Early the next morning, grandpa got up early and told everyone to set off.
Because most of the relatives in the grandpa and grandma's family have been married, and grandma has a cousin. However, Su He's parents are junior to grandma's cousin, and they don't come over if something happens. However, there is another custom in F village that worships in advance.
You can receive it in a few days in advance for the holidays.
Although many people now think that this is all superstition, the custom has been maintained for so many years. After all, no one knows whether they will receive it or not. Anyway, it is only a few days in advance.
So these things that need to be prepared can only be purchased by yourself, and everyone is quite taboo about these sacrifices, especially business people. These things are not allowed in the door. You can only get up in advance to buy these things. There are several of these things.
Only the space can be purchased.
Although cremation is now advocated, most people in rural areas still cannot accept it and choose burial. Su's father and Su's mother arranged the burial, and they were buried on a mountain not far from the village.
From a distance, Su He knew the place as soon as he saw the direction of the car. In his previous life, Su He held Qingming Festival at this place, and he would go there every year. Su He was very impressed.
The road on the mountain was narrow and uneven, and cars could not drive up it. Su He and his party got off the car and walked. My aunt supported her grandfather and led the way, and Su He supported her grandmother and followed behind.
There is almost no one on the road now. It is not the time to worship at this time, and this mountain is full of graves, so no one usually goes up the mountain.
At that time, Su He was in the hospital and didn't know where the specific location was. He followed his grandfather for a long time but still didn't reach it. On the way, he passed by the place where Su He worshiped in his previous life. Also, the mountain was not big, so there was a high chance that he would pass there.
It's exactly the same as in the memory, but unfortunately she is no longer the same person.
In the midst of random thoughts along the way, we arrived at our destination.
From a distance, Su He saw a small house next to several tombs, which was wider than the usual coffins. When he got closer, he saw the names of two people on the tombstones, and they were buried together.
Grandpa and grandma stepped forward and used the tools they brought to deal with the weeds on several nearby graves. Su He and her aunt also hurried forward to help. After the weeds were cleaned up, they hung up the colorful strips they bought.
According to the inscriptions on the tombstones, Su He knew that the several tombs nearby belonged to Su He's grandfather's parents and grandfather. However, Su He had never paid homage to him in his memory, but every year Su's father and mother would gather with his grandparents at the Qingming Festival.
During the festival, I go back to my hometown to pay homage.
This year, my grandparents did not come back to pay their respects, but now they came to see Father Su and Mother Su and they always wanted to pay their respects. They knelt down and burned the paper money, kowtowed one by one, and set off firecrackers before the group arrived at the grave of Father Su and Mother Su.
Seeing the photos of Su's father and mother on the tombstone, Su He's tears flowed uncontrollably, and she knelt down in front of the grave. Slowly moving little by little, she cleared away the weeds and branches around her.
Grandpa and grandma didn't say anything, just silently handed the remaining paper money to Su He and helped arrange the sacrifices.
Su He burst into tears while lighting the paper money. Su He had never seen his grandfather’s parents and grandfather, nor did they appear in his memory. He had no feelings, but Su’s father and mother were different. In the memory of the original owner, from childhood to adulthood, Su’s father, Su He,
Mother was everywhere, and she died to protect her in the end. If it hadn't been for her, Su's mother might not have died. Moreover, her parents in her previous life were very kind to her.
Just thinking about Su's father and Su's mother's appearance made Su He's tears fall even harder.
The sun was getting darker and darker, and just when my aunt was about to persuade her that it was inconvenient to go down the mountain at night, Su He had already sorted out her mood and stood up. No matter what, life must go on, and people who are alive cannot indulge in this all their lives.
What's more, there are still grandparents and aunts here. For their sake, we can't just fall here.
On the 2nd, no one was in the mood to go out. They stayed in the hotel all day and even had meals nearby.
The 3rd is the anniversary of his death. Although we have already paid our respects two days ago, we still plan to go there and pay our respects.
Just as I was about to go out, my grandmother's cousin called and said that she had arrived at the train station and asked where Su He's family was and waiting for them to go there together.
When she heard that her cousin had come back from other places, a smile appeared on her lips.
My cousin and grandma had a very good relationship when they were young. They were only two years apart and grew up together. Even when grandma went to study in another place, they were not unfamiliar with each other. But later, grandma married grandpa and went to school.
He was teaching in city B, but his cousin married in another village and later went to work in other places, so we lost contact with her a little bit.
But last year, Su's father and mother passed away, and my grandma and cousin rushed over to help. This year, there was something unexpected at home that delayed her arrival until today. What I mean is that the whole family rushed over. This makes grandma very happy, which means
Attention.
Since grandma's cousin's family is coming, they naturally have to wait together. Moreover, grandma's cousin's family has no residence here, and they came here specifically for their family's affairs. The Su He family is naturally obliged to settle them down, and
Su He's family didn't have a residence here and lived in a hotel, so naturally they had to be arranged here.
My grandma's cousin's family came here by train. There is a train station in the same city, which is less than an hour away, so we arrived quickly.
Grandma waited outside the hotel early, fearing that her cousin would not be found, so everyone naturally waited with her. When they met, grandma enthusiastically took her cousin and her family to hang out.
Su He looked at the family. From the tone of the call just now, Su He heard good intentions. Su He had good senses about this family.
I saw only four people coming, my grandmother's cousin, my cousin's husband, and a middle-aged couple. Judging by their appearance, the middle-aged man looked very much like my grandmother's cousin. He should be my grandmother's son, and the other was my daughter-in-law.
My grandma's cousin looks fat, not tall, and has a thick waist and arms, probably because she does a lot of farm work. But she always has a smile on her face, which makes her look very friendly.
As for her cousin-in-law, Su He calls her great-uncle. He is a naive, strong man who looks very honest. He even scratched his head when he spoke. He seems to be a good match for his grandmother and cousin, and he looks like a husband and wife.
But the middle-aged man looked very shrewd, with his eyes rolling around, but coupled with the naive face inherited from his parents, he didn't look annoying.
The middle-aged woman looked a little haggard. She didn't know why, but she lowered her head and said nothing. But she seemed to have a gentler personality.
This is a family of people with good personalities. Although they look naive, judging from the shrewd eyes of the uncle, he is not a good person and can be flexible. In the end, Su He came to a conclusion.
I really like dealing with people like this, because they won't cheat you, and they won't be like a holy mother who just helps people without asking for anything in return, which is just unappetizing.
"This is Yingying, she's so old, her skin is so good." When my grandmother's cousin saw Su He, her eyes lit up and she praised, "I heard that I won a lot of prizes in piano competitions, what kind of competitions can I participate in?"
First, it’s really awesome.”
"No way, it's just for fun among children, nothing serious," grandma said. This is the unique modesty of Chinese people.
"You can't say that. It's not easy for so many children to get first place. They need to be well rewarded," my grandmother's cousin continued.
While talking, the group of people had already arrived at the room they had booked in advance to settle down the cousin and his family. Grandma and cousin had made arrangements to meet their family, and they must give money to grandma.
But Grandma Su He insisted, "You came here to help before. We were in a hurry and didn't notice this. It's already embarrassing to let you find a place to live by yourself. This time you came here because of us, so how can you do it?"
Let you spend more money”
"It doesn't matter if we have to pay for our own food and accommodation," my uncle immediately objected.
"Yes," my grandma and cousin also agreed, "Where can I find something like this? People will laugh if I tell you about it. How can a whole family go there to eat and drink?"
The two sides were in a stalemate, and finally the waiter said it didn't look good. Seeing that grandma was very insistent, the cousin's family gave up.
"Where's Jia Jia?" Grandma suddenly thought. Jia Jia is my cousin's grandson. He is only 4 years old and very cute. Last year, my cousin and his family brought him here. Why didn't he see her this year?
"It's at my mother's house." It was my aunt and uncle who spoke.
"I'm really troubling you." Grandma felt a little sorry.
"No, the kid misses grandma a little bit and doesn't want to come back," said grandma's cousin.
Even though she said this, grandma knew in her heart that it must be inconvenient for her to be released to grandma's house. However, grandma did not tell the truth, and she was even more moved.
"Let's go there first." Before grandma could say anything else, grandma's cousin said.
"Okay." Grandma didn't say anything else. It was fine if she knew it. It would be embarrassing to tell her.
The three plates of sacrifices from the previous two days have been placed in front of the tombstone, so there is no need to prepare any more today. However, I bought a lot of paper money and the like, and even bought a paper house, and then asked someone to help deliver it.
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When paying in the middle, grandma and her cousin's family kept pulling and pulling each other to pay. This can be regarded as a kind of culture. No matter whether they are poor or rich, they have to pull each other down when paying to show their respect for each other.
Enthusiasm. This is unavoidable even if you have been abroad for many years. The customs of your old family are still there. Why can't you just let others pay when others are rushing to pay? To be honest, Su He doesn't like this kind of pulling and pulling.
The posture always feels awkward, but it cannot be changed in such an environment. The habit has become natural. (To be continued)