The boy looked unwilling at this moment. He didn't understand why his grandparents wanted his mother to leave. The family had been very miserable over the years, but they had always been very harmonious, especially his mother, who did the most and ate the most.
Well, all the good things are left to the old, the young, and the young.
She thought that she would be kind to her mother when she waited for her biological father to come back. She had been the one who had supported the family all these years. But it turned out to be the opposite. The child hated his father in his heart.
It was because of him that his hard-working mother was desperate. As he had lived with his mother for many years, he was more emotionally inclined to her. He should be unable to accept the current reality from his heart, but in the future he would know that reality is reality, even if in his heart
If you don't accept it, it won't disappear.
Ling Xiao naturally paid attention to the hatred in the boy's heart, and felt that this child needed some guidance, because this child was smart enough, and being smart meant that he would not accept his fate, and it was hard to say whether it would cause many things.
After thinking about it for a while, Ling Xiao decided that he would intervene and first wake up his cousin Lin. This was because Ling Xiao knew how hard-working and capable women of this era were, and they also loved their children and could endure all the humiliation and suffering for them.
, knocked out teeth and bloody throat.
I hope to use Cousin Lin’s experience to help other women in a similar situation, so that more first wives can have a better start, instead of becoming the final losers. The reason why I think so is because Ling Xiao knows that this is definitely not an exception.
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Just like the talented people who studied abroad in the early years insisted on divorcing their original wives, now there will definitely be a wave of men divorcing their original wives one after another in the past few years. Most of the men have become successful, so they have started to get promoted and make money in exchange for wives. Men do not
I feel that I am wrong, but I feel that I am doing the right thing.
Those men all have valid reasons for asking for divorce: they have not seen their original spouses for many years, and the love between husband and wife has long since ceased. The previous marriage was an arranged marriage. As long as they say that they are against feudal arranged marriages, everything will be fine and they will no longer be a heartless man who has changed his mind.
But is this really the case? Those women, just like Cousin Lin, work diligently to support their families in their husbands' families. It can be said that they regard themselves as old scalpers, and finally let their families survive. They have been doing this for several years, and maybe even
After more than ten years, he ended up being dismissed as an anti-arranged marriage. In the final analysis, the original wife was treated as a burden and abandoned.
Aren’t they treating the first wives like Cousin Lin as rag girls? It’s them who work hard to support the family and provide for their parents-in-law in old age, but then they turn around and blame them for not being educated enough, not knowing how to dress up, and not qualified enough to stand up to their former husbands.
in one place.
Haha! In the final analysis, they were bullied because they had not studied in school, and they were bullied for being too honest. In the end, they were robbed of the final fruits of victory, and they were left with a reputation that was not on the stage.
Ling Xiao couldn't stand it, why should he treat those honest first wives like this? If this continues, who would be willing to be an honest person? Those operations simply don't give honest first wives a way to survive.
Many of the first wives in this wave of divorces have taken the most difficult path for their children: they don’t leave home after divorce. Why do they do this? Women are not willing to endure hardship. As long as they are human beings, who doesn’t want to live a happy life?
happy?
Because a woman discovers that after being divorced, her children may meet a stepmother. Let alone the stepmother, she may be a good mother. In fact, the probability that the children will meet a good stepmother is too low.
You must know that raising children is really a troublesome thing, because the children will cry and make noises. As a stepmother, you may be said to be harsh on the children if you take care of them, and you will also be criticized if you don't care. Therefore, it is difficult to be a stepmother.
The probability of being a stepmother is higher when children are young, so even a woman who originally planned to be a stepmother may be so angry that she does not want to be a stepmother. When the stepmother has her own child, she will naturally like her own child more.
, it will soon show up in life.
Will the original child be angry? The original situation was not good, but now it has become worse, and more conflicts will arise and break out. The stepmother will look down on her stepson and stepdaughter even more. So she will not rub the child.
Stepmothers are rare good stepmothers, and most common stepmothers do not like the children in front of them.
As a child, the biological mother should also know this truth, so she is reluctant to let go of her child, and would rather endure hardships to protect her child. This is why she never leaves home after divorce.
What does it mean to not leave home after divorce? It means that the original wife is no longer with her husband, she is no longer the wife of her husband, and she is no longer a member of her husband's family, but she still lives in the husband's house. Ugh! She is not living with a man, but her ex-wife
It is simply impossible to be with the second wife. Usually the first wife lives in the man's hometown.
In other words, the first wives are no longer the men's wives, but they are still the hard-working old scalpers of the man's family. They have to provide for the old man's parents-in-law who live and work in the city until they die, and they also have to raise their own children.
Are you stupid? Ling Xiao only had this idea after knowing about the so-called not leaving home after divorce. What the hell is GOU about not leaving home after divorce? This is completely squeezing the divorced first wives.
This kind of behavior will liberate the man. He originally had to take care of his elderly parents. You must know that taking care of the elderly requires money, time and effort, and is the most tiring thing.
As a result, the first wives stay in the men's hometown, and the men live in the place where they work. The men do not need to take care of their parents, nor do they need to raise the children born to them by their previous wives. At most, they can provide some living expenses every month and it will be a perfect solution.
The most difficult problem to solve.
Divorced ex-wives are often the most miserable ones. Not only do they have to shoulder their original responsibilities, they also have no status in their ex-husband's family. The ex-daughter-in-law has no relationship with her ex-law's family, so she naturally has no status.
In fact, I'm afraid that the man's elders will feel that their family has taken in the original wife who has nowhere to go, so they need to be grateful to repay the original wife's kindness. The original spouse will unknowingly become an unpaid nanny.
, when you get old, you have to rely on the conscience of your children.
But it’s hard to say how much conscience children can have.
This is because people are compared with each other, and as the children of the ex-wife, the most common reference is the children of the subsequent wife. The former are old farmers, and the latter are city dwellers. This gap is too big.
When children are young, they don’t have much utilitarianism due to their age, but as they grow older, they will have more desires when they grow up, which are not so pure. The old mother’s efforts may not necessarily be rewarded, but may
will be scoffed at.
Especially when the children grow up and have small families, problems will arise. If someone with malicious intentions instigates the problem, the children may become mentally unbalanced.
When the children find that their own problems cannot be solved, but their half-brothers and sisters do not have those problems at all, they also find that the reason why this is happening is because they and their half-brothers and sisters have different mothers, and the biological father cares more about the stepmother's children.
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Some people learn from the painful experience and are eager to establish a good relationship with their biological father, thinking of relying on their father's relationship to live a good life, and may even try to flatter their stepmother. As a result, they find that their behavior is a clown in the eyes of their stepmother, and they will naturally
Even more unhappy.
At this time, the first wives are often despised by their children because of their lack of ability. If one day the children do not get benefits from their biological father, will they vent all their anger on their biological mother? Or maybe they feel that they are all relatives.
The mother is incompetent and unable to win over her husband, so that makes it difficult for them to live a good life?
Just because they are unwilling to face this gap: Why are they all children of the same father, but have completely different living environments? One day, women like Cousin Lin may find that the children they have worked so hard to grow up hate.
Hold yourself.
This is why Ling Xiao said that divorce and not leaving home is the most difficult path for those first wives. They gave up the opportunity to remarry and devoted everything to their children. Instead of being recognized by their children, they were spurned.
In the end, everything for them was a cruel joke. They failed completely. In the end, their children gave up on them, living without self and without a future. If this is really the case, the first wives who were left behind will spend their entire lives.
Life is too humble and painful.
The most ridiculous thing is that if the first wife and her ex-husband stand together during the divorce, they will find that the younger first wife often looks older than their husband. Because for many years, a woman has been responsible for the whole family, causing them to lose their female roles.
Some beauty and charm.
It is for this reason that many people think that it is normal for men to get divorced. This woman has no advantages as a woman. She is dark and old, and is really unsuitable for a man. They have completely forgotten that without the hard work of the original wife, how could there be a man?
Stable rear area?
This is also the reason why Ling Xiao intervened. She really looked down on that kind of man. He actually abandoned his first wife and children when he was living a good life. There was no compensation afterwards, and he only thought about his subsequent wife and children. Really
Scum!
The biggest victim of this marriage breakdown is not only cousin Lin, but also two children. I wonder if the children will be hurt for life? Many people will spend their entire lives to heal the pain of childhood.
Thinking of this, Ling Xiao secretly sighed and reached out to stroke the little boy's hair. I'm afraid that this child has been ostracized a lot in life, especially when someone just said that he was a bastard without a father. It was definitely said by an adult in private.
If you say something similar to a child and say it after hearing it, the child is not sensible yet, but it will be more hurtful to say it.
This child's life is too hard, and he is afraid of being isolated and beaten by children for a long time. Not to mention the simple folk customs in the countryside. In fact, there are often situations in the countryside where the weak are bullied and the strong are afraid. Just like Cousin Lin's family, the backbone has always been outside, so the family is in the village.
His status is definitely not high.
The children are all called wild children, but there is nothing they can do against each other. Just because there is no mature man in the family, even if they are scolded, it is impossible to come to the door. After finally winning the final victory, they find out that the so-called biological father is married to another person, which is tantamount to
It was a blow to the family, so it was no wonder that he felt extremely sad and angry, and even somewhat hated his own father.
Thinking of this, she directly woke up Cousin Lin from her self-pity. She looked into Cousin Lin's eyes and said: "I roughly know your situation. Is there no news about your man in these years? He did not die outside.
, but he went to the battlefield and survived because he was promoted.
It’s just that as an official, he felt that he was uneducated and had nothing in common with you, so he said that his marriage to you was an arranged marriage, asked for its dissolution, and even married another lovely wife."
Cousin Lin's eyes couldn't help but open wider and wider when she heard this, because Ling Xiao's words were all right, and later she blurted out, "How did you know?"
"Isn't it just those words? That's all that man can say. He has no common language with you and can't talk about it at all. Therefore, he needs to find a more suitable woman to be his wife, haha! I don't know what the two of them can do in the future.
How many common languages do we have?”
Having said this, Ling Xiao sneered, followed her to look at cousin Lin, and asked: "What I want to know is what you think, do you want to continue that marriage?"