Chapter 1052 I'd rather be a beggar mother than an official father
Chapter 1052 I would rather be a beggar than an official father
Author: Time flies like water
Ling Xiao nodded after hearing this. The women in Jiuzhou are so smart and capable. Even under the suppression of the three obediences and four virtues, there will still be some outstanding women who appear in history with a shining attitude. Their various performances prove that women have played an important role in literature, history, and science.
Everyone is talented in research, but most women don't have the opportunity to show their strengths because they are trapped in a frame around the family and are men's accessories.
With the collapse of the feudal monarchy, the anti-feudal flag was raised, and women got more opportunities to get out of the house. In the past few decades, more brave women have appeared, and many women who were in the forefront devoted their lives to
And to protect their motherland, they gave up everything including their lives, which is no worse than men.
During this process, some women began to think about what women should do, and also issued a cry for equality between men and women. Progressive men also supported this idea, so the status of women was greatly improved.
After the founding of the People's Republic of China, more women began to receive education. If this development continues, more women will know that they are human beings like men and are no longer just men's appendages. This is progress.
But Ling Xiao is very clear that more education does not mean that people's minds will immediately accept newer theories. There are still too many problems to be solved in people's minds, such as the three obediences and four virtues of women.
Virtue still pops up from time to time to imprison women's minds, and in many places it still belittles women's abilities.
There are definitely still women who feel that even if a woman has received corresponding higher education in her life, it is just to marry well. As long as a woman marries a good man, everything will be fine. In order to achieve this goal, they often argue that true love is innocent.
, saying that there is no first come, first served relationship in marriage. Only when they love each other can they be a true couple. The one who is not loved in the first place is the third party.
Ha! Haha! This logic is really eye-opening. In the eyes of some people, if one party in the marriage changes his mind, then as the third party, not only is he not guilty, but he can also rely on the theory of innocence of true love to force the wife to give in.
Position. If you don't give in, it means that your original wife doesn't know how to appreciate it. If you don't give in, you need to knock her to the ground and step on ten thousand feet!!!!!
Ling Xiao absolutely doesn't like that kind of person. The third party has no regard for the position of the other women at all. They have no idea that women should help each other. They only want to pick peaches for themselves and get the maximum benefit, and they don't hesitate to harm the same sex.
In order to escape guilt, the most injured person is given a big label that is difficult to refute. The incident of cousin Lin is an epitome of this.
Didn't her man marry another wife? Don't say that he has no feelings for his original wife. As long as the original wife can keep the family, she deserves her husband's admiration, rather than being arbitrarily labeled as a feudal remnant.
Among them, there are definitely women who want to marry a good man, so they break up other people's couples, and even make trouble for the original spouse, saying that the couple has no common feelings, saying that the feudal remnant - arranged marriage, in the final analysis, is not to deduct the money from the original spouse.
Hat?
Talking about love and opposition to the remnants of feudalism, what is love? According to later scientific research, the love between men and women is also caused by hormones. It’s just that the hormones between men and women cannot support it for long and will eventually dissipate. So, is the man?
Is it possible to fall in love with another woman again?
What is the remnant of feudalism? Didn’t our ancestors all experience arranged marriages? If you think it’s not good, you can improve it, rather than criticizing it across the board. And should everyone go home and let their parents divorce one after another? After all, they are all arranged marriages. Need
Dismissed!
In fact, Ling Xiao feels that women like Cousin Lin are role models among women. They have done what the mainstay of the family has to do, and they have worked hard to keep their families alive. They have really managed to live without relying on men, which is very attractive.
Women who are women are labeled as feudal remnants. This is completely wrong!
There are also those men who feel that their first wives are old and ugly, and they feel that they have no cultural knowledge and no ability to do lady diplomacy, so they change their minds, and they change their minds when they change their minds, and they are not willing to admit it or say anything against arranged marriages.
The reasons for the change of heart are so fresh and refined! Some people think that because the sheep shit eggs are wrapped with a layer of chocolate on the outside, they think they are no longer sheep shit eggs inside. Haha!
Just from these behaviors, we can see that the road to true female awakening is long. Some people will hide their thoughts and appear to have the same idea as others, but in fact they have another idea in their bones. It is impossible for outsiders to completely detect it. The other party takes the opportunity to go around in private.
Spread your own thoughts, so there may be repeated situations on the way to women’s awakening.
This is why Ling Xiao hopes that the original owner will not forget her original intention and insist on being an independent woman. She can completely make herself a female role model.
Ling Xiao really hopes that more women will stand up, rely on their own strength, and inherit the legacy of their predecessors, so that equality between men and women can truly be realized, and gender equality can be achieved in all aspects.
She understands that the road to women's equal rights is long, but there will definitely be more women awakening, because she knows that women in Jiuzhou will go out of their homes and may appear in various industries, including but not limited to women with higher education.
, there are many, many women working in other positions, even if their academic qualifications are not high enough, but they rely on their own strength to survive.
Of course, the idea that just marrying a good man will last for a long time. There will always be people who want to take shortcuts. A winner will attract countless imitators.
You must know that the winner will show off every day after living a good life, which will lead to more people wanting to do so. Therefore, the true awakening of women is a long road, and you must know that old ideas are not easy to eliminate.
Human nature also prefers comfort. If you can win while lying down, I'm afraid there will be many, many people who are willing to lie down and win. Who wants to be busy all day long and not get much money.
However, there are too few people who can make money and win, and it is impossible for most people to win. And even being rich does not mean that they will be rich for a lifetime. There are not many big families that can stand firm in the world. In ancient times, Mozi
" said: "Officials are never always noble, and people are never always lowly."
After traveling through so many worlds, Ling Xiao has seen the rise and fall of many families. A poet said: In the old days, the king Xietang Qianyan flew into the homes of ordinary people. The family that had been glorious for many years and even the emperor looked down upon finally disappeared from history.
in the long river.
Ling Xiao, who learned a lesson from this, had only one idea in her mind: She should work hard to save herself instead of relying on the strength of others. Once she gets used to relying on others, she will never learn how to work hard on her own.
Cousin Lin was very envious when she saw the scene where the original owner was talking to Ling Xiao. She had to think of a question: If it were her cousin, would a man dare to abandon her cousin directly?
Men don’t dare, right? Look at my cousin’s appearance. She looks intellectual and beautiful, and has a very noble temperament. That man can’t bear to part with her. In the final analysis, he is still too weak.
Thinking of this, Cousin Lin suddenly lost her appetite. Why were there so many differences between her and her cousin? After thinking for a long time, she felt that the big reason was that her cousin had received a new education, while she did not have much education and could only recognize a few people.
characters, resulting in a huge gap between them.
At this moment, cousin Lin was extremely envious of her cousin, but she did not hate her cousin, nor did she feel that her cousin's education was something she hated in her heart. Then she wanted to plot against her cousin so that she would never recover. Cousin Lin
There is no such dirty thought.
She was currently thinking about what was the biggest gap between her and her? It was whether the two of them had received education. Thinking of this, she looked at her children and secretly decided in her heart that her children should receive education no matter what.
Her children already have a much lower starting point than their half-sisters. Without relevant education, they may end up like her and become people who can be abandoned at will. She doesn't want her children to fall behind.
to this point.
This was the child she had worked so hard to give birth to, and she would definitely have a better life. Thinking of this, Cousin Lin gritted her teeth and held back the tears she wanted to shed.
"Mom! Don't cry. Dad has no vision and doesn't want you. We want you." The boy of the two children raised his head and said. In his heart, the importance of his mother is higher than that of his father. For several years, that man did not want you at all.
He has never appeared in the family's life, and now he wants to drive away his mother. He is determined to stand on her side.
Ling Xiao couldn't help but smile, this child is good, "Look, there are such good children thinking about you, your efforts are not in vain. You can't lose the courage to live for them. Do you know? Only by living can you have hope."
As for the hardships you have experienced? Who has not suffered in life? A poet said this in his poem: Things often go wrong as you wish, but they are no different from the person you are talking about. (1) Including your cousin, it seems that
Although Fengfeng Guangguang is beautiful, he has actually endured a lot of hardships, and he will endure hardships less in the future.”
The original owner couldn't help but feel sad after hearing this. This is really the case. If she had been wrong at the time, the trees in front of her grave might have almost become useful (2). There are many things in life. Then
It's really rare that everything goes smoothly.
Cousin Lin also didn't expect that her cousin, who looked so beautiful, had suffered a lot, right? It seemed that her cousin was younger than her, but she soon remembered that the other party didn't need to lie.
"Sister Seventeen, if you hadn't paid attention, we, brother and sister, would have died several times. We even encountered people pointing guns directly at us abroad. Fortunately, nothing happened in the end. Everyone has their own difficulties.
." the original owner said.
Cousin Lin's eyes widened. She didn't expect that her cousin would be shot. If she said that, her life would be very dangerous. She wiped away her tears and choked up, "Well, I will live well."
.”
At this moment, she had more thoughts in her mind. She wanted to live a better life, instead of living the same life as before, becoming an old scalper and eventually being slaughtered.
Now the thing she is most worried about is the custody of her children. She said: "Thanks to my two children who have been with me all these years, I can't bear to part with these two good children, but according to the rules, the children belong to the man."
Ling Xiao, shaking his head, said: "Who said that children must follow the man? He said that your marriage was an arranged marriage, so his remarriage was an anti-arranged marriage. Then I also said that men and women are equal. Men should have rights, and women should naturally have them too."
have.
You have been taking care of the children by yourself all these years, why can't you continue to raise them? You can ask for the children to be given to you. This is a better way to safeguard the interests of the children. Isn't there a saying: I would rather be a beggar than an official father?
I believe that for the sake of the child, a man should hand over the custody of the child. This reduces the father's responsibility and reduces the burden on the child's grandparents."
She rolled her eyes and said: "Why does a mother risk her life to give birth to her own child, but she doesn't have the right to raise it, but can only give it to the man? This situation is absolutely wrong. Since men and women are equal, following the father and the mother are the same.
Same."
Ling Xiao's words made the original owner amazed. There were some slanderous words in these words, but they were definitely convincing. At the very least, the man should not think that the Lin family were country folk who knew nothing and could be fooled at will.
In addition, she also felt that it would be better for the children to follow their mothers. Men are so careless. Even if they become fathers, they often pay little attention to all aspects of life.
In particular, men who have remarried are even more unreliable and are often deceived, so that the victim lives a miserable life, and the father either cannot see it or is always helping his second wife to deal with the children.
In life, mothers are often more concerned about their children and will also find some problems. Even if the cousin gets married again and may be a little more neglectful of the children, it can be discovered early. Cousin Lin should be reminded to be a parent.
The bowl of water should be as level as possible.
(1) Poems by Fang Yue of the Song Dynasty.
(2) It takes about fifteen years for a pine tree to mature. Of course, the longer it takes, the better it will grow.