Why do you say this? Because if a man dies early or plans to divorce, at least half of the couple's property after marriage belongs to the wife, and the law can protect the legitimate interests of the woman.
No one, including the man himself, his parents, and children, can deprive a woman of the division of property she deserves during the marriage. This is some compensation that women can receive.
It is indeed not illegal to be a lover (those who engage in extramarital affairs are not among them), but lovers are not qualified to divide the property earned by the cheater during the cohabitation period, and can only rely on the cheater to donate it (but the other party who engaged in the extramarital affair has the right to recover it)
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Once the man doesn't like the lover, he can definitely find a way to get rid of the woman. Anyway, it's not too difficult to get rid of the lover. There are many methods and means.
It is said that it is good to be a lover who can get away with it. Why do you say that? It is because a certain woman once became the lover of a very powerful man and thought that she would have a good life in the future.
However, things are unpredictable. After being a lover for several years, she not only received no benefits in the end, but also incurred a heavy debt because she was the legal person of several companies.
From this we can see that being a lover is not without risks. Of course, there are still relatively few people who are as risky as that unlucky guy. After all, there are very few men who are so willing to look for lovers, and most men don’t have that ability.
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Although there is no risk of being in debt, there are still other risks. It would be better if the man does not have a wife, but if he does have a wife, there is a risk of being kicked out by his lover's wife, and he will also be regarded as a bad woman who destroys the family.
If a man is not married, it is not completely risk-free. When two people are living together, the man suddenly wants to get married, and often directly finds another woman to marry, giving up the lover he has lived with for many years.
If someone feels strange, ask: after living together for many years, the two of you have become too familiar with each other and have lost the passion for love, so you need to find another lover who can inspire your love again.
This is a real incident: There was a man and a woman who lived together for several years. The man was handsome and the woman was beautiful. They were a match made in heaven. However, the man met his true love immediately after traveling abroad.
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And the abandoned woman never imagined before the incident that her lover would fall in love with someone else once he went out, and the kind of marriage would happen. And her former lover was directly thrown out of the sky.
By the time she found out, it was too late. Her man had already changed his mind, and there was nothing he could do to change it, because he was already married, and she, who came first, had no position whatsoever.
That is to say, the two of them were very affectionate for a short time, but in the blink of an eye, her lover became someone else's husband. This blow was like a bolt from the blue to her.
She was pregnant at that time. She originally thought it was a surprise that the two of them finally had the fruit of love. In the blink of an eye, she found that she had been abandoned. After the shock, she had a miscarriage.
It can be seen from the above example that as lovers who live together, even though the relationship between the two people during the period of cohabitation has the reality of being wives, they do not have the name of wives.
At certain times, it is a disadvantage not to have a real identity. Once a man wants to fall in love with another woman, he does not need to give an explanation to the woman, leaving the woman with no buffer time at all.
If the woman above did not live together but got married, then the man must not get married so quickly. After all, there are not many countries that support bigamy and most of them are monogamous.
This also causes the weaker party in the relationship to be at a disadvantage. For example, without the status of a wife, there is no compensation at all when the relationship ends because the law does not support it.
Some people may say that this is entirely a matter of two people. If they get along, they will get together, and if they don't get along, they will break up. If the man is not willing to continue the so-called lover's relationship, then he should not follow and cause trouble, and just leave honestly.
But in Ling Xiao's opinion, it would be silly to do this. Even if a woman chooses to live together, she will usually give a certain amount of her true feelings (except those who are purely for making money), and they will be sent away without receiving any benefits.
, is it too cheap?
Will doing this make a man feel good about the woman? No, in fact, some men will not think that those infatuated women who think that they can have everything with love are very precious. They may even think that they are just nymphomaniacs and will not take it to heart.
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If the woman feels that she has been living together for many years and is unwilling to break up, there will be no good outcome. She is afraid that she will be labeled as a money worshiper, so there are many risks in being a lover.
This is indeed not as good as the status of a wife. If the man is married and wants to have a second love, he can only get a divorce. As the wife, he has the right to object and has time to respond.
From this perspective, when a husband cheats on his wife in a marriage, the wife will receive public support from others, but the possibility of being sympathized with as a lover is too small. Even if she is sympathized with, she will often think that the woman who is a lover is too stupid.
Because even if the husband finds a new love and wants to abandon his wife, the wife has every right to accuse the husband and even get compensation for his cheating.
Some people think that caring about property is very philistine, but Ling Xiao doesn't think that this is a normal division of property! You must know a good saying: Money is not everything, but without money, nothing can be done, why not take what you deserve?
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Of course, Ling Xiao has no intention of forcing other women to get married. After all, marriage has different views for different people. Some people gain a lifelong family in marriage, while others think that marriage is the tomb of love.
Different opinions mean that everyone should have their own choice, as long as it doesn't break the law, and you can't force others to follow the same path with your own ideas.
However, Ling Xiao believes that in the relationship between men and women, the woman is generally at a disadvantage, especially in various Eastern countries, where the dominant man is the dominant man.
Judging from the two dramas "Madama Butterfly" and "Miss Saigon", it can be confirmed that the heroine is in a completely weak position. Neither of the two male protagonists thought about marrying the heroine in the drama. They just wanted to find someone to take care of themselves and get married.
That's all.
This is also the reason why Ling Xiao judged that the two male protagonists are not the same thing. They have not considered the future of the heroine at all, or in their eyes, the heroine is just a docile plaything.
The overall environment of the heroine in Madame Butterfly is better than that of Miss Saigon. For example, Madame Butterfly did not fall into the dust when she followed the hero, and she has not fallen into dust.
But whether it was Madame Butterfly or Miss Saigon, the man they fell in love with finally flapped his wings and returned to China. They just left the two girls without thinking about how the heroine would live after they left.
Madame Butterfly always thought that she and he were married, and according to the custom of her country, she would stay at home and be a full-time housewife, but a full-time housewife had no salary and no work history.
When the man left, he probably didn't think about how Madam Butterfly would live after he left. Without a source of money, even if he left a sum of money for Madam Butterfly, it would be nothing.
So how should Madame Butterfly continue to live as a single woman again? This question should also trouble the other heroine Miss Saigon.
Anyway, they never thought about marrying the heroine, why do they say that? Because the two male protagonists got married after returning to China, and married their real wives.
The two women waited and waited, but they couldn't wait for the man. Instead, they found out that they were pregnant, so they decided to give birth to a child, and the child completely inherited the male protagonist's blond hair and blue eyes.
Hey! Ling Xiao didn't feel very good when he saw this kind of plot, because it clearly makes the child different from the children around him, and it is generally difficult for such children to integrate into society, which puts more pressure on mothers.
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The plot of Miss Saigon in the two dramas is even more uncomfortable. The heroine is initially sold to a prostitute by a French-Vietnamese (2), and thus meets the male protagonist.
This was the first time a man and a woman met in a brothel. The hero and heroine were a prostitute and a prostitute. Although Ling Xiao didn't know the plot when he saw this, he also knew that it didn't feel very good.
After the male and female protagonists got together, the heroine quickly fell in love with the male pig's trotters, completely forgetting that it was the country where the male protagonist lived that launched a war of aggression, which resulted in the death of many of her compatriots.
When he saw this, Ling Xiao didn't feel any tenderness and sweetness, he only felt uncomfortable and had a nauseous thought. Afterwards, the hero and his group evacuated under the iron fist of Saigon.
The heroine was rescued by her fiancé and her cousin, but she was unwilling to listen to her cousin. After the two had a dispute, she accidentally beat her cousin to death.
Afterwards, in panic, she found the French-Vietnamese man who sold her and asked him to take her and flee to another country. Seeing this, Ling Xiao didn't understand what the heroine was thinking?
As a trafficked person, shouldn't there be incompatible relations with the traffickers? She actually asked the man who sold her once for help, isn't she afraid of being sold again? I don't understand this operation.
The plot turned into a part that once again made Ling Xiao feel even more disgusting. The heroine, Miss Saigon, was dependent on a French-Vietnamese man. One was a prostitute and the other a human trafficker, supporting the children born by the heroine.
A kind of plant! Human traffickers should be cut into pieces. Moreover, the traffickers continue to commit crimes while helping one of their victims raise a child. This character is somewhat contradictory.
If we were a normal human trafficker, we would have sold the heroine and her child together. Don't say anything about being reluctant, people who are human traffickers have dark hearts. There was no pity for the heroine when she was sold to the prison, no
The truth now manifests itself in kindness.
In the two dramas, a few years after their children were born, the two male protagonists and their wives once again traveled to the place where they had had an affair, and happened to meet the heroine who was still waiting for her.
Only then did the heroine suddenly realize that they were not the other person at all, they were just lovers with no rights at all, and it was normal for the other person to get married.
The male protagonist in Miss Saigon is even more filthy. When faced with his lover's request to take his biological child back, he doesn't agree at all and doesn't want to acknowledge the illegitimate child at all.
Following the biggest scandal in the two dramas, the two heroines actually committed suicide in order for a man to adopt their biological son.
After seeing the endings of these two dramas, Ling Xiao had a thought in his mind: Could it be written by the same screenwriter? Although there are some differences in the middle, the beginning and ending are too similar.
And after watching these two dramas, I have only one thought: I don’t like them at all. The plot is full of a sense of sexual supremacy. Especially in Miss Saigon, the male protagonist is a villain, and the heroine actually kills for such a person, and even betrays her.
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Seeing this, Ling Xiao had to think deeply. I am afraid that the heroine in Miss Saigon is out of her mind. She still treats such a trash male protagonist as a treasure, so wouldn't it be worse to secretly mock Asian men?
After thinking for a while, Ling Xiao looked back and felt that she would never like this kind of man. In her opinion, the two male protagonists did not have the responsibilities of men.
Of course, perhaps in the Western world, this kind of behavior of the male protagonist is not so criticized. After all, in Western culture, there have been special titles for mistresses, which involves cultural differences.
In Ling Xiao's eyes, the love between a man and a woman, if it is just for fun, does not need to be played at all. At the very least, it ensures one's own physical and mental health. It is the kind of love between a young man and a young man who is respectful and insensitive.
Of course, she will not force others to do the same thing as her own. Some things depend on personal choice, and she chooses to stay away from that kind of man. Who knows if he is physically ill?
In addition, even if a woman insists on falling in love with that man, don't wait foolishly and let yourself go! Live a good life for yourself instead of counting on a man who will never come back.
The most fascinating operation is that the heroine committed suicide in the end in order to let her children live a good life with their biological father, but can they really live a good life?
If you still give your child to that man, how can such a man be good to the child? To put it bluntly, that man has no intention of taking responsibility at all. This kind of man is unreliable.
After all, the male protagonist marries another wife, and the young illegitimate child will not be taken care of by the man, but most likely by the male protagonist’s wife, so it is difficult to say whether the child’s future will be good or bad.
This is because the quality of the family plays a big factor in a child's growth, and raising a child not only costs energy but also a lot of money, making the child's future difficult.
Especially the wife who has to work for that man, I am afraid that the real wife will be very angry. It is obviously a world for two people, but she has to adopt her husband's biological son. What is going on?
Waiting is overturning her life plan and directly adding a heavy burden. All this is an unexpected blow to this woman, and she may feel bad no matter what she does.
If it were a more vicious woman, she would probably take revenge on that child if she found an opportunity. Even if she didn't take revenge, she would probably feel a little knotty in her heart.