I understand: My own sister, no matter how she thinks about it, always puts herself in my shoes.
In today's marriage and love market, especially in the high-end segment, there are obviously many boys and girls. There are many leftover girls over thirty years old who have everything they need in terms of appearance, figure, education, and job, but they just can't find them.
A suitable partner for them. Take my sister-in-law Mingyao as an example. She is thirty-one years old and has a doctorate degree. Although her appearance is not very beautiful, she is dignified and generous, her personality is relatively gentle, and her job is stable. However,
He has been staying in the boudoir until now.
The man she wants to find, in her words, must be older than her, at least two or three years older, and cannot be shorter than her. She is 1.66 meters tall, and the height limit for blind dates is the minimum.
Yu is 1.70 meters tall, looks good at work, at least not much worse than her, and has a house, because she said that men at this age who don’t have their own house usually have limited abilities; at the same time, Ming Ming
Yao also asked that the other party should have never been married before, and even if she was married, she must not have children, because she does not want to be a stepmother; her temper and living habits should not be too bad, because she cannot stand such people, and so on.
Frankly speaking, from Mingyao's actual conditions, the mate selection conditions she set match her own conditions and cannot be said to be too high; but the problem is that this market is very cruel. For example, Mingyao, she only
She can look older and find a suitable partner among single men between thirty-one and forty years old. But the man she likes should be, for example, in his thirties, with a house and a good job, good looks, and not short height.
, has a good temper, has never been married, or is divorced and has no children. The range of mate selection for such a man can range from a girl who has just graduated in her early twenties to an outstanding leftover woman in her early thirties. However, in the end, men with good conditions often end up with
I chose one of the two and looked for an unmarried girl between the ages of 25 and 30 with excellent conditions, instead of a picky older girl like Mingyao.
This is the current marriage and love market. In this cruel competition, it is difficult for an outstanding older single girl like Mingyao to find a good partner. It is even more difficult for a woman in her thirties like me who has been divorced once.
, I have a friend who got divorced at the age of thirty-six. She had good conditions in all aspects and had numerous blind dates. However, until she was in her early forties, she still could not find a suitable partner. In the end, she became discouraged and told us that she had decided not to marry.
I'm still looking for it, but I really can't find a sex partner.
It was under this situation that my sister Haijing once advised me to be cautious about divorce when I was getting divorced; Sister Wang, the lover of Xu Minghui’s old leader at that time, also advised me sincerely: "Xiao Wei, Xiao Xu is a criminal."
He made a very serious mistake, but in this world, there will be no fish if the water is clear, and men are impulsive animals. No man can guarantee that he will not make mistakes in his life. If you give up on Xu Minghui now, it is like giving up on the good things you saw in the vegetable market this morning.
A piece of Chinese cabbage, and later you find that there is a bit of rot on the edge of the leaf, and you want to give up on it and pick another one; but you throw away the cabbage and go to the vegetable market. The further you go, the worse the dishes you see.
, because it is already getting late at this time, and the good food has been picked up by others. At this time, if you want to go back and look for the cabbage you threw away, you have no chance. So the eldest sister advises you to deal with the divorce.
It’s better to think twice before acting. No matter how wrong Xiao Xu is, you are a young couple who have been together for a long time. This emotional foundation is deeper than you and others..."
However, I was so angry at the time that I couldn't listen to anyone's advice. Besides, Xu Minghui really chilled my heart. If he could sincerely reflect on his mistakes after being caught by me, I wouldn't be so angry.
Because he spoke so hard and gave me a hard time, I made up my mind to divorce him.
Now that I have divorced, Haijing has begun to worry about my life-long events. Previously, she had been persuading me on the phone to dress myself up so that my appearance can catch the other person's attention and then have a suitable match.
People should get together quickly and strive to start a family again as soon as possible.
But there are so many things going on in my company right now, and I don't have that thought at all, so Hai Jing came to see me while she was on annual leave, just to give me some advice.
Hai Jing stayed at my place for nearly ten days, nagging these things in my ears every day, and I still listened to some of them no matter how indifferent she was.
She would often drag me to the mall, and when she saw some relatively good clothes on sale, she would let me try them, and if they worked well, she would buy them for me.
Just like that, after my sister Hai Jing's advice, my personal image really improved a lot. My clothes all over the body were improved by more than one level. I also dyed my hair brown under my sister's repeated encouragement.
It is red and has been restyled. Although the hair is still short, it is more layered and looks more fashionable.
I also learned how to put on makeup, which of course was taught to me by Haijing. In the past, although I simply put on makeup every day, it was very rough. I could only draw eyeliner and eyebrows, apply lip balm, and my appearance didn’t change much; now
, under the personal guidance of my sister, I learned how to shape my eyebrows, how to curl my eyelashes, how to base my skin, apply makeup, how to apply basic makeup and make-up, how to match eye shadows of various colors, and how to cover my face with concealer.
Small potholes on the road, etc.
In the process of learning these things, I also felt that it was really fun to dress myself up, and it was endless fun.
Especially when I get dressed up and see that charming woman with a trendy hairstyle and exquisite makeup on her face in the mirror, let alone the pride that comes from the inside out!
I asked Haijing with infinite joy: "Is this really me?"
Hai Jing laughed and replied to me: "Sister, of course it's you! If you don't believe me, I'll just pinch you and you'll know!" As she said that, she actually pinched me.
Feeling the slight pain in my muscles, I realized that all this was not a dream. The beautiful and fashionable woman in the mirror who looked completely different from me before was indeed me. People used to call me a tomboy and a tomboy.
I take it for granted, because I always think that I am already married and have a mother, so why should I dress up so beautifully for who to see? Besides, I have dark skin, so no matter how I dress up, it will just be that way.
But it wasn’t until today that I realized how happy women are when they learn how to dress up, and how charming I can be when I dress up.
Seeing my complacent look, Hai Jing said to me sincerely: "Sister, your skin is actually pretty good. Although it's not white, it's smooth and has no spots. It's also very firm. In addition, you have a good figure, so as long as you dress up carefully,
Suddenly, it’s completely different from before.”
I smiled happily and thought to myself, in fact, it is not completely useless for me to be busy doing things and not being idle all day long. Just because I am not idle all day long, I have a better physical condition. Life lies in exercise. Because I
I like to exercise and be energetic, so my skin is so tight.
In this way, thanks to my sister's hard work, I completely changed from top to bottom.
After Haijing left, I still insisted on dressing up like this and brought this image to the company.
Many colleagues in the company were surprised by my sudden change in appearance. Seeing me dressed in high-end clothes and exquisite make-up, my whole body became fashionable, decent and attractive. My colleagues joked and asked me how I had been recently.
Did you have an affair?
I understand the psychology of these colleagues. In their minds, I may have always been the image of a manly woman who was fast-moving, dressed plainly, not particular about details, and didn't even know how to put on makeup. Now I suddenly turned into such a feminine person.
It was a little hard for them to accept it for a while.
So I responded to them with a smile: "Your sister, I have figured it out now. I want to live a life for myself, live a life that is free and easy, and live happily, can't I?"
When they heard what I said, everyone was surprised at first, and then they all burst into laughter and kept saying, "Okay, of course!"
I smiled and ignored the strange looks they looked at me like a monster. I knew that some of these people had no good intentions. They talked and laughed with me in person, but turned around and wondered how they were ridiculing me. For example, who was the old man?
The cucumbers are painted with spring again, the old woman wants to score twice, etc. They used to make fun of me behind my back.
But now I don't care at all. Now I really live for myself. As long as I feel happy and comfortable, I don't care at all and won't pay attention to what others think of me.
Seeing me dressed like this, Zhao Bingyan looked at me differently than before, with a little surprise and of course more disdain.
Zhao Bingyan has always been a fashionable beauty who knows how to dress up. Among all the girls in our office, she is not as good at dressing up. Her vision has always been arrogant. Even though I pay attention to dressing up now, I can't compare with her who has always been at the forefront of fashion.
, maybe in her eyes, my dress is still vulgar and rustic, so it is reasonable for her to look at me with disdain.
It's a pity that I dress like this not for the eyes of others, but for myself, so when faced with her disdainful look, I pretended not to see it and at most smiled and passed it by.
There is another person in the company who is very concerned about my sudden change in dressing style. He is Zhou Yaze, the boss of our company.
I remember that I happened to meet him in the corridor that day. At that time, I was holding a document and wanted to ask Mr. Wei to sign it. Unexpectedly, I met Zhou Yaze in the corridor.
That day I wore a burgundy professional skirt. This skirt was from Baozi and I bought it under Hai Jing’s reference. Originally, I didn’t want to buy such a eye-catching color, but Hai Jing said that my animal year is coming soon, because
People often say that the year of birth is full of misfortunes, so she advised me to buy a red dress first to wear it to suppress the bad luck. After trying it on, I felt that the dress was very elegant, so I gritted my teeth and bought it.
When I met me in the corridor, Mr. Zhou looked at me with a somewhat surprised expression. He stopped, looked me up and down, and then said to me with a smile: "Sister Wei, your dress is very beautiful!"