Chapter 991: Repenting from teaching husband and looking for a title
Anyone who dares to ask that kind of question is definitely a stick. If he is really not a stick, he is deliberately looking for trouble and wants to cause pain. Naturally, there is no need to interact with such a person more, because people who are caring will naturally not expose the scars of their uncle and aunt.
When Ling Xiao was young, she only heard her parents talk about the old couple. After all, her mother and aunt were very close. But at that time, she didn't understand what her aunt and uncle were thinking after seeing it. She was somewhat frivolous in her youth, and she didn't understand at all.
I don’t understand how it feels to be a parent.
But after traveling through such a world, she is no longer a child who knows nothing. When she recalls the past, she has new ideas. The experience of the old couple reminds her of an ancient poem about boudoir: In the Boudoir
The young woman was never worried. She went up to the green building with makeup in the spring. Suddenly she saw the color of willows on the street, and she regretted teaching her husband to look for a title.
Maybe that's what it feels like? It's like a young woman who thought her husband could achieve supreme glory, but in the end found that only a few were lucky. Most of them became bones on both sides of the border, or they still didn't achieve enough.
Power, because her husband is likely to be buried in horse leather in the end, and she is a widow with a broken dream.
But if the husband is not allowed to work hard to earn a future, in the end the couple will still be incompetent people, the type of people who are looked down upon by rich people, and she does not want to fall into that situation.
Therefore, although a young woman may regret from time to time, she will still let her husband fight and follow the path of success. This is because she knows very well that no matter what she does, she may regret it in the end.
My uncle and aunt are more or less in a similar situation to young women. They have ideas but cannot express them to others. Could it be that they regret letting their son go abroad for further study? Wouldn’t it make people laugh if he said it? If he felt that he was delaying his child’s progress, he might be punished.
People think it's extremely hypocritical, saying that an old couple doesn't care about their blessings?
In fact, even if they disagreed with their son, they could not stop him because it was his cousin who wanted to go abroad. After all, many people around him were going abroad to seek gold, which made him feel that he was lagging behind his former classmates and friends, so he was anxious to start taking the TOEFL exam.
Later, I received an invitation from an overseas institution, and I was in a hurry to go abroad.
If the parents object to their son going abroad, the cousin will not stop. He will only think that his parents are hindering his great career, which is not beneficial to the parent-child relationship at all. The old couple happily sends their son away.
However, more than ten years later, when my cousin abroad changed from a young man to a middle-aged man and had his own children, the aunt and uncle who only had one son discovered a problem: his son had no intention of returning to China.
They are unable to say anything when others talk about their son, and often smile cheerfully, as if their son has given them incomparable honor. In fact, they can only swallow their dissatisfaction silently. They feel empty around them, especially during the Chinese New Year.
It's too deserted, and they don't let others discover their sadness.
Occasionally, my aunt would complain to her closest sisters, trying her best to downplay it, but a hint of helpless resentment still emerged. The sisters had no choice but to comfort themselves in words. After venting, the aunt seemed to be afraid that others would say something bad about her son.
He was busy praising his son.
Ling Xiao's own mother also heard her aunt's complaints, so she said to her husband behind his back: "It's like raising a son in vain. He has been suffering and tired all his life, but his son just slapped his ass and left. What is this? It's basically
A son raised by his daughter-in-law.
He also said that studying and working abroad is an honor, no! The surface of the donkey shit eggs is shiny, what’s the use of it, the second sister and I don’t dare to get sick when they get old, there is no one to take care of them, it’s really not affordable.”
Speaking of which, the longer Ling Xiao travels through time, the more he gradually forgets what happened in his original world. Even his parents have forgotten their appearance, but he still remembers his mother pouting when she said this. She was so impressed.
Ling Xiao only remembered that his uncle and aunt were aging faster, and it was difficult to calm down after all. When people get old, they really need someone to take care of them. Even if their children cannot accompany them all the time, it is still different with their children by their side and without anyone around them.
They will age faster than many of their peers, probably with their teeth knocked out and bloody throats.
I'm afraid some people will say that this is not easy to handle? Don't you just want your children to take care of themselves in old age? Parents sell their houses in China and get a sum of money to live with their sons and daughters-in-law, and they can also see their grandchildren. It's really true.
Kill two birds with one stone.
In fact, my uncle and aunt also thought about selling the house and taking their savings to join their son. However, the brothers and sisters felt that it was unreliable. Selling the house would be equivalent to completely cutting off their own options and losing their own home.
If something happens and I want to come back, I won't be able to come back.
My uncle and aunt hadn't seen it through at that time, and didn't quite agree with the brothers and sisters' ideas, but they felt that they could still move, so they didn't touch the house for the time being. Later, after spending some time with their son, they found out that luckily they didn't decide to go to his son's home for retirement.
It is true that the two of them worked hard to raise their son. It can be said that they provided for their son to eat, provide for their son to drink, and provided for their son to study. Even when they got married, they found someone to introduce their son to their daughter-in-law. After the son got married, he took his wife with him.
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They thought they were still the closest people to their son, but later they learned that the closest people to their son were no longer his parents, but his wife and sons.
Completely unaware of this situation, they finally had the opportunity to reunite with their son, but soon discovered that they couldn't stay at their son's house for less than a month. The main reason was that they had a bad relationship with their daughter-in-law.
Although the daughter-in-law is a younger generation, she has never addressed her as her parents-in-law respectfully since they first met, and naturally she has not changed her words. It was still the same after they got married. Even when her parents-in-law specially came to serve her during the confinement period, they still had a very indifferent attitude.
I still remember that Ling Xiao was very surprised when he heard about this situation. You must know that my cousin-in-law is not the kind of person who was born abroad. She received an undergraduate education in China and then went out to study abroad. She is a person who has received local education for many years.
After studying abroad, I obtained a master's degree and then worked abroad for several years.
But everything she does doesn't look like someone who grew up with local education. Maybe she has accepted a lot of foreign trendy ideas, which is why she is so different.
Speaking of which, my cousin-in-law never found a suitable blind date when she got older. It just so happened that my cousin planned to go abroad to work hard at that time. He was still young and needed to find a suitable match, and it happened that my cousin-in-law returned to China to visit relatives.
By the way, we went on a blind date and quickly married my cousin and went abroad together.
To put it this way, the old couple and their daughter-in-law are really strangers, but every newlywed is unfamiliar with her husband’s family after getting married, and her cousin is not the only one. And she married someone else’s son, so she has to thank her parents-in-law for raising her.
Got a husband?
Anyway, I don’t understand what my cousin-in-law is doing. As a daughter-in-law, she calls her parents-in-law not mom and dad, but “Hey”. I’m afraid not many parents-in-law will be happy to have such a daughter-in-law.
At this time, the old couple could only suppress their unhappiness. Who asked the daughter-in-law to give birth to two sons? If she told her son about her grievances, would the couple start a fight? Isn't this inciting discord between the couple?
Although they looked down upon their daughter-in-law and felt unsatisfied, they could never leave their two grandchildren without their biological mother, so the only ones who felt aggrieved were the old couple.
Of course, I'm afraid it's aggrieved from the cousin's point of view. The arrival of her aunt and uncle makes her feel very uncomfortable. They are indeed her husband's parents, but that doesn't mean they are not strangers to her. To a certain extent, the parents-in-law are
People invade her daily life, especially when the living environment is very tense.
You must know that he is the only one in the cousin's family who works, while his cousin takes care of the children at home. She has to pay various fees for the money she earns, so the place she lives in is a small apartment that can only accommodate a family of four.
The old couple didn't have a bedroom when they went to take care of their confinement, so they lived in the living room of the house after they arrived. Although my uncle and aunt couldn't live in a luxurious villa in China, they had their own bedroom at home and didn't need to live in the living room at all.
Living in the living room is not easy, because everyone has to pass by the living room when going to the bathroom, and it is really difficult to rest. This kind of life makes the old couple feel suffocated (1), and they want to quit after a few days.
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Because they had no idea that they would be treated like this if they helped their son's family. You should know that they were not going to join their son at this time to let him take care of him in his old age.
The reason why I went there was that I missed my son. I haven’t seen my son for many years, that is, just talking on the phone. As parents, I really don’t feel at ease and don’t know how my son is doing.
Another reason is to take care of the confinement child. This is the birth of their second grandson. The first child is taken care of by the in-laws, and the second child naturally requires the aunt and uncle to come. It would be unreasonable not to go.
The old couple went there with a mission. Before leaving, they exchanged cash, which was about nearly 10,000 U.S. dollars. They just wanted to subsidize their children abroad. When they exchanged the money, they said it was the couple's living expenses, otherwise they would not be allowed to take it out. They thought
If you have money, you will live a good life abroad.
When they arrived, they realized that there was a complete language barrier, and there was a long distance between their residence and the business district. The couple couldn't go there unless their son drove there, so they didn't dare to go out.
My son has one day off a week, not because his boss insists on working overtime, but because if he can't produce results, he won't be able to earn money. Therefore, his son has to go out to work early in the morning and often leaves with only a banana. It's really hard.
The old couple felt aggrieved, but they also felt sorry for their son's hard work. They did not complain to their son at all. They could only comfort each other and hold on. They would return to China after the confinement period and would never come to their son again.
When I went abroad, I realized that I still had very little time to see my son, because my son basically left early and came home late every day. When he got home, he was very tired and needed a rest. He also had to take care of his wife and son, so he didn’t have much time to give.
Parents.
What drives the old couple crazy the most is that the daughter-in-law also dislikes the fact that the old couple only wants to stay at home when visiting their son, and does not even think about going to work to make money. She says that other elderly people are trying their best to make money to support their families when they go abroad.
The old couple are really defeated. You must know that they are also intellectuals in the country. They have worked hard for many years and finally can enjoy life after retirement, but they have to go abroad to work?
Haha! What kind of jobs should they do? Their diplomas are not recognized abroad, so if they can work, they can only work at the lowest level. The old couple are both quite old and have some minor physical problems, so why should they go there?
Going to work abroad again?
(1) There is a real incident in this incident. When the relatives of the person involved found out about it later, they were astonished. How could this happen? The person involved was counting the days until he could return to China every day, and he couldn't hold it in anymore.