Regarding the matter with Jiang Xiuxiu, although Qiao Liang always thought that he was an emotional person, he still handled it very rationally this time.
Regarding emotional sensibility and rationality, Qiao Liang believes that Zhang Lin is the best. Once, when Zhang Lin was alive, Qiao Liang and Zhang Lin had an in-depth exchange of views on this topic when they were having fun together.
Zhang Lin has her own unique insights into sensibility and rationality in relationships. She believes that emotional people usually don’t think too much when it comes to relationships. They follow their feelings and act based on their emotions. They don’t think deeply, and they don’t think deeply.
Considering the consequences of things, as long as they think they should do that, they will do it, even if the sky falls apart, they don't care. Relatively speaking, emotional people follow their feelings, think less, and will not live so tiredly. The world is very simple.
, it is relatively easy to get along with each other. At the same time, emotionally, you will understand more thoroughly. Love is love without too many ties. What you pursue is the result of love, not the result derived from love.
However, emotional people often lack consideration when it comes to feelings and are easily impulsive, which may lead to unpredictable consequences. However, emotional people often do not care about the consequences. They pursue a single goal, even if the results are not good, they will not care about the consequences.
Don't care. Therefore, when it comes to dealing with the possible consequences of relationships, emotional people will not take into account the feelings of the other party. Even if it causes harm to the other party, they will not back down. They do what they think is right. Emotional people
When it comes to dealing with emotions, it is easy to be paranoid, even distorted and hurt others.
In reality, people who hurt each other in relationships are often emotional people. They think that I love you and you treat me the same way. Once they don’t like what they want, they will do some unreasonable things, including entanglement and use of violence.
All kinds of methods are used, but the result is often harming others and yourself.
Qiao Liang deeply agreed with Zhang Lin's view, and he seemed to have some experience with it.
Immediately, Qiao Liang asked Zhang Lin about rational issues in emotions. Zhang Lin's view is that rational people and emotional people often have different ways of dealing with emotions and different ways of thinking. Rational people tend to do things differently.
Think before and after, consider the gains and losses, consider all aspects, and take the overall situation into consideration. Once the imagined results cannot be achieved, rational people will often choose to give up.
Rational people often miss opportunities because of their overthinking. Emotionally, love is a goal, but it involves too many aspects. Rational people will think about the identity, age, education, family and other aspects of the two. Once they think it is not possible,
If possible, you will give up and forget that the essence of emotion is always emotion.
When a rational person treats feelings, he will consider whether doing so will hurt the other person, whether it will be beneficial to himself, and what will be the consequences? Only after comprehensively judging the various consequences will he decide whether to do it. Of course, doing so will
It has the advantage of minimizing possible problems, but many things are changeable and cannot be transferred from person to person.
Therefore, rational people always consider others when dealing with feelings. As a result, in addition to themselves, others may be hurt. He often considers the consequences of things and ignores people's thoughts. After all, many things in feelings are miraculous.
What happens is that people are also changeable. In reality, rational people can explain clearly what they are doing and do not want to cause harm to the other party. However, in fact, it is not only those who endure the suffering who are harmed, but also those who dare to pursue.
If the other party is too rational, the feelings will only be mechanical and rigid, without the tenderness of emotion.
After listening to Zhang Lin's insights, Qiao Liang's feeling at the time was: In relationships, both sensibility and rationality are terrible.
Zhang Lin agreed with Qiao Liang's point of view. She told Qiao Liang that it is terrible to treat emotions, purely emotional or purely rational. Just as the world is never single, so are people, with joy, anger, sorrow, and seven emotions and six desires.
Only in this way can we construct a colorful life. If there is only one emotion in life, it would be too monotonous and boring.
Emotional people can move forward in the face of feelings, which is admirable. However, feelings are really not only feelings, but also life. Love is because of love, which is good, but don’t put both parties together just for love.
It is so scarred that in the end love is no longer love.
Rational people are worthy of praise for being able to think things through when faced with feelings. However, feelings cannot be completely reasonable. They also need the presence of love. Without tenderness, love is not love. Because of love, let go. Is it possible to fight hard?
If you don’t have the courage, how do you know there is no hope?
Just like rescuing a terminally ill patient, rational people will choose to give up after considering family, medical conditions and other factors and feel there is no hope; emotional people will rely on emotions and impulsiveness to save them.
Sometimes, miracles happen.
Sometimes there are differences. Emotional people will force others to do so even when they know it is impossible. The result is that both parties will suffer, and in the end they will inevitably leave in disgrace. Rational people will leave room for both parties based on rational analysis.
As time goes by, everything becomes possible again.
At the end of the exchange between the two, Zhang Lin told Qiao Liang sincerely that the best way to deal with emotions is to be 30% emotional and 70% rational. Just like in life, we know that the road ahead is slim, but we have to keep moving forward. Why? Because?
Hope, you can speculate about what has not happened yet, and you can move forward emotionally. From scratch, rationality is the dominant factor, but sensibility also plays a role that cannot be ignored. The reason why people have come from the wilderness to the present, and will continue to do so, is that
Rationality is inseparable, but it is also inseparable from sensibility. Emotions are never just a matter of two people. In addition to individuals, there is also family, in addition to emotions, there is also life. Only 30% sensibility and 70% rationality can make the relationship perfect.
Every time I think of the passionate exchanges between myself and Zhang Lin, every time I think of the guidance and teachings Zhang Lin gave me, it will evoke Qiao Liang's infinite longing and longing for Zhang Lin, and it will make Qiao Liang burst into sadness...
Qiao Liang and Jiang Xiuxiu chatted for a while. Seeing that it was already past one in the afternoon, they stood up and said, "Okay, we should go back. We will go to work soon."
The two of them came out of the hotel. At this moment, a car happened to pass by on the road outside the hotel and stopped at the traffic light in front.
This is exactly Miao Peilong’s car.
Qiao Liang and Jiang Xiuxiu walked out of the hotel. They did not notice Miao Peilong's car. Instead, Xu Chan, who was sitting in the passenger seat, saw Qiao Liang and Jiang Xiuxiu and said to Miao Peilong beside them, "Miao Peilong."
Brother, look, those are County Magistrate Qiao and Jiang Jian."
Miao Peilong turned around and saw that it was Qiao Liang and Jiang Xiuxiu. The two were walking together quite intimately. Miao Peilong couldn't help but snorted, "Looking at their appearance, there might be some shameful relationship."
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Hearing Miao Peilong's words, Xu Chan was stunned for a moment, and subconsciously defended Qiao Liang, "It shouldn't be possible, County Magistrate Qiao is quite decent."
"Haha, how do you know he is upright? How many people appear to be upright gentlemen on the surface and talk about benevolence, justice and morality, but secretly they are male thieves and female prostitutes." Miao Peilong said disdainfully.
Hearing what Miao Peilong said, Xu Chan smiled and said nothing more. She thought that she and Qiao Liang had also spent the night together, so it was somewhat embarrassing to discuss this topic.
When Miao Peilong saw that Xu Chan was silent, he turned to look at Xu Chan and said, "I see that you often speak for Qiao Liang. Why, I assigned you to work next to Qiao Liang, and you turned your elbow outward?
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"How is it possible? My heart has always been towards you." Xu Chan said coquettishly.
Seeing Xu Chan acting coquettishly towards him, Miao Peilong's heart skipped a beat. Although Xu Chan was not a one-in-a-million beauty, she was the kind who became more and more attractive the more she looked at her, especially the charming look between her eyebrows and eyes, which could always seduce people inadvertently.
The human heart.
On the side of the road, Qiao Liang and Jiang Xiuxiu were standing talking. They did not notice Miao Peilong's car. At this time, Qiao Liang was about to get in the car, and someone suddenly called Jiang Xiuxiu's name from behind.
Jiang Xiuxiu heard the sound, looked back, her face suddenly changed, and asked, "Why are you here?"
"Xiuxiu, come here and let's talk alone." The man said with a smile.
Jiang Xiuxiu's face was ugly, and she couldn't get angry in front of Qiao Liang, so she kept a cold face and remained silent.
Seeing Jiang Xiuxiu's reaction, Qiao Liang looked at the man again with a somewhat confused expression. Because he had never met Jiang Xiuxiu's husband before, he didn't know that the man was Jiang Xiuxiu's lover. He couldn't help but asked curiously, "Xiu Xiu"
Xiu, that one is..."
"That's my husband." Jiang Xiuxiu responded in a low voice.
"Oh, you guys talk first, I'm going back." Qiao Liang was stunned for a moment, then smiled.
Jiang Xiuxiu nodded, not knowing what she was thinking, so she accidentally added, "The relationship between him and me is in name only. Although we are remarried, we actually live our own lives."
Qiao Liang smiled after hearing this. He knew that Jiang Xiuxiu remarried out of helplessness, but these are not important. Since Jiang Xiuxiu remarried, he and Jiang Xiuxiu have never had that kind of relationship. Although he is not single-minded in love,
But he also has his own persistence and principles.
"I'm going back first. Your husband may have something to do with you. You two can talk." Qiao Liang said to Jiang Xiuxiu again, and then got in the car.
Watching Qiao Liang leave, Jiang Xiuxiu turned around and walked towards her husband, staring at him expressionlessly, "Are you following me?"
"How could I follow you? Didn't we just meet you by chance?" Jiang Xiuxiu's husband laughed dryly.
"Do you think I will believe what you say?" Jiang Xiuxiu snorted, "Why are you looking for me?"
"Xiuxiu, is that County Magistrate Qiao just now?" Jiang Xiuxiu's husband asked.
"So what?" Jiang Xiuxiu choked.
"It's nothing." Jiang Xiuxiu's husband looked at the other party with a smile, "Didn't I notice that your tone and demeanor when you mention County Magistrate Qiao are a little different? I feel like you treat him..."
"Jiang Fangdong, what do you want from me?" Jiang Xiuxiu interrupted her husband rudely, not wanting him to continue talking.
