfy the child, the secret of the child's birth becomes the child's first absolute privacy. With repeated accumulation, more and more questions and privacy form a kind of pressure, causing children to develop curiosity and desire for privacy.
Formation. We can even say that human beings are born with curiosity, and are born with privacy. Children snooping on their parents' privacy is a normal desire in the process of growth. If a person deciphers all the emotional privacy of his parents in childhood, theoretically
Generally speaking, when this child grows up, he will not be overly keen on other people's privacy. Only those whose childhood snooping desires were not sufficiently satisfied will crazily snoop on other people's privacy. In other words, adults snoop on privacy.
, is a relic of children's needs, the result of unsatisfied childhood snooping desires, and a sign of immature personality. If we carefully analyze adults' snooping behavior on privacy, we will have a deeper impression on the above summary.
Not all people are interested in snooping into the privacy of other people or celebrities. People seem to be more interested in the negative aspects or negative privacy of others. For example, the writer Sanmao's love story was fabricated, the singer Li Ming committed suicide by taking medicine for love, and Diana
Private rumors such as the princess having an affair with the captain of the guard spread the fastest. People were angry about the flaws of these people, but they also talked about it and spread it around happily. They would even say disdainfully: "What?
Celebrities? Bah! Worthless!" This scene cannot help but remind us of the second stage of children snooping into their parents' privacy. This stage is a stage that focuses on the flaws and negative aspects of their parents. Through "de-idealization"
", eliminating the idealized image of parents in the heart and making the image of parents more realistic. However, parents have been replaced by celebrities. It can be said that people's snooping on the negative privacy of celebrities is a continuation of snooping on the negative privacy of their parents.
Understanding the negative privacy of celebrities can remove the ideal and perfect halo from celebrities and see a real person with flaws and advantages. From this, we can understand that celebrities, like their parents, are also human beings, not gods.
, they also have flaws of one kind or another. Like their parents, they sometimes have moments of vulnerability, and even brief moments of losing control or having a mental breakdown;
There will be times when they are overwhelmed by poverty, there will also be times when they are pessimistic and disappointed, and even want to give up on life; great heroes or great men also have a despicable, dirty, dark and disgraceful side. Celebrities are also the same as our parents.
, some aspects are like a saint and heaven, and some aspects are like a villain and the devil. By peeking into the privacy of celebrities, we remove the stars, saints, and gods that symbolize our parents from the altar wrapped in privacy.
Pulled down, brought to the same level as us ordinary people. This leads us to a conclusion that seems cruel, but very real. Those people we used to be superior to are actually the same as us at heart. By peeking into privacy, we have to face
The disillusionment of the myths and ideals of parents, other people, and celebrities. Initially, the disillusionment of this ideal will make us very painful, because the perfection of parents or celebrities was, after all, the pillar of our lives. However, after the pain, it will
Our sobriety enables us to no longer feel too inferior when facing our parents and celebrities, so that we can take back the hopes and expectations we have placed on our parents and celebrities and return them to ourselves, so that we can bear the pressure of our own lives by ourselves.
We, not parents and celebrities, control our own destiny. It can be said that a large part of our self-confidence is born from the denial of parents and celebrities, and the accompanying self-affirmation.
Therefore, it is natural and human nature to like to pry into privacy.
Not all snooping desires for privacy stem from the need for growth and maturity. There are also a very small number of people who satisfy a twisted and perverted primitive desire through the process of snooping into other people's privacy. The more typical one is obscenity.
A sexual deviant psychological disorder.
People with this kind of obscene tendencies are more interested in collecting and snooping on other people's sexual privacy. They focus on the details of sexual privacy, and even exaggerate it to make the plot and content of the privacy full of sexual and sexual color.
When they describe sexual privacy to others, they appear to be elated, lively, salivating, and extremely intoxicated, as if they have experienced it personally. They will carefully and repeatedly read all the details of sexual privacy, even to the point where they can detail it word for word.
Recite it. This kind of person, after publicizing other people's sexual privacy in a big way, will gnash his teeth and denounce those people as adulterers and sluts. In this way, it seems that he is a defender of morality, defending sex and love.
His purity is cleaning up the muddy water in human nature in private. He will even use his rich imagination to process various simple sexual privacy into dramatic, colorful and provocative sexual content.
The prevalence of incredible sexual privacy in the tabloids is a product of the existence and need for nymphomania. Starr's report on the Clinton scandal detailed a plethora of sexual encounters that had little to do with the investigation.
, may also be an indirect product of the obsessive mentality. No wonder Lewinsky lamented, "I feel like I have been raped by the public."
Of course, I don't think Guan Qin is the type of person with a mental disorder. But now, I suddenly realized a problem: I have to find a way to stop her from talking nonsense when she goes back.
This issue is a big deal to me, because once this matter is rumored, it will probably have a huge impact on my becoming a regular employee. Because what happened to me this time is ultimately a kind of damage to the organization.
cheat.
This is very likely to happen. For people in the officialdom, there will always be people around us who are hostile and jealous of us. Especially me, who has reached the position of mayor and the level of the main office at such a young age.[
Therefore, at this time, I suddenly felt a deep worry in my heart.
As expected, Guanqin didn't continue to ask me about that matter. She answered me: "Tomorrow we will go to the Department of Medicine of the University of Sydney together. We will go to the Sydney Opera House in the afternoon or evening."
I said: "You can go to Sydney University alone, I want to take a rest."
She looked at me and said: "Mayor Feng, I think the best thing is for you to go with me. Then we can take some photos, including a photo with a professor from the Department of Medicine of the University of Sydney. That way it will be easier for you to talk when you go back.
Yes. What do you think?"
Her words seemed to convey a message to me: she would not tell others about my incident because she was thinking about me.
But I think her reminder to me was kind, and I immediately realized that her reminder was very important to me. I should have been able to think of such a thing, but I ignored it due to my laziness.
.
This laziness of mine comes from the extreme pleasure I have had with Hong Ya in the past few days. Gentleness will wear away a person's will and make a person numb and inert.
So I am very grateful to Guan Qin for reminding me, "Dr. Guan, thank you. Okay, let's go together tomorrow. When will the tour group return?"
She replied: "The day after tomorrow in the afternoon. We can stay in Guangzhou for one night and return to Jiangnan the day after tomorrow."
I asked her: "The travel agency won't arrange it like this, right? If you stay in Guangzhou for one night, their costs will increase, and the air tickets after midnight will be cheaper."
She asked me: "You don't want our tour group to have an impression on you, do you?"
I immediately understood that she was actually reminding me again. It would be safer if we stayed in Guangzhou for one more night and then returned to Jiangnan alone. Because I did not participate in the tour group's activities, people
They won't pay attention to me, and in the process of returning to Guangzhou from Sydney, they will not notice me under normal circumstances, because the people on the plane are not only people from this tour group.
Her reminder seemed to be hinting to me once again: she would keep it a secret for me.
I immediately felt relieved. However, I was still a little uneasy. I was thinking: How can I clearly express to her her intention to keep my secret secret in a way?
Let’s talk about it tomorrow. I couldn’t find a suitable way to do it at the moment, because I couldn’t directly tell her the real purpose of my coming here this time. Of course, I have realized that she would not believe what I said before, unless
She is a fool.
Guan Qin and I chatted for a while, and then I said that I would go find the tour guide to arrange a room for me. Guan Qin said that she had asked the tour guide to arrange the room, and then she handed me the room card.
It's different when there are female colleagues, their attentiveness always makes people feel warm.
After breakfast the next day, I went to the University of Sydney with Guan Qin. During breakfast, Guan Qin told me that she had contacted the University of Sydney Medical School in advance and that they had a professor to receive us today.
Then she asked me: "Mayor Feng, do you know what the University of Sydney Medical School is most famous for?"
I said: "Professor Guan, you can't call me mayor today. We are going there as scholars. Haha! Just reminding you, I will not call you doctor Guan again. By the way.
, what are they most famous for?”
She smiled and said: "Of course I won't call you Mayor Feng in front of them, don't worry. Professor Feng, the medical school of the University of Sydney is very famous in the world. It is the first artificial intelligence machine in the world."
They invented the pacemaker, the world's first B-ultrasound scanner, the world's first cochlear implant, and the pp ventilator that is in every hospital and every ambulance in the world. In addition, they also discovered
The function of the mammalian thymus and the identification of T cells and B cells. And the theoretical founder of contemporary bone marrow transplantation technology is also a professor at this university."
I said in surprise: "So awesome! It seems that we are in the right place. At least we can feel the atmosphere of medical invention here. It would be great if it can bring some inspiration for our scientific research projects."
She smiled and said: "How is it possible in such a short time? But I hope to establish an academic connection with them through this opportunity to facilitate further exchanges in the future. It would be great."
I smiled and said, "This should be your strength, right?"
She looked at me and smiled, "Then you have to give me permission to use the funds in the future? In this case, I can invite him to visit our school today."
I smiled and said: "That's no problem. You can still get the reception fee at will. We have a lot of funds for the project. You can just ask me directly when the time comes."
She was very happy and said, "You said this today, and you are not allowed to go back on your words in the future."
I smiled and said, "What a big deal? How could I go back on my word? I will explain it to the school at that time, and you will sign and spend the future scientific research funds. After all, I am just a person who really does things."
It's you. I don't have to take care of that money."
She looked at me, "You just trust me so much?"
I smiled and said, "What's there to worry about? Once I hand over the fund management rights of our scientific research project to your hands, the right to spend the funds will also be in your hands. At the same time, in the future, I will accept
You are the one doing the audit. In other words, this matter has nothing to do with me at all. You think so?"
She smiled and said: "That's what you said. But I will definitely thank you very much for it. Professor Feng, now I am completely happy with my original choice. It is really a pleasure to work with you."
things."
I asked her with a smile: "So, before now, you didn't completely think that cooperating with me was the right thing to do. Is that right?"
She looked at me and smiled: "That's right."
I couldn't help but laugh. To be honest, I liked her frankness very much.
The University of Sydney has no walls. Even if there is a door, cars are controlled. Anyone can visit and take photos freely in the university. If we want, we can even enter the building, go to the library or wander around the corridors. It is completely different from the management of domestic universities.
, let alone worry about what anyone is doing.
The University of Sydney is very big, but I mainly stared at a few old buildings. Some people say that architecture is frozen music, and you can understand the meaning of this sentence more when you see the buildings in the university. Many of the buildings at the University of Sydney were built in the mid-19th century.
, are now over 150 years old. These buildings embody the artistic style of British architecture, which is dignified, elegant, well-proportioned and beautiful. Every spire and sculpture is not full of rhythm and rhythm, but is a work of art.
People think about it and think about it. Although these buildings have been through spring, summer, autumn and winter for more than a century, they still show a heavy sense of vicissitudes, making people appreciate it like listening to a concert.
Inside the school, there are big trees and green grass. Students from all over the world are sitting on the grass or walking under the green shade, reading, discussing, studying, and talking. This scene evokes the imagination of every older person.
Looking back on my youth, I envy them from the bottom of my heart.
The person who received us was a professor in her forties, a well-known obstetrics and gynecology expert at the University of Sydney School of Medicine. Her name was Kelly.
The professor told us that among the many schools of the University of Sydney, the School of Medicine and the School of Law have unquestionable strength. Among them, the Law School of the University of Sydney is the only partner of Harvard Law School in the southern hemisphere.
In addition to medical research, the medical school also pays extra attention to clinical practice and practice. Most of its teaching staff have front-line clinical experience, which makes the medical school of the University of Sydney unique.
Then we followed her to visit the affiliated hospital of the medical school. This was actually just a quick tour. To be honest, a visit like this did not give us much gain, because many of our domestic tertiary hospitals have already reached the same level.
Hardware and software conditions, and it is impossible for Guan Qin and I to introduce our ongoing research projects to each other, which is academic confidentiality.
In other words, the purpose of our coming here this time is just to take a trip here.
However, Guan Qin soon started talking happily with Kelly. After all, they are both women and both work in the field of obstetrics and gynecology, so they have many common topics.
I deliberately avoided talking to her too much.
At noon, Kelly invited us to have lunch together, but I politely declined. I told her that the main purpose of our visit this time was to establish a relationship with the University of Sydney School of Medicine, and that we would conduct specific cooperation with them in the future.
comminicate.
Guanqin looked at me with doubtful eyes at first, but then she saw that I had spoken out my words, so she said nothing more. She immediately exchanged contact information with Kelly, and then we said goodbye to each other.
"Mayor Feng, do you think the other party's reception standards are too low?" Guan Qin asked me after leaving the University of Sydney.
I replied: "In terms of the standard of reception, this method is indeed too low. This shows that the other party does not value Jiangnan Medical University at all. However, the main purpose of my coming out this time is not to visit here, so they received me
High and low specifications are a so-called thing to me."
She nodded and sighed: "Yes. People only establish close academic exchange relationships with the first-class medical schools in our country. What is our school? Take your time. I think even academic exchanges require strength. As long as
When our scientific research projects are successful, they will take them seriously."
I shook my head and said, "Doctors don't care, we don't need their attention, we just need to do things well ourselves."
She looked at me and smiled, "Mayor Feng, you seem to have a very special national complex, and you are very disgusted with worshiping foreigners. Is that right?"
I laughed and said, "Are you criticizing me or praising me?"
She smiled and said, "What do you think?"
I laughed, "I understand. But I still think that way. We don't need their attention, and attention should be an equal relationship. We can't be inferior to them just because they are foreigners. But I agree with what you said.
:Academic exchange also requires strength.”
She smiled and said to me: "Well, I agree with your point of view. Mayor Feng, we have completed the purpose of this trip this morning and took a lot of photos. We can do business when we go back. Hehe
!I finally understand why everyone likes to go abroad for academic exchanges so much. It turns out that it is mainly for fun? It is a pleasure to travel at public expense."
I couldn't help but smile bitterly and said, "Why are you speaking so openly? There are some things that we just need to understand in our hearts, but it's not that good to say them out. Don't you think so?"
She smiled and said, "I'm just telling you this in front of you. By the way, Mayor Feng, what are our plans for the afternoon?"
I asked her: "You haven't bought gifts for your relatives and friends this time, right?"
She shook her head and said, "I'm too lazy to buy it. I don't like that."
I thought to myself: You are different. I asked her again: "Then we have to buy some gifts for the leaders of the school and the people in charge of scientific research and graduate studies, right? Otherwise, it will be difficult for you to go and talk to them in the future.
They get along."
She smiled and asked me: "Can I pay the bill?"
I couldn't help but laugh too, "How can you pay for it if you don't buy it?"
She laughed, "I understand. Let's go shopping in the afternoon."
I suddenly felt a little strange: she is an associate professor at the Medical University Affiliated Hospital, so logically there should not be any financial difficulties. I have worked in a hospital, so of course I know her income level.
So, if this factor is excluded, it should be that she is frugal by nature. This is a good way of saying it, but a bad way of saying it is that she is obsessed with money.
Of course, I would not ask her such questions face to face, but I already have a basic idea of her in my mind.
Then I asked her with a smile: "Doctor Guan, what do you want to eat? I'll treat you."
After thinking for a while, she said: "Let's go to the street to eat and then we will go shopping together."
I thought this was good, so I called a taxi with her to go to the center of the city. When we go abroad, as long as our foreign language skills are sufficient, many things will be much more convenient. It’s not just a matter of taking a car, but also
Have a meal.
When we were in the car, Guan Qin said to me: "Let's go find a Chinese restaurant to eat. I feel very uncomfortable eating Western food these days."
In fact, I feel the same way. It is difficult to change a person's eating habits, and our eating habits are often related to the place where we lived when we were children. For things like Western food, eating it once in a while is not bad, but eating too much is really bad.
It will feel very boring.
But I feel a little strange, "You have lived abroad for so long, why are you not used to life abroad?"
She answered me with a smile: "People like me who study abroad basically cook and eat by themselves. On the one hand, the purpose of going abroad is to plate gold, and on the other hand, it is also to make money. To make money abroad,
Bringing it back home to spend money is the purpose of many people going abroad. To be honest, according to my current income, it should be at a medium level compared to others, but it is still very difficult to buy a house. A house costs dozens
Wan, after adding decoration, buying electrical appliances, etc., all my savings over the years were all spent in one fell swoop. This was all due to the money I earned during the two years I went abroad, otherwise I would still be a house slave now."
What she said is very true. Now I think about my situation when I was working in a hospital. I had an income of close to 20,000 yuan a month, but I didn’t dare to think about buying a house. Therefore, buying a house is really important to ordinary working-class people.
It is indeed a luxury thing.
I nodded and said, "Yeah. But you're not bad. At least you have your own house, and you're not a house slave."
She smiled and said: "Yes. Now I feel quite satisfied, except for the lack of a man."
I coughed hurriedly, and then said: "You are so beautiful, mainly because you are too picky."
She smiled and said: "No, I am a bachelor. Mayor Feng, do you know what a bachelor is?"
I took it for granted and said, "I just don't want to get married, I just want to live alone for the rest of my life. Is that right? Doctor, can I ask you a question that I shouldn't ask?"
She smiled and said, "I know what you want to ask me. You think I might have been emotionally hurt, so I don't want to get married, so I'm disappointed in men. Is that right?"
This was indeed the question I was about to ask her, but I didn't expect that she would take the initiative to say it. I asked her, "Isn't it? Otherwise, I find it difficult to understand why you are like this."
In fact, she had told me about this before, but I always thought it was a little strange. And at this moment, I suddenly thought of another possibility: she couldn't be gay, right?
When I was thinking wildly like this, I suddenly heard her say to me: "I advocate freedom. I don't want to be bound by marriage. The reason is that simple."
Although I don’t understand it, it’s not convenient for me to ask her too many questions in this regard. After all, this is her private matter, and the lifestyle of each of us should be free, and we cannot simply use right or wrong.
to measure.
I smiled and said, "This is your choice, no one else's human rights will interfere."
However, the previous doubt in my mind still exists: she said this, and it still cannot rule out whether there is a problem with her sexual orientation.
I'm not worried about our conversation being overheard by the taxi driver because he is a foreigner.
Sydney's Chinatown is near the commercial center. There are many shops here and there are many customers. When the car stopped, I heard many familiar Chinese voices coming from outside. In such a place and such an atmosphere,
A feeling of touch and kindness will come to you.
Guan Qin got off the bus first and I was paying.
At this time, the foreign taxi driver said to me in a low voice in half-baked Chinese, "Sir, singles do not get married, fall in love, or have sex. But it is obvious that your female companion is pseudo-single.
Activists."
I was stunned immediately, "Why?"
He immediately answered me in fluent English, "She is so beautiful and looks very charming. So I don't think she is really a true bachelor."
I couldn't help but laugh. I thought this foreigner was a bit troublesome at the same time. I paid him and prepared to get out of the car, but then I heard him say again, "Pseudo-bachelors only want to get out of the car."
Sex does not require an established love relationship between a man and a woman, nor does it require a marriage relationship. It is a relationship that only requires sex. That’s how I am.”
This foreigner is crazy. I immediately thought in my mind.
At this time, I saw Guan Qin standing under the plaque at the entrance of Chinatown and looking up. There were four words on the plaque: We are one family everywhere.
The author's digression:
Today's "Prodigal Son Officialdom"
Introduction: Zhang Pengfei, the son of a high-ranking official, rose to power by virtue of his family's power. He wanted to serve the people wholeheartedly and do things in a down-to-earth manner, but he was unable to get rid of the beauty's following and the emotional constraints. His political opponents in the officialdom also frequently attacked him... In desperation, he
He had no choice but to choose an alternative official path. From the grassroots to the top, he created one official miracle after another. His official wisdom became the object of study for many young people, and his personality attracted the love of many beauties...
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