Liao Gufeng said slowly: "Secondly, this is very similar to Xiao Qiao now... At that time, the head of the labor union of the entrusted unit asked me to propose the marriage. The head of the union told me that the head of the labor union was interested in people who were from rural poor backgrounds.
My family is extremely lucky. My ancestors burned incense and said that as long as I marry his daughter, I will be on the same boat as my career progress. I am guaranteed to have a bright future in the future and will be promoted soon.
…”
Mrs. Liao looked at Liao Gufeng intently.
Liao Gufeng continued: "At that time, I was young and vigorous, with pure and idealistic feelings towards career and love. When I heard the matchmaker's words, I immediately felt disgusted. I felt that this was a blasphemy to the sacred love and was also harmful to me.
Strong feelings caused by inferiority complex that cannot be controlled by one's heart
It was a kind of injury to my strong self-esteem. In addition, I liked you at the time, so I refused immediately. They said that I was born in a poor and humble family and was not worthy of that kind of noble family. They said that I was willing to rely on my own ability to do things down-to-earth. No matter how capable I was, I
I don’t want a free ride for my job..."
"Oh? And this thing? You haven't told me about this for so many years. Your self-esteem and pure idealistic feelings seem a bit silly." Mrs. Liao smiled.
"If I hadn't been stupid at that time, could we still be together? You should be grateful for my stupidity!" Liao Gufeng said.
Mrs. Liao smiled again: "Yes, I want to thank you."
Liao Gufeng said: "Of course, my stupidity at that time also saved myself, otherwise I would definitely be implicated after something happened to that leader. Of course, a few years later, I also thought that if something happened to that leader and he became prosperous, I would
Will you regret it..."
"Will you regret it?" Mrs. Liao asked.
"No, absolutely not, never!" Liao Gufeng said simply.
"Why?" Mrs. Liao asked curiously.
Liao Gufeng said slowly: "Because if I regretted it, I would have lost myself and I would not have today. In fact, I am grateful for the self-esteem that I brought due to my low self-esteem at that time. In fact, whether you are willing to admit it or not, most people's self-esteem comes from
I felt inferior then, and so does Qiao Liang now.
However, some people will turn this self-esteem into self-confidence and work hard to move forward in self-confidence, while some people will maintain poor self-esteem in a long-term low self-esteem, living in confusion and doing nothing all their lives. I belong to the former, and I believe that in the future
Qiao Liang will also belong to the former!"
Mrs. Liao thought for a moment, then nodded: "Old Liao, you are telling me this because you want to tell me how Xiao Qiao compares with you back then?"
"Yes, from this kid, I can see the shadow of myself from time to time!" Liao Gufeng said with undisguised appreciation in his tone.
"Is this why you like him?" Mrs. Liao asked.
"It should be said that this is part of the reason why I like him."
"what else?"
"There is also his evil side. This kid is an alternative in the circle. He is good and evil at the same time. He is very special!"
"Then tell me, is Xiao Qiao's current behavior in this matter also due to evil?"
"A little bit!" Liao Gufeng laughed, "The more this guy behaves like this, the more I like him."
"If... I mean if -" Mrs. Liao paused, "If Xiao Qiao and Xiao Qian can't be together in the end, will you still like Xiao Qiao?"
"Of course, my love for Xiao Qiao has nothing to do with whether he can be with Xiao Qian or not!" Liao Gufeng nodded.
"You damn old man..." Mrs. Liao smiled bitterly, "Actually, after experiencing this incident, I feel that it doesn't matter whether they can be together or not. How is our Xiaoqian not worthy of Xiao Qiao? She has to have good looks.
, he wants status and a family, what about him? Besides excellent quality, what else does he have? And he is still a second marriage..."
Liao Gufeng shook his head: "Hey, Lao Lu, your idea is wrong, very wrong! The reason why I told you what I did before is just to let you know that love in young age cannot be mixed with too many utilitarian factors.
, should be pure and sacred. For young people, what is the most important thing for love and marriage? Of course it is quality. As long as the quality is good, everything else is secondary.
If a marriage is mixed with utilitarian factors, it cannot be guaranteed to be stable and long-lasting if the quality of the person is not guaranteed. There are many such examples around: the marriage is for the sake of the father-in-law, and nothing happens to the father-in-law while he is in office, and the marriage looks harmonious and happy.
, once he retires or something happens, the marriage will break down, and the man who married for his father-in-law will then look for a new goal that is beneficial to his future..."
Mrs. Liao thought thoughtfully: "That's true. There is such a young man from the countryside in my unit. He pursued the woman because her father was a high-ranking official. As a result, less than 2 years after the marriage, the father-in-law committed a crime.
After all, he divorced the woman just one month after moving in... So, I shouldn't blame Xiao Qiao? "
Liao Gufeng nodded: "Not only should you not blame Xiao Qiao, but you should also reflect on yourself. At the same time, we should also be happy for Xiao Qian to make friends like Xiao Qiao. For young people in other institutions, if we welcome Xiao Qian
The constant pursuit of flattery made me uneasy, because the person's motive for pursuing Xiaoqian was probably impure. He was not necessarily interested in Xiaoqian, but in me. I hate this kind of person from the bottom of my heart.
"
Mrs. Liao pouted: "So, what Xiao Qiao did is playing into your hands?"
Liao Gufeng smiled: "That's not true, because based on my understanding of Xiao Qiao's character and conduct, I really hope that he can get along well with Xiao Qian, but because of your troubles, he hurt his self-esteem just like me back then.
, this should obviously be understood. In fact, Xiao Qiao's current performance is still good. If it were me back then, if I encountered Xiao Qiao's current situation, I might be more explosive than him!"
Mrs. Liao curled her lips again: "You two are so angry that you might as well become sworn brothers."
"Nonsense, at my age I can only be his father-in-law, how can I be his brother!" Liao Gufeng glared.
Mrs. Liao couldn't help laughing, and then sighed: "Okay, I know I was wrong about today's matter. I really shouldn't have said that, and I shouldn't have thought so in my heart. I should think deeply about the past and reflect on myself.
,Hey, Lao Liao, I seem to feel involuntarily that with the change of our position, my mentality and consciousness are a little wandering, and I have forgotten my original intention..."
Liao Gufeng patted his wife on the shoulder: "You are a good comrade if you realize that we are all children of farmers. We have all come from the bottom step by step. We have all experienced pure and clean youth and youth. Forgetting the past means betrayal.
When we face young people, we need to put ourselves in their shoes, think more about who we were back then, and what we would think and do when faced with this kind of situation..."
Mrs. Liao listened attentively.
Liao Gufeng continued: "Also, Lao Lu, I suggest that you and I don't get involved in Xiaoqian and Xiaoqiao's affairs in the future, because once we get involved, it will easily be perceived as mixed with utilitarian factors, which I don't like.
With Xiao Qiao's character, he will also be disgusted. Regarding the marriage of children, I believe in one sentence: everything will fall into place. Whether these two young people can be together in the end depends on their fate.
Your efforts are in vain!”
Mrs. Liao nodded: "Okay, I will listen to you and I will try not to get involved."
"Huh? Try your best? What do you mean, still unwilling to give in?" Liao Gufeng frowned.
"Humph, you don't have to worry about this. This is a matter between my daughter and I. Why don't I just tell my daughter what's on my mind?" Mrs. Liao said.
Liao Gufeng smiled and said: "Of course you can, it's accurate!"
"You're the one. I'll go up and see my daughter. I'll sleep with her tonight!" Mrs. Liao then stood up and went upstairs.
Watching his wife go upstairs, Liao Gufeng lit a cigarette and took two puffs, then laughed silently and said to himself: "Boy, okay, I'm starting to look more and more like me back then..."
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