The parent was not hit. Seeing everyone looking at him, he sat down with a stern expression.
Gu Mo asked the parent, "As a parent, when you ask your child to develop as you want, do you know that your child is very talented in sports?"
The parent was confused.
Gu Mo said: "Your child's best record for the 100-meter dash is eleven seconds and nine seconds. Do you know what the world's shortest sprint record is? It's nine seconds and fifty-eight seconds. This means that your child is only shorter than the international record."
The champion was more than a second late."
The parent was stunned, "This, this... is my child really that powerful?"
"Look, you don't understand your child's talent at all and you haven't bothered to understand it. You just blame the child for not being good enough. Is it your fault or the child's fault?"
Gu Mo looked at the others.
"And everyone here, you hope that your children can understand your thoughts and grow according to your ideas, so do you know your own children? Do you know what to do to help him develop better?"
"What else do we need to know? How can we have that time when we are busy working all day..."
"Aren't all children like that? Their thoughts come up one after another. Today they are like this and tomorrow they will be like that. They are very fickle. Who can understand..."
"It would be worthy of him to give birth to him, give him food and drink, and provide him with education. Why should I bother giving birth to him?"
"That's right, you gave birth to them and brought them into this world, but don't think that you are a great kindness to your children by giving birth to them. You feel that your children owe you a lifetime and have to repay the debt..."
"You have to know that when you gave birth to her, you never asked her if she would like to come into this world and be your child. Therefore, giving birth to him is your own decision, and providing him with food and drink is also your unilateral choice.
Then no matter how hard you work to raise your child, it has nothing to do with this child..."
"Perhaps if you give your children a chance to freely choose which family they will be born into, they may not necessarily choose you. So from this perspective, you think this child is not good. When it comes to children, you are no better than other parents."
The competitiveness of being chosen to be a parent…”
"When you hope that your children will become what you imagine, are you the kind of person you want in your heart?"
"Ask yourself again, are you so good? So good that you want your children to be like you?"
"Go back and ask your parents, are you the kind of child they want? If not, should you also take a good class to become the kind of child your parents want?"
Every word Gu Mo said was loud and deafening.
The parents fell silent, and the entire auditorium was silent.
"You have not become the kind of child your parents want, so why do you want your child to become the kind of child you want? Children are also individuals with independent consciousness and personality. Why can't they have their own personality and preferences?
?”
"It is undeniable that parents play an extremely important role in their children's lives, throughout the whole life, but what advantages do adults have over children? The only advantage is that they are decades older than children, and they think they have rich life experience, so
When they begin to have their own ideology, the best performance as a parent is to learn to listen to the child's heart, instead of using adult standards to demand and teach the child how to be a good accessory."
"What parents have to do is to love their children first, rather than letting their children learn filial piety and gratitude first, because this is equivalent to overdrawing your feelings from your children in advance. When your children's feelings for you are exhausted in advance, as parents, what should you do?
What’s left?”
"And the arrival of a child also creates value for you, satisfies your desire to be a parent, satisfies your need to carry on the family lineage, and also satisfies your bloodline, dreams and wishes, and the continuation of your family..."
"The children give you far more than you give them. If you feel that the children are not satisfied, you can hit or scold them casually, or even abandon them easily. But what about the children? They must accept you as soon as they are born.
The pressure of imposing your own expectations on him, all wills and preferences can only be transferred according to your preferences, so don't think that it is not easy to give birth to and raise children, and just take it for granted that the child owes you..."
"If you really just want to raise a child who obeys your own words and has no self-soul, then I suggest that you don't have to work so hard to raise a child and just raise a dog. If you shout, it will run to you immediately.
Wag your tail."
"Of course, it is wrong to talk about the relationship between parents and children so lightly. After all, blood relationships are always separated. Parents are obliged to teach their children to grow up, and children are also obliged to repay their parents for their upbringing in the future..."
"So the relationship between children and parents is a mutually beneficial and symbiotic relationship. If a child does something wrong, parents should advise them, but the advice should be moderate."
Zhinao, “……!?”
My master will act as an engineer of the human soul if he disagrees with me.
It made every brain in it so angry that they wished they could give birth to a baby immediately and come out to fight with it!
At this moment, the parents were very silent, looking at each other, unable to find a word to refute Gu Mo.
It is undeniable that parents love their children.
Because they once lived in an era that was not wealthy, they missed many opportunities that could take them to a higher level.
When they have children, they transfer all their regrets to their children, eager for their children to succeed and for their daughters to succeed, hoping to use their children's hands to fulfill their unfulfilled wishes.
However, precisely because of their own limitations, they are eager for success and cannot provide better guidance to their children.
Sometimes I even fall into a vicious circle of rushing to seek medical treatment, which ends up ruining my child, but I still don’t know where I failed.
Gu Mo also listed data and cases of children who committed suicide due to conflicts between their parents in the past five years.
This number is very huge. At least hundreds of thousands of teenagers commit suicide every year due to parental pressure.
"Perhaps in your opinion, after spending so many years of cultivation, the child doesn't appreciate it and instead commits suicide. This is very unfilial."
"But if something happens to your child when he is young, it is not the child's problem, it is your problem. What you should reflect on is not the child's quality, but your quality. It is not the child who needs education, but you."
