But I told myself that I had to tell her about this, and then I said: "Mom, I came back specially to tell you something."
She looked at me in surprise, "Oh? Just tell me."
I said, "Mom, Yu Min's man was in a car accident. He may not be able to stand up for the rest of his life."
The mother looked shocked, "Ah? How could this happen? Laugh, what do you mean? Are you planning to let Yu Min abandon her man now? No, even though she has your child, the two of you can live together.
It's best to be together, but this won't work, we can't do that kind of thing, it will hurt our morality."
I hurriedly said: "Mom, where did you think you were? How could I do something like that? Is that so? I still have a restaurant, right? It's the one opposite the villa we used to live in. I want to
Let Yu Min run the restaurant, so that the lives of her, her children, and her family will be protected."
The mother nodded, "This is a good idea. Our family doesn't lack the money. After all, the child is your own flesh and blood, and you have to shoulder this responsibility. Smile, you can decide this matter. Why do you do it?
ask me?"
I said: "Mom, that's it. Yu Min's man was injured and is in a very bad mood now. We are worried that he will suspect this matter, not to mention that the child looks so much like me. So, my idea is to ask you to go
Sign that contract with Yu Min so that her man will not suspect anything. Of course, the contract is just a formality and we will not accept money from them in the future."
The mother immediately understood, "Okay, that's okay, you ask her to come and sign with me. By the way, you ask her to bring the child. I want to take a good look at the child. That is my grandson.
Why......"[
I said, "Okay, I'll just tell her. Let's go home in a few days on the weekend, and then I'll ask her to come with the kids."
Mother never ceases to sigh.
The weekend soon came, and I had already made an agreement with Yu Min to let her bring her children to my house for dinner at noon on Saturday, and sign the contract at the same time.
She has already brought her child back from Jiangbei and has completed the hospitalization procedures at the Provincial Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine.
My mother got up early in the morning to buy groceries and started busying herself when she got home. And she didn't let the nanny interfere at all. She said she would cook a few good dishes herself to entertain Yu Min and the children.
When I saw my mother acting like this, I felt very uncomfortable.
It was not even eleven o'clock when Yu Min brought the child to my house. After seeing the child, my mother hurriedly picked it up and couldn't help but look at it, "It's so similar, he looks more and more like his father when he was a child.
"
I hurriedly said: "Mom..."
The mother smiled and said: "What's the matter? Are there any outsiders at home? Although Xiao Zhang is the nanny of the family, she is just like the rest of the family. Xiao Yu, I am happy, you won't be surprised, right?"
Yu Min blushed and smiled, but the smile was unnatural.
The child does look like me when I was a child, just like a template. Yuanyuan is very sensible now, he is not as jealous as before, and he even took the initiative to reach out and hold his brother's little hand.
I handed the contract I had already printed to my mother, "Mom, please sign this with Xiao Yu."
The mother said: "Why are you in a hurry? Xiaoyu and I will talk first. Xiaoyu, hold the child and go to my room with me, and we will talk."
Yu Min blushed and agreed. I looked at my mother in surprise, and my mother smiled and said to me: "Go and look at the soup in the pot. I will start cooking when I come out."
I could only nod with a wry smile, but I was still surprised in my heart: What was she going to say when she called Yu Min in? [
When I got to the kitchen, I saw that my mother had not finished washing several dishes, so I finished the previous preparations for her.
After leaving the kitchen, Yuanyuan came to me and asked: "Dad, why did grandma talk to that aunt behind closed doors? I want to play with that little brother."
I said: "You go in, grandma will agree."
The child was very happy, "Really?"
I nodded to him, "Really. Grandma loves you the most. She will definitely agree."
The child went happily. He knocked on his grandma's door and said, "Grandma, my name is Yuanyuan. I want to come in and play with my brother."
Sure enough, the mother opened the door quickly, but she closed the door after the child entered. I was even more curious: What were they talking about inside?
Half an hour later, my mother and Yu Min came out of the room with their two children. I was very curious and immediately asked Yu Min in a low voice, "What did she say to you?"
Yu Min was about to answer me, but her mother immediately said to her: "Don't tell him! Laugh, don't ask either!"
I couldn't help but smile bitterly, but the curiosity in my heart became even stronger.
Mother went into the kitchen. Before she went in, she said to me and Yu Min again: "Xiao, don't ask her, Xiao Yu, don't tell him either."
I smiled bitterly and said repeatedly: "I won't ask, I promise I won't ask."
Yu Min said to her mother: "Let me help you. Brother Feng, hold the child."
I was just wishing for it, so I hurriedly took the child from her hands, hugged it, and then went outside the house. The weather was very good today, the sunshine in the spring was warm, and I specially placed a set of beach sand on the lawn outside the house.
There are chairs and a big parasol.
I carried the child there. Yuanyuan followed me out. He stood in front of me, tilting his head and looking at me. He looked so cute. I smiled and asked him, "Why are you looking at me like this?"
"
The child asked me seriously: "Dad, do you really want to know what grandma and Aunt Yu said?"
My heart suddenly moved: Yes, wasn't the child inside when they were talking? Immediately, I said to the child: "Then tell me quietly, don't let grandma know."
The son said: "Yes. But, Dad, you have to reward me."
I shook my head and said: "I can't reward you for this matter, because I am your father and you are my son. Tell me what you know. This is what you should do. Of course, you don't have to tell me.
"
I believe that things like this must not be exchanged for rewards. In that case, it is actually cultivating children's habit of informing.
There are many problems in our education, and one of the biggest problems is that teachers intentionally or unintentionally cultivate the habit of informing students.
The main job of many student leaders is to inform.
However, few people think about such issues: In our entire education process, what kind of moral concepts should we teach students? Teach them to learn to whistle-blow from an early age and benefit from whistle-blowing? Teach them to learn from an early age
Are you going to cling to power and give up your own principles?
A classic Hollywood film about the growth of middle school students is called "Knowing People by Smell". The general plot of the story is this: a poor high school student suddenly faces the biggest test in his life: either betray his classmates or expose him.
The fact that they had played pranks on the principal, so that they could go to Harvard and get a scholarship; or be expelled. Such a huge test made the child almost unbearable, but he insisted on one thing: "I will never betray anyone.
When he was about to be expelled, a lieutenant general who lost his eyes during the Vietnam War came to his school and saved his fate with a wonderful speech about loyalty and faith. The blind general said: "If our
If schools educate children from an early age to betray their friends, and let them think that they can gain benefits by betraying and informing, and let them get an education that destroys their character and integrity and becomes an elite, then the foundation of our country will begin to decay."
This is something contrary to our education. For decades, we have been instilling this into our students: In front of authority, individuals should sacrifice everything, from spirit to body. Obedience to principles is in our system
Above all else, it is also implemented in early childhood education, student education, adult education, and vocational education.
Scientists once conducted such an experiment: hanging a bunch of bananas on the heads of a group of monkeys in a cage. The result was that if any monkey touched the banana, all the monkeys would be beaten. Later, any monkey would be beaten.
If you touch a banana, all the monkeys will beat it. The banana hanging in the air is not called a banana, but collective interests, national interests, and people's interests. This false banana fools everyone, so the monkeys share the same hatred and are naive and naive.
I firmly believe that my personal interests are really tied to those bananas, and touching those bananas is infringing on me. Even if I watch the bananas being guarded and enjoyed alone in a big way, I will mentally agree that they have my own rights there after all.
Any monkey who dares to try to get his own banana will be punished for violating the interests of the group, and will be tortured by the managers and isolated and beaten by the monkey group.
Our education has been criticized by many parties, but it has never been changed. Why is this? Because this kind of education is the best way to control monkeys. There are monitors and students on duty in the class, and captains and student union presidents in the school.
Children have been in awe and admiration for power since they were young. The absolute authority of the teacher is established. The teacher makes his favorite students the class cadres, and obviously gives different attention and preferential treatment to the favorites, thereby stimulating them to express themselves, compete for favors, and compete for favors.
In order to obtain information that they don't know, they make blacklists and instigate children to write small notes to report. All of this is for the convenience of management. From the beginning of the formation of the worldview, there is constant encouragement and harm.
It prompts the monkeys to develop awe and obedience to authority. Their fear of authority has become a habit, and their respect for power has become instinctive. They do not have the ability to persist independently in the face of right and wrong. In elementary school, whoever is the most active can be the monitor.
In middle school, whoever studies the hardest and works most cooperatively with teachers can join the Communist Youth League early and become a class cadre early. In college, whoever is the best at messing around with teachers and making friends has the best chance of joining the party, participating in student union work, and then getting better results.
Graduation. Because the facts clearly tell them that the only chance to escape the lack of bananas is to become the monkey that managers like more, or to be promoted to managers. This will become the ultimate truth given to them by the entire education.
What about the basic good qualities that should be part of human nature, the basics of morality, and the basic good qualities of a nation? When a nation collectively becomes informers, monitoring each other and waiting to be betrayed, faith, honesty, integrity, these are the must for the progress and civilization of a nation.
When the cornerstone becomes the first thing that must be destroyed, what will be the future? Maybe they have forgotten that in the past closed-door era, a disabled and sick nation might be able to live alone, but in today's globalization, human beings are shining brightly under the sky
Under the gaze of glowing eyes, what will be the fate of a nation whose morals have declined, whose faith has collapsed, and a nation which does nothing in the dark?
I often think that I am definitely not the only one to think about issues like this, but for people like me, we can only accept this situation reluctantly because we have no power to change it. But we can do something
, that is to start from the education of the children around you.
The child looked at me and said, "Okay, I can tell you, but don't tell grandma that I told you."
I smiled and said, "You don't have to tell me, you can decide for yourself."
The child said: "But I think you really want to know. If I don't tell you, you will be very unhappy, right?"
I think this child is really a little adult. Although I don’t want my child to become like this, I still think he is very interesting. So I smiled and asked him: "Actually, if you don’t tell me, you will feel very uncomfortable.
, because you want the secrets you know to be shared with others, right?"
The child immediately laughed and said, "Dad, you are so awesome, I all know it."
I smiled and said: "But this secret is your own, you don't have to tell me. It will be the same in the future. When you grow up, you will know many secrets. At that time, you need to pay more attention to whether you
If you tell others the secrets you know, you have to think carefully before you tell them. Because some secrets will hurt others or yourself."
The child pouted and said dissatisfiedly: "You adults are complicated. In fact, there is nothing wrong with it. Grandma gave Aunt Yu a card, which is the kind of card that can withdraw money. Grandma said to Aunt Yu, this is
A little bit of her thoughts..."
When the child said this, I was stunned immediately.
Obviously, my mother gave Yu Min a sum of money as the grandmother of the child in my arms. My mother did not let Yu Min tell me about this because she was worried that I would blame Yu Min.
I understand my mother's behavior very well. After all, this child is my flesh and blood and my mother's grandson. However, this child cannot live in my home, so my mother feels very guilty in her heart. She gave Yu Min
A sum of money is also for peace of mind.
The child in my arms had fallen asleep. I went to look at him, and the more I looked at him, the more I liked him. Yuanyuan asked me next to him: "Dad, is he my biological brother? Otherwise, why would grandma say he looks like you?"
When I was young?"
I was shocked by the child's words, because I knew that it would be easy for a child of his age to tell such things to his classmates. I shook my head hurriedly and said, "No. He is Aunt Yu.
There are many people who look alike, which is not surprising. Because he looks like his father when he was a child, grandma likes him so much."
The child looked very disappointed, "That's it. I thought Aunt Yu was my mother."
I was very surprised, "Didn't you just visit your mother with your grandma not long ago?"
The child said: "Yes. I know that my mother is dead and my grandfather is also dead. But I don't want my mother to be dead. If he is my biological brother, it means that Aunt Yu is my mother. It turns out that he is my biological brother.
no."
I felt very uncomfortable, so I immediately pulled him to my side and stroked the child's hair with my hands, "Mom is dead. She died when she gave birth to you. So, you must be obedient.
Only in this way can you be worthy of your mother in heaven."
The child said to me obediently: "Yeah."
After a while, Yu Min came out and said, "Brother Feng, it's time to eat."
And at this moment, I suddenly heard Tong Yao's voice coming from outside, "Hey! We're just in time."
Immediately, I saw Tong Yao and her mother appearing in front of me. At this moment, I suddenly felt inexplicable nervousness.
Tong Yao's mother walked up to me quickly and stared at the child in my arms, "Whose child is this? Why does he look so like you, Dr. Feng?"
When I was embarrassed, Tong Yao also ran up to me. She kept looking at the sleeping child in my arms, "It really looks like you. Feng Xiao, this child..." Then she
He raised his head and glanced at Yu Min, his expression suddenly changed, "I understand."
Yu Min was already overwhelmed with embarrassment, but she immediately reacted and came over immediately to take the child from my arms, "This child is mine, and his father is not Brother Feng."
I was secretly worried in my heart: Don’t you have three hundred taels of silver here? But I couldn’t say much, and I also understood why Tong Yao’s face suddenly became so ugly: she had already decided that this child was mine.
So it is natural to think that my previous courtship of her was a kind of deception.
However, how can I explain such a thing? What's more, I no longer have the need to explain. Anyway, it is impossible for her and me to explain it now, and there is not much practical significance in explaining it now.
No, it must be explained, because she once belonged to me. She must have regarded me as an emotional liar in her heart. Such misunderstanding cannot be allowed to happen to her. Otherwise, what kind of person will I be in her heart? Once I am
If she misunderstood, then we wouldn't even be friends anymore.
Thinking of this, I immediately said to Tong Yao and her mother: "Please go sit in the room. Tong Yao, I will explain some things to you at another time." Then I went to ask her mother, "Auntie, why do you think of me today?"
Are you here?"
She said: "Yao Yao heard that your restaurant was going to be managed by another person, so she had to bring me to your place. She said that you are sometimes too soft-hearted and easily suffer losses."
Tong Yao pursed her lips and said: "How can he easily suffer a loss? Others are the ones who suffer!"
It seemed that she really misunderstood, so I hurriedly said to Yu Min: "Bring Auntie in first, I'll say a few words to Officer Tong before I come in."
Tong Yao's mother is of course a very sensible person. She had already noticed that something was wrong with her daughter's mood, so she immediately followed Yu Min into the house, and when she left, she took Yuanyuan in for me.
I looked at Tong Yao, whose face suddenly became ugly, and sighed and said: "This child was an accident, it happened a long time ago. When I was still in the hospital."
She said coldly, "Then why don't you marry her?"
I smiled bitterly and said: "Chen Yuan was still in a coma at that time. The doctor had told Yu Min before that the possibility of her being able to give birth was almost zero. So she cared about this child very much."
She said: "Chen Yuan is still alive, so you go out and cause trouble. Are you still a human being?"
I was speechless. She actually knew all the things about me in the past, but now she was in a angry mood, so she brought out those things about me in the past to get angry with me again. This is not surprising, women are all
In this way, when they are angry, any small thing will become a big deal, and logic will be regarded as air by them.
She looked at me, "Feng Xiao, tell me, were your feelings for me true at that time?"
I nodded without hesitation, "Of course. I have told you many times that I can give up everything I have for you."
She sneered, "You are always good at smooth talk. Otherwise, why would so many girls be deceived by you?"
I hurriedly said: "Who have I deceived? Those women used to come to me. You are different. You are the only woman I have actively pursued. Of course I am sincere to you. Believe it or not is up to you. I
I admit that my will is weak, but I have never thought about deceiving anyone!"
She was still looking at me and sneered, "Really?"
I smiled bitterly and said: "Tong Yao, you should feel the feelings I have for you. Some things may not be believed when spoken with the mouth, but most of the things we feel in our hearts are true. Tong Yao, you
You've already felt it, right? You don't have to believe me, but don't you even believe your own feelings? You know all the things I did before, and I told you all, right?"
She sneered again, "You told me everything? Really?"
I shook my head, "Yes, not everything. But you know the main points, right?"
She said "hehe" twice, "That's not entirely true, is it? Ruan Zhenzhen's relationship with you, and now you continue to associate with this Yu Min. They are all married women!"
I smiled bitterly, "Tong Yao, I said that if we can be together, I can give up everything about myself. But you didn't promise me, I have to have my own life. Yu Min's man had a car accident, and he probably won't be able to stand for the rest of his life.
When I got up, I gave her the restaurant, just to fulfill my responsibility. This is my personal matter, and I feel that I am not wrong in doing so."
She was stunned immediately, "Car accident?"
I nodded, "Yes. Now her family's source of livelihood has been cut off. Although the child came into this world by accident, there is nothing wrong with the child. I must consider the future of the child. This is my responsibility."
She turned around and left, instead of entering the house, she left my home.
I was about to call her, but after opening my mouth, no sound came out, only a long sigh...