Yang Juan could only sigh at this. Many times, due to various reasons, too many people cannot control their own destiny. This is how most people in the world are treated.
Alas! Yang Juan knew one thing very well: she herself was not one of those who could not help herself. When she was set for her current engagement, most of the others did not consider whether she could achieve true happiness.
It's just that the man and woman are more suitable for family marriage, just because they are suitable. It is more that people from both families have the desire to marry, and they choose the most suitable person.
There is a considerable age gap between the two of them. Her fiancé is more than ten years older than her. Her brother has said a lot that her future brother-in-law is handsome and has a good temper. Besides that, he has some advantages.
Yang Juan naturally understood what her brother meant. Although he planned to get married, he was forced to do so, but he still tried to think about it for his sister. Now he wanted his sister to have more admiration for her fiancée.
No matter what, Yang Juan still wanted to thank her brother, and she still worked hard to make the unmarried couple have a little more affection and live a better life in the future.
She will understand her brother's approach, but she still remembers her mother's words: If you want to live well, you must learn to grasp your heart and don't give easily, because men can't believe it. Her mother asked her to live well after marriage and not do it for others.
Do bad things.
In addition, this is not only true for her marriage, but also for her brother's engagement. The marriage does not depend on whether the two people have feelings for each other. Relationships are a trivial matter in front of two families, and marriage is a matter for both families.
Ling Xiao nodded after hearing this. Of course, she still had some words in her heart that she didn't say to Yang Juan. Another advantage of men is that they can take concubines before and after marriage. In other words, men are completely innocent of cheating, but women have to keep it.
Chastity, this is a complete double standard.
Thinking of this makes Ling Xiao feel unfair. Why are the chastity standards different? Women are also bound by many rules and are often unable to make money independently. The heroine has always been the most popular in a long time.
Mainstream voice.
Ling Xiao knew how difficult it was for a woman to live alone in ancient society, so he never thought of encouraging Yang Juan to do it on her own, because women did not have the opportunity to register independently.
In a patriarchal society, women are men's accessories. This can be seen from the household registration. In many dynasties, women could not live alone. They were either dependent on their father, brothers, or sons.
A person without a household registration is a black householder, which also means that women are often unable to live independently outside the home, because once they leave the family, they are a black householder, and anyone may bully women or even be bought and sold.
After traveling to this world, Ling Xiao also conducted a special investigation. This world belongs to a feudal society with too many dark sides and strict class barriers.
Especially when Ling Xiao was sure that he was now in a stage where aristocratic families were running rampant, he was a little more cautious. Aristocratic families! Maybe in later generations, he imagined that many of the children of aristocratic families were super powerful, and in some cases it was indeed true.
Because the children of aristocratic families belong to the so-called elite class, they can have the opportunity to learn the six arts after they are born, and have a personal guidance. In many cases, the children of aristocratic families belong to the superior Celestial Dragon class.
The reason why they say they belong to the Tianlong people is because the members of the aristocratic family have the same views as the Tianlong people. For example, in the eyes of most members of the aristocratic family, other people who are not elites are not the same person, but can bully and squeeze everyone at will.
object, haha!
Even small and medium-sized landowners with a lot of land, the so-called poor families, are not looked down upon by members of the aristocratic families. This is the so-called class barrier, which is very strict.
Ling Xiao still remembered that there was once a girl from a noble family who never got married because one of her eyes was blind. Later, she had to marry a child from a poor family, but the members of the noble family were not happy and forced the couple to separate.
And this is the rule of the so-called aristocratic family. Even if the daughter of the aristocratic family is disabled, a child from a poor family will still be unable to marry her, just because there are class barriers between them.
Members of the aristocratic family feel that if a descendant from a poor family marries a daughter from an aristocratic family, wouldn't it lower the status of the aristocratic family? They insist that their children marry the blind aristocratic daughter. This is completely similar to the so-called caste system.
Look, small and medium-sized landowners who own land will not take a fancy to it, so ordinary people such as farmers who don’t have a few acres of land or who live off other people’s land are even more humble.
The children of high-ranking aristocratic families are slightly better off when viewed from a humble background. After all, they still have some money, but when viewed from the perspective of the more common people, they are like cattle and horses.
Even in the eyes of members of the aristocratic family, the status of common people was inferior to that of cattle and horses. In ancient times, cattle could not be slaughtered easily, otherwise they might be sentenced to prison, and the common people who were killed could only be compensated with some money.
And Ling Xiao once again felt the strict hierarchy. She had once passed through the body of the eldest son of a small noble clan before, but because of her small body and the subsequent war, she was not too aware of the so-called class barriers.
Many feelings.
The later ancient society was also a world after the aristocratic families were destroyed. Although it was still difficult for a poor family to have a son, there were still some lucky people who could stand out.
This time, the world has a clearer sense of the dominant class hierarchy of aristocratic families. The original owner was a girl from a small aristocratic family, but the He family eventually disappeared in the war, and she barely managed to become a poor family.
Afterwards, I watched the grievances and grievances of the Yang family at close range, and I could clearly see the contempt the family members had for ordinary people. She was also at one end of the contempt chain, but it was just because of Ling Xiao's single strength that other people did not dare to speak.
But I believe that many Yang family members are beeping behind her back. In the eyes of many people, she would be very lucky if she married the worst Yang family. This shows how strict the class barriers are.
In addition, due to the war, Ling Xiao also saw a lot of human trafficking. The largest group of victims were women. As a woman, she lived a miserable life and was always at the first place in the order of being sold.
And because human trafficking is legal, both the woman's parents and the so-called elders can buy and sell them at will, and from then on the woman becomes a slave.
Even if the woman is not a relative of the person being sold, will the trafficker who bought the person care? No! They have many ways to torture the victimized women and force them to accept their fate.
If there really are women who refuse to accept their fate, then they will be beaten violently, tortured and killed, and they will kill the chickens to show the monkeys. Most of the weak women increase the wealth of the traffickers.
I have even heard of women who went out alone and were later raped by men. Normal women cannot bear this tragic experience of being raped. The problem is that the women who are the victims cannot escape the tragedy of their future fate.
This kind of woman ends up in a very bad way. She often ends up following the man who ruined her, that is, marrying the rapist who raped her.
Everyone will persuade her to accept her fate, but she becomes innocent. Who will she marry if she doesn’t marry that man? In the end, if a woman does not accept her fate, the only way to resist is to die herself.
When Ling Xiao saw what she saw, she realized that she was powerless most of the time. She was not a savior. As an outsider, after penetrating into the body of the original owner and becoming a mortal, she still had to plan for the original owner. Being too high-profile would make the original owner return.
There was nothing to do in the end.
Naturally, she will not preach about equality between men and women, because it is impossible to do so at this stage. If she does not explain it, some people may deprive women of their right to study. And many times, if you want to fool the people, you will make people illiterate.
It's very good.
Some senseless resistance will only give other innocent women a little more power to imprison. Sooner or later, the trend of the times will inevitably move towards equality between men and women. This is the general trend, but it is not something that is being done at this stage.
All she can do at this stage is to protect this body and take the opportunity to help a few female compatriots. This is enough. She can't do more. She feels unfit to do more things. What if something goes wrong?
?She was a little afraid of disturbing the timeline because of herself.
This is also the reason why she is generally not willing to get involved in right and wrong. Now she naturally does not know that the tide of the times will eventually ruin her plan.
After Yang Juan waited for Xiao Yu to leave, she specifically asked Ling Xiao if he had any plans to get married in the future. If so, don't worry, she would help find a good one.
"Marrying? I have no such idea at all. After all, my identity changes after I get married. I have several more titles. I am someone's wife, someone's daughter-in-law, and my husband's family will have many things for me to do.
And I don’t feel very well, so it’s better to live alone. You must know that the girl you marry is just the water that is thrown away. What should Huanlang do?
If you take him with you, maybe the children in your husband's family will say that Huanlang is a drag, and Huanlang will live a very difficult life. If you don't take him with you, I won't worry about Huanlang being young.
If there is an old lady here, maybe they can use family rules to punish me. I am not stupid at all. I will raise my brother first. I can't have children after I get married, so why bother making wedding clothes for others?"
As she said that, she looked at Yang Juan and said, "You still remember the Thirty-eighth Mother, right? She has become like that just a few years after getting married. I don't want to become like that."
"Thirty-eight Niang?" Yang Juan said. She still remembered this arrogant clan sister. She was a very good-looking beauty among the sisters in the clan. The marriage she later arranged was not bad, and she lived a relatively nourishing life.
I still remember that she later married into a larger family, a family that was larger than the Yang family and had greater influence. Her husband was still the leader of the branch.
Ordinarily, the Thirty-eighth Niang was not qualified to marry into it, and the gap between the Yang family and that family was a bit big, but in the end, the Thirty-eighth Niang married in and won the unanimous envy of the sisters in the clan.
Speaking of it, San Ba Niang's husband was married and had children. He was over thirty years old, but his wife passed away early, so as a widower, he could get married again.
The original wife's natal family still has a certain say in the son-in-law's remarriage. It is said that the sisters in the original wife's natal family did not find a suitable successor candidate, so they found the thirty-eight mothers.
Thirty-eight Niang is the cousin of the man's first wife. They have a certain blood relationship with each other, so they are qualified to marry as a stepmother. This marriage is as good as a big pie to San Ba Niang.
The cousin’s family made it clear to Sanba Niang that they chose her mainly because San Ba Niang is the cousin of the original wife and has some blood relationship with the children left by the original wife. They believe that she and the children will get along well.
There is another reason that she won't say out loud easily: she feels that the Yang family is the weaker side in comparison, so she will be more obedient as a step-in-law instead of thinking about how to replace her original wife's child with her own child.
When San Ba Niang got married, she realized that her husband was almost forty years old, but San Ba Niang was only twenty-eight years old, and her stepson and stepdaughter were all older than her.
This was a bolt from the blue for Thirty-eight Niang. The man was much older than she had imagined, and she felt helpless at that time and had no way to object.
Because even if she knows the man's true age before marriage, can she not want to marry? Absolutely not. At their level, marriage is never a matter between two people, but a matter of family marriage.
In fact, Sanba Niang knew very well that if she was not the first wife's cousin, and there was indeed no suitable woman in the first wife's family, it would not be her turn to marry her.
Although she looks young and beautiful, and her husband is much older, others feel that she is the one who really takes advantage, and she has the highest status among the sisters in the clan.
After she got engaged, all the clan girls who were not engaged and were engaged but not yet married gathered around her, not for anything else but because of the person she was going to marry.
Even if she is not very happy deep down in her heart, after all, the age gap between her and her husband is too big. She is a smart person and knows that her unwillingness deep down will not help at all.
Instead, she wanted to please her husband in every possible way. After all, this husband looked very imposing. Even though there were wrinkles on his face, there was no shortage of beauties around him. She, who originally thought she was beautiful, was just one of the women around him.
After marrying into her husband's family, she encountered a lot of things. Even though she was a wife, the power of the inner court was not easy to control. Even though she had received relevant education for many years, she had no practice. After actually doing it, she found out
I am very weak.
Later, when she felt she was pregnant, something happened to a child at home. After this incident was revealed, all signs pointed to her as the new wife.
But she was so plotted that she couldn't prove her innocence. She was so angry and anxious that she fainted. If it hadn't been revealed that she was pregnant, she might have been forced to kneel in the ancestral hall.
But she was questioned because of her children. Some people even took the opportunity to say that she took the opportunity to get rid of the children while she was pregnant because her husband had too many children, which made Thirty-eight Niang very angry.
Because she obviously didn't do anything bad, she didn't even think about such a thing, but because she couldn't argue with the facts after being splashed with dirty water, she almost got angry and had a miscarriage.