The original owner was a little confused at first, but now she finally understood that Ling Xiao was really very good to her. This was true love and care, right? Thinking of this, her nose felt sore and her eyes wanted to cry, but she knew she shouldn't cry.
Instead, you should smile, raise your head slightly, and let the tears gradually disappear.
At this moment, she only had one thought in her mind: She didn't know what fate enabled her to meet her and give her a new way of living. The pain of more than ten years before had been made up for by her, and gradually became less important.
, even though her heart still hurts, it doesn’t hurt to the bone. She has found her true family.
Ling Xiao continued: "Liu Niang, there are some things that we need to talk about. It was because of me that you gave up your original family and had a new life, which made you different from ordinary women.
But there are always gains and losses in this world, and you may be under different pressures because of this. You should be mentally prepared for this. I hope you remember one sentence: women are also human beings, not accessories to men."
When she said this, she looked at the original owner. The original owner's thoughts must not be the same as those of women in modern society. She believed that a person with a modern female soul would not necessarily live a better life in ancient times, so Ling Xiao did not instill too much into the original owner.
The idea is that she should try to be a more orthodox ancient person.
After the incident between Song's mother and son, the original owner began to think about it, but she was still an ancient woman. Moreover, this person was a very gentle person. If she was not gentle, she would have exploded in her parents' family.
Naturally, Ling Xiao was worried that the original owner would feel uncomfortable after being put under some pressure, and wanted to explain it clearly to her first, so that she would not panic when encountering problems. This was very important.
The original owner was still a primary school student in her opinion, but in this world, girls of this age began to look for suitable fiancés. Women in their twenties were considered older women in the eyes of ancient people, and they could just find a husband if they wanted to.
It's more difficult, and often you can only be a stepmother.
Although Ling Xiao has ancient knowledge, she mainly has the kind of education that is more biased towards men. As a woman, she also has related education. On this point, Song's arrival freed Ling Xiao, but Song's temperament is too soft, and she also has related education.
We need to find a better teacher and give the original owner and Mr. Song special training.
This is because ancient society was a patriarchal society and was too unfriendly to women. Teachers who are also female should know better, and the marriage of the original owner must be put on the agenda.
Of course, some things must be emphasized again, and some issues must not be committed, such as a man and a woman eloping. If the man feels that he has suffered a loss or regrets the so-called elopement, he still has a way out.
If he doesn't want to play the elopement game, he can just walk away. A more ruthless man can sell the woman, and then the man can return to his family without anything happening, marry a wife and have children again, in the eyes of outsiders.
He is the so-called prodigal son who never changes his fortune.
As for that woman, it was miserable. In the eyes of others, she was a shameless person who was unruly and too frivolous. Even if she had a bad life later and was even beaten or sold.
It's natural. Everyone said that she definitely deserved to have a bad life.
Generally speaking, in this kind of elopement, the man should have more responsibilities. It is usually the man who proposes the idea. A woman who loves a man wholeheartedly will follow a man, thinking that she is seeking happiness and that she can live a harmonious and beautiful life as a husband and wife.
However, the facts after their elopement were not as good as expected. There are examples of this, such as the elopement of the famous Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru. One was the newly widowed beauty and talented Zhuo Wenjun, and the other was the talented Sima Xiangru.
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After the two fell in love with each other, they made an appointment to elope, thinking that they could live a good life. However, they soon found that their life was not going to be sustainable. Sima Xiangru thought of a way and opened a tavern and asked his wife Zhuo Wenjun to sell wine as a waiter.
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Zhuo Wangsun was very angry when this incident was heard. After the persuasion of his friends and family, he dedicated a large amount of money as a dowry to the couple.
The elopement event finally ended perfectly. At that time, firstly, the concept of chastity in that dynasty was not too strong, and secondly, the dowry given by Zhuo Wangsun was the reason why the elopement event ended.
But it's different in this era, because starting from the Song Dynasty, ethics have become more powerful, and the confinement of women has been further strengthened. Women who elope will basically be marked as dead in the clan, so even if the woman is still alive, she is dead in the eyes of her family.
It will be very bad when you embark on the road of elopement.
In addition, even if the man does not abandon the poor woman, he does not live a good life. There is a saying: The one who hires a wife is a concubine, which means that once a woman elopes, her life is basically ruined because women lose everything at the beginning of the elopement.
The qualifications for a wife are the rules of ancient people.
Ling Xiao did not directly tell the original owner about this problem, waiting to find a suitable person to talk about it in the future. After all, Ling Xiao himself was a deviant owner in the eyes of the original owner, so it was better to find a suitable person to talk about it!
The reason for this worry is that Ling Xiao knows that the original owner should be a relatively loveless person, and if such a person is not good, he may become a licker, putting all his feelings in one place in order to get the so-called warmth.
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She didn't hope that the original owner would live like that. She hoped that the original owner could step out of his original family, broaden his horizons, and stop being a frog in the well. This was something she wanted the original owner to pay attention to.
The reason why Ling Xiao said that the original owner was a relatively orthodox ancient person was that even though she had seen a lot of scenery outside, she was still a little girl who wanted a home of her own, rather than thinking about how to live like Ling Xiao.
Even better, you can even jump into the river to get out.
After Ling Xiao found out, she didn't pay much attention to it. She still asked the original owner to study hard, because she knew that a good mother could give her children many good qualities, and children with a good childhood would be brighter.
This is why Ling Xiao has never felt bad about being a full-time mother. In fact, in modern society where men and women are equal, there are many stay-at-home mothers. It is mothers who sacrifice their own futures to create a safe atmosphere for their children.
It is a pity that some people do not realize this and think that it is natural for women to take care of children. They have not thought about the sacrifice of being a wife and mother. They think that being a housewife at home is a kind of backwardness.
There are also people who strongly promote artificial uterus in many places, thinking that this way can free women and improve their status. But is artificial uterus really so awesome?
Ling Xiao didn't think so after seeing it. First of all, the artificial womb has not been created at all. It is just an idea. What can you say with something that has not been developed? It is simply a way to satisfy hunger.
In fact, Ling Xiao does not think that it will be easy to get an artificial uterus. There are many problems that need to be solved. For example, where do the eggs come from? Do they need to be retrieved? The process of egg retrieval is an operation, and it will happen no matter how small the operation is.
There are many risks, is the woman prepared?
In addition, miscarriage will occur during normal pregnancy. In fact, miscarriage itself is a kind of natural elimination. Those fetuses that are aborted as soon as they are not impacted or have no vitality are inherently weaker.
So does artificial womb also have the possibility of this option? If not, will it lead to the birth of more weak children? These are all issues that need to be solved.
There are also technical issues, such as what material should be used for the outer wall of the artificial uterus? What should be used to replace the role of amniotic fluid? How to monitor the fetus in the artificial uterus? Is it necessary to imitate the mother's heartbeat? How can we prove that artificial uterus is artificial?
The safety of the uterus? A series of questions need to be answered. The most important thing is who can guarantee that the artificial uterus will be effective?
Of course, Ling Xiao doesn't think that the concept of artificial wombs is all bad. For example, artificial wombs can indeed help women get rid of the discomfort during pregnancy and the dangers encountered during childbirth. Ling Xiao is definitely very good about this.
But from an emotional point of view, artificial wombs are not all good. The original emotional bond between mother and child may be gone. You must know that pregnancy itself also reminds women of changes in their identity. She must be a
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The child in the belly is getting bigger from a fertilized egg, and the mother will feel the pain little by little. She will feel the pain in the next few months, but she will also feel the growth of the child.
The mother will feel the fetal movement of the child, and the fetus will let the mother know whether they are asleep or awake, and the child can hear the mother's heartbeat in the mother's belly. After birth, the babies sometimes cry and cry incessantly.
By placing it on the chest, babies can hear their mother's heartbeat and fall asleep peacefully.
Without this long period of interaction between the child and the mother, would the child born from the artificial womb still receive so much care from the mother? I always feel that there is something different, and it may take several generations to know.
You must know that a child who grows up in the mother's belly always follows the mother, and the feeling between mother and child is very good. However, how much time can the child in the artificial womb spend with the mother again? What kind of interaction is there?
I believe that artificial uterus will not be placed in everyone's home. It should be taken care of by specialized personnel in a large space. This kind of artificial uterus must be monitored at all times, so it is absolutely impossible to place it in your own home.
Then as a parent, you have to go to see the fetus specifically, which means that some people are closer and some are farther away. According to the condition of the uterus, the fetus should also be in a closed space, and even if you look at it, you can only look at the outer wall.
It’s unlikely that you’ll be able to see it every day.
This is completely different from a child conceived by a real mother. In fact, it is unknown whether the artificial womb will have an impact on the child's growth. For a new creature that has been widely promoted without testing, Ling Xiao has a few points.
Suspect.
In addition, even if the technology of artificial uterus is mature and women no longer need to suffer the hardships of pregnancy, it does not mean that parents can relax. In fact, many mothers once hoped to unload the goods as soon as possible, but they did not wait until the child was actually born.
Many people regret: If they had known earlier, it would be better to have the child in their belly.
The same thought should appear in the minds of mothers who use artificial wombs to conceive children. You must know that the baby's melon and pedicle are delayed. How big should the baby be after coming out of the artificial womb?
You can't always be one or three years old right after birth? This is impossible, because it is a crime against the child to let a newborn who has just started learning grow up to one to three years old in a dark and claustrophobic environment.
Therefore, babies born in artificial wombs should be the same as ordinary newborn babies. They are zero-year-old newborns. They are soft and floppy at the beginning and cannot even straighten their necks.
Newborns cannot speak, walk, or even turn over at first, so they need the care of their families. In the first few years, a child needs special care to eat, drink, poop, and sleep.
This is because general kindergartens basically only accept children over three years old. Children who are too young will not be allowed to enter the kindergarten. Children under one year old mainly drink milk. If the kindergarten accepts such children, it may not be able to make milk powder in time.
Of course, there are a very small number of kindergartens that accept children under the age of three, but as a qualified parent, you will definitely make a special inspection. After all, the teachers in kindergartens may be mixed, and children who are too young may not be able to tell if they have suffered, so
Children who go to kindergarten around one year old are definitely in the minority.
Then when parents think about finding a nanny, they will find that the situation of the nanny is even more uncertain. Some give sleeping pills to the child, some beat the child for no reason, and those who have read relevant information dare to leave a very young child in the hands of others.
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Therefore, even if there is an artificial womb, it cannot solve the problem of children needing family care when they are young. It can be said that from the time the baby is born to the age of three, either find a suitable nanny to take care of the child, or ask the elders for help. Article 3
The only way is to take care of the children by yourself.
Ling Xiao remembers a relative in her family. After she got married and gave birth to a child, her work contract expired. She took care of the child at home without a job. After the child was weaned after one year old, her mother-in-law's family rushed her to find a job.
She naturally wanted to find a job, but after this year, she found that it was difficult to find a job, because the employer would ask her why she did not work at her original employer, and after knowing the situation, she would be asked to go home and wait, but then nothing happened.
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Later, she learned that employers were not willing to hire mothers with young children. You have to know that when children are young, they have a lot of things to do. If they were recruited, they would be afraid that a lot of energy would be put on the children. The employer would not dare to use them because they would have many things to do.
After knowing this reason, the mother had no choice but to find another place to work, but soon she found that it was better not to look for it because there was no one to take care of the child, and the elderly at home did not intend to take care of the child at all, saying that she was old and did not want to
If it's too tiring, take care of your own children.
The daughter-in-law also has to admit that there is nothing wrong with what her parents-in-law said. She is right to want to live a relaxed life after retirement. The problem is what will her children do if she goes to work?