If Chen Liulang completely gave up making money and only relied on farming to make a living, and the family stayed together, but because he had no money, he would live a very simple life and not be able to eat a few pieces of meat throughout the year, maybe the children would be equally unhappy.
People tend not to pay much attention to things that are within easy reach, as if they are less valuable because they are easy to obtain, and the more unobtainable they are, the more precious they appear.
This is human nature. Chen Liulang still remembers his shock after hearing these words, because this possibility does exist, which means that no matter which side he chooses, it is wrong.
Choosing to make money means giving up the relationship with his family. It is impossible for him to make money and have a deep connection with his family at the same time, and he will definitely not be able to give his son a certain education.
To choose your family, you have to give up letting your wife and children live a popular life, and let them get married without a bride price or dowry. I'm afraid they won't live a good life in this kind of poverty. Alas! It's really difficult to choose, but Chen
Rokuro knew that he was afraid that he would still go out to make money.
He couldn't live the kind of life where he was happy with just a penny. He and his children and grandchildren grew up in different environments, which led to different pursuits.
Of course, after this period of time, I'm afraid those white-eyed wolves will have other ideas, but for him, it's all over now, and they are no longer his responsibility. Fathers must always be responsible for their own lives.
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This was a new idea he had after he recovered. He didn't like reading in his early years, but after experiencing so many things, he changed and began to develop his own path to further study.
He couldn't sit still before, but now he can sit down and work hard to learn more knowledge, because he found that Ling Xiao is still studying even though he is very old. She said: live and learn.
This made him silent for a long time, and finally he started to study. When he expressed his thoughts for some time, Ling Xiao agreed very much. She hoped that more people would come to study hard. Even if they missed the best time, they could just study more.
It's also good.
Chen Liulang began to really study. Of course, he did not read Confucian classics. He read more straightforward vernacular texts. Classical Chinese was still difficult to understand.
But there is also a good side in vernacular writing, which makes him more willing to learn, his mood becomes better, and his thoughts become clearer. He wants to live for himself.
Therefore, when I saw my third son, I was very angry at first, but soon I saw how embarrassed he was. The anger gradually subsided, and I quickly sent him away.
Seeing the very tired third son, he was a little amused. Back then, he had taken his sons out, but none of them could bear to go home and never worked again. Isn't that what he has to do now?
If these sons could wake up from the beginning, maybe this family would not be like this. He has also encountered complete discord between father and son, but they will understand each other and live a good life, and it will not be a matter of feelings.
A complete collapse situation.
During this period, he has been reviewing what he has done wrong. While he has been criticizing himself, he also has to say: sometimes it depends on what the other person thinks about the same thing.
Some people will look for the good side in the whole thing, and some people will always find fault with it, and they especially like to put it on the line and put a big label on it, just like that woman (his wife, but he is no longer willing to bury her with her)
in one place), no matter what you do, nothing is right.
Now that he sees his third son, Chen Liulang's heart doesn't waver at all. He thinks that he has fulfilled his responsibilities as a father, and he wants to live a free and peaceful life in the future.
"Isn't this Chen Han? Why are you here? I haven't seen much change in the past few years. But one thing needs to be made clear: Siping is a free man, not a runaway slave at all." He said with a bit of ridicule.
"???? Not a runaway slave? What's going on?" Chen Han's eyes widened as he blurted out these words. Soon he understood that he was either a runaway slave or an ordinary person.
Suddenly, he realized that he didn't recognize his father. He was completely different from his previous self. It seemed that he had become a lot grayer, but then he thought about it, and he actually didn't know his father very well.
When I was a child, my father was rarely at home. It was mainly my mother who raised their brothers and sisters. My mother always complained in her conversations that her husband was unwilling to stay at home and liked to run out every day. There must be a little fox JING outside.
As time passed, the children in the family had a bad impression of their biological father, as if he didn't care about the family at all. In this case, they complained a lot about their father.
The family had been resisting Chen Liulang consciously or unconsciously. Later, his mother died, which intensified the children's resentment towards their father. As a husband, he did not even see his mother for the last time.
They have always been resentful in their hearts, but not grateful. After their father encountered something, the first thought was to get rid of the dangerous factors, which eventually led to the matter developing in an irreversible direction. Now Chen Han has new feelings, because
Not enough money to spend.
After they really became the masters of the family and spent most of their money, they realized that making money is not easy. Some smart people can see that there are sons who are instigating, resulting in no communication between father and son, and there are too many gaps.
The children and grandchildren had no idea before that Chen Liulang had no choice but to leave home. It was not that he didn't think about the many wheat fields, but there were too few real fertile fields, and it was impossible for their family to buy them.
Even if he really wanted to buy it, he would have to have a lot of money. His family's financial resources were too low and he couldn't afford it. He had to take risks and go out to make a lot of money. If he didn't go out to make money, what would happen if something happened to his family?
The family is so happy that they need to do corvee work. This type of corvee service is too tiring. If someone doesn’t do it, someone will die. If he doesn’t want to do corvee work, he has to pay for it. This all costs money. You can’t save so much by farming.
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Also, he has sons and daughters, all of whom need to get married, which all require money. How can he watch his children marry the worst person because they have no money? Of course he doesn't want to.
He has always worked very hard, but it was not until he was abandoned that he realized that his family did not care about his efforts. Perhaps he had been too well protected and did not suffer too much.
At that time, he had no experience as a father. He thought that just giving them money would be enough. He would rather suffer for himself than for his children. He did not let his children eat meat every day. He himself rarely ate meat, but a lot when he was running around outside.
It’s good to take a bite of the flatbread every now and then.
Unfortunately, the children simply don't know that their father often keeps a penny at a time. In their minds, money is easy to come by, and they don't pay too much attention to the issue of increasing income and reducing expenditure, which leads to very different views on money.
Thinking of this, Chen Liulang looked at the kneeling Chen Han and once again confirmed that he had done something wrong. He should care about what the children thought instead of just giving money.
At the beginning, Chen Liulang thought that as long as he studied hard, he would make great progress, and with Master's teachings, he would be able to establish a good worldview.
Facts have proven that none of the children raised by his wife is very talented. Most of the children they raise are refined egoists who only care about themselves. They can't let go of the knife on their necks.
It is really not easy to make money. It is good to have the opportunity to make money. There are also people who kill people for a few taels of silver. He really has no choice but to risk his life to make a sum of money.
The reason why I say this is because I know that there are always people who want to kill the rich and help the poor, and most of these bandits attack teams with few people. They don't dare to attack teams that are truly rich and powerful.
The most tragic thing is that when an individual walks through a place, some robbers pop out, and the big head will be borrowed as a surrender certificate, and the body may be eaten.
In addition, food, clothing and accommodation were not convenient along the way. He really tried his best to make his family live a better life. It can be said that he had a clear conscience on this point.
Only then was he very sad after his sons treated him coldly. Even though he was indeed not a very qualified father, his contribution could not be denied. He even knew what his mothers were thinking. They were very envious of the life of his aunt's family and disliked him.
No matter how hard you try, you can't make them become the sons of officials and become superior people.
After hearing this complaint, Chen Liulang wanted to laugh a little. He had never really studied since he was a child, but their conditions were much better than when he was a child, so how come he never became a real scholar?
Thinking of this, he looked at Chen Han. Knowing that they were living a miserable life now, he felt a little gloating in his heart. How could it be possible that they still wanted to live the same life without him to make money for them?
Seeing that they were living in a bad life, he, as a father, didn't have any more ideas. He had to endure the hardships he had never experienced before, lest he didn't know how capable he was.
In the past, he, as a father, was criticized for taking too much care of them, and he also spoiled them to the point where they couldn't even walk. Now he just let them walk on their own.
Chen Liulang recalled this and looked at Chen Han, who was kneeling in front of him. He was also quite young now. He said lightly: "I didn't expect to see you here again. It's a kind of fate. I'm living a good life now."
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Speaking of which, you and I can be regarded as separated. We will live our own lives from now on. As long as you live your life well, I won't need you to serve me."
Chen Liulang's tone was very calm. If he had felt a little guilty towards his wife before, now that he knew more about the situation, he was completely disgusted with her.
Because he didn't know his wife's true identity until his condition improved. Before, she was more or less reserved in front of Chen Liulang, and because he didn't like to argue with her, he couldn't figure out many aspects.
My sister sent someone to ask about the situation. The nanny who was sent to ask was very powerful. She quickly got more information from the women in the village. When she found out, the old lady was almost furious.
Only then did she find out that her sister-in-law was spreading rumors because they didn't go back to the village very often. Fortunately, her son was promising and basically no one dared to spread rumors.
But Chen Liulang was miserable. In the eyes of his sister-in-law, Chen Liulang was a scumbag. He only thought about little goblins and ran away all day long, so he wouldn't stay with her. He was justified. No wonder the men in the village were very envious.
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After the old lady knew the whole situation, she waited for Chen Liulang to stabilize before telling his younger brother. Chen Liulang, whose reputation was ruined, was so angry that he wanted to pull out his dead wife and ask for details.
You must know that he is very nostalgic for his old relationship, because she is his wife, and he hid some things for her. Back then, he went out to make money, and he really just wanted to make some money at the beginning.
What I didn't expect was that after the family's life became much better, the wife's family came to fight against the autumn wind. As a result, all the money in the family was taken away by the wife's family. When they were waiting for money, they had no money. What was even more unlucky was that the child was sick.
The family is in trouble.
What should I do if I have no money? Unfortunately, my sister was not at home at that time and had no place to borrow money. My wife’s family insisted that they did not borrow money, so he had to borrow money from usury.
He didn't tell his sister at first, and he almost went bankrupt. His wife was very upset at that time and cried repeatedly. What could he, a husband, do?
In the end, he had to bite the bullet and go find his biological sister. Fortunately, it was his biological sister who sent someone to pay off the loan shark on behalf of his mother's compatriots. For this, he was scolded by his sister.
Then the old lady told Chen Liulang that she, as a sister, could only help him so far. She could never borrow such a loan at a high interest rate. If she borrowed any more, she would no longer be her brother.
In addition, the old lady also said: You must know that she will pay off the debt for her brother this time, but she will not give all the money for her coffin to this brother. She is his sister, not his biological mother.
Even his own mother would not always help him support the family. Chen Liulang obeyed his sister's instructions obediently and did not tell his sister what his wife had done because he knew that his wife had gone too far.
There was originally a gap between my eldest sister-in-law and my wife. If my sister knew that it was her fault that caused the problem, she would probably not feel good about her when she saw her.
In order to prevent the two women from fighting each other, he put the responsibility on his shoulders. He also fully realized that farming would not make him rich, so he followed a caravan on business and once again accumulated money little by little.
Return it to your sister first, and then redeem the land and other things you originally sold. If you can't redeem it, don't let it go, and just buy it separately.
Of course, he didn't give his wife a lot of money after that, because he was afraid that she would wait until he was gone and give the money to her family again, and then the children would have no place to cry.
A part of the money was given to the clan elder so that it could only be used in case the child got sick. Moreover, this time there were people from the clan watching to prevent giving away all the money again.
This caused the relationship between him and his wife to quickly become indifferent. Both parties disliked it, but they had to remain husband and wife for various reasons.
He would usually stay and plant crops during the most important time, and earn money outside during the rest of the time. Naturally, his wife felt that he had become very cold.
It happened that her family came to borrow money again, and Chen Liulang happened to meet him. He rushed out and said: "When will the money you borrowed before be returned, when will you be allowed to come to the door?"