After all, the deceased men were all married, sons and fathers, with elders and younger children. Even if they died, they would still be involved in the issue of supporting the elderly.
Ancient times were deeply influenced by Zhou rites, so according to ancient rules, the eldest son was generally responsible for providing for his parents in old age. The eldest son received the largest share of the family property, but was responsible for supporting his parents.
If the elders of a certain family do not want the eldest son to take care of their parents, but let the children who are not the eldest son take care of their parents, this requires an agreement between the parents and the children.
As for the other children, the girls are all married, which means that the daughter does not need to support her parents in old age. She only needs to give some festive gifts. Although the remaining brothers do not support their elders, they still have to give some money every year.
If the sons want to provide for the two elderly people until they die, they can share the family property, but the daughters cannot share the family property. This is the ancient inheritance division.
As a deceased man, naturally he cannot support his parents, and his children are naturally still young and cannot take on the responsibility of supporting their grandparents. However, according to ancient rules, the wife of the deceased is still responsible for supporting the elderly.
When support is involved, there will be more trouble. In order to reduce the trouble, she can take over the wife and children of the deceased, and add the parents of the deceased, but the people under care will definitely not include any brothers and sisters.
But I am afraid that the family will not agree. In ancient times, people basically had no contraceptive measures, so they would have many children. Even if a few died in infancy, the number of children was still a lot.
The problem is, after more grandchildren are born, the family has not yet been divided. Because of the promotion of cattle farming technology, the previous dynasty began to advocate that parents should not be separated. This statement is deeply imprinted in the hearts of the people.
Often the family is separated after the elderly have passed away.
This resulted in their family being a big family, and it was like eating from a big pot. In the same family, some people were very diligent and some were very lazy, but they had no idea of dividing the family.
But can Ling Xiao consider the side of their family? Of course not, she has to think about it and think about it for Yang Juan. How much money and energy will it take to take care of so many people at once?
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That's why Ling Xiao said that method. If the old man wants to be supported, he can follow it, but according to the rules, Yang Juan has to take care of the wife, children, and parents of the deceased, but not the brothers and sisters of the deceased.
If those people insist on following in the name of supporting their parents, of course they can, but they have to separate the family and take care of themselves individually, and cannot use the deceased's pension to subsidize the family.
After hearing Ling Xiao's idea, since there was a large family who wanted to follow him, they also agreed to arrange their own lives when they got there so that their parents would not worry.
Naturally, there are people who are reluctant to leave their homeland and are unwilling to leave. Ling Xiao will leave some property to the old man who is unwilling to leave, which is equivalent to paying alimony in advance.
After that, the deceased's wife and children who followed Ling Xiao had no obligation to support the deceased's parents, unless all those brothers died, and then it was the orphans and widowers' turn to support them.
No matter what kind of situation it is, Ling Xiao will write down the entire situation and the beneficiary will need to sign. Of course, most people may not be able to write their own name. If you are not afraid, you can press your fingerprint.
If you don't sign, you won't be given any property at all. You also need to have the signatures or fingerprints of relevant witnesses, so there will never be any trouble for the deceased's wife and children.
The reason why he does this is because Ling Xiao knows that not every pair of parents loves their children, or that having too many sons is not worth it. Many people spend most of their passion on living, simply raising children casually, and getting nothing.
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There is certainly a profound love between parents and children, and they would give up anything for their children, but there is never a shortage of parents who treat their children as goods.
Why do you think some parents don't love the deceased? It's because military service is a kind of hard work, and many people don't come back after going there.
In this case, it is equivalent to giving up the child. Therefore, if a large family has several sons, the one who is sent away is often the one who is least favored.
A son is the one who is not favored, and his wife and children will also be despised. Ling Xiao is not willing to have some partial parents suck the blood of a son to support his most beloved child, and will not let go even if the son dies.
Even if the son dies, doesn't there still be a daughter-in-law and children? Without the backbone of the family, the family will live a more miserable life, and they will have to absorb the blood of the unloved grandchildren.
It would be better if the daughter-in-law has children. If she does not have children, the daughter-in-law will have no status at all in the family and will only be at the bottom. She will naturally have to contribute to everyone. Although this situation is rare, it does happen.
For some unknown reason, some old people like a certain child so much that they want to wash out the blood of their other children and give it to their beloved child. Or they hate a certain child so much that they want to tear out the child's skin.
Ling Xiao naturally knew about this situation and hated it deeply. The purpose of signing and fingerprinting was to prevent some selfish people from bullying kind and honest people.
This is a situation that will be seen in later generations. It was more likely to exist in ancient times, but it would only be worse in ancient times. If a family is not separated at all, children do not have private property.
If that child dares to buy property privately, he will definitely be scorned by the people around him if it is revealed that he is an unfilial son. The parents can confiscate the so-called private property.
Of course, there are also situations where the father wants his son to die and the son has to die. Once a father beats his son to death, as long as the relationship between father and son is taken into account, the father is not guilty of beating his son to death.
If there is a dispute between father and son, the father will never be wrong. The mistake must belong to the son. Anyone who dares to speak back is an unfilial son and will be splashed with dirty water after death.
In an era when filial piety is more important than heaven, it is very difficult for younger generations to deal with their elders. They do everything lightly, and it will be very troublesome if they get into trouble in the future.
Ling Xiao will make corresponding preparations when he plans to pick up those family members. In order to prevent encountering people who are difficult to reason with, he must be careful to prevent anything from happening in the future.
She can help conscientious people tide over difficulties, and she won't even ask for anything in return, but she will never let some blood-sucking people continue to suck blood.
In addition to Xiao He, the people who followed her on the road were Yang Juan's soldiers. These people were all trained by Ling Xiao, and they all respected and feared Ling Xiao.
Although she is a woman, she is definitely not an ordinary woman. A woman who cannot be beaten by a few grown men has been directly transcended by them and has become an existence that is not easy to mess with.
Moreover, they knew Xiao He's name from the people who guarded the grain. Both women were so strong that they were in awe, so none of them thought about going against Ling Xiao, and they were very obedient when they faced her.
After Ling Xiao found out, he was very satisfied. It would be fine if his subordinates were obedient, but he still had to be careful. If he met a person who could act, he was obviously obedient and secretly doing tricks. There were also such people, so he still had to be careful.
If he encounters a guy who likes to make trouble during his actions, he will definitely be disgusting. But Ling Xiao also knows that if someone wants to play tricks, that person will definitely regret it for the rest of his life.
She has not thought about going back to see Huanlang and the others for the time being. There are certain things that they should be allowed to do. If they are not allowed to do them, they will run into the wall and not be able to come back.
It felt like the young people in Xiaozhuangzi had grown up in worldliness after this incident, and one day they would be able to handle everything, so she didn't care at all, but spent her time preparing to pick up the person.
She first listed the places where her family members lived, made some preparations, and then set out on the road. She also brought some clothes that had been prepared in different sizes.
She followed her on the road with this small group of people, and there were also people driving ox carts, because they had to carry tents, food, and belongings, and it was impossible for everyone to carry them on horseback.
In order to cope with everything that might happen, these people quickly adapted to the militarization, and therefore knew Ling Xiao's plan. These people were stunned and didn't know what to say for a while.
After all, filial piety plays a large part in their education. Many people may not be able to read, but they have always understood that they cannot disobey their parents.
Ling Xiao could see the hesitation in their hearts. Maybe in their eyes, they should all be under control. How could they do that, which was equivalent to a forced family separation?
She said calmly: "Maybe you think what I did is wrong, but have you ever thought about it, if everyone in the family is in charge, who will pay for it?
If you raise other people, I'm afraid the Li family won't give you the money. This means asking your sister to use her own dowry to support her. Can it cost the same money to support three or five people as it does to support dozens of people?
Some people may say that it is possible, but it is strange that three or five people and dozens of people can live well if they spend the same money! Let me tell you formally, if this is really the case, the real beneficiaries may not even have enough to eat.
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These people were stunned as soon as these words came out, because as long as he was not stupid, he would know that Ling Xiao was right. The more people there are, the more money it will cost.
For example, if only five people use the same amount of money, they may live well, but if thirty people spend the same amount of money, they will be very poor.
They are also married people, so they naturally know that the more people there are, the more money they will spend. Moreover, this involves Yang Juan's dowry issue, and they cannot make the decision for Yang Juan.
Ling Xiao's words left them unable to say anything. They asked themselves, if it was their turn to spend so much money to support others, they would not be willing to do so.
After some ideological education, Ling Xiao finally felt relieved. He was afraid that if they didn't do a good job in ideological work and made random wishes when they got there, wouldn't they make themselves in trouble?
After giving them vaccinations, they set out on the road. When they arrived, Ling Xiao began to visit their families. By this time, the family had received news that some people had chosen to stay and live with their extended family.
emmmmm! Regarding this choice, Ling Xiao has not done any ideological work. She is just an outsider. The family is willing to live together, so what else can she do?
Ling Xiao didn't try to persuade them anymore. After looking at the situation, he found that this family was quite kind-hearted, so he gave some of their belongings to provide some protection for the orphans and widowed mothers.
In order to prevent others from being jealous, she also brought out some silver jewelry of poor quality, which were relatively light and not worthy of being presented to the public. However, the women in that family were all very happy, but soon became jealous.
Afterwards, Ling Xiao also took out a paper roll and wrote down all the gifts on it, and asked those people to sign and fingerprint it to prove that she had not embezzled the money.
Just like this, one family passed by, and some were willing to follow the whole family, but Ling Xiao also made his request clear: he could follow, but when he got there, he had to live his own life, and he could no longer disturb the peace of the deceased's wife and children.
Of course, because she had to visit other people, she didn't let them follow her. Instead, she asked them to start preparing first and then take them with her when Ling Xiao returned.
There are also large families who are not willing to let the deceased's wife and children go at all, because they feel that they have not squeezed enough. But their family has lived a miserable life, and now they are even more desperate. If Ling Xiao doesn't come here this time, I'm afraid a few people will
His life will not be saved in the future.
Seeing that Ling Xiao wanted to take someone away, the others were of course unwilling to do so. They all asked for money without being polite. When they saw that Ling Xiao was dressed well, he felt rich as he took someone with him.
I wanted to catch Ling Xiao and blackmail me, but after being severely whipped by Ling Xiao, I became much more honest. I didn't dare to roll on the ground, nor did I dare to sit on the ground and yell, nor did I dare to rub forward.
Ling Xiao looked at them and smiled. This smile made those people weak in their legs with fear, ahhh! Who is that? Ling Xiao didn't say anything, and directly told the deceased's wife and children to prepare to leave.
Then she took out another sum of money, which was not money to buy a person, but represented the deceased's last gift to his parents. After that, their family was separated directly and no longer responsible for the old man's care.
As soon as those people saw the money, they immediately felt that the pain on their bodies was much better. Ling Xiao explained to them what was going on. If they signed, they would get the money. If they didn't sign, they wouldn't get a dime.
Of course the family wanted to sign. They wanted what they got to be theirs, so they looked at each other with displeasure and watched Ling Xiao walking away with them without paying attention.
The few people who were rescued were all surprised and happy. Ling Xiao found a place for the family to clean up their personal hygiene, and then specially disinfected it, waiting for the next person to use it.
In this way, she visited the widows and children of those people one by one, and made statistics on each household. As she gradually reached the last few households, Ling Xiao did not go out to see the situation this time.
Instead, she sent someone to look at it. She felt that her sister's subordinates should learn more, instead of just practicing their skills but not wanting to use their brains.
After a while, the person who went to explore came back and reported that in his opinion, that family was a more conscientious family. The other people in the big family tried hard to take good care of their brother's children.
According to the information given by Yang Juan, Ling Xiao knew that the deceased had a son and a daughter. Although the family was also very poor, the best things in the family were given to the two children.