Xue Ling smiled and said angrily: "Stop coaxing your mother. Let's sort things out first, don't rush to immerse yourself in negative emotions."
Cheng Huanran let out a long sigh, feeling very tired.
"Mom, I... don't know what to tell you. I don't know why, but since we decided to get married, things seem to have become more complicated... too complicated. I didn't understand how men treat their mother-in-law before.
Fear always feels too exaggerated. Now it seems that I just haven’t encountered it yet, it’s not that I will be spared.”
Xue Ling chuckled: "Xiao Huzi may be able to give you some advice."
"Pfft!" Cheng Huanran was amused, "Mom, be careful if you hear it."
Xue Ling shrugged: "Most men are afraid of their mother-in-law and father-in-law, and you are far from the only one, Dr. Cheng. Son, the relationship between our families has always been harmonious, and the atmosphere among relatives and friends has always been good, so when you deal with interpersonal relationships,
It is inevitable that you will have little experience and may even suffer a loss."
"Maybe." Cheng Huanran lowered his voice: "Our family has never valued material things. When Xiao Qiao's parents asked me to add more Xiao Qiao's names in the house book to prove how much I love her.
When it was deep, I was completely confused. My willingness to marry her and make her my wife already means a lifelong commitment... But they measure it from this perspective... I really can't accept it."
"Son, you are wrong." Xue Ling replied: "Modern people view marriage very seriously. They need both feelings and material things. You can't just emphasize feelings. As long as you are in love, you only need to love each other and be happy. Marriage means that you will have many things in the future.
To share, such as family, children, elders of both parties, career and property, etc.”
Cheng Huanran curled his lips aggrievedly: "Mom, but we are in love and getting married, not on a blind date."
"But you are also getting married." Xue Ling asked back: "The nature of marriage will not change depending on whether you are free to fall in love, right?"
Cheng Huanran leaned on the pillow as if tiredly, his eyes empty and gloomy.
"I heard from my dad that when you got married, your family still owed a lot of debt, and you couldn't even afford a pack of wedding candies the day after your wedding. Mom, you don't even have a serious relationship, but you can still have a vague relationship with your parents because of your childhood sweetheart.
We were destined to get married, we married first and then we fell in love, and we manage our marriage well until today. But I am a graduate medical student and an intern at the Imperial Capital First People's Hospital. I can buy hundreds of packs of wedding candies with one salary, but I still fall in love with you.
My girlfriend of five years is still hesitating whether to marry me or not, worried about her lack of financial security in the future. Mom, don’t you think it’s ridiculous?”
Xue Ling almost couldn't help but laugh out loud and comforted: "Son, there is no need for you to lose confidence in yourself all of a sudden. In the eyes of your parents, you are all very good and outstanding children."
Cheng Huanran lowered his head and muttered: "It's not that I don't have confidence in myself... it's that I don't have confidence in our marriage."
Xue Ling recalled what her second son said earlier and couldn't help but sigh with emotion.
"When your deceased grandpa married your grandma, he only used a load of grain as a betrothal gift, and each of them made a new set of clothes before they got married. When your grandpa married your grandma, he only spent ten dollars of one month's salary.
A few dollars. At that time, everyone was very poor. They valued material things but had no material resources. Their thoughts were simple and simple. Getting married meant raising a family together."
"When my parents got married, the situation was slightly better, but most people were not really rich yet. My grandfather was very capable and had already started a clothing factory in the imperial capital, so our family was able to live in a small suite and also bought a car.
.Your father and his family live in the countryside and can barely get enough food and clothing. They can only eat a little meat during the New Year and festivals."
"The cost of getting married at that time was not high, and it was good enough to have a stable employer to receive wages, whether it was a small factory or a small unit such as a supply and marketing cooperative. I remember that my first month's salary at the newspaper was two hundred yuan.
Included in the lunch box is a piece of meat. Every time I am reluctant to eat it, I leave it in the lunch box and go back to the rental house to eat with your dad."
"Life is very simple and light, but very warm. We are full of confidence in the future and work from morning to night every day with the same goal in mind - to improve our living standards and make this family richer step by step."
"In the past thirty years, the world has changed too much, and people's concepts are constantly changing. People now have no shortage of materials, food and drink. As long as they work hard, they can have three meals a day. But people and
The gap between people is also widening, making the younger generation prone to anxiety, fear, and insecurity, most notably in the aspect of marriage."
"Yes." Cheng Huanran's expression was not so good, and he said solemnly: "If I was just a poor boy, they would feel very good about themselves, and because Xiao Qiao is an only daughter, they would force me to marry into their family. As long as I marry into their family, they don't care.
It doesn't matter how poor my family is, no matter how poor I am. Now that they know it's impossible for me to get married, they will force me to pay for a house. The reason is that for a daughter to marry into our family, she must have sufficient financial security. Comparing their feelings,
If I really agreed to marry into my family, they would probably feel great if they paid two to three hundred thousand. But if their daughter marries my family, she will need hundreds of millions of financial security at a time. What? Because she is a daughter, our family cannot
Not giving in? Why?"
Xue Ling frowned slightly and asked, "What? Their attitude is very bad?"
"Yes." Cheng Huanran replied: "I have an air of condescension when I marry my daughter, so I must write Xiao Qiao's name on the property under my name to ensure that she will not be wronged when she marries into our family and will have certain financial security.
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Xue Ling was silent.
Cheng Huanran became excited: "Mom, is it great to have a daughter marry? I promised that I would continue to love her, protect her and pamper her with my life, but why did I become worthless in their eyes?
No name on the house book! I haven’t said I won’t share the property in my name with her, and I won’t do it! The most important thing in our family is relationships, not real estate and money at all! We don’t lack those!”
"Okay, okay." Xue Ling hurriedly held his hand, "Calm down first and don't yell. What about Xiao Qiao? Xiao Qiao thinks the same way?"
Cheng Huanran was stunned for a moment, and said in a low voice with a stern face: "She didn't say anything, and looked like she was hesitant to speak. I told her before leaving that if she felt that I was not trustworthy, I would give her as much real estate as possible.
She couldn't be happy either. If she couldn't trust me, why would she marry me... It would be better to break up early. After I said that, I left, and I didn't answer her call afterwards."
Xue Ling sighed softly: "Don't get excited, have a good communication with her first. When you were a poor boy, she was able to fall in love with you for five years, which shows that she is not a girl who really values material things."