In fact, doting on children is not necessarily good for them.
You can keep your love for your children deep in your heart, teach them when they need to be taught, and discipline them when they need to be taught. Blindly giving in will only pamper your children to the point of being lawless, and in the end they will be taught how to behave by outsiders.
Just like Zhang Huiniang and her daughter.
Both mother and daughter are hooking up with men outside. They are not ashamed but proud of it. They do whatever they want with his love. Zhang Qingdong feels that it is difficult to say anything. After knowing the life experience of the eldest sister, when he looks at his aunt and Sister Zhang, his eyes are particularly complicated.
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"I brought you back because I didn't want you to stay there and embarrass me. I didn't want to take care of you." On the way back, Zhang Qingdong was so angry that he also carefully observed the expressions of his mother and second sister. He couldn't tell where they were.
Disgust for this mother and daughter
In his opinion, his mother is the best person to him. As for his aunt, he doesn't feel that her aunt loves him anyway.
His mother is one of the closest people to him in the world. There is no need to choose between his mother and his aunt. Zhang Qingdong said bluntly, "I will find a yard for you later and you can move in by yourself. If you think it is not good there,
You can live somewhere else by yourself, but one thing is that you cannot go to other people's houses. Of course, if you can convince the hostess to take you in, that's your business, and I won't care. But if the male host takes you in, and the hostess takes you in,
If I don’t want you to stay and sue me again, I will issue a severance letter and sever ties with you.”
The only thing that Zhang Huiniang and her daughter can use now is the identity and financial resources of their parents' family. If they lose even this, they will really have no choice but to become ordinary people.
There are two people who did what they did before, and they are still the kind of common people who are despised.
The mother and daughter didn't want to end up like that, so they had to compromise in the end. Zhang Huiniang emphasized, "I don't want to live in a large courtyard like before. The people there are very bad. I'm afraid they will bully Sister Mi."
Mr. Zhang also said, "Yes, no matter what the adults do, the children are innocent and cannot be harmed. Qingdong, why not send them to Zhuangzi in the suburbs?"
"No" Mrs. Zhang stood up, "They can't stay in this house, nor can they live in the Zhang family's place. They can rent it."
Who pays the rent
They were not even willing to let them live in their own yard, and they knew they would not let the Zhang family pay rent.
Zhang Huiniang stared at her cheap sister-in-law as if she wanted to eat someone.
Mrs. Zhang was not afraid and looked back calmly: "What do you think I should take care of you? You are not a three-year-old child. You can't have a place for yourself at your age. If I were you, I would just kill you and save the money."
Living in this world is a waste of food.”
When Mr. Zhang heard what she said becoming more and more outrageous, he said angrily, "Mrs."
"I will no longer be your wife soon." Mrs. Zhang looked at her son. "I want you to come back this time. Firstly, I want you to know the ridiculous things that happened at home. Secondly, I want to let you know that I want to divorce your father.
He can't bear it for the rest of his life, and I really can't bear it when he holds his sister who is about to be a grandmother in his hands. From now on, I will never be under the same roof with him again and I will feel sick when I see him."
The last sentence she said was directed at Mr. Zhang.
Zhang Qingdong was speechless.
He had long known that the relationship between his parents was not good, and it seemed that his mother had unilaterally alienated him from his father. Occasionally, he would complain on his father's behalf. But his mother was particularly concerned about him, and he could not say that her mother was at fault. He only mentioned it in a vague way occasionally.
Now that he knows the truth about the couple's estrangement, he only feels pity for his mother.
It’s okay if you don’t want to live under the same roof.
The family's reputation will definitely be damaged, and the child's marriage will also be affected. But that will happen many years later. At the worst, the child will be kept far away from his grandfather, and the impact will definitely be smaller.
"good."
Mrs. Zhang looked relieved.
At the same time, Mr. Zhang looked very ugly. He glared at his son and scolded, "I have been with your mother for so many years, and instead of trying to reconcile, you are still adding fuel to the fire. Do you have any brains? You are still my son."
Don't you think about yourself, but also think about your children. With divorced grandparents like us, what will happen to the children's future marriage? And your wife, after hearing about this matter, she will definitely laugh at you, and she will also laugh at you.
Business has an impact on Qingdong, you have been in business for so many years, don’t you know how to calculate such a simple account?"
"The life a husband and wife live together is not an account in a ledger." Zhang Qingdong said coldly, "A son can't criticize his elders. But I still want to say that you two are not living a warm life these days. Mom has already decided to leave, so we should separate.
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Mr. Zhang was furious: "Zhang Qingdong, don't think that you can do whatever you want if your wings are stiff. Please be polite when you talk to me."
"I've been polite enough." Zhang Qingdong finally got home after two days of journey. It had been so long but he couldn't even drink a sip of tea. He was already irritated, especially when he thought about his father's treatment of his eldest sister when he was a child.
He was extremely angry and said immediately, "Anyway, I think a man who wants his wife to divorce regardless of his reputation is definitely not a thing."
After saying this, Mr. Zhang said calmly in his angry eyes, "I'm not being polite."
Mr. Zhang ""
He was so angry that his mind was buzzing, "As long as I'm here, it's not your turn to make the decision. If we can't divorce, your aunt and the others will have to stay in the house."
The father and son confronted each other, and Zhang Qingdong said word by word, "It's fine if you keep them. My mother, my second sister, and I will never step foot in this house in our lives. Anyway, your original plan was to leave all the things in this house."
My aunt’s child.”
Mr. Zhang was startled and scolded, "You are talking nonsense."
Of course, the family business must be left to the Zhang family. He never thought about letting Zhang Huiniang's children take over. The Fu family's business was no smaller than the Zhang family's, and a married woman would be stabbed in the back when she came back to fight for the family property. He never thought about it.
Although he handed over the business to others, his favorite heir has always been his son. He also criticized his son for living in the Yue family all year round and helping the Yue family. This son is not talking nonsense.
Zhang Qingdong sneered, "When my aunt was unmarried and pregnant, she should have married the father of the child. Even if she didn't marry, the child should not have been born. If you decide to have a child out of wedlock, you should not leave the child at home. It would be better for you to recognize the child as your own.
You have never thought about raising the children born to your mother as twins. What will happen to the family's wealth if your aunt gives birth to a son and your mother gives birth to a daughter? If that is the case, the eldest son should take over the family business. Are you not thinking about it?
All the family property was given to my aunt."
Mr. Zhang opened his mouth, "Qingyao is from a girl's family."
"So what?" Zhang Qingdong asked politely, "Did you give her a small dowry? The second sister is your biological daughter. There are many valuable things that Zhang Qingyao has, but the second sister does not. You have loved your sister since you were a child.
When I asked for the dowry, I thought you were just a little biased, but now it seems that you are so biased. If you love your aunt's child so much, why would you give birth to us?"
"You bastard." Mr. Zhang was furious, "What are these bastard things you said?"
Mrs. Zhang took a step forward, blocked her son behind her, and said, "You only like the children born to your sister. I have seen it clearly a long time ago. Your son is not yours alone. The child has been sensible enough in these years and has never let him go."
We are worried. If you want to discipline him, you must ask me first."
The couple looked at each other, and Mr. Zhang looked helpless, "We, father and son, can't see each other twice a year. Don't persuade him to quarrel with me."
"You deserve to be scolded if you don't do your own business." Mrs. Zhang had already written the divorce letter and photographed it directly in front of Mr. Zhang. "Keep it."
Mr. Zhang ""
Didn't it mean that after the son came back, the couple discussed and divorced? Why did it turn into a divorce letter?
“I won’t accept this stuff.”
Mrs. Zhang originally wanted to have a good discussion with him, but when her son mentioned that the couple helped raise Zhang Qingyao back then, the man especially didn’t feel that he was at fault until now. He thought they were being unreasonable, so she got angry.
When she saw Mr. Zhang throwing the piece of paper out of the door, she snorted coldly and ordered the maid to come in. She pointed at the piece of paper, "Send this thing to the Yamen and get back the marriage certificate that Mr. and I were engaged to."
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The maid was startled, took a peek at the expressions of the people in the room, and ran away with the divorce papers.
Mr. Zhang was so angry that his chest heaved, "Don't go out and embarrass yourself. I haven't put my fingerprints on the divorce letter yet, so I will definitely not allow it."
"It doesn't matter." Mrs. Zhang said casually, "Too many things have happened to our husband and wife over the years, and I have suffered too many grievances. If an adult asks, I will be willing to tell him about the bastard things you did and ask him to help."
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Isn't it embarrassing enough for Mr. Zhang to ""?
How can a couple's quarrel be brought to court?
"Let the maid come back." He said sternly, "If you want to leave, I will let you."
Mrs. Zhang was happy, "I am not a woman who is afraid of being embarrassed. What are you afraid of? It shows that you still have a guilty conscience. Zhang Hui, I still have to go to the Yamen to tell the outsiders what you have done." She looked sideways.
Son, "You were right just now. If Qingyao were a man, this family property accumulated by the ancestors would be given to your aunt's children by your father. To put it bluntly, they are a family, and we are all outsiders.
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"I don't have it." Mr. Zhang knew it in his heart. Zhang Huiniang's money had been spent. Zhang Qingyao took her two children to live with others. No one would be dissatisfied with the money. His son said this again and again, in case they let their mother and daughter
What should we do if we think too much?
If they ask for it, he will definitely not agree to such an outrageous thing. When the time comes, it will definitely affect the relationship between the brother and sister.
When his mother left, he asked him to take good care of his sister. He did not want to have any grudges with his sister, and the brother and sister turned against each other, which was definitely something his mother did not want to see.
Chu Yunli stood aside and listened from beginning to end, thoughtfully, "Mom, when you had a difficult delivery, was it true that only one of the mother and child could live?"
Hearing this, Mrs. Zhang suddenly turned her head and her face became increasingly ugly. "What do you mean?"
Although it was a question, she already understood the meaning of her daughter's words.
If it's not to the point where only one child can be saved, then the man deliberately killed his own child in order to take care of his sister's child. Thinking of this, Mrs. Zhang shuddered to death.
She always felt that Mr. Zhang doted on his sister, but he probably hadn't reached this point yet. Over the years, she had never doubted the truth about the difficult childbirth.
At the beginning, she was concerned about the relationship between her husband and wife, and did not investigate many things in detail. Now she is extremely disappointed with Mr. Zhang, and she still needs to find out what needs to be investigated.
She turned her head and ordered, "Go to Niutou Village on the outskirts to find Po Li Wen."
When she helped her deliver the baby, Mrs. Li Wen was still quite young, probably less than thirty, and she might still be alive today.
Mr. Zhang's face changed greatly, "What do you mean? Do you think I will kill our child for Huiniang's child?"
"Isn't it?" Mrs. Zhang stared into his eyes, "You are being scrutinized for something you haven't done. Why are you panicking?"
Mr. Zhang turned away and said, "It's unreasonable."
Chu Yunli was just making a guess. He didn't expect Mr. Zhang to have such a big reaction. Maybe what happened back then was really planned by him.
Zhang Huiniang snorted coldly: "Brother, if you really want to give me the family property, no one can stop it. There is no need to be so sneaky. When I left the child at home for my brother to take care of me, it was not to divide the family property, but to put it in other places."
I’m not worried about the place”
"If you don't raise children, you are worse than an animal." Mrs. Zhang scolded her, "Hurry up and find a yard to live in. If you stay here, I will tell Mrs. Liu what happened to you and Liu Linfeng."
Zhang Huiniang seemed to have been strangled by the neck in an instant. Her face turned red, but she did not dare to continue teasing.
In her opinion, the cheap sister-in-law is a little crazy and can't stand any harsh words. She is so anxious that she dares to do anything.
After all, the maid who delivered the divorce letter was stopped at the door. This time, Mr. Zhang did not dare to talk nonsense and directly pressed his fingerprint on the divorce letter. Mrs. Zhang did not take a closer look, she raised her hand and pressed it.
Both of them were quite determined, looking at each other with disgust in their eyes.
Mrs. Zhang was in a trance while holding the letter from Li. When the couple got married, she married with longing in mind, thinking that she had found the husband of her life. From then on, the couple were in love with each other, and if they had another pair of children, they would be happy.
May your life be complete.
As a result, they had a son and a daughter, but they were not consummated.
Mr. Zhang pinched the book and Li Shu and felt empty in his heart. He couldn't help but ask, "Have you really thought about it?"
It had been a day or two since Mrs. Zhang wanted to reconcile, and she had already thought about all the situations that would happen after this. Now that she got the letter of reconciliation, she felt uncomfortable, but she felt like the dust had settled in her heart.
Zhang Qingdong could see that his mother was upset and hurriedly stepped forward and said, "Mom, come back with me later and walk around for a while. Don't think about these troublesome things."
Zhang Huiniang, on the other hand, was a little happy. After the couple reconciled and divorced, her sister-in-law could no longer control her. But her brother was absolutely reluctant to let her live outside.
Of course, Zhang Huiniang was not stupid enough to bring it up immediately. The cheap sister-in-law was probably at her craziest at this moment, so it was better not to tease her.
Zhang Qingyao was sitting on a chair in the corner, lowering her head and adjusting her sleeves, as if she didn't know what was going on here.
When Mr. Zhang saw his son comforting his wife but ignoring him, he couldn't help but said, "Now that I've made it clear, let's leave quickly. If you regret it later."
"I won't regret it." Mrs. Zhang rubbed the Zhang He Li Shu, "I have had enough for a long time, and now I can finally get rid of it. Fortunately, the two children are very sensible and did not blame me."
Zhang Qingdong felt quite uncomfortable, "Mom, don't say that."
Chu Yunli also stepped forward to comfort him, and said, "If my brother can survive, knowing what you have been through over the years, he will definitely not blame you."
Mr. Zhang’s face turned dark.
Mrs. Zhang felt happy when she saw him like this, "I still have to find out the truth about the difficult childbirth. Zhang Hui, if you let me know that you deliberately killed our child, I will definitely make you pay for his life."
Mr. Zhang's face became increasingly ugly.
On the other side, Zhang Huiniang couldn't bear it anymore and scolded, "I didn't let my brother harm your child."
"But your brother is good to you and is afraid that you will be wronged and that your children will be wronged. Looking at how he has taken care of you over the years, I would not be surprised at all if he really did something like this." Mrs. Zhang sat down.
On the chair, he looked at Mr. Zhang, "Don't worry, after finding out the truth of the matter, I won't even let you stay if you ask me to."
Mr. Zhang rubbed his forehead and said, "I still have something to do. I have to go to the study first. Call me when others arrive."
"It's too late to arrange people now." Mrs. Zhang's eyebrows were full of ridicule.
A little later, the people who went to pick up Wen Po came back. Wen Po had already been buried the year before last, and only her daughter was picked up.
It turned out that Mrs. Wen also had a son and a daughter. However, her son fell down while helping someone carry goods and fell on a very low place. He died on the spot. Not long after, her daughter-in-law remarried and took the child away.
Also taken away.
Wen Po wanted to get her child back, but before she had time to do so, she heard that the child fell into the river while playing in the village. When she was fished out, her little body was cold. She had two children, and the eldest son and his family were completely gone. Wen Po said
My mother-in-law's daughter was living a good life, but not long after her brother's accident, her child was suddenly hit on the head with a stick while playing with other children in the village. After that, the child could not hear clearly.
Her words were all hesitant and her family could only guess roughly what she meant, but outsiders could not understand her words at all.
Wenpo's daughter spent a lot of money on her child over the years, but her ears have never been cured. She wanted to have another child, but there was no good news. Helpless, she began to pray to gods and Buddhas, and began to believe in her destiny.
It is said that God is watching, and many people are not having a good life, so they say it is retribution from God. In the eyes of Wenpo's daughter, her mother must have done a lot of bad things back then, as far as she knew
, because my mother often went to help various ladies check the fetal position, because of her good craftsmanship, many rich ladies in the city were asking for her, and because she lived in the village, all she came into contact with were the poor in the village.
Therefore, her mother had seen many pregnant women in those years, and had secretly made a living. Ordinary families had many children, and it was common for them to have as many as ten or eight. But it was different for wealthy families, who had to have sons before they could have children.
The woman who gave birth to the child stood firm. But before the child fell to the ground, no one was sure whether the child in her belly was a boy or a girl. Therefore, Mrs. Wen played a matchmaking role and exchanged the children of the two families. In this way, each got the best.
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Wen Po's daughter sincerely believed that her brother and sister would be reduced to such a miserable situation because the things their mother had done must have made God angry. Therefore, after Wen Po left, whenever anyone came to her door, she would tell her what she knew.
Tell everything.
"Back then, my mother did something shameful in your family. I was already sensible at that time, and I heard her mention it."
Hearing this, Mrs. Zhang's body swayed and she almost fell down. It was Chu Yunli's quick eyesight and quick hands that helped her to stabilize her body.
Mrs. Zhang raised her hand to stop Po Wen's daughter and said, "Wait until I sit down before you speak. Speak slowly."
By the time she sat down, tears were streaming down her face unknowingly. She squeezed the handkerchief tightly, put her fist on her chest, and breathed heavily. She stared at Mr. Zhang as if he wanted to eat someone.
Mr. Zhang turned his face away, as if he didn't notice, and asked, "Your mother is no longer here, but you are here talking nonsense. Tell me, how much benefit did the person who came to you give you by saying these words?"
The implication is that Po Wen's daughter is accused of accepting benefits from others and not telling the truth.
It was almost obvious that Po Wen's daughter was making things up, and he did not intend to harm his own child.
Zhang Huiniang also said, "You must speak clearly, lest my sister-in-law be angry with me. I have never harmed anyone, and I have never had such thoughts."
Chu Yunli didn't let her go and asked, "You insist on keeping the child and let my mother help you raise the child. I have never seen such a selfish person like you. When you talked to my mother before, you didn't even say a word."
It’s none of your business. Did my mother dig up your ancestral grave? She helped me, but she still feels disgusted by you?”
Mr. Zhang looked displeased and said, "Don't talk nonsense."
"We are all talking nonsense. Even Po Wen's daughter is making things up, but you are sincere. You really didn't want my mother to have a difficult childbirth, and you really weren't willing to kill that brother, but you still did it."
Chu Yunli slowly approached him, "Dad, when you wake up from your dream at midnight, aren't you afraid that your brother will come to ask for your life?"
"Shut up." Mr. Zhang's face was particularly ugly. "So many years have passed, and you are suspicious of me just based on a few nonsense words from outsiders. Do you think I am less trustworthy than an outsider?"
"Yes." The person who said this was Mrs. Zhang. She sneered and said, "Back then, I thought you were good to me and cared about the relationship between husband and wife, so that's why you agreed to such an outrageous thing. If I had known earlier that you would kill Zhang Huiniang's child."
I won’t believe anything you say about the child between us.” At this point, she burst into tears, “Zhang Hui, you owe me this life. You have caused me so much pain.”
She turned to look at Zhang Huiniang again: "You killed my child, but I helped you raise your daughter. In your eyes, I am a fool, right?"
Zhang Huiniang denied, "I didn't harm your child."
"I know, you let your brother hurt you." Mrs. Zhang looked crazy. "I have been unlucky for eight lifetimes to meet brothers and sisters like you. You two have such a good relationship, why do you want to marry? Why do you want to marry both of you?"
Wouldn’t it be nice to live your whole life by yourself?”
Chu Yunli hurriedly stepped forward to support her, "Mom, don't get excited."
Don't get sick from anger.
Zhang Huiniang was startled by her appearance and hurriedly stepped back, "These are all your guesses. We didn't harm your child."
Mrs. Zhang didn't believe a word she said. She sat down on the ground, beat the ground and cried loudly.
Zhang Qingdong looked at his father with a complex expression, "But there are traces of everything that has happened. Are you telling the truth?"