Zhao Mingyang was actually quite speechless. What was Hao Ren doing?
First of all, this girl is too young, only a freshman. They really have to stay together for a lifetime. There is no way out, because one day in school is one day without the world. Hao Ren has already been in society for many years. In this way, in the future
People will say that they were cheated by him, and the parents invited him home, which is equivalent to coming to confirm the relationship, bypassing the process and going straight to the final outcome.
The key is, has Hao Ren thought about it? The age gap can be ignored, but if this girl gives birth to a child in her second or third year of college, Hao Ren must be meticulous in the future, otherwise people will definitely say that she has delayed her studies to be with him.
, gave up the good years, career and dreams.
This will make Hao Ren very passive. Another point is that Hao Ren has to confirm the relationship with the other person. Is the other person he wants to spend the rest of his life with? Otherwise, if Hao Ren breaks up with him, he will probably have to pay a lot of money.
The price is also relatively high.
"Hao Ren, have you thought about it clearly? I mean have you decided to be with the other person? You are not in love anymore. Unless the other person dumps you, it will be difficult to break up after your relationship is confirmed." Zhao Mingyang
asked.
"I was a little hesitant before, but now I feel like I have figured it out. I can't have a common language with girls who are too old. People think I'm immature and naive. As you know, the things I like have always been very niche.
He also has a rather homely personality.
I thought about it, my sister and I have a common language, and I also like the things she likes. For example, we like the second dimension, we play games together when we have nothing to do, and we have common topics every day. She is also a homebody, so we are very comfortable together.
Another point is that she is much younger than me. When she gets older, there is a higher chance that I will leave first, so that I will not suffer. I am most afraid of the kind of separation between life and death, and I am afraid that I will not be able to survive it.
Our two families also know the basics. Anyway, we have to find someone to live our lives with. It is better to find someone with less worries. At least I will be with her. When she graduates from college and gets married, I can still play for three years. If she goes to college
I don’t want to get married after graduation. I will work for a few years before getting married. I can still have a few more years of fun.
I don’t bother her when she’s at school. If we live together in the future, we’ll just meet in the evening. There will be less conflicts and we can spend Saturdays and Sundays together.
My family will no longer press for marriage, and I will no longer have this worry. The key is that she also knows my personality. I am most afraid that others will say that my personality does not match my age and that I am childish. I cannot become mature because I cannot accept myself to give up.
The things I like, maybe I’m not old enough to like drinking tea yet, but when I do, I’ll naturally mature.”
After hearing this, Zhao Mingyang nodded and said, "Okay, you think it's best, and it's time for you to fall in love.
Let’s talk about some things to pay attention to when meeting parents after falling in love. First of all, you and the girl’s parents are not familiar with each other. Just because your parents are familiar with each other does not mean that you are also familiar with each other. At most, some parents are short-tempered and can ignore it without asking.
But I also want to tell you some necessary taboos, because there is no guarantee that you and this sister will not be together in the future, and you have to pay attention to it when you meet other people.
First of all, if you are sure that the other party is not a girl who wants to make money, or a girl who wants to make money, after you get to know her.
You have a good impression of her, but the other person's attitude towards you is not clear. You can directly send a 520 red envelope to the other person on her birthday. If the other person clicks on it, the money is not a waste. If you don't click on it, you won't suffer. You also know that the relationship is not that big.
One step, click and you can go one step further.
Of course, if you want to minimize the loss, just give the whole number five hundred and thousand. This is not considered a gift, as I told you before.
Moreover, you can buy some valuable items for her online, such as thousands of dollars. If the other party doesn't want it, you can return it directly, which will also reduce your financial losses to the minimum.
The premise of this type is that you care about money and money is tight. If you don't care about money, it doesn't matter.
As for meeting the parents for the first time, the same principle applies. In addition to buying some fruits, you can buy other drinks and nutritional supplements online. Remember, if it is not an engagement, you are not sure whether the other person's parents agree with you being together.
Don't buy cigarettes, there is no way to return them, unless you know the person selling them and they agree to your return, because tobacco cannot be purchased online.
But you can buy drinks. The drinks you buy should be based on the other person's family and your own situation. If the other person's family is good and rich, then you must buy Maotai or something. If it is an ordinary family, you must buy it. There is no error.
of drinks.
For example, if you buy Dream Blue Sky Blue, the online price is about the same as in supermarkets, so you don’t have to worry about the other party scanning the code. For some drinks, don’t look at the ones with a price tag of 998 and the current price of 188, or brands affiliated with Moutai Distillery, etc.
It is the most difficult thing to give as a gift, because people who have never heard of it will scan the QR code to check the price.
And you get what you pay for, and it's worth the money. The taste may not be as good as other wines with the same price of more than 100 yuan on the market, so don't give it as a gift.
When buying wine, don’t just buy it casually. Go to the brand flagship store of the winery. Make sure it is self-operated by the manufacturer. There are also self-operated ones like Dongdongmao. You can buy it. At least it can keep the authenticity. If you are in some live broadcast rooms
If you buy it from some online stores, you won’t know if it is fake wine if you don’t open it or drink it.
They sell fake wine to you just because you are greedy for small gains and save a few bucks.
If you drink it yourself and find out that it is fake wine, the customer service will explain it with various reasons. First, they will not admit it. If you really have no way to quibble, in the end, they will say that the wrong product was sent and you will be refunded.
But if you give it to someone, and they receive the wine from you, and they often drink this kind of wine, and if they open it and drink it and find that it is fake wine, they can’t tell you, right?”
Hao Ren nodded, then took out his phone and took notes. He really hadn't thought about this.
So he knew it was right to ask Zhao Mingyang about this kind of thing.
"Keep talking," Hao Ren said.
"Gifts must be given according to your own conditions. For example, if you are engaged, if your price is too high, it will be difficult to lower it in the future. You can buy better cigarettes, because there is an upper limit on the price of cigarettes, and you have to buy unpopular cigarettes, but everyone knows
of.
Let’s put it this way, what do you think of Hard China?” Zhao Mingyang asked.
"China is good." Hao Ren said.
"You think it's good, but let me tell you, these cigarettes are not easy to sell in cigarette stores. The price you pay for a single pack will not change, but if you buy a whole pack, they will give it to you at a lower price. For example, if you sell it individually
45 per pack, they may give you 400 or 420 per piece. If you buy more, some may even give you 390. Because they have a mission and cannot sell out the cigarettes, they will give you a free gift for the next batch of cigarettes ordered, so they will squeeze out the stock.
You can go to big cigarette hotels to buy them. They have a lot of inventory and the price is cheaper than small cigarette hotels.
Because of the price of these cigarettes, most people smoke them by themselves. People may buy 20 or 31 packs of cigarettes to give as gifts. Most people will choose to give Ruozhong or 95 when entertaining others, like Tianye.
of.
You see, it would be more appropriate for you to buy a hard medium and give it to your father-in-law. After all, with the name Huazi here, even if you give a soft medium, two pieces will cost just over a thousand. The price is fixed, and it looks good. It comes with cigarettes.
Most of them are two. You spend this money, which is called spending money on the edge of the knife.
As for wine, there is no upper limit, so don’t buy too expensive wine for the first time. Three or four hundred bottles is enough. Buy a box of six bottles, or four bottles, or two bottles in a gift bag. Remember
Yes, you must buy brands that can be seen in supermarkets and cigarette stores, and there is no big difference in price. Don’t buy the ones with a high original price and a low current price.
Because of cigarettes, people will ignore the value of your wine, so it is easy to match. If you buy two cigarettes worth 231, how much money do you think you can save? Not much, just a few hundred, but you are buying cheap
I ordered a drink and instantly felt like I had diarrhea.
You can buy mediocre cigarettes, and you can buy three or four hundred for a bottle of wine. People also think that this wine is mediocre, so you have to save money. You can buy better cigarettes, but there is an upper limit. The better ones are only five or six hundred and one.
strips, up to two strips.
As for buying gifts, you must buy them in large gift boxes online. When buying, you need to know what to buy. If you buy online products of the same brand in supermarkets, the price difference is huge. For example, a certain brand of black sesame paste is packaged in a gift box online.
There are six or seventy-one boxes. The supermarket sells one box for more than one hundred. You buy two boxes and some snacks. In case your girlfriend has younger brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces, etc.
You should also buy the ones with a brand. You can see it in this supermarket. Why are you asked to buy gift boxes? Because the gift boxes are beautifully arranged. You buy six gift boxes or eight gift boxes. Each item must be an even number. When you mention the other person’s house, put it in
There, the gift box is so large that it instantly makes people think that you are buying a lot of things, and the gift box has a high-end feel. If you buy something of the same price and put it in a plastic bag, it will feel cheap.
In addition to cigarettes and alcohol, you can also give tea. Remember this. Drink black tea in winter and green tea in summer. If the person rarely drinks tea, give him green tea. The price of tea is also very different. Buy this in a gift box, two bottles in a box.
, two to three hundred is fine, three to five thousand is fine, there is no upper limit, it depends on your own situation.
Why should you buy online? Because most of them will return gifts and you can return them, so you can buy a gift to give to someone.
But if you buy something in a physical store, it is difficult to return it. Some items will not be refunded if there are no quality problems. Young people are tight on money now, so they can save what they can.
However, you must buy a gift box. Again, giving gifts in a gift box is to get rid of the feeling of cheapness.
When giving gifts, you can also directly buy some gift boxes and put them back yourself. For example, some fruit gift boxes are not expensive to buy online. They only cost a few yuan each. After buying them, go to a fruit shop or supermarket to buy some good-quality fruits and put them in them. That is different from packing them in plastic bags.
, if the fruit shop adds a gift box, the price will double several times, and you will make money from the gift box.
When you go to eat with someone for the first time, make sure you don't talk nonsense, give people a stable aura, and don't talk too much to your father-in-law, because men know men best, and they will know your virtues in just a few words.
Don't drink. Drinking is the easiest way to talk nonsense. Even if you drink, it's just a small drink. In order to avoid embarrassment, then help with something, such as washing the dishes, cooking a dish yourself and letting others taste it. This is a good thing for the mother-in-law.
impression, and avoid awkward interactions with my father-in-law.
If there are children at home, play with them. Remember, you can buy a toy for the children when you go to other people's houses. You don't need to buy it during holidays. You are visiting the elders, so you can buy some snacks to take with you at most.
If the other party's entire family is around and someone asks you something, you have to tell five percent truth and five percent lies.
What is the truth? What do your parents do and what do you do? Your girlfriend must also know these. There is no need to hide it. What is a lie? Can you tell me that your family owes a lot of debt when buying a house? No.
As you said, you can’t say anything bad about your family. You’ll understand it after you get married. There’s no need to explain it. You must not mention it at all before getting married.
You can also lie and say that your boss values you very much and will get a promotion and salary increase after the New Year. You have already been promoted before. You have to give people and families some hope, understand."
Hao Ren said with a confused look on his face: "Why don't you meet your parents? It's more tiring than falling in love."
"Nonsense, it's easy to fall in love one-on-one, but getting married is another matter. So when you are looking for a girl, you must look at the other person's speech and behavior, and you can tell about the girl's upbringing. Parents with good upbringing are reasonable, and those with bad upbringing have you.
Acceptable.
For example, a girl likes to play mahjong, uses swear words in her words, does not sit or stand, and has some bad habits. What do you think her parents are like? Most people who play mahjong are addicted to gambling. Such people spend their money
They take it very seriously, and most of them don't live at home, or bring people to their homes for treatment. They basically don't care about their families, and they don't take into account the feelings of their family members.
Playing mahjong occasionally is called entertainment, and playing it every day is a bad hobby, as is smoking and drinking. It is obvious that the family can't manage it well, so just ignore it and want to send her out quickly, so you have to be clear, a girl depends on her character.
It is difficult for parents with poor quality and bad conduct to educate good children.
I infer that you know this sister, everything is fine, and we can talk about it, but this child is most likely to be a mama's girl. You'd better coax the sister's mother and go to their house this time.
You'd better not give a girl a separate gift. If you give it to a girl like this, you can buy a combination package of lipstick and perfume from the same brand. If you buy two sets, you can say buy one get one free.
, let alone buying two sets specifically, so that your little sister will have a gift, and your future mother-in-law will also have a gift. Don’t choose the same color number, and separate the perfumes. One set is for mature women, and the other is for young girls.
As for your father-in-law, you don’t need to buy any more. It will appear abrupt and out of place. Once you have dealt with your mother-in-law, you will have dealt with your father-in-law. From what you said, I can probably infer that your little sister’s mother has the final say in her family, because
She has a lot of decision-making power in letting you into her house."
Hao Ren scratched his head and said, "Then what happens after I celebrate her birthday?"
"After that, if you have nothing to do, go see her, treat her to a meal, watch a movie, buy her some small gifts, treat her roommate to a meal and watch a movie, let her school let you be in her life circle, everyone will
Thinking that you and her are a couple, you don't admit or deny it, but you must exercise restraint and keep a distance.
When their family becomes anxious, their family will think that you are embarrassed to speak, and the girl's mother will ask you, or talk to your mother, whether it is time for the relationship between you two to take a further step, are you embarrassed to speak, or not?
Know how to get closer, or maybe you don't like girls.
As long as they open their mouth, you will passively accept it. No matter what happens in the future, you will not be criticized. Remember, watch your belt. It is easy for someone like you who has never been in love to get into trouble.
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Also, remember, keep your distance, you must first recognize her as your sister and appear as your brother, then you will have more initiative in the future."
Hao Ren nodded and said, "I understand, then should I take a car back with her or drive back?"
"Drive, why don't you drive if you have a car? Chat with fellow travelers. Just put the things in your suitcase and don't let her see it. Remember, the price shouldn't be too expensive. A lipstick can cost up to three to four hundred.
, it’s too expensive and it’s hard for people to accept your stuff.”
Under Zhao Mingyang's guidance, Hao Ren went to buy a set of relatively mature clothes, so as to prevent the girl's family from thinking that he was dressed in a nondescript manner. The clothes he bought also had Naruto and Sasuke prints.
After handling Hao Ren's matter, Zhao Mingyang wanted to go back and take a nap, but Gu Man called.
"Zhao Mingyang, my parents are here and want to see you. You have to be mentally prepared for marriage." Gu Man said.